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My most controversial opinion: Rechargeable and battery-powered sex toys can all go to hell. I don't want another fucking cord, plug, and charging base to store and/or lose. I don't want to deal with battery capacity degrading over time. I don't want to have to remember to store toys with the batteries removed. And I certainly don't want to run out of charge while jerkin' it! Plug that thing into a wall outlet with a 9 foot cord like God intended and go to town.

#sometimes...newer things...are worse

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needle felted sardines

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I've been waiting for the black bamboo (Phyllostachys nigra) in our yard to flower ever since we moved in, because the species has gregarious flowering events. People have been reporting sporadic flowerings over the last few years, and I even saw a flowering grove in person last summer, up at a local bamboo nursery. But there are a number of different cultivars, presumably with slightly offset flowering cycles, and I have no real idea which variety I'm dealing with. So our bamboo definitely has an expiration date (the species is monocarpic), but I don't know exactly when that will be. A popular Japanese cultivar called Henon is on a 120 year cycle, and expected to flower around 2028.

Ours looks pretty rough right now, due to the aforementioned winter storm. We had bamboo culms so weighted down with ice they were bent to the ground! So now there's lots of visible leaf burn and some dead culms, but the plant clearly survived. I'm watering and fertilizing, to see if I can make it look nice again while it's still alive. I'm trying to encourage growth in some areas and push it back from others, which is a little challenging. Maybe some day we'll have an actual front yard instead of an overgrown nightmare jungle.

#lifeblogging #garden talk

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I have all these harlequin glorybowers in the yard to deal with also...I was a bit excited about them last year because of the cool name, and because their leaves smell like peanut butter, and because I wanted to see their weird star-shaped fruit situation:

But none of mine even flowered last summer! It looks like several of them are dead/dying, and I think the live ones need supplemental water during the summer to thrive in our climate, which...fuck that. I only water my container plants. Well, and native plants in their first summer, to help them get established, specifically because I won't need to water them in the long run.

The two huge, dead, tree-sized ones in the front yard will require a chainsaw to remove. I might try to convince our landlord will arrange that; they hired a tree service to fix up the Douglas fir after our bad winter storm, and this little project would take those guys maybe two hours, tops. The little shrubby glorybowers should all come right out with a hand saw and a root shovel, I think.

#lifeblogging #garden talk #photo is from PictureThis

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It's been partially sunny and 70 degrees for like a week, which is perfect. This means that I'm having to physically restrain myself from overdoing it by working in the yard. I cut blackberry and pulled ivy for about three hours today, and am now sulking indoors because I realized I was going to get blisters if I kept going.

#lifeblogging #garden talk

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tumblr seems like a pretty heavily medicated website...have any of you ever decided to stay on a psych medication despite libido suppressing side effects?

I've been trying to get off of Venlafaxine for a year and a half. If I go too low on the dose, symptoms of major depressive disorder return immediately. That's an unacceptable quality of life, to me. The various medications that we've tried as adjuncts to facilitate a safe/smooth reduction in dose have caused a variety of secondary side effects, including my recent acid reflux/regurgitation issues. I'm now stable on a dose of Venlafaxine about half as much as I was on originally, without much of a change on the libido front. From my understanding I'd need to discontinue it entirely and wait weeks to months for things to get back to normal (assuming they ever do; for a small number of people the effect lingers for years).

I tried to do a cross-taper onto a newer medication, Trintellix, which is known for causing fewer issues with libido, and got unbearable dry mouth pretty much immediately. This could be temporary while I adjust to the medication, or it could be permanent. Psychologically, I don't think I can handle constantly feeling thirsty for more than a few days; it really sucks.

Most of my options from this point seem pretty drastic. If I go off of Venlafaxine claiming I can't tolerate the side effects, it will throw me into another depressive episode, which would make me eligible to try TMS, but 1. there's no guarantee that would work, 2. it's wicked expensive, and 3. this would seriously disrupt my life and could effect my ability to provide for myself.

I think I can tolerate the side effects, though? When desire is absent, you don't feel like you're missing much. But it's already playing absolute havoc with my ability to maintain a pretty significant relationship. It's like an artificial asexuality; I'll have to entirely rethink what I want/need from my partner, and if I like someone new (relatively rare for me anyways) I'll have to bring up my lack of interest in sex. This sounds exhausting and sad. The alternatives kinda sound worse.

#lifeblogging #mental health cw #tmi cw

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#fell into a rabbithole of Netflix cult content. and yeah

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I have a question about this image of Xanathar's Thieves Guild.

Why does he have sexily lounging elf boys?

I ask because I cannot imagine a beholder being attracted to anything other than itself. Does he just understand Sexily Lounging Elf Boys to be a status symbol, and he wants anyone who visits to know he can afford Sexily Lounging Elf Boys?

Maybe I'm the asshole here for assuming. Maybe these boyfriends are master tacticians here to advise Xanathar, they happen to like wearing leather pants and no shirts and I should be less quick to reduce them to sex objects.

I don't care, I love it, this is all I can think of every time I see it:

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Elizabeth Kirkman Fitzhugh, Militant Mary

November 13, 1914

#I feel u Mary

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If I ask nicely will people reblog this and tell me what their most common breakfast is? Not your favorite necessarily, just what you have for breakfast most frequently? 🙏🏽

#bagel w/ cream cheese #or English muffin w/ butter and jam #if I have time I’ll do eggs but I have to #leave the house at 6:15am now #so my breakfast routine got compressed

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Audio: I have a prisoner. Ruth chased it into our room and I don’t know what the hell to do with it. It’s very cute. I’m worried that might be a cat bite wound on its abdomen. Ah! No. I know, you’re a smarty. So if it’s a brown rat, like a Norway rat it’s a juvenile, because it’s way too small. And it’s slightly bigger than the mice I’m familiar with. I don’t know what this is. What is this thing?

#lifeblogging #rodents #Ruth the kitten #my cat doesn’t go outside #we have a 100 year old house with a rat problem #a pest control company is…failing. lol #I’m going to make them deal with this situation #because I don’t feel like getting lepto or hantavirus today #it just sucks ass because I do like rats a lot

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watch my favorite BDG video

#i can't wear hats #Youtube

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Bothering the beast

#sometimes I do this to Ruth #more frequently Ruth does this to me

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i'm conducting an experiment. everyone who's from an english speaking country state your country, regional area and what you call the following images. i need to see something

#USA (Oregon) #fries chips biscuits #cookies soda candy #cigarettes beanie cotton candy #candy floss is an option but it makes you sound insane

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A glass of kanar Commission for the lovely @samcentral! Yes, I'm open for commissions :D.

#I like the red highlights #have they graduated from lunch to after-dinner drinks? #good for them etc #star trek #star trek: ds9

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if you see the vision you see it all ill say

#I See It OP #star trek #star trek: ds9