“If you see Allah, Mighty and Magnificent, holding back this world from you, frequently trying you with adversity and tribulation, know that you hold a great status with Him. Know that He is dealing with you as He does with His Awliya’ and chosen elite, and is watching over you, have you not heard His saying,
“So wait steadfastly for the judgment of your Lord – you are certainly before Our eyes.
وَاصْبِرْ لِحُكْمِ رَبِّكَ فَإِنَّكَ بِأَعْيُنِنَا
Excerpt from: Trials and Tribulations – Wisdom and Benefits
Do you want to know what Tasawwuf and true humanity is?
Shaykh Shukri would have two cats who would visit his house regularly so you know what he would do? He would sacrifice his own portion of food and remain hungry in order to feed the cats and he’d speak to the cats and emotionally say, ‘Wallahi, this is all that I have… If I could give you more than I would.’ He would go hungry so cats could eat. One time, his kitchen had just been cleaned and just a few hours later, his student walked in and saw sugar across the kitchen so he asked him what happened and he’d tearfully reply, 'What will I tell Allāh if the ants go hungry at night? What will they eat if we don’t show kindness?’
These are the true inheritors of Rasūlullāh ﷺ and his Sahaba. If this was their mercy to animals and the environment what do you think of their mercy to humans? This is why Allah ennobled these people.
Shaykh Mohammed Aslam
Read this article by Sahar Al-Nadi. It will help you in shaa Allah
“Engagement: A Promise of Marriage
It is important to clarify that engagement in Islam is just a promise of marriage.
It does not entitle fiancés to any special rights over one another, other than publicly declaring serious interest in a life-long commitment to each other under Allah’s law.
So Muslim fiancés should be conscious of that fact while dealing with each other during the engagement period. The same rules of decent conduct apply that they would normally follow while dealing with a member of the opposite sex who is a non-mahram.
That is, your fiancé is not your lawful husband yet.
That could change only after they have been formally declared husband and wife.
So while an engaged couple may freely discuss their values and ethics, plan for their future life together, and choose and prepare a home to live in after they are married, they should also be careful to avoid privacy together and the type of intimacy that is only allowed between married couples in Islam.
After all, an engagement is just a declaration of intention to get married, and only if and when both sides feel absolutely certain of that decision.
It should be clear that an engagement — like any preliminary contract or letter of understanding — can be revoked at any point before the commitment of marriage, without any formal consequences to either side.
Suggestions for the Ceremony
There are no specific rituals to follow when two Muslims are getting engaged.
The celebration details are therefore left to the tradition of each community, as long as they do not contradict Islamic teachings. Actions such as drinking alcohol, mixed dancing, offering prohibited foods, invoking other gods for happiness or luck, etc. are forbidden.
Here are some informal suggestions to help you plan.
Feel free to improvise as you see fitting within Islamic guidelines:
You may like to invite a friend who has a good voice to recite some verses of the Quran at the start of your gathering.
The verses could be on the beauty of marriage, and tranquility and affection Allah creates between husbands and wives.
You could also invite the imam of your local mosque or Islamic center to give a short speech on love and marriage guidelines in Islam.
Do not forget to invite your close friends and relatives as well, even if they are non-Muslims.
Islam encourages us to be friendly and warm to everyone as long as they are kind and friendly to us.
You can encourage them to write their wishes and advice for you in a special book you prepare for this occasion.
You and your fiancé could share with your guests the story of how you met and what made you choose each other for marriage.
It is up to you whether to wear engagement rings.
Just make sure that the one for the man is not made of gold, as this is prohibited for men in Islam.
You can also prepare a special meal or dessert to share with your guests as you accept their congratulations and good wishes.
Muslims have produced some cultural manifestations that are not essential parts of Islam. You can take them or leave them.”
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make things easier for you.
You cannot give what you yourself do not possess. Without constantly building your own spiritual peace, you cannot spread it to others. You cannot call to something that you don’t have. In a world that offers too many platforms to too many people to perpetually preach, practice has become that much more difficult. Build yourself, then construct the world around you.
فاقد الشيء لا يعطيه
- Shaykh Omar Suleiman
Getting the Most out of Rajab
Advice from Habib Umar bin Hafiz (may Allah protect him and benefit us by him).
“There are a number of ways to get the most out of Rajab. Some of the most important are as follows:
1. Seeking forgiveness in abundance and making sincere repentance;
2. Making a sincere resolve to seek to approach Allah through performing acts of obedience and avoiding acts of disobedience;
3. Assessing your state, rectifying it and striving to follow the Prophet ﷺin all that you do;
4. Improving your performance of the prayer by making sure that you implement the sunnahs pertaining to the prayer and pray with presence of heart. Also strive to pray in congregation in the first row without missing the opening takbir;
5. Improving your relationship with the Qur’an by increasing the amount you read and reflect upon daily and seeking to act upon it;
6. Being consistent in reading your adhkar in the morning and evening, after the prayer and in your varying states (such as eating, entering the house and preparing for sleep);
7. Improving your interaction with your family, friends, relatives, neighbours and with Allah’s slaves in general and the elect of His slaves specifically;
8. Fasting whatever days you are able to, especially Monday and Thursday and the White Days (13th, 14th and 15th days of the month);
9. Giving a portion of charity and doing what you can to help those in need and treating them kindly;
10. Worshipping Allah in these nights, especially in the last portion of the night. Improve your state at this time so as to enter into those who Allah praises in the Qur’an: Those who spend their wealth (in charity) and seek forgiveness in the last portion of the night.
We ask Allah to give us a great portion of the gifts bestowed in this month and that He makes us among those who attain acceptance and felicity in this life and the next.
O Allah, bless us in Rajab and Shaban, allow us to reach Ramadan and assist us in fasting and praying in the night.”