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marielle-heller · 8 hours

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this is your daily reminder to stop being abusive and mean toward people with bladder and bowel issues.

im tired of hearing people mock those who struggle with bladder/bowl control, for people who can't tell when they need to go until it's too late or at all, for people who have uncontrollable voidings and leaking, for people who need to wear incontinence products around the clock, for people who need them influctuating amounts and need different kinds of products, for those who bedwet, for those who can't afford incontinence products so their clothes get dirty- to everyone with bowel and bladder issues.

we are human. we are still people. we are not gross, we are disabled. we are struggling with a disability. if you make cutesy posts about canes and wheelchairs, you need to include people who wear diapers, people who need plastic pants, plastic bedsheets and absorbent bed pads. you need to include people who can't tell when they need to go. people who need/use catheters. people who have colostomy bags. people with stained and dirty clothing. people who have to change their incontinence products in public.

you need to include autistic and ADHD and ND and disabled people who feel unsafe without diapers. you need to include people with spinal injuries and ehlers danlos syndrome and muscular control disorders with need incontinence products and feel safe with them. you need to include people who like their diapers and not just tragic stories where it's never discussed or doesn't negatively impact their life and livelihood.

please include all disabilities in your disability positivity posts, and please be kind and treat all disabled people with respect and humility, including those of us with symptoms you may find "gross".

#see my maybe work friend who i don’t think i like #she says disability issues are HUGE to her #but then she like #REALLY talked cruelly about a 5 year old who seems to still be struggling with incontinence #which i don’t know if that’s a disability or just that potty training is taking longer #but hearing how she talked about it is like…#are you a proper disability advocate if that IS how you talk about incontinence #like basically seeming annoyed and like very crude in her phrasing #like ‘oh you know how that student always shits herself 🙄’#like said student i think already gets enough of her classmates kinda being judgey cause they do pick up on it not being typical #she doesn’t need an adult who acts like she should know better joining in #so idk major red flag in her

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marielle-heller · 9 hours

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right so look how cute this is!

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marielle-heller · 9 hours

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Babe I swear I just saw their reblog first, I didn’t ignore yours, it was just that yours was further down the dash, that’s not on me that’s on tumblr babe, tumblr wants to drive a wedge between us, I love you I swear babe, pls believe me pls don’t let them win

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marielle-heller · 9 hours

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i hate how they market alexa as a ‘member of the family’ like that’s SO fucking blatantly insidious and terrifying also if i wanted an untrustworthy/cold/emotionless machine in my life i’d just talk to my fuckin father

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marielle-heller · 9 hours

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marielle-heller · 10 hours

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is it really so wrong for a girl, trying to sort out her own mind, to speak to the nearest stuffed cow about what’s going on? especially if the nearest stuffed cow is… how do you say….. a better listener than most?

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marielle-heller · 10 hours

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marielle-heller · 10 hours

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Brett saw my story, giggle

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marielle-heller · 10 hours

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having a normal one (wondering if my relationship with my parents is Bad cause I sure don’t like it)

#wish we could be more fun they’re like #they’re not fun #they get mad at you if you try to be fun #are tv parents real cause like #you watch bob’s burgers or something like my parents would be cunts about 90% of that is that real?#even a lil?

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marielle-heller · 11 hours

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isn’t it interesting, and I’m definitely not subtweeting anyone, but isn’t it interesting how sometimes people who seem to care deeply about inclusion and diversity and champion things like disability and queer rights, somehow also manage to just be the types of people who speak Very Unkindly about others?

#others including 5 year olds working some shit out i might mention

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marielle-heller · 11 hours

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It always shocks me when I bring up trans men’s issues - specially issues common in the south/more conservative/rural areas - to someone who makes their whole thing being a ‘trans advocate’ and they just don’t know what I’m talking about .

I mentioned how common it is - especially in more conservative Christian places - for trans men to be set up with a husband by their family and then be forcibly impregnated as a way to make them detransition to someone who runs a whole blog about ‘spreading awareness about trans issues’ and she looked at me like I was crazy and said “woah I never knew that happened to trans men.”

She knew about and understood that that stuff happens to cis women, but she never thought it happened to trans men… like come on.

#no cause i have never heard anyone discuss this oh my gOD?

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marielle-heller · 11 hours

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