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Hi I came from reading basically all ur star wars fic on ao3, i just finished the point of nothing and it had me in tears so i came here for writing crumbs but instead found shitty anon posts.

Im so sorry people are buggin u with petty shit? I hope they get bored and find something else to complain about and i hope they don’t kick you down ٩( ᐛ )و

But yeah ur obi the therapist series and hear me please are just *chef kiss* and not to be a kiss ass but if (for therapist kenobi especially) if you ever feel the need to add boil/waxer fluff like...

Do it

Just do it

Oh my gosh, thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed all my fics, and I find it kinda funny that you came here looking for scraps. Not in a bad way, I've just been in such a rut lately with my writing that I haven't really been working on anything.

But I also want you to know that when I saw this ask a few days ago, I immediately opened up a new document and started writing some Waxer/Boil fluff. You inspired me to do some actual writing for the first time in what might actually be months, so kudos to you, friend.

I am also exceptionally forgetful and haven't finished my little snippet, but I hope to do so and get it posted because creating and sharing content has always brought me joy.

And I really appreciate your support. I am thankfully not the target of many people with nothing better to do with their time, so it's not that a lot of them have been around. It's more that I'm just inactive D: But either way, thank you for the kind words and inspiration.

#the therapist series #jude answers #waxer/boil #cloneshipping #clonecest

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Oh man this latest installment has me so torn inside 😭😭

On the one hand, I want poor Rex to get better quickly, and he had quite a few good realizations and got support and reassurance.

On the other hand I know that getting better in mental health just doesn't work like that and I'd feel kinda... cheated (?) if Rex has one crisis, admits it, gets help and gets better. (like, dammit, I want that. Jealous.) And maybe I'm also a little sadistic and wanna see Rex suffer even more 😅😅

In any case, I really loved this and I'm glad Rex got lots of good cuddles (and a comfort sweater!!!), thank you for writing this series!!! 💕💕💕

Thank you!! I'm really glad you liked the story.

And yes, I absolutely agree. Would that I could make life like a fanfiction and just get everything dealt with and better with the snap of my fingers. But I can't. And unfortunately for Rex, that means he can't have that either. Our boy isn't out of the woods yet, but he's got a lot of people on his side, so he's moving in the right direction.

I'm so sorry it took so long to respond to this. Either I never saw it to begin with, or I did and then forgot it existed. (I really need Tumblr to not get rid of the little marker dot on the inbox button after I've viewed a new ask for the first time.)

Thank you for reading, and I hope you enjoy the stories as they continue to come out. <3

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Summary: Rex's three days with Obi-Wan are completely unexpected, except for how expected they are.

Rating: Teen

Words: 2,600

Make sure to check the tags and Author's note for trigger warnings. Take care of yourselves, guys.

#star wars the clone wars #captain rex #obi-wan kenobi #fanfic #fanfiction #the therapist series #jude writes

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Keep your eyes on your notifications ;)

#the therapist series #teasers #jude finally writes

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fandom doesn't exist in a vacuum and fanfiction absolutely does impact reality. i'm anti-censorship but it's absurd to pretend that fanfiction has no impact on real life.

See, I can see where you’re confused here. Fanfiction does not, in fact, impact reality. It never has, and unless there is a huge and drastic change in our society and the way it functions, fanfiction will continue to not have any real or noticeable impact on reality. This is due to the fact that society as a whole does not engage with fanfiction and we certainly aren’t looking to it to decide our morality or how we should live our lives.

It is true that fiction can sometimes have an impact on reality. I am not arguing that. But the difference here is that fiction does not mean what you think it means. Fiction that impacts reality is not darkfic or clonecest or whatever else you personally find objectionable because you don’t like it for some reason. The kind of fiction that affects reality is the kind of stuff that is sanctioned by the government or religious organizations. It’s the baseless stereotypes about POC and other marginalized groups that are rude and actively harmful. It’s stuff that most of typically white society believes and then bases their actual real life opinions, actions, and words on.

Someone writing a fic about two clones who do not exist having romantic or sexual feelings for each other does not, has never, and will never impact the world the way you think it will. No one is going to read that and come away with the impression that incest is acceptable in their real life.

And if fanfiction does affect your reality in some way, you should not be engaging with it. It says a hell of a lot more about you than it ever will about the people who created the content in the first place. To me, it says you aren’t able to distinguish between fantasy and reality, and that’s something you need to work on. Not something other people need to worry about for you.

So if you’re still here, I encourage you to live your best and happiest, healthiest life by only worrying about your own self and leaving others alone to live their lives as they see fit. If you can’t do that, learn how to use the block function, and ask yourself if you should even be engaging with fanfiction and fandom at all.

#fandom stuff #clonecest #clone shipping #antis

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Blocking antis is so nice. Especially when they out themselves in their DNI posts.

Toodles, crotch goblins! And just so you know, we screencap your hate and make fun of you in our group chats.

#true #fandom things #antis #if you can't handle shipping like an adult then please block me #that means leaving people alone when they ship something you don't like #you're not the fandom police #we don't need them #stop acting like it

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why purity culture applies to antis

I would be vastly more sympathetic to the “the term purity culture should refer only to a specific religious system of misogyny and using it to talk about antis elides its origins, thereby devaluing a serious issue” argument if anti culture wasn’t functionally defined by using the word “pedophilia” to mean “what happens when anyone of any age writes stories where a character younger than eighteen kisses someone or is otherwise sexual.”

Like. I’m just. I’m sorry, but you cannot grossly misuse such serious terms as pedophilia or incest by arguing repeatedly that depiction is always endorsement, that there’s no difference between fictional people and real people, and that any sexual fantasy a person enjoys precisely because it isn’t real is indistinguishable from a fantasy they want to see enacted IRL, then get mad when someone points out that you’re morally policing the sexuality of strangers using strikingly similar arguments to the purity culture people.

When someone writes gory, gruesome murder stories, even if they’re written from the POV of a psychopathic killer, our first thought is not, “oh shit, that person is either an aspiring serial killer or they have bodies in their basement,” because we understand the distinction between fiction and reality. But if someone writes about dark sexual themes and suddenly you’re freaking out about their sexuality IRL? That is because you’ve absorbed puritan views about sex, ie, the idea that your sexual imagination and your sexual desires are one and the same, such that, if you indulge in “sinful” fantasies, it’s as bad as doing those things.

The reason religious purity culture is so obsessed with female chastity to the point of demonising masturbation or premarital anything is due to the belief that female sexuality exists solely for male pleasure, and therefore male approval. A father ‘owns’ his daughter’s chastity until he ‘gives’ her to a husband; therefore, she must stay ‘pure’ for their sake, because any indulgence on her part will ‘taint’ that purity. Crucially, the belief is also that one woman is potentially representative of all women: one ‘loose’ woman can make all women loose in the eyes of men, and therefore you aren’t just protecting yourself and your chastity by acting modestly, but the reputation of other women you’ve never even met. You’re simultaneously responsible for the virtue of women as a category while also being the keeper of such specific chaste value as, through you, belongs to your father and future husband. This is also why ‘pure’ women are encouraged to shun ‘impure’ women - impurity is transitive by association, such that if you, a ‘pure’ woman, are seen to associate with an ‘impure’ woman, well; that must only be because you, too, are secretly impure. This being so, it’s likewise expected that men, being more sexual creatures, will be lustful and sexually desirous, such that women are expected to curtail the presentation of their own sexuality in all forms to avoid ‘tempting’ them to sin, both against themselves and, potentially, other women; this is both deeply misogynistic and a way to blame victims for ‘leading on’ their assailants.

It’s also the exact same logic that antis use - not because antis are misogynistic patriarchs, but because they, too, argue that an individual’s sexuality must be curtailed in order to prevent hypothetical strangers from being ‘tempted’ towards their worst inclinations or, if they didn’t have those inclinations beforehand, made to ‘stray from the path’.

“You can’t ship those two underage characters - someone might use that fic to prey on a minor!” Such a thing, if it happened, would inarguably be the fault of the predator, who did not magically spring into existence the second the fic was written, even if the fic in question was actual darkfic and not just two 16yos consensually getting to second base; nonetheless, anti logic - like purity culture - will blame the ficwriter for ‘inciting’ the predation.

Bottom line: when you tell someone, “your sexual fantasies are bad and wrong, if you’ve EVER found X concept arousing in the privacy of your mind or in a fictional context, that means you want it exactly the same way IRL and are therefore either a predator or the willing inspiration of predators,” YOU ARE ENGAGING IN A LITERAL FORM OF PURITY CULTURE. The underlying dogma you use to shore up your claims is less important than the logic you use to enforce them: and that logic is, “you must strive to meet my specific moral definition of sexual purity, because if you don’t, you’ll provoke sexual malfeasance towards yourself and others, and when that happens, it’ll be your fault.”           

#true #fandom stuff #purity culture #antis

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“You’re Not a Good Writer.”

I once received a DM comprised of just that sentence. Nothing else. No constructive criticism or any reason as to why this person clearly agreed with my own view of myself.

For someone who has never told anyone in their real life that they write anything, reading something like this from an anonymous user only solidified in my mind the fact that this person was right.

I’m not a good writer.

After an embarrassing amount of minutes passed, in which I thought about deleting every story I ever posted, I decided to delete the message instead. Unfortunately, that didn’t mean I could delete the feelings it caused or change the fact that I’m not a good writer.

Two weeks went by and I didn’t write anything, let alone post. Then I received a comment on a story I had posted three years prior, one I’d written after a death in our family. The comment read, “Thank you for sharing this heartfelt story. I really needed this. I just lost my mom and this really got me today.”

I stopped thinking about being a good writer after that. I thought instead, “what if I had deleted my stories and that one person three years later hadn’t read it that day?”

Here’s what I realized: no one is a good writer.

Good means to be approved of, but stories aren’t created from approval. They’re built from life experiences, feelings, and emotions Therefore, the impact of anyone’s story isn’t good or bad. It’s a million other things.

Heartfelt.

Sad.

Funny.

Inspiring.

Romantic.

So to all the story writers out there, hold your head up, write what is in your heart, and never doubt that there isn’t at least one person out there that needs to read your story.

So, no.

We’re not good writers, but why would we want to be?

#important things #fandom stuff

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I try to stay away from a lot of fandom discourse, but since I’ve been seeing this on my dash again and in tags, I feel the need to make a statement on this, particularly for any young fans who follow me that might get drawn into this mindset.

Stay away from purity culture. Warn your friends away from it too, if you see them starting to fall for it. It’s very easy to get drawn into it

Almost always, it starts with one of three roots, pedophilia, incest and/or abuse. Usually it’s pedophilia. Funnily enough, that’s also what congress usually uses to try to justify passing bills that undermine online privacy & security. Because it’s an easy, extreme target, and when people attempt to argue against it, it’s nice and easy to say “Oh so you like pedophilia” rather then actually engaging with their argument.

The logic goes like this, although there’s many forms of it.

“Pedophilia is bad.” -> Obviously, you agree with this. You’re a reasonable person, and the idea that anyone would do something like that to a child is horrible. This is a normal human reaction.

“Because pedophilia is bad, all fictional explorations of it must be equally bad.” -> Here you might hesitate, but it adds up, doesn’t it? The thought of pedophilia in any context probably gives you a bad feeling, that makes you inclined to go along with this logic. 

“Anyone who creates content with a fictional exploration of pedophilia is also bad.” -> Maybe you pause here, or maybe you don’t. But still, it adds up, it’s a very easy flow. After all, we’ve decided that that is Bad, so why would anyone Good want to create something like that?

“Since people who create content with a fictional exploration of pedophilia are just as bad as people who engage in pedophilia in real life, it’s okay to harm them.” -> Here’s where you might pause again. The argument might not win you over entirely, you might not be willing to do harm yourself, but you may be a lot more willing to turn a blind eye to harm being done to someone. Or to consider it ‘justified’.

The pattern now repeats for anything else that’s considered “morally impure”, and “pedophilia” is expanded and expanded, often to ridiculous points, such as merely shipping two underage characters. “Abuse” becomes any ship that the person pushing doesn’t like, for any reason. And so on and so forth.

This is the foundation of “anti” culture, and it’s important to be aware of it so you can catch this false equivocation. Fictional explorations of something, are not the same as the thing itself. Fictional explorations are fiction. The characters are not real people. There is no actual harm being done. Equating fake harm and real harm is a dangerous, slippery slope, which leads us to fundamentally flawed ideas of moral purity. It’s a form of controlling people & making them feel guilty for their very thoughts, rather than holding people accountable for their actions. 

A very handy trick for when you encounter this sort of argument, is to replace whatever the selected purity term is with murder. After all, we can all agree that murder is bad, but at the same time, we understand that a murder in a book =/= a murder in real life.

Let’s see that argument again, shall we?

“Murder is bad”

“Because murder is bad, all fictional explorations of it must be equally bad.”

“Anyone who creates content with a fictional exploration of murder is also bad.”

“Since people who create fictional explorations of murder are just as bad as the people who commit murder in real life, it’s okay to harm them.”

Hopefully, it’s now easy to see why the above argument is fundamentally flawed.

Keep your eye out for purity culture in your fandom spaces, and when you see it, refuse to engage with it. Warn your friends if you see them falling into the same traps, although try to be kind about it; this is a very easy thought pattern to fall into. I don’t recommend trying to argue/debate anti’s. The attention only feeds them. Block them instead. Don’t let people control or shame you for what you create or consume, and don’t control or shame others for what they create or consume.

Also, as a note, let me be clear about something. If you are uncomfortable with any of the above discussed things, or anything in general in fiction (ie, underage ships, murder, incest, abuse, penguins, needles, etc), that’s perfectly fine (it’s also called a squick, for those that haven’t heard that term before). Absolutely control your fandom experience by blocking people, filtering tags, unfollowing, etc. However, just because you are uncomfortable with something, does not give you the right to control other people. Other people have no right to control what content you create or consume, and you have no right to do that to them either. 

Okay?

#true #fandom stuff

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A couple more memes I drew today!! People wanted clones, so clones they got!!

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canon (derogatory)

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I've been writing The Therapist series for just about a year now, so this seems an appropriate list of questions to share here. Ask any if you're interested 💙

fanfic end of the year asks

since it’s december, i thought i’d make a little end of the year ask meme for fanfic writers and readers! reblog and ask away

favorite fic you wrote this year

least favorite fic you wrote this year

favorite line/scene you wrote this year

total number of words you wrote this year

most popular fic this year

least popular fic this year

longest completed fic you wrote this year

shortest completed fic you wrote this year

longest wip of the year

shortest wip of the year

fandom you enjoyed writing for the most this year

favorite character to write about this year

favorite writing song/artist/album of this year

a fic you didn’t expect to write

something you learned this year

fic(s) you completed this year

fics you’ll continue next year

current number of wips

any new fics to start next year

number of comments you haven’t read

most memorable comment/review

events you participated in this year

fics you wanted to write but didn’t

favorite fic you read this year

a fic you read this year you would recommend everyone read

number of favorites/bookmarks you made this year

favorite fanfic author of the year

longest fic you read this year

shortest fic you read this year

favorite fandom to read fic from this year

*feel free to specify fandoms or a fic depending on the question.

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Summary: Some nights, you can sleep right through and wake up fine in the morning. Others... others you just have to get through.

Rating: Teen

Words: 6,311

Check the warnings in the notes, please <3

#star wars the clone wars #captain rex #obi-wan kenobi #commander cody #fanfic #fanfiction #the therapist series #jude writes

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Some amazing additions

Unspoken Rules of being a clone

Brothers fight together and help one another

Never let harm come to another brother if you can prevent it

Never tell the jedi if you’re having nightmares

Never tell the jedi about the mini-golf course the ARC’s built in the Couresaunt barracks.

If the jedi get weird, just roll with it.

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The Clones as Love and Happiness Quotes

Listen I said I am up in these feels today

Rex-“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” Echo-“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” Fives-“The art of love is largely the art of persistence.” Jesse-“If you would be loved, love, and be loveable.” Kix-“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” Tup-“Friends show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness.” Dogma-”Love is a better teacher than duty.” Hardcase-“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.” Coric-“Love is a friendship set to music.” Bly-“'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” 99-“The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost.” Cody-“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” Waxer and Boil-“You know it’s love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you’re not part of their happiness.” Wolffe-“Love will find a way through paths where wolves fear to prey.” Sinker and Boost-“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Hunter-“Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.” Wrecker-“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.” Tech-“We are shaped and fashioned by what we love.” Crosshair-“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

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i ain’t here for obi-wan slander. if you even think abt saying he wasn’t a good master for anakin you can get the fuck out of my face. yes this post is directed at obi-wan kenobi himself