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profeminist·an hour agoPhoto

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Oh my God this actually explains so much.

So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack

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I was in a documentary! The Women of Titmouse Animation recently debuted at the “Breaking the Glass Frame: Women and Animation, Past, Present, Future" Symposium in Los Angeles California. To find more screenings check out the official website: www.womenofanimationfilm.com/ 

Here’s the official summery:

The Women of Titmouse Animation tells the story of a diverse group of female creatives in various independent studio roles and examines their pathways to success. Their educational experiences and other factors in career trajectory are brought into question while their perseverance will inspire future generations. 

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It’s a minor pet peeve, but it is everywhere today so errrr…. please keep in mind that “Rest in Peace”/RIP literally comes from a latin phrase and is a very very deeply Christian expression.

When talking about the departed, Jews say “may their memory be a blessing.”

So please, when talking about a dead person who is Jewish, try to keep in mind that RIP is a Christian phrase.

I learned something today, so I’ll pass it on so someone else can learn too

Muslims say:

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un (Arabic: إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ‎)

“We belong to Allah and to Allah we shall return.”

I didn’t know this!

You are all delights. Spreading the knowledge.

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Beanie Feldstein Says Queer Representation In ‘Booksmart’ Is ‘Completely Meaningful’

One of the most-buzzed-about movies to emerge from South by Southwest (SXSW) so far is the coming-of-age comedy, “Booksmart,” which marks the directorial debut of Olivia Wilde.

The film, written by Katie Silberman, follows straight-laced, overachieving teens Amy (played by Kaitlyn Dever) and Molly (Beanie Feldstein) who decide to go out on a bender before they graduate from high school.

Amy also happens to identify as gay, and from the sounds of it, “Booksmart” presents that attribute in a nonchalant manner. According to Page Six, the film’s queer-inclusive script held special resonance for Feldstein, who opened up about her own sexuality while speaking at a SXSW panel Monday.

Learn more about “Booksmart” here.

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“Luchita Hurtado, Venezuela born contemporary artist who became most recognised at the age of 97 #womensart”

@womensart1

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“Look guys, I say this with all due respect, but it shouldn’t take having a wife, a sister, or a daughter for you to care about what’s happening to us.”

@emrazz

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“Straight people don’t have a pride month because they don’t have to see a whole ass state refuse to air an episode of a fucking cartoon where a rat man gets married to another dude and wonder if their right to get married will be revoked some day soon.”

@HYENABLOOD

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Camille Thurman with the Darrell Green Trio – Nobody Knows

Camille Thurman with the Darrell Green Trio The Kennedy Center (January 2018) 

Camille Thurman Tenor Saxophone & Voice 

 Darrell Green Drums 

 David Bryant Piano 

 Saadi Zain Bass

Camille Thurman is guesting on sax and voice with the band on Late Show With Stephen Colbert tonight (Wed. 5/23/19)

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um hAROLD????

Ugh yes yes yes I fucking knew it. You don’t kiss Jenny Slate like that or Petra like that if you aren’t. I fucking love her so damn much, Janelle making a fucking cosmic impact already goddamn.

noah fence but we kinda been knew on this one….. like Q.U.E.E.N.? was all abt being gay??

I always felt like the song was meant to be called Q.U.E.E.R but was changed last minute because she wasnt ready to come out…when I listen to the song it sounds like she’s saying queer to me.

Is Janelle making everything in Hollywood come out or what?

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Rosario Dawson was already there though 

Jenny Slate and Rosario Dawson for NY Times 9 Kisses x 

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“A first look at Rihanna’s Fenty line. “I’m thick and curvy right now, and so if I can’t wear my own stuff then, I mean, that’s not gonna work, right? And my size is not the biggest size. It’s actually closer to the smallest size we have.”

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Rihanna Says She’s ‘Thick and Curvy Right Now’ and It’s Changed How She Dresses

“Rihanna isn’t afraid to talk about her body.

The 31-year-old superstar gives a rare interview with T, The New York Times Style Magazine, and opens up about collaborating with LVMH to create her first standalone high-fashion collection this season. Rihanna says her new line will be as inclusive as her super-successful makeup line, Fenty Beauty – which sells 50 different shades of foundation – when it comes to sizing. She explains that part of the reason is her own changing shape.

“It just changed how I dress in terms of my proportions,” she says. “You wear what looks good on you and that’s it. I’m thick and curvy right now, and so if I can’t wear my own stuff then, I mean, that’s not gonna work, right? And my size is not the biggest size. It’s actually closer to the smallest size we have: We go up to a [French size] 46. We’re saying we can meet you at any one drop that we put out.”

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“A first look at Rihanna’s Fenty line. “I’m thick and curvy right now, and so if I can’t wear my own stuff then, I mean, that’s not gonna work, right? And my size is not the biggest size. It’s actually closer to the smallest size we have.”

@ToiMeetsWorld

Rihanna Says She’s ‘Thick and Curvy Right Now’ and It’s Changed How She Dresses

“Rihanna isn’t afraid to talk about her body.

The 31-year-old superstar gives a rare interview with T, The New York Times Style Magazine, and opens up about collaborating with LVMH to create her first standalone high-fashion collection this season. Rihanna says her new line will be as inclusive as her super-successful makeup line, Fenty Beauty – which sells 50 different shades of foundation – when it comes to sizing. She explains that part of the reason is her own changing shape.

“It just changed how I dress in terms of my proportions,” she says. “You wear what looks good on you and that’s it. I’m thick and curvy right now, and so if I can’t wear my own stuff then, I mean, that’s not gonna work, right? And my size is not the biggest size. It’s actually closer to the smallest size we have: We go up to a [French size] 46. We’re saying we can meet you at any one drop that we put out.”

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LEFTWING DOXXING: hey, we ID’d this person as a member of a hate group, and he’s a cop…. in a school… so that’s probably bad

RIGHTWING DOXXING: here’s a feminist’s home address, someone should go literally murder her over a YouTube video

CENTRIST: these are the same

AntiFash Gordon

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#TheHomelessPeriod exposes the unique menstruation problem homeless women face 

The new campaign shines a light on homeless women who need assistance caring for their menstrual cycles. According to the Guardian, approximately 26% of people in the U.K. who receive “homelessness services” are female. But in most shelters, “sanitary ware or any kind of period ephemera is scarce,” Vice reported earlier this year. Three women have a plan to fix that.

Guys, please sign the petition! https://www.change.org/p/help-the-homeless-on-their-period-thehomelessperiod

My school had a fundraiser for this. Man you never think of these things

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I was inspired by several articles about the Tampon Tax recently and some of the protests against the categorization of tampons as “luxury items,” so I made this up. It’s funny because it’s true.

Tampons are a “luxury item”

Once I worked as an intern in the state capital. One of the representatives I worked for was this middle-aged guy. And he hated the tampon and napkin machines in the women’s bathrooms. Hated them. He insisted that they weren’t necessary.

I found out why after I’d been working there, oh, about a month. My period started suddenly, as it sometimes does, and I asked to excuse myself to go to the ladies’ room. He wanted to know why. I told him.

He started ranting about how lazy women were. How we wasted time. How we were so careless and unhygenic, and that there was no call for that. He finished by telling me that I certainly was NOT going to the ladies’ room and that I was just going to sit there and work. He finished this off with a decisive nod, as if I’d just be told and there could be no possible argument.

“If I don’t go,” I said in an overly patient tone, “the blood is going to soak through my pants, stain my new skirt that I just bought, and possibly get on this chair I’m sitting in. I need something to soak up the blood. That’s why I need to go to the bathroom.”

His face turned oatmeal-gray; an expression of pure horror spread across his face. He leaned forward and whispered, “Wait, you mean that if you don’t go, you’ll just keep on bleeding? I thought that women could turn it off any time that they wanted!”

I thought,  You have got to be kidding.

Several horrified whispers later, I learned that he wasn’t. He actually thought a) that women could shut down the menstrual cycle at will, b) that we essentially picked a week per month to spend more time in the bathroom, i.e. to goof off, and c) that napkins and tampons were sex toys paid for by Health and Human Services. I didn’t know the term then, but he believed that tampons were dildos. Which was why he and a good number of his friends considered them luxuries.

And that’s how, at twenty, I had to give a talk on menstruation to a middle-aged married state representative who was one of my bosses. American politics, ladies and gentlemen.

OH GOOD GRIEF!

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“We do not get to choose whether or not young people learn about sex: we only get to choose how young people learn about sex. #SexEdForAll”

Kim Cavill‏

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Just had the best doc appointment of my life. 

The doc only used pronouns I used and asked:

What kind of partnership are you in? 

Does your partner produce sperm? 

What do you use to have sex? 

I’m 32 and this was a first. M.D’s be better, do better. It’s possible.

Kim Tran

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