#DV help

[evaluating305nonprofits]

Why Create this Blog?

Backstory

Something I, like a lot of little girls, had ingrained in me from the earliest days of my life was to always be nice. Not just nice… sweet. Smiling, meek, always willing to help. To me, it was inextricable from femininity. “No” was a sour word, the word of women who boys my age sniggered about and called “hags” and “bitches”. It was a word to be avoided unless absolutely necessary. 

I’m also, if we are being honest, too trusting. I’m quick to see the good in people, and sometimes forget to even consider if there’s any bad to be detected. 

I’m also young. Physically, I’m not incredibly strong. 

I work as a waitress, and must take a daily walk home at three in the morning that cuts across pitch-black railroad tracks and woods. I wear shorts that barely skim the top of my thighs, and am all too aware of the neatly folded pile of cash tips in my apron. 

Each time I hear a bramble shake or the wind whisper cruelly through leaves, my heart jumps like it wants to escape my body through my mouth.

 My point is, I am what would be considered a vulnerable woman, a label that applies to literal millions of people, from all walks of life, across Miami. 

Though, logically, I understand what that means, it can be difficult to grasp the full gravity of that label until that vulnerability truly envelops you: until that one moment where the illusion of permanent safety, of immortality, is lifted, and you are left defenseless and afraid and knowing nothing but the fact that you have no way of protecting yourself. And, if you’re lucky and the moment passes, you remember there’s millions of you. Millions, ignoring the threats the world holds for them until they’re impossible to ignore. And you wonder which one of them wasn’t lucky that night, because we couldn’t all have been.

 You wonder if, at another sticky sports bar across town, another girl making that nightly walk home just had the soul scared out of her by the sound of shuffling in trees…  but she doesn’t get to hold her hand to her chest and sigh and realize there’s nothing there.

 For someone, somewhere, there was Something. 

Or, the true nightmare, Someone. 

It’s not fair that I- and the multitude of women like me in the Miami area- don’t get to be naive. I should be trusting, kind, helpful. I should be able to walk home at night and not feel genuinely afraid for my life. I should be able to give coworkers rides home without having to stop to consider whether or not they’re actually evil freaks. And, above all, I shouldn’t bear that heavy responsibility all by myself. 

My experience has taught me that, above all, women need to protect each other. Because the people and structures in power certainly will not. We must learn to take care of ourselves, and of women everywhere. Of our trans and cis sisters, mothers, little girls, grandmothers. And we need to learn that being rude is downright empowering. 

We cannot rest till all of our girls are genuinely safe to be as trusting and naive as they want to be. 

The Mission of this Account

This account is my way of uplifting myself and the women around me who are in urgent need of resources and assistance, but don’t know where to even begin looking for it. The aim of this account is to develop a clear set of specifications to look for when evaluating a nonprofit organization like a women’s shelter, and to easily communicate that criteria so that women around Miami and the world can apply it to their own lives in the case of an emergency, so that they are given the best possible assistance in their time of need. I will also create comparisons and assessments of some of the most prominent shelters in our area, such as the Lotus House Women’s Shelter. Thank you, and I hope you find the resources on this site helpful. 

#women #dv #domestic violence resources #dv help #miami #womens rights #womens shelters #nonprofit organization

[lesbienyu]

I think there's a side of radblr that ppl don't really see where women are accepting of mistakes, where they don't shame you for being detransitioned, where being a victim of sex trafficking and resulting trauma responses is handled as the mental health crisis it is instead of a moral failing, but that's not always the community women in need are immediately exposed to when looking for help, and it does worry me that these women will see radical feminists judging them before they see us accepting them and offering help to them. not every woman is perfect, yeah, I agree, and accountability is hugely important, but some of y'all are more focused on ideological purity than helping actual women in real life and it comes off as equally overly online as TRA type stuff. feminism is about helping women, not making sure every woman you help is deserving.

#ngl this is about female addicts bc a Lot of y'all suck w that #and tbh most OSA women irl aren't going to stop having bfs so what are you doing to enable them to leave? #are you working towards abortion rights DV shelters women's employment programs or just calling them dumb for sleeping w moids? #I agree women shouldn't have sex w men esp w abortion RN but that's not applicable to most women you'll talk to bc they're probs not radfem #so how are you helping? #are you calling women idiots or are you volunteering at DV shelters #are you calling DV victims idiots for not leaving or working campaigns #are you helping women avoid being victims again or are you blaming them for being victims

[obeydecoded]

BONUS:

HELP... 😭 MY HEART... 😫

#obey me #obey me shall we date #obey me satan #obey me satan x mc #obey me mc #obey me devilgram spoiler #d: it was worth 20 dvs! #d: im sure my luck as usual will be back to bad pulls #d: dont care!! I GOT HIM #d: cant help ruin the moment tho when he said he was born to meet you #d: *thinks back to one of lucifer's bday card* UH..

[cringyguuurl]

How do I get rid of the control my abuser has over me? I'm happy, I really am, but he's there at the back of my mind. Every day I feel closer to going right back where I started, back to him. I met my soulmate, the person I want to grow old with and yet I feel the shadow of my ex all over my relationship and happiness. I want to forget him, but even after all this time I can't.

#trauma #rapesurvivor #dv survivor #domestic violent relationships #bpd #advice #tw dv #relationship #idk just please someone help me #anyone really please #i cant do this anymore

[pissmoon]

Is it just my personal experience or women who are the loudest about 'girls support girls' 'female solidarity' are the ones most dedicated to ostracizing and mocking women who break patriarchal social norms?

#the 'support' in question is yassqueening female billionaire celebs n ceos who dont need ur 'support' in any meaningful way #or giggling about how their husbands dont do shit at home then acting like women who refuse to date such men are some alien species #women who actually volunteer at shelters for dv victims or help access abortion where its illegal just dont. say this kind of shit

[leopardsealz]

gay deer that live in my head

please reblog my art!

#artists on tumblr #digital art #oc #original character #oc art #deer oc #sam draws #deerverse #dv: hemlock #dv: larkspur #exaggerating giant elk size in this verse slightly because i want to. hope this helps #theyre both young adults so hemlocks antlers arent finished growing #also both are they/them

[tryingreallyh4rd]

Info:

- 20 y/o (2003).

- Gender-fluid, they/them.

- Recovering from disordered eating, depression, post traumatic stress, anxiety, etc.

- Looking for support from other people in recovery.

- Posts that say “Entry (x)”above them are posts from my diary (some may be edited for contextual purposes).

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #genderfluid #nonbinary #queer #self improvement #ptsd recovery #mental health recovery #bed recovery #ana recovery #self care #self love #self help #mental health #dv survivor #abuse survivor

[callmecaptainamazing]

Please Share

I am a 26-year-old full-time Nursing student. I work Fri, Sat, Sun 6 am to 6 pm, so I do have income coming in. I am a single mom to a 3-year-old little girl and I'm currently pregnant as well. I just left my ex (the father of my children) due to domestic abuse. I do not make as much money as I used to since I went back to school The agreement between me and my ex was that I would cover the smaller bills (i.e. utilities, childcare when needed, gas for my vehicle and groceries; I also pay for my car insurance and the car note), and he would cover the rent and any major expenses. I have kept my end of the bargain, and it was to my knowledge he was doing the same. I left him less than a week ago, and today, the property manager for the complex I live at posted a notice on my door that I have to pay 2,475.00 before 7/31/2023 or get out. Otherwise, she will file for eviction through the course if I do not pay or get out at this time. The monthly rent here is 739.00, and I am capable of paying a, and she says that it still stands. I have looked into other local resources and have filled out applications for help. There is a long waiting list for most of the places I looked into. And the county where I reside I not taking applications for rental assistance at all at this time, I also filed for an LOA with my school so I can get to work catching up on my finances and getting things in order in the aftermath of my separation from my ex.I am trying my best to help myself and it has taken a lot out of me to reach out to others for help, too. I do not want to subject my child to homelessness and I really am capable of paying some of the amount, just not all. And I can keep things on track afterward. I don't know what to do. Any help is appreciated.

This is the only social media I have that he doesn’t have access to or knowledge of. It associated with an old email from high school too. 

https://gofund.me/b25a6811

#gofundme #domesticviolence #dv #dv survivor #domestic abuse #narcissistic abuse #dv awareness #domestic violence hotline #help

[korn-maze]

JD Looks So Cute In This Sweater ❤

#korn #korn band #korn fandom #nu metal #jonathan davis #jd korn #jdevil #jnthn dvs #is that a store brand sweater or did he get it made? #lemme know peeps #sorry for the watermarks #can't be helped though-