being transneutral is as much valid as being transmasc or transfem. transneutral people deserve to be visible. transneutral people deserve to be respected. transneutral people deserve to be included in conversation about trans experiences, trans problems, and trans rights.
we deserve representation. we deserve transition that fits our goals. we deserve neutral gender markers (or removed gender markers because they are useless). we deserve hrt schemes to reach neutrality. we deserve surgeries we need in. we deserve social acceptance and awareness. we deserve gender-neutral bathrooms and other gender-neutral spaces instead of gendered ones. we deserve being accepted whatever we look. our pronouns deserve being accepted. our transition goals deserve to be accepted and respected. we deserve to be respected and accepted whether or not we have dysphoria, want medical or social transition, and so on. we deserve to be respected and accepted being ourselves.
we shouldn't be alienated, forget, and excluded. we have always been and will always be a part of society. we have always been and will always be a part of queer community. we are valid and cool.
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Some nonbinary people don't have a gender.
Some nonbinary people are a third gender.
Some nonbinary people are both a man and a woman.
Some nonbinary people are between man and woman.
Some nonbinary people are a few genders at once.
Some nonbinary people change their gender periodically.
Some nonbinary people have different amounts of gender.
Some nonbinary people have a little bit of a certain gender.
Some nonbinary people don't understand their gender.
They are all nonbinary.
(I'm sure I missed some, and for some more than one may resonate. Add in your own!)
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NO PRONOUNS FAQ
How do I even do that?
There are multiple methods for referring to those who use no pronouns, shown below. (Examples here taken from this page, a very good resource.)
Use names or initials instead of pronouns
I talked to him yesterday → I talked to Sky yesterday.
She is really beautiful → Soph is really beautiful.
Her graduation starts soon → J's graduation starts soon.
Passive voice
He answered the phone → The phone was answered.
Wen takes good care of her cat → Wen's cat is well cared for.
Rephrasing the sentence (circumlocution)
Lior did it all by himself → Lior did it all without any help.
Gael talks in his sleep → Gael talks while sleeping.
Replacing a pronoun with a descriptive noun or phrase
She landed the plane safely → The pilot landed the plane safely.
This is Lea, she is into painting → This is Lea. My friend is into painting.
She argues that… → The person who started this discussion argues that…
Dropping pronouns
Did you buy Tex her gift? → Did you buy Tex a gift?
Yes, I bought it for her. I will give it to her tomorrow. → Yes, I bought it. I will give it tomorrow.
Why not just use they/them?
For many people who use no pronouns, the issue with they/them pronouns is the implication of a neutral gender rather than no gender. Nonbinary people have often been lumped into a “third gender” category, and for agender/genderless people, this feels just as restrictive as having to “settle for” a binary gender. They/them pronouns can feel like being forced into another category, especially as the popular perception of people outside the binary has become a monolith, and can be very dysphoria-inducing.
Who can use no pronouns?
Anyone! Most commonly, this specific way of expressing oneself is used by agender/genderless people, but anyone can use no pronouns if that’s what that person wants.
Can I include you in group pronouns? (Example: They all went to the beach.)
It’s up to the person whether or not that’s alright, but I’d wager most of us would say that yes, that’s fine! It can’t hurt to ask.
Are second person pronouns alright to use?
Same as above. Most would find it perfectly fine, but if there’s ever doubt, please ask!
Isn’t that transphobic?
When asked for sincerely, this is not transphobic. Some transphobic people might say they “don’t have pronouns” in order to make fun of trans people. There is a big difference between someone genuinely stating their preferred pronouns (or lack thereof) and being transphobic.
Are you trolling?/Is this satire?
No, this is not a joke or an attempt at making anyone look bad. If you asked if this is satire, I also urge you to take a look at what satire actually is and it’s history as a form of comedy. Trolling and bait are not satire.
Aren’t you harming the community with this?/This will make transphobes think we're stupid!
I am, by definition, a trans person just trying to be comfortable. I am part of the community. While people inside the community can definitely harm it, expressing myself in a way that makes me most comfortable is not harmful towards anyone. If transphobes think I'm stupid, I can't stop them. They'll think I'm stupid no matter what.
How do I try these out for myself? I think this might be for me!
Here's a website that allows the user to input a name and ask for no pronouns in a sample sentence. No matter your conclusion, I wish you the best on your journey of discovery!
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for everyone who may need to hear this: your trans[something] label is about where you wanna come, not about where you start.
you don't have to identify as transmasc if you are afab.
you don't have to identify as transfem if you are amab.
your agab means nothing. your identity means everything.
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Oh my god you guys, you NEED to watch this interview
It's so amazing to see how people before us bravely chose to be themselves despite living in a world where they weren't really understood, which paved the way for our generation to have words to describe ourselves and examples to look up to.
Both the interviewer and interviewee are being so respectful, too. Just honest and open dialogue, I love it.
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