it's actually terrifying how quickly the concept of self care (originally a radical concept rooted in the black panther party's efforts to support other black ppl living through racism) became another tool of self-management which is viewed as both a moral obligation + an individual responsibility. businesses + employers + other institutions now easily wield it as a progressive way to say "if you're upset about xyz, make yourself get over it". "we are going to treat you like shit + you need to learn how to cope with that or else you're doing something wrong"
i have seen job listings where "ability to practice self care" was listed as a requirement for employment. as a case worker, we were repeatedly drilled on "self-care" as a response to unconscionably high case loads, traumatizing experiences, dead end job obligations, + poor living conditions due to subpar pay/high stress. my clients would go to appointments regarding their evictions, food insecurity, active domestic violence situations, etc + receive tips on "self care" without any tangible community, legal, or structural support to follow.
everyone absolutely deserves to care for themselves + it is useful to circulate affirmations + advice on how to do this. this should happen within communities, through a sincere concern/love for one another, as a way of helping everyone live the best life possible while we work towards total liberation. it should not be a replacement for caring for one another!!! it should be one of many ways of caring for one another!!!
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What should we call it now?
If were not enemies, do you think we can be friends?
Sailom started escorting in episode four of Dangerous Romance.
And it already caused some tension between the boys.
But just like his fellow Slut for Christ, Only Friends' Ray, Kanghan can and will throw money at any and all issues. Sailom won't directly accept money, so Kanghan arranges an alternative - hiring Sailom again AND forcing him to live with Kanghan.
And this IS an issue. (all I'm seeing is red & blue)
Kanghan doesn't like the idea of Sailom having to eat with rich clients for money.
Or talking with clients over the glow of candlelight.
Probably because it scares him to think that the client will ask for more from Sailom than just the job he was hired to do.
Because if this is about money, Kanghan has it.
Sailom escorting sooner in the show, makes me confident that Kanghan will be even more pissed when Sailom goes back to it.
And Sailom would go back to it if he doesn't have another client buying up his time.
Without tutoring, the boys did not talk to each other, and Kanghan was in his feelings about it.
Instead of sparking a friendship with Sailom after tutoring had ended, Kanghan made their relationship transactional once again, which would seem really nice sense he knows Sailom needs money, BUT . . .
Kanghan never attempted to be friends with Sailom. Kanghan, who plays soccer, signed up for logistics rather than sports, so he could possibly work with Sailom at school. Why the ritual when he could just be friends with Sailom? Because even if Kanghan wants to be friends with Sailom, he doesn't treat him like a friend.
I think Kanghan likes Pimfah, but this quick exchange is interesting when applied to their dynamic:
Kanghan was taken aback by Pimfah's statement (because he thought she was trying to define their relationship, possibly), but this question has come up before and was directly about Sailom and Kanghan. But in the style of Bad Buddy, what are Sailom and Kanghan?
They aren't enemies anymore, but they aren't friends. Kanghan wants to take care of Sailom, pay for fancy meals for him, spend time with him, eat snacks with him, and live with him, but they aren't boyfriends.
So what are they now?
Sailom called Kanghan his friend,
but for Kanghan?
Pimfah originally asked Sailom for tutoring, so he would have gotten money (if this were just about money), but Kanghan eliminated that funding source just like he did with Sailom's other tutoring clients in episode two.
Because Kanghan's isn't just buying a service from Sailom (tutoring); he is buying Sailom by forcing him to move in, and playfully asking him to feed him and massage his back. And both Name and Kanghan mention this type of job being "easy"
And Sailom is good company for a client.
Kanghan didn't give Sailom any other option but to keep him company.
Kanghan isn't Sailom's friend. He doesn't want to be Sailom's friend. He is a client, and until Kanghan changes his mentality, he is going to continue thinking that his money has power over Sailom. But without his money, what use does Sailom have with him?
None.
And that's what scares him.
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Jonathan is Like That because he has worked on customer service
This is such a good take, thank you for this fhskdj
Jonathan payed his way through school working the front desk at Hawkins law firm, politely explaining to people over and over that I'm very sorry but Mr Hawkins doesn't have any appointments available in the next 3 minutes, yes I understand that it's very important but he can't 'just pretend there was a witness' to sign the contract to hurry things along, no I'm afraid I haven't prepared the thirty copies of the document you asked for yet because it's only been six seconds and it's a thousand pages long and that has given him two things: a polite smile in the face of unreasonable clients, which is how he survived Castle Dracula, and a deeply buried simmering rage towards said clients, which is how he could jump at him holding a knife with no hesitation.
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"Back to you, Andy!"
"No, back to you, Ollie!"
Here's an adorable Commission I had the absolute pleasure of doing for @babsvibes for @seemoreseymoursbay week. Yes, I know I'm posting it super early, but I just had to!! Look!! It's the Pesto Twins and they're so flipping adorable 😭❣️
I feel so honored that I got to do a Comm for Babs for a fandom event. I feel as if when you're an artist and you get to do a Comm for Babs for a fandom event, you've made it.
[ID]: Digital fanart of Andy and Ollie Pesto from Bob's Burgers. They are shown from the waist up, and Andy is seen from a regular view, whilst Ollie is seen from a complete side view. Andy has one eye open and is winking with the other, whilst Ollie's other eye is covered because of the side view. Andy is wearing a bright green shirt, and his hand is on top of Ollie's. Ollie is wearing bright orange overalls, and the two twins have identical-looking smiles. Their hair is also bright orange and quite fluffy. To further distinguish the two, Ollie also has some freckles dotting his face.
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