#ableist

[pumpkinspicedmochi]

Dear parents

Pretending that your kid isn't disabled and getting mad at them for needing more help and support than your other kids and wanting them to "try harder" and also pretend that THEY aren't disabled by ignoring their OWN needs as well doesn't make them less disabled by the way

#lowkey a vent oop #neurodivergent #ableist parents #ableist #ableist mother #ableism #physically disabled #disability #actually autistic #disabled #physical disability #actually disabled #autism #chronic pain #actuallyautistic #internalized ableism

[somniphobicfox]

My aunt called me for a family outing, and I refused because my pain was reaching higher levels and I knew it was flaring up and I just wanted to go to bed. I told her about it, and she goes "I'm tired as well, aren't I going out? I'm so much older than you, I'm still going out with all of you- "

I'm disabled.

I pleaded with my mom to convince her - I was feeling terrible. My pain was sooooooo high I was in tears. And to make matters worse, she told "if you're not coming, then we're not going as well." I felt so terrible.

EVERYBODY told me to suck it up and come along. A cousin was even so sure of why I was hurting, and blamed me for my pain. Told me that I should've listened to her and not done x and that's why I'm in pain.

I'm disabled. I have chronic pain.

And my own mother gave in to peer pressure and I was surrounded by ableists convincing me, blackmailing me to go along with them just so that they don't have to face the guilt of leaving someone behind. It was one of the worst days of my life.

I ended up going, and I cried that night because I was in so much pain. I had been on a bumpy car ride while my arm was flaring up.

Able-bodied people, if you're reading this — please understand that when a disabled person tells you to go somewhere without them, just go. Telling them that you would stay would only make them feel more terrible. And also, believe disabled people when they say they're hurting. PLEASE. Its the one thing we ask of you.

#chronic pain #chronic illness #disability #ableism #ableist #disabled #disability pride month #awareness #disability awareness #chronic #fibromyalgia #central sensitization #central sensitization syndrome #nerve pain #chronic arm pain

[fernshawart]

Some of you guys seriously need to think of ableism as something other than "oh you can't say this slur" or "my ADHD made me do it you can't be mad at me :("

Yes, these are exemples of ableism. No, that's not the worst thing that can happen with ableism.

Some people want to feel oppressed so bad they don't understand what the fear of actual oppression feels like.

Two years ago, I was about to go see my aunt for a comic festival and I took the train for the first time in my own. That day was a pretty normal one for me. I took my favorite bag for the trip, my walking cane because I need it to walk around and sunglasses because it was very sunny outside.

This was my first ever trip with train stations and I was struggling to find the right train so I went to see the lady whose job is to help passengers. Walked up to her and just asked her "hey, can you tell me where the station number 6 is ? I can't find it."

Guess what she did.

That woman, WITHOUT A WARNING, grabbed my fucking arm and dragged me for several hundred feed before I managed to get back to my senses, get over my fear and rip my arm off her hand and ask her "Can't you just tell me where it is ?!"

At this moment the lady looked at me, blinked like she was in a fucking cartoon, said "oh it's over there" and left. She didn't say sorry. She didn't give me an explanation. She just dragged me like a ragdoll and left me behind. It took me a good thirty minutes to recover from the interaction, especially the pain it gave me in my hip and understand what the hell had just happened. And then I got it. She thought i was BLIND.

That interaction was already traumatic enough for me, someone who could perfectly see, but can you even imagine how an actual blind person would've freaked out ?! People do that all the time thinking they're "helping". You're not helping. You're just terrorizing and hurting us.

Often I told that story saying "haha, a bit funny right ?", But I think it's my way of coping with the fear that it may happen again. I've never put back sunglasses in public after this event. And I don't think I can bring myself to do so again. Because I'm scared that someone may take me away and hurt me again.

This is what ableism looks like when it's endangering people.

#fern rambles #disability #disabilities #disabled #spoonie #ableism #ableist #storytime #story #cane user #cane #chronically ill #cripplepunk #actually disabled #cripple punk

[worms-in-my-brain]

If your ND activism does not include psychopaths/sociopaths and narcissists, then you’re not an ND activist. STIGMATISED DISORDERS AND CONDITIONS NEED TO BE INCLUDED IN YOUR ANTI-ABLEISM. Ableism towards people with personality disorders, low/no empathy people, etc. is still ableism, and if you’re bigoted towards us, then you are ableist.

People with non-stigmatised disorders do not derail.

#cluster b #cluster b safe #actually cluster b #actually antisocial #actually aspd #aspd #npd #ableism #ableist

[kikarouflames]

Aot Fandom and Ableism:

For the past month, I have seen a lot of people hate and make fun of Levi for his disability. And some fans stating they don't like him anymore and thinks he is unattractive now that he has scars and needs a wheelchair. First of all, people who think this way, saying "it's just a personal opinion". No,its not. It's your sick ableism.

Thinking Levi is any less than he was before just because he is disabled, thinking he is in any way pathetic now that he can't function the way he used to IS ABLEISM.

Levi's disability doesn't make him any lesser of a man nor does it make him pathetic. Levi has sacrificed literally everything including his physical abilities, which is more noble and greater than anything. He is definitely not upset about being disabled now, he would give anything and everything for humanity. He must have many problems come his way now that he has lost and sacrificed so much, yes, he isn't that strong anymore. But he still as great of a man he ever was.

Does he has difficulty maneuvering on daily basis? Yes. But does it make him in any way less greater than he was before? Absolutely NOT.

Also, you are not only making fun of Levi or hating on him, you're basically hating on every person who has lost or sacrificed thier physical and emotional capabilities. You are literally hating people who had no control over what they were not born with or has lost/sacrificed in any way. Being physically, mentally or emotionally challenged and disabled doesn't make anyone any less of a human.

Yes, Levi did not deserve to be disabled, he is a very kind hearted person, most selfless, a genuine hero, life isn't fair, war is merciless, it takes and takes and gives nothing, this brutal realism is what aot has always depicted. All those people who are disabled didn't deserve it either, that doesn't mean they are any less. He is still all those things even now that he is disabled, and even more, those physical, emotional and mental losses he has faced is a proof of his determination and inherent drive to save humanity.

The only one that should be ashamed are ableists. Levi's loss of capabilities isn't something to be shamed but something to be proud of. He is a hero in every way. He deserves respect, admiration, and love.

I saw a post on pinterest long ago making fun of Levi's fangirls saying something along the lines "have fun pushing his wheelchair instead", apparently it was a way of saying he is unattractive or doesn't have an appeal because he is old and disabled, it wasn't the first post or person I saw saying this. Well, I don't mind pushing his wheelchair or taking care of him at all, it would be an honor to be granted such an opportunity and position of his caretaker, he was humanity's greater soldier. He is still the great man he ever was. And don't say "it's a joke", "Don't be a snowflake". It's ableist people like these that makes living and believing in ones self as a challenged individual, in any way, be it physical, mental or emotional, so hard.

I am a able-bodied person, but I have some friends who aren't, and Ableism is truly an ugly thing, my friends' experiences with it was horrible. I had to speak up on it.

For all the ableist or covert ableist out there, the only one who is any less of a human and should be ashamed is YOU, for being cold enough to think disabilities are pathetic or makes anyone any less for having it.

#levi ackerman #attack on titan #aot #levi aot #levi attack on titan #levi #shingeki no kyojin #attack on titan levi #captain levi #aot fandom #snk levi #levi snk #ableism #ableist #fuck ableists #kikarou is thinking

[consider-your-potatoes-mashed]

The fuck is up with abled people and thinking that using or having a mobility aid makes us weak? Or that our goal should be to not use them? Why can’t they just accept that using mobility aids is not a bad thing and that we use them because they help and give us more freedom? My mobility aids enable me to do so much more than I can without them and my goal is not to get rid of them or not use them or whatever my goal is to have the ability to do what I want and be independent and not be in excruciating pain. Maybe at some point I wont need my mobility aids but right now I do so idk about other disabled people but stop telling me to try to not use something that makes my quality of life so much better and stop telling me to get better soon I’m just trying my best and the fact people don’t see that is really disheartening just because I don’t fit what someone thinks i should look like or be doing to “get better” doesn’t mean they should feel free to tell me their opinions on my body and what I do to accommodate myself

Honestly this started out as a rant about ableist bullshit regarding mobility aids but it definitely applies to so much else like neurotypicals complaining about how I accommodate my autism and telling me to “just be normal” and other shit like that.

It definitely applies to more than what I’ve said here but goddamn it abled people stop policing disabled bodies and minds, stop trying to control us, stop thinking you know our bodies better than we do

Tl;dr: abled people need to stop with their bullshit and leave disabled people and their tools and accommodations and self accommodations alone. Abled people believe they know our bodies better than we do and that’s simply not true.

#disabled #chronic pain #disability #actually disabled #chronic illness #physical disability #hypermobility #pots #pots syndrome #autistic #autism #autistic problems #actually autistic #autistic adult #disabled adult #physically disabled #ableism #ableist #ableist people #anti ableist #ableist parents #ableist society #mobility aids #mobility aid #babe with a mobility aid #accommodations

[flirts-with-dragons]

Yknow I'm kinda really tired of people using my mental illness. Full stop

Like I'm tired of "psycho schizo man murders family" true crime shows I'm tired of "crazy guy escapes psych ward oh no!!" Movies I'm tired of 'alt' peoples romanticization of mental illness I'm tired of "shadow people" and "hat man" jokes

Idk man I'm just tired

#sanism #ableism #schizophrenia #psychosis #rant #schizospec #actually schizospec #actually psychotic #sanist #ableist

[magnificent-nerd]

The Expendable Disabled Heroes of Marvel’s Infinity War

BY JOHN WISWELL 

(UNCANNY MAGAZINE | 2018)

"It’s the middle of the big Wakanda fight scene. Thor and Captain America banter about haircuts, M’Baku and Okoye crack skulls, and for a moment, Rocket Raccoon meets James Buchanan “Bucky” Barnes. The audience is ready to laugh the second the raccoon eyes up the veteran. They know what’s coming.

"Rocket compliments Bucky’s prosthetic arm, asks to buy it, and the audience tenses up.

"Bucky says it’s not for sale and returns to battle.

"Rocket mutters that he’ll steal that arm.

"And the audience laughs. I don’t."

-

Begging y'all to read this article.

#Bucky's arm #rocket raccoon #ableism #ableist #mcu critical #mcu criticism #movie review #john wiswell #avengers infinity war #mcu #disabled characters #marvel critical #marvel criticism #bucky barnes #gotg

[alostlittleriverlotus]

All I did was look up "word salad" trying to understand it since I'm having a bit of an episode and needed to explain it to my non-psychotic friend.

So. Many. Articles. About. Narcissistic. Word. Salad. What???

Saying it's an intentional gaslighting method by narcissists. Even saw one for psychopaths. When did the anti-narcs steal the term word salad??? Word salad is a symptom of schizophrenia. What the actual fuck? I can't even feel truly mad, I'm just disgusted.

Word salad isn't just "bringing stuff up that doesn't have anything to do with the current conversation" or "throwing in words to manipulate you into feeling like it's your fault." Guess what. As a narcissist and psychotic, my narcissism has some bad delusions with it especially when I'm triggered. So yeah, some things I say may not make sense. Cause I'm having a fucking episode. It is not intentional manipulation.

Seriously. I have not fucking seen this until I just wanted to Google word salad to try to give my friend an idea of what was happening since I'm having a moment of clarity. Did not need to be met with anti narcissist bullshit. I typed in TWO WORDS. That is how fucking easy this information is to find. I'm sick of this shit.

#narcissist #narcissistic #narcissistic abuse #narcissist manipulation #actually narcissistic #narcissistic abuse isn't real #actually npd #npd #ableism #ableist #word salad #actually psychotic #actually traumatized #actually delusional #schizospec #actually schizospec #psychosis

[willtheweirdrat]

r/FDC on their way to ban me for "white knighting" when I was literally just defending myself and explaining that this subreddit does not help the people they claim to help

“disabled people defending their rights is obviously just white knighting!!!" "if you were a real disabled person, you'd just stfu and listen to your Abled Saviors (TM)"

Genuinely what the fuck in wrong with the people in there. They'd rather fucking die that listen to a disabled person explain that they're wrong. FUCK R/FAKEDISORDERCRINGE

#wills mumbles #fake disorder cringe #fdc #r/fdc #ableist #actually disabled #actually autistic #actually adhd #tw ableism #ableism #disablity #disability rights

[pumpkinspicedmochi]

I feel like people really need to accept and realize that old people do not have the monopoly (?) on disability , mobility aid usage and chronic illnesses . They expect that since you're young you should be able to do things that abled people can do, whats wild is that I've had that response even from abled people who know I'm physically disabled like my mom going "you're young , you have a young back so you can do -insert random thing here- " or people telling me that walking and standing long is "good for you , you're young its not going to hurt you" bruh I have chronic pain , standing and walking long does in fact hurt me ..shit even just existing hurts because my pain is all the time . Young disabled people aren't just "lazy" or "exaggerating" 😅 , its kind of like when you look up mobility aids in general or anything even related to them at all really you mostly just see pictures of old people with canes, crutches etc and I in my mind go "young people can be disabled too.." .

#disability #disabled #actually disabled #physical disability #chronic pain #scoliosis #disability advocacy #disabled person #disabilities #ableist #ableists #ableism

[hell-is-a-teenage-girll]

This right here. Is my biggest fear as a disabled person at a concert. Sincerely.

Concerts are the one thing I '' give'' myself, since doing things for myself costs me alot of recovery but that makes me just so happy and being around my people makes the pain worth it afterwards and they keep me going since I have something to look forward to and it gives me more of a future. Which I think people with disabilities will understand deeply. So this.. This would absolutely give me the extra kick to the giving up.

Luckily my favorites are very inclusive and say '' get low if you are capable '' or '' if you are able to do so jump as high as you can''

But just imagine,, you are in the front for your favorite artist, in a wheelchair, or maybe a chair. Or maybe on the floor because you became unwell a bit. Your fave spots you and starts saying '' why are you sitting, why are you sitting?? With the light on you infront of 1000's 0f people.

*Notices you are disabled* and she says: '' oh okay politically incorrect sorry 'bout that, glad you're here.'' in the most uninteresting voice ever.

If that was me, I would cry and die of shame. I think I'd lock myself in my house.

We're just people wanting to do stuff like all of you..

And all the Madonna stans are like '' well she couldn't see''

Well she saw it after didn't she? She could have apologized decently, kindly and with compassion. But no, they got a '' glad you're here '' and '' oOoH My Gawd ''

LISTEN AND LEARN HERE: YOUR IDOL IS STILL A HUMAN. THEY MAKE MISTAKES, SOMETIMES SILLY ONES, SOMETIMES BIG ONES. HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE. Admitting it was wrong does not make you less of a fan. Like truly think. This is not Okay.

Also if you are not disabled. Stop telling us that we are overreacting and shouldn't be this hurt over this.

Everyone can reblog this btw disabled or not.

#Ableism #Ableist #ableist bullshit #fuck ableists #actually disabled #chronic pain #mileyinthemirror #Reblog

[bizarreaizen]

ranting catboy alert !!

i'm living with my aunt and uncle and their middle child is autistic and i dislike how they're treating him, i hear my aunt and uncle yelling at my cousin for stimming [which is a normal thing and not only done by autistic people] and getting mad at him when he doesn't share his toys with his other siblings [who are forcefully taking his toys away from him] and those things are painful to watch and my aunt and uncle are raising ipad kids, when my two cousins were just two, they already got phones and ipads and my oldest cousin who is three years younger than me is shouting out slurs while my aunt and uncle do nothing about it.

i understand that my aunt and uncle can't always take care of their children but giving toddlers a device where they could do anything in it is not the solution. i'm not a fan of children but i would rather my aunt and uncle make me take care of my cousins then let them raise ipad kids.

#ranting slightly #rant post #personal rant #rant #ipad kids #millenials #autism #autistic things #autistic #neurodivergent #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #neurodiverse stuff #ableism #ableist language cw #tw ableist language #ableist nonsense #ableist #parents #parenting #family #auntie #aunt #uncle

[icequeen1371]

Like when ppl say they’re HSP…..maybe we should talk🤔

(Or try bringing it up in an INFJ group & watch everyone become instantly disgusted or offended that you’re implying that they may or may not be autistic or somewhere on the spectrum.)

You find out ppls colors real fast. But they’re okay with YOU though…Mmhmm sure Jan. Like oops, your bias & ableism fell out, you might wanna pick that up.

#HSP #highly sensitive person #autism #autistic #autism spectrum disorder #infj #infj personality #ableism #ableist #the more you know #asd #don’t shoot the messenger

[consider-your-potatoes-mashed]

Had a group of teens laugh at and make fun of me for walking with my cane today. Wtf y’all wtf.

Is decency not a thing? Is kindness non existent? I am just a person and sure I use a mobility aid but goddamnit that doesn’t mean you cam/should laugh or make fun of me or any other disabled person for how they walk or behave and what not

#disabled #chronic pain #disability #actually disabled #chronic illness #physical disability #hypermobility #pots #pots syndrome #autistic #ableism #ableist #fuck ableists #ableist society #ableist people #anti ableist #cane user #crutch user #forearm crutches #walking #babe with a mobility aid #mobility aids #mobility aid #don’t make fun of me #I am not something to be laughed at

[octisticsopinions]

About the mentally disabled Palestinians murdered

I strongly support spreading awareness and honouring the memory of disabled Palestinians killed in the genocide. I am not at all against mentioning their identity as disabled people, because a lot of the time it is related to their deaths.

But please, I am begging you, be respectful.

Eyad Al-Hallaq was a 32 year old Palestinian Deaf Autistic man. He was murdered on his way to his school, the Elwyn El Quds center, which provides services for both disabled children and disabled adults. An Israeli officer shot him dead on the 30th of May in 2020, and then claimed he thought he was trying to murder a woman who was screaming. I have also seen it be claimed the officer thought he was a terrorist because he was wearing gloves.

Some people, while trying to honestly spread awareness, have used extremely disrespectful and infantilising language to describe him, repeating claims he had "the mental capacity of an 8 year old" and saying that his doctor said that, when it was not.

This is never an acceptable way to describe a 32 year old Autistic. He did not have "the brain of a child", he had the brain of a Deaf Autistic adult. This is extremely disrespectful to Eyad Al-Hallaq, and does him no favours, especially when such rhetoric has been used to justify the murder of Autistics. Eyad Al-Hallaq being an adult man should not make him less of a victim- not only is insisting on treating him like a child disrespectful and ableist, it perpetuates the idea that Palestinian men are not victims.

We should remember Eyad Al-Hallaq. We should remember his identity as a Deaf Palestinian Autistic. And we should remember him in a respectful way.

Rest in power, Eyad Al-Hallaq.

#Eyad Al-Hallaq #palestine #free palestine #save palestine #from the river to the sea palestine will be free #feminist #mentally disabled #ableism #actually autistic #autistic #autism #deaf #hard of hearing #cw murder #cw ableism #cw israel #israel #mental disability #disabled #disability #ableist society #fuck ableism #ableist #israeli government shame on you #west bank #israeli occupation #free west bank #support palestine #palestine is a disabled rights issue #intersectional feminism