#abuse awareness

[moonlit-positivity]

You are not obligated to forgive your abusers. You are not obligated to forgive anyone who hurts you, regardless of if they've changed their ways or even if they're struggling and in need of help. You are not required to honor anyone else except you, your feelings are more important. Please do not ever feel guilty for saying no and setting boundaries.

#recovery #ptsd #trauma #mental health #boundaries #healing #healing thoughts #abuse #abuse recovery #abuse awareness #toxicity #toxic friendships #toxic parents #abusive relationships #actually abused #actually traumatized #forgiveness

[the-irreverend]

Support the survivor.

Please.

#alex kister #the mandela catalogue #tmc #support survivors #abuser awareness #abuse awareness #tw abuse #tw grooming #support abuse victims #fuck alex kister

[neuroticboyfriend]

there are abusive marginalized people who weaponize prejudice and oppression against their victims.

an example is abusive women. they can twist feminist concepts to suit their aims. they can gaslight men victims by saying they just need to "man up," or tell them they're the real abuser/only men can abuse. they can utilize the way women are seen as "weak," or "nurturing," or "nonsexual" to fly under the radar, especially with sexual abuse. they can abuse their children and make "a mother's love" excuses. and they can especially use other areas of privilege (like being abled) or marginalization (like being queer) to further this.

the list goes on. i say this to remind you anyone can be an abuser, and marginalized people don't have to be innocent people to have rights. not only does "innocence" moralize marginalized identities and defeat the purpose of human rights, but you don't need to ascribe everyone an air of safety and credibility; remembering that could put you in a better position to recognize red flags - in others interactions, and your own.

#softspoonie #abuse #abuse survivor #survivor #trauma survivor #misogyny #sexism #feminism #intersectional feminism #feminist #queer feminist #queer #queerphobia #ableism #trauma #ptsd #trauma recovery #trauma awareness #abuse awareness

[family-trauma]

This is a really good post differentiating the two instances of mental abuse - emotional vs psychological. I think I've experienced both numerous times to lose count of the instances.

#absurd #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mental abuse #mental health #mentally exhausted #emotional abuse #psychological abuse #verbal abuse #abuse awareness #toxic #toxic family #toxicity #toxic people #family-trauma

[jordanlovesalexg]

don’t ever tell a male SA survivor; “You’re supposed to enjoy it”

don’t ever tell a male SA survivor; “You’re a boy, you can’t get raped.”

don’t ever tell a male SA survivor; “that doesn’t count.”

don’t ever tell an SA survivor; “What were you wearing?”

don’t ever tell an SA survivor; “Did you close your legs?”

don’t ever tell an SA survivor; “They’re family, they wouldn’t do that.”

don’t ever tell a SA survivor; “I don’t believe you.”

don’t ever tell a SA survivor; “I know them, they wouldn’t do that.”

don’t ever tell a SA survivor; “You’re supposed to enjoy it.”

don’t ever tell a SA survivor; “We’re you leading them on?”

don’t ever tell a SA survivor; “We’re you rude?”

don’t ever tell a SA survivor; “You’re an adult, toughen up.”

don’t ever tell a SA survivor; “it doesn’t count.”

don’t ever tell a SA survivor; “it’s your fault.”

don’t ever tell a DA/GA survivor; “but you don’t act like it.”

don’t ever tell a DA/GA survivor; “But they seem so nice.”

don’t ever tell a DA/GA survivor; “They’d never do that.”

don’t ever tell a DA/GA survivor; “She’s a girl, girl’s don’t abuse.”

don’t ever tell a male DA/GA survivor; “Boys can’t be abused.”

don’t ever tell a DA/GA survivor; “But you have no scars.”

don’t ever tell a DA/GA survivor; “You’re just making things up for attention.”

don’t ever tell a DA/GA survivor; “you should’ve just fought/yelled back.”

don’t ever tell a DA/GA survivor; “It’s your fault.”

don’t ever tell an attempt survivor; “that’s selfish of you.”

don’t ever tell an attempt survivor; “I’ve had it worse/i know someone who has it worse.”

don’t ever tell an attempt survivor; “that doesn’t sound like an attempt.”

don’t ever tell a POC; “you’d be way prettier with lighter skin.”

don’t ever tell a POC; “but you don’t look american?”

don’t ever tell a POC; “you should try skin bleaching.”

don’t ever tell a POC; “oh, are you in a gang or something?”

don’t ever tell a POC; “but your skin is so light, you can’t be colored.”

don’t ever tell a POC; “can you give me the N word pass?”

don’t ever tell a POC; “your hair is distracting”

don’t ever tell a POC; “go back to where you came from.” [whoever says this, i live in your walls]

don’t ever tell an albino; “you’re white, not black.”

don’t ever tell an albino; “so are one of your parent white or something?”

don’t ever tell an albino; “you’d be prettier if you were normal.”

don’t ever tell an albino; “oh has anyone tired talking you limbs or something” [i will hunt whoever says this]

don’t ever tell a child; “you should take care of your siblings.”

don’t ever tell a child; “he hits you/is being rude because he likes you”

don’t ever tell a child; “you have to hug them!”

don’t ever tell a child; “it’s your fault we’re divorcing”

don’t ever tell a child; “you’re too old to be doing this.”

don’t ever tell a child of divorced parents; “it’s your fault”

don’t ever tell a child of divorced parents; “pick a side”

don’t ever tell a child of divorced parents; “did you ever consider that you should’ve stepped in?”

don’t ever tell a child of divorced parents; “well if they never got together in the first place, they wouldn’t have had you”

you never know what a person is going through and don’t you dare shame a person for something they can’t control.

if you say any of these things you’re disgusting and you need to not only get educated but stop being a dick.

keep in mind that i am aware that these prompts don’t apply to everyone of a certain minority. But this is me teaching to simply be kind and pay respect and mind to a person’s experiences, minority, etc. there are multiple prompts that can be added but I will refrain to using those out of respect, and also due to censorship.

#sa awareness #sa #domestic violent relationships #sa survivor #sa survivors #domestic abu5e #DA #abuse awareness #poc #colored life’s matter #colored lives matter #black lives matter #person of color #albino #albinism #child abuse #child abuse awareness #mental health awareness #mental health #child of divorce #divorced parents #this is all to spread love and education #i hope someone finds comfort and reassurance in this #if anyone wants to talk about literally anything #don’t hesitate to reach out #my heart to goes out to everyone reading

[saintavangeline]

It’s a special kind of fucked up to be in love with someone and to believe that this new person’s opinions and perceptions of you are more accurate and valuable over the people’s who have known you as a person for years.

To consistently be described by friends, family, and acquaintances as soft, kind, compassionate, caring, etc, to suddenly hearing, for the very first time, that you’re “cruel, selfish, manipulative, a liar, etc,” from someone who hasn’t even known you for a fraction of your lifetime.. something is off. And it’s not you.

If you’ve been consistent in your actions and behavior up until this brand new person that insists or even makes you act otherwise… run. More likely than not, they do not have your best interest at heart. You will lose yourself.

#abuse awareness #tw abuse

[evamaury]

i feel so proud for shubble (shelby), coming out about her experiences w abuse. i couldn’t even imagine the courage and bravery it must’ve taken to speak out against a popular content creator like wilbur. i also wish anybody else who was affected by wilbur’s actions like niki the best too

wilbur soot being a bad person though (an abuser) was honestly smthn i saw coming. that bitch had always done weird shit. i do NOT welcome wilbur soot supporters on my blog, if you still wanna listen to his music, tough shit, there’s a million other artists of the same genre out there. don’t make this abt yourself and how bad YOU feel that wilbur is an abuser. he’s not a child, he’s almost 30.

#wilbur soot #dsmp #dsmp wilbur #shubble #tw abuse #abuse awareness

[transqueer4singlemoms]

Reminder that children aren't property, they are people. Leftists must fight for child rights and autonomy to dismantle the patriarchal cishetronormative authoritarian structure of the "nuclear family" to truly emancipate the people

#anarchism #leftism #anti capitalism #anarchist #child rights #family abolition #child abuse #emotional abuse #abuse awareness

[radicallyclues]

i think this is important to say. it doesn’t really matter what your view on the “”discourse”” yesterday is, this is important no matter what side you’re on. sorry if this is ranty and weird it’s 3 am

if you think your friend is in an abusive relationship, don’t try to play savior. as badly as you want to protect them, you are probably going to end up doing the exact opposite. just be there for them. support them, but don’t try to get involved.

trying to play savior for a victim never ends well. 99% of the time it ends in the abuser just getting worse. not to mention it’s almost always just stressful for the victim as well.

i’m gonna share my own experience with people trying to interfere as a victim of Actual abuse (NOT conabuse, actual abuse) within relationships, so tw for fairly in depth conversation of manipulation within relationships

when i was with my ex girlfriend, i had multiple friends who would try to warn me about how she was manipulating me and being terrible after only a month or two into the relationship. this did absolutely nothing to deter me from her; if anything, it just made me upset and angry that they felt they had some right to my relationship, a relationship that had nothing to do with them.

when she found out about what my friends had been telling me, she certainly didn’t stop and reflect. she did the opposite. she ended up convincing me that i could only trust her. she ended up having me cut off everyone but her. the few times i was allowed to have friends other than her, she’d guilt trip me over it, along with having me give her all of my socials so she could monitor. i only ever had a few friendships that only lasted for a few weeks at most the entire year i was with her.

the relationship got so unhealthy and toxic for me that at some point my school counselor tried to get me admitted into a mental hospital over it after hearing about it. i didn’t get sent to it, but i got distressed and i lashed out at her and my parents for trying to get in the way. it also definitely didn’t help the state of our relationship.

there’s a lot more than just what i shared here, but this is what occurred directly as a result of my friends at the time trying to intervene. please, please read this and listen to me when i tell you that you are not helping your friend. no matter how right you think it is, i promise you it is not.

#🦢 — clues talks! #radqueer #rqc🌈🍓 #pro radq #pro rq 🌈🍓 #tw abuse #abuse awareness

[shroomthebest]

I feel bad for him. Like he said we should support Shelby right now and not pressure him into anything, hope he and Shelby are gonna be alright <3

Shelby is so brave and strong for speaking out about it

#tommyinnit #support shelby #shubblesupportsquad #shubble #shelby shubble #abuse awareness #support the victims

[aspenspades]

#SUPPORTSHELBY

#support shelby #wilbur soot apology #awareness #shubble #shelby shubble #mcyt #abuse awareness

[malehorror]

why w hy why why why do i keep thinking about letting you hurt me again. why do i have these thoughts of being under your control again. i dont want it to happen but yet it feels so natural and i cant do this. you ruined me why . youreso disgusting but im even more disgusting for wanting to be hurt againm. is this all i am. why did you make me this way why why

#nccsa #csa vent #online nccsa #nccsa vent #online grooming #vent #hypersexual #tw repetition #abuse victim #abuse vent #abuse awareness #abuse survivor #trauma survivor

[family-trauma]

Check, check and check. All of these are so true! I have to keep reminding myself to stop reverse projecting my beliefs and qualities onto my family member who constantly abuses the rest of the family including me and absolutely denies doing anything wrong or hurtful. It's never going to change.

#absurd #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mental wellbeing #mental health #mental abuse #mentally exhausted #toxic #toxic family #toxicity #toxic people #abuse awareness #emotional abuse #abuse recovery #dysfunctional family #trauma recovery #reverse projection #family-trauma

[saintavangeline]

#abuse awareness

[the-irreverend]

In light of the recent revelations about Alex Kister, I've decided to go scorched earth on all my TMC posts; shitposts, art, theories, and all.

I have no regrets going forward.

Fuck Alex Kister (and all of his apologists).

#support survivors #fuck alex kister #tmc #the mandela catalogue #alex kister #analog horror #internet horror #digital horror #unfiction #mandela catalog #support abuse victims #abuse awareness

[angeloftheodd]

I said what I said. 🍒🤘

#abuse awareness #fat shaming #food policing #fuck diet culture #diet culture #fat liberation #fat positive #body positive #fat positivity #body positivity #doelette #doelet #feminism #dollette #fat nymphett #nymphett #nymphcore #nymph aesthetic