#actuallyautistic

[ka3l]

#comics #artists on tumblr #autism awareness month #actuallyautistic #self diagnosed autism #epilepsy #seizures #aspergers mention

[defectivegembrain]

Sometimes when I sit quietly with my deer in headlights autism gaze I'm actually listening very intently. Sometimes I'm paying no attention whatsoever. You won't know the difference so beware. Be very aware of me I might be aware of you possibly

#actuallyautistic

[theconcealedweapon]

Neurotypical Person: "Just talk to people. Stop being afraid of rejection. The only way you'll fail is if you don't even try. Have some confidence."

Autistic Person: (asks whatever questions they can think of from a prepared list and the conversation ends up being awkward and forced)

Autistic Person: (infodumps about their special interest and gets labeled as annoying)

Autistic Person: (comments on something they observe and gets labeled as judgmental)

Autistic Person: (approaches random people in random places, not realizing that there are some places where people don't expect to be approached, and gets threatened)

Autistic Person: (talks to someone, misses a subtle cue that they want to be left alone, and gets labeled as disrespectful of boundaries)

Autistic Person: (tries to join someone's conversation and gets labeled as an eavesdropper)

Autistic Person: (teases someone as a joke because they've seen that that's how a lot of people interact with each other, not realizing that they don't have enough of a connection with this person to do that, and gets labeled as mean)

Autistic Person: (tries to talk to someone who's already talking to someone else and gets labeled as rude for interrupting, and waiting until they're alone to avoid interrupting isn't an option because that rarely ever happens)

Autistic Person: (approaches someone or faces in their general direction while trying to think of what to say to them, and gets labeled as a creep for hovering or staring)

Autistic Person: (talks to someone too often and gets labeled as clingy)

Autistic Person: (talks to someone, by some miracle it works and this person actually enjoys the conversation, but now they have to do it again and again and again, and they eventually run out of things to talk about or do something wrong)

Autistic Person: "I don't get it. I talked to people. I did exactly what I was told to do. And I didn't say anything sexual, anything gross, anything about death, or anything else that would be considered 'obvious'. But it didn't work. It can't be because I did something wrong, because I followed the advice exactly and so many people insisted that that's all I have to do. There must be something wrong with me. Maybe I'm just unattractive."

#autism #ableism #actuallyautistic

[some-imagine-traditional]

#ramadan #ecommerce #crush quotes #liberdadeliteraria #actuallyautistic #noel fielding #spidersona #gay butt #scott mccall #social media #marauders headcanon #stuffies #tumblr memes

[sweetandsavageautistic]

Does anyone else ever have that feeling where it's like....you just KNOW that you don't truly fit into a friend group? Like people say they're your friends, but no matter how many times you're told that, there's this sense of otherness that kind of just....clings onto you and keeps you from feeling fully a part of it? Anyone else?

#damn it it's sad gorl hours #autism #autistic #actually autistic #actuallyautistic #sweet and savage autistic

[punkeropercyjackson]

Kindness to kids is not inherently punk but it's an essential part of it because 1.How else do you think they get radicalized and how they're treated by adult punks who they spend time with regularly? and 2.Child abuse can be part of a fascism by grooming kids in it's ideology,including standard ones like antiblackness,and children face the brunt of fascism more than any adult soldier does.Maybe you all should make less posts about fandom not being activism and experience curation and more on how kids can keep themselves safe irl and online and learn about black and queer revolutionaries instead only dead white guys and join actual movements you can

#children's rights #pastel punk tag #socialism #anarchism #acab #child abuse cw #solarpunk #traumapunk #autipunk #genderpunk #antifa #blackness #actuallyautistic #actuallymentallyill #catkin #dragonkin #ghostkin #plantkin #t4t #transmascfem #kink critical #💌 #siblings tag #eldest daughter syndrome #summerposting

[chronicbitchsyndrome]

sometimes, when someone is criticizing the stay-at-home-wife movement being sold to young women by conservatives, it loses focus on the "selling you a repressive and authoritarian worldview" point and slides into... well... implicitly leaving disabled people to die.

and what i mean by that is, it's all well and good to say you should do everything in your power to make sure you're not financially dependent on another person... but what if "everything in your power" is "nothing?"

what if how society is structured means you have absolutely no choice but to be financially dependent on another person? what if it's that, or simply die? this is the choice disabled people are faced with. not even uncommonly... frequently. people who need full-time carers, or who have very expensive medication and assistive tech needs, or people who simply can't work in the current job structure, often have the choice of... well... find someone to be financially dependent on, or face a slow, painful death, usually without housing. even if you're lucky enough to get on a fixed income, it's never enough to even make monthly rent, and that's not counting the extra costs of food, toiletries, medicine...

in fact, a lot of disabled people (certainly notably women, but absolutely not limited to, and in fact i see this happen to trans men over and over again, and i've lost a dear transmasc friend because of this) are funneled into being stay-at-home parents and homemakers, forced to do all of the domestic labor and childcare in exchange for a roof over their head and access to their medications/assistive tech, and isolated in all the same ways tradwives are isolated. in fact, this even happens with leftist partners/parents. all the time, i see disabled people disappear from public life entirely, lose contact with all their friends, and consign themselves to a life of cleaning up after someone while struggling to handle their own health needs, even having their disabilities exacerbated and their lifespans shortened by the amount of domestic labor they're required to do.

but it isn't a choice... it can't be fixed by focusing on academia or work... and it's not due to buying into conservative propaganda. all i ask is, please remember this, and please never leave us out of these discussions.

#dyspunktional #cripplepunk #cripple punk #actually disabled #actuallyautistic

[gothabillybisexual]

• fluttershy stimboard! •

🤍🐰💓💛🪽creds: pinterest, instagram, p1nkstims, talos-stims

#stim #stimboard #mlp #mlp fim #fluttershy #mlp fluttershy #actuallyautistic #bunnies #pink #food #moths #gif #gifs #.gif #nostalgia #nostalgiacore #basic dni criteria

[pigeon-cave]

Diagrams are helpful to me

#autism #actually autistic #pigeon thoughts #asd #actuallyautistic #autistic #autism spectrum disorder #disability #actually autism #adhd

[she-waves-at-cats]

I think it needs to become common knowledge that "inability to read social cues" can show up as overcompensating.

You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed, so you become the perfect child who never tests rules.

You don't know if someone is irritated with you, so you'll be extra generous and self-effacing.

You don't know how much is expected of you at work so you'll kill yourself in a minimum-wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this.

"Hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't know when to stop talking". Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so i can stop tracking everybody's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.

#actuallyautistic

[disabledprincesses]

Non-autistics living with autistics:

They keep eating the same freaking food and it frustrates me so much! We can't have the "big scary light" on just lamps everywhere! Even when I try to find peace by doing stuff with them they just ignore me and do whatever they want. They can't even do the simplest of things like go with me to the grocery store every week! How do people expect them to survive in society??

Autistics living together:

So as long as we get my 10 packets of this really specific food, and some snacks, I'll be okay. Also is it cool if you go to the grocery store? I can clean the bathroom since thats bad sensory for you and the store is bad sensory for me. Can you turn on the lamp instead of the big light? It gives me a headache. Thanks man. Yea I'll unplug the TV for you since you can hear the high pitched noise. Do you want to do two separate things in the same room as bonding again this evening? Thats my favorite part of the day too.

#disability #disabled #autism #actuallyautistic #mental health #actually neurodivergent #neurodiversity #tw yelling #actually audhd

[defectivegembrain]

See, early diagnosed autistics have been talking about the ways we've been mistreated and dismissed for as long as we've had any sort of public presence, and I'm glad more people are getting diagnosed or self diagnosing, but for some of them to come along talking about the exact same issues and say they're unique to people who didn't get an early diagnosis, that a diagnosis would automatically fix it all, is just so ignorant it makes me want to scream

#actuallyautistic #ableism

[theconcealedweapon]

Society's expectation on social situations is that most of them are expected to come natural without any conscious analyzing whatsoever, except for dating and sex which is supposed to be a game in which you're trying to score.

This makes it difficult for autistic people, because no social situation comes natural. Autistic people often have to treat any attempt to interact with others as a game in which they're trying to score, even if it doesn't involve dating or sex.

It's even more difficult for autistic people who are aro/ace, because in addition to having to treat every social situation like a game, they also experience attraction in a way that isn't a desire to date or have sex. And they may not even be aware of that yet, because someone who has been missing out on social situations because of a disability limiting their social skills may not know exactly which social situations they're missing out on. They may wrongly assume they want dating or sex because that's what society expects.

And it's very hard for them to find advice, because most advice for how to socialize is advice for how to get laid. Few people seek advice in other social situations, so the advice often doesn't exist.

#autism #actuallyautistic #asexual

[aw-tysm]

What frustrates me with being an "out of sight, out of mind" person is that people tend to love suggesting notepads, diaries, apps, lists, anything that you can write reminders in. But my kind of "out of sight, out of mind" extends to that as well. Truly. If it is not in my sight, it is not in my mind. And you know what happens when you close a book or an app? It is not longer in sight.

#autism #actually autistic #autistic #actuallyautistic

[raccooninapartyhat]

every now and again i think "surely it can't be that weird for a child to sort things, it has to be something every child does"

and then i remember that my mother finally had an allistic child after two autistic kids in a row and was baffled and annoyed to find out she couldn't just keep him occupied by sticking a box of unsorted buttons in front of him and let him sort them

like my mother thought, exactly like i do sometimes, that surely every child must just sit there and sort whatever is in front of them but no, actually, most of my non autistic peers didn't do this and thought i was a fucking weirdo for doing it

anyway i still struggle to believe that most people don't find deep enjoyment in sitting there and arbitrarily sorting shit. what do they even do if they need to do data entry? do they just suffer? weirdos.

#actuallyautistic

[punkeropercyjackson]

A piece of media:Here's a character who is a total weirdo!!They don't conform to social norms and in fact actively oppose them but it didn't start out way,it's just their personality is so different from what's considered 'normal' that they got sick of being treated badly for it their whole life so they stopped giving shit and are just unashamedly their freak ass self,aren't they the coolest?They're also considered unsual even by other outcasts,have an unconventional relathionship to gender,odd tastes and interests too and take on an almost parental role on instinct to younger characters because they want them to have a better life than they did,such role models for the kids watching/reading/playing this that don't fit in and feel alone!!

The fandom,every fucking time,for some reason:Hmmm..........Yeah,idk,i just don't think they're autistic,i mean it's not like they have any symptoms :/ They just don't the tism vibe,ykwim?

#die. #actuallyautistic #autistic girl summer #was i a troubled kid?yeah you could say that #percy jackson #katara #ichigo kurosaki #hobie brown #stephanie brown #princess zelda #autistic percy jackson #black percy #latino percy #punk!percy #team parent percy jackson #punk katara #blasian stephanie brown #black princess zelda #antilukercy #anti zutara #ichihime #timsteph #stephcass #zelink #perlex #yang xiao long #bumbleby #💌 #summerposting