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Hi everyone,

So the inbox is full and there hasn’t been any activity on this blog for a while! We’re okay, we’ve just been disorganized and kind of busy in our own worlds. We’re going to try to get this started again but we’re changing things a little bit from how we’ve been doing them. Originally mods weren’t really supposed to respond to the questions the way we’ve been doing, we were supposed to post them and tag them correctly so that followers can interact with them safely and then answer. It’s supposed to be less an advice blog and more a way to connect people safely so we can all help one another. We’re going to try to take it back to that, we’re just going to post and tag the asks. If you can please answer questions. Any way you want to would be helpful, the easiest way for us to make sure it would be seen would be through reblogs or asks. You do not have to be anonymous but that option is always available to you. If the mods respond to asks we’re only going to do it via anon or reblog, not the original post. When we get the ask the goal is to get it out of the inbox quickly so it can be see quickly by someone who has a helpful answer.

Thank you all for your support, hope you’re doing okay in these strange times.

—Mod Anna

#anxietysroomreborn #anxiety's room #blog update #blog maitenance #not advice #hi we still exist

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Hey for secret anon. The thing is you don’t really forget them, sorry. They stick with you and it kind of hurts but you learn to move past it, and the experience helps you identify who will and will not hurt you. There are people who won’t betray you and who will stand by you. You make better friends and life gets better. -🍬

^^^

-Mod Kenan

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i only cry for me, and never other people. I know I’m supposed to be kind and caring but I just can’t? I’d that normal? Like am I allowed to cry only for myself or is that selfish..

Anyone have any advice?

-Mod Kenan

#anxietysroomreborn #crying

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I have a more feminine face and hair that goes to my shoulders and while some of my clothes are the closest I can get to masculine I don't know what to do about my face and hair. I want to dress like a guy sometimes and I don't know why, however I know I can't do it without my mom knowing. I can always tie my hair back but is there anything I can do with makeup that's subtle enough so my mom won't notice? I'm sorry if this sounds offensive, I don't mean to. 🥺

hey!

when i want to appear more masculine, i personally contour around my jawline to make it look more defined. also thicken/darken my eyebrows. i would avoid using highlighter, or a string lip gloss/stick (but do what makes you comfortable!). try to define your cheekbones slightly with bronzer, and shade around your nose.

i hope this helps!

-mod alyssa❣️

#anxietysroomreborn #makeup #masculine #mod alyssa❣ #masculine makeup

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So my therapist gave me homework: do some research and figure out what a healthy relationship is and if the one I'm in currently fits whatever I find. I just need help I guess. I can Google my ass off, but nothing compares to actual people. What is a healthy relationship to you? -🦊

So as someone who’s been in unhealthy relationships and healthy relationships like my current one. Here’s some things that define a healthy relationship for me:

-open communication is huge: you should be able and willing to talk to your partner about pretty much anything especially conflicts

-being allowed to mess up: nobody is perfect and you shouldn’t be afraid to mess things up and if you do mess something up you shouldn’t be scared of your partner finding out

-similar and separate interests: it’s good to have things in common with your partner but it’s also good to have things that are just for you and this ties in to my next point

-being able and allowed to spend time away from your partner: yes when you love someone you wanna spend a ton of time together but you should also be able to spend time with friends, family, partaking in hobbies, separate from your partner. And not in a absence makes the heart grow fonder but that a partner that requires you give all your time and energy to them is controlling and unhealthy.

-trust: this might seem obvious but trust is also super huge. This includes trusting your partner and vice versa when you spend time with other people, or if they don’t know where you are for some reason or another. (Also if your partner wants to know your every move and where you are at all times that’s not really healthy)

-and uh the only other one I can think of right now is mutual support and the ability to not be available: you should be able to turn to your partner for support emotional and whatnot but you and your partner should also be able to say hey I am dealing with xyz thing and I can’t right now.

So just a note these are just what makes a healthy relationship for me. Also every time I say you or your partner I just mean in general I’m not specifically commenting on your relationship anon.

I hope this helps. And anyone else feel free to jump in :)

-mod Mira

#anxietysroomreborn #relationships #healthy relationships #mention of unhealthy relationships #therapy mention #mod mira

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Hi so I think I might have a sensory disorder. I was born prematurely and I find many noises to hurt or be very irritating, ive peeled paint off the walls my whole life because it was satisfying, and certain textures feel like hell. I have a therapist, but I don’t know if I should ask her about it. Help????

Definitely ask your therapist, as they’re more experienced than us! Good luck!!

Does anyone else have any information or ideas?

-mod kenan

#anxietysroomreborn #sensory #sensory disorder

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Hey for anon with anxiety, or anyone else I have bad anxiety and when it stops me from sleeping I have some things i do. I have an app called headspace, i just use the free version basic meditations they help sometimes. There's also sleep stories and sleep talk down videos on youtube and some of those help (some dont it depends) and theres also an app called calm that sometimes helps. Also try to avoid things that make you anxious. I used to read the news at night. Can't do that anymore.

^^^

-Mod Kenan

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NSFW warning. I’m ace and I guess I might have internalized aphobia or something because I wish I wasn’t ace. I read smutty fanfics in the hopes that I’ll like. It eventually and be fixed. I know there’s nothing wrong with me but I just wish I was normal I guess.

Hey there! Yeah sounds like that’s basically internalized aphobia. I’m sorry. That sucks, I’ve been there myself. Amatanormativity is one heck of a thing, but you’re okay as you are. I know on some level you know that but also it’s difficult. There’s nothing abnormal about you, but even if you read those fics for like every night for four years, you’re not going to be able to make yourself be something you’re not. I think it helps a lot getting to know other Ace people because then it’s something you have in common with a bunch of people that you bonded with instead of just this thing that makes you feel distant from other people. This isn’t everybody’s “normal” but it is what’s normal for a lot of people. It’s okay to be upset by this. Lots of us are. But one day you’re going to get to a point where you’re comfortable with it. (Thank you for prefacing with nsfw tw as tumblr will flag those if we tag them as such.)

Does anyone else have advice?

—Mod Anna

#anxietysroomreborn #aphobia #internalized aphobia #no #lemons mentioned #trying to tag this without tumblr deleting us or something #hate this website

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They said they were taking a break from tumblr. They are a really popular blog and people keep accusing them of being lesbophobic because they made a joke which i thought was actually funny and im a lesbian but that was a long time ago and they apologized and they always post positivety stuff and im upset that people are telliing a 19 year old to commit suicide

We’re talking about fish right? I follow them too. I also thought the joke was funny. They’re active on their twitter now, and ive been reporting anything like that. It’s really sad how people treat them :( i hope they feel better soon.

-Mod Kenan

#anxietysroomreborn #suicide mention #i-am-a-fish

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Howdy!!! I am the person that came here a couple of months ago talking about needing help balancing theatre and school and stuff. I just wanted to come on and say that for the show happening this year, I am assistant head of house! That means that I have more responsibilities and stuff but I could be head of house next show and run ushering! I have only done one show with my highschool but they seem to have faith in me!!! I have been really excited abt this and no one else really gets it lol :-)

That’s awesome! Congrats!

-mod Mira

#anxietysroomreborn #excitment #theatre #mod mira

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Block sierfi they are one of the peple telling fish to die. I sent them an ask saying that they shouldn't tell people that and they were like " lol youim gonna suicide bait you to" then someone else started sending them messages and they were like you sound white! All white people should kill themselves. Im not even whote and i only sent the first message but they are terrible. I just sent them another ask saying thay i hope they learn to be kinder soon and i hope they have a nice day.

^^^^

-Mod Kenan

#anxietysroomreborn #involuntary manslaughter #suicide baiting #suicide #harrassment #i-am-a-fish

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Uh I need advice on how to subtly protect my siblings from my parents when they argue a lot around them. They've been emotionally abusive in the recent past and my brother who has anxiety isnt able to fall asleep most nights because of it. My mom gets very very upset when she thinks I feel the need to protect him from her and it makes everything much worse.

You should not have to do that and I’m sorry it’s like that. I would say if possible try to identify subjects that tend to set your parents off and if you see conversations going that way try to change the subject subtly. This might mean being more talkative in family situations like car rides or meals if you do those together. If you can, minimize the time your brother spends, or at least the time he spends alone, with your parents. If you notice they’ve been giving him a hard time see if you can think of some one on one activities you could do with your brother that your parents would not want to participate in, or encourage him to hang out with friends more or do other things outside of the house and encourage your parents to let him. If your family is an unsafe environment for him try to get him to spend more time in emotionally safe environments. If you can, let him know that you’re on his side and try to come up with ways you can work together to make both of you emotionally and mentally safe. It’s good you want to protect your brother. I have a younger sibling too and I know how this must hurt. Please remember you are not a human sheild to protect him though and you’re important too. Things your parents say or do to him are your parents fault and not yours and if you can’t stop it it’s not a failing on your part. Probably really the most important thing is to be sure your brother knows that you love him unconditionally and won’t do or say things to hurt him, and that he has someone in his corner. Things work better if you’re a team and you have each other’s backs. This is just my advice, you know your family and situation best. If any of this is unsafe or just wouldn’t work with your family you know better than me, please be careful and kind to yourself.

Does anyone else have commentary or advice?

—Mod Anna

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Hey, any advice on how to deal with silent treatment? I have a friend that seems to love to pull it every so often on me, and most times won't even say what I actually did wrong or pretends that she was just "busy" very poorly- like bad to the point that it's clear she's meaning something else by it. I'm getting very tired of having to run after her when she only seems to talk to me when she's interested, or when I'm helping her with something, but I don't want to tank our friendship.

Hey anon,

Your friend sounds pretty toxic if you don't mind me saying. You wouldn't be tanking your friendship, she's already tanking it herself by being a bad friend. If you dont always know what you've done wrong then you shouldn't have to deal with the silent treatment. If she has a problem with something you did then she should voice her concerns even if it makes her uncomfortable. If you dont want to "tank" your relationship then when she starts giving you the silent treatment you can ask her what you've done and how you can fix what's bothering her. If she still wont listen to you then, you may need to distance yourself for a while. You don't have to end your friendship but her actions are clearly affecting you and distancing yourself seems to be the best option unless she decides to actually talk to you about what you've done wrong if you've done something wrong.

-Anden

#silent treatment #toxic relationshop #anxietysroomreborn #mod anden

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I'm currently looking for a relationship but I keep getting stuck on that one guy that I don't even know. Is that sick? Am I insane? I literally don't know how I just know what he looks like that's it. I try to get in touch with other people and still are trying but my head keeps going back as if I'm obsessed. Ugh .., it's annoying myself and maybe even some of my friends. Idk ... I feel so bad about that.💔💔💔

Sometimes crushes get intense. That’s okay, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It does sound like it’s causing you distress and preventing you from making other connections though. If it would be possible for you to find this person, and talk with them, then maybe you’ll be able to ask them out or you might find out that your personalities don’t match well and be able to stop thinking about them. If not just give yourself time it’s intense now but y’know feelings fade. If you’re worried about annoying your friends it might be a good idea to ask them if you’re talking about this person too much. If you are maybe find another way to talk about your feelings like making tumblr posts or just writing out your thoughts.

Does anyone else have commentary or advice?

—Mod Anna

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I fall into this depressive rut whenever I'm out of classes for too long, and I've found that even the holiday break is too long (at my college holiday break is about four weeks) That's not enough time for me to get and have a job, but I can't get a job during classes, I don't have the time or energy as a full time student. Do you have any thoughts as to what else I can to to keep the consistency in my life during break so I don't fall into that rut?

So it sounds like you’re looking for something to keep you busy and give you some kind of routine. Would it be possible to do volunteer work in your community somewhere? If you have a local food bank, animal shelter, or something like that they could probably use volunteers. You wouldn’t get paid but if you could sign up for enough days it would keep you busy and you could use the hours for your resume/scholarship applications and it would be productive and add something positive to the world. If not that you could do other things. Maybe schedule some events with friends if you have friends who are nearby like a board games or movie night. You could use the time to learn a new language or skill if you can and schedule out your time so it’s kind of like having a class.

Does anyone else have ideas to add on or send in as asks?

—Mod Anna

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I sometimes categorize feelings in my head as characters. The most prominent I Noname. She started out really weak and was only responsible for making me cry but she recently evolved and she looks like an all black smaller human inside of a human with a ball and chain. I blame her for unsettling images that pop into my head or if i hurt someone, i blame her. She didnt used to be so powerful but now she is and im not sure if whag im doing is normal.

While it may not be a common coping mechanism that doesn’t make it in invalid one. The important thing is to make sure that even if you’re processing your feelings in a certain way with noname that you are still taking responsibility for your actions. But other wise it doesn’t seem that bad of a thing to do. I know people who visualize their anxiety etc as people to cope.

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