#chatting with friends

[the12thnightproject]

A Holiday Video for you...

(volume up)

Text of message (in case it goes by too fast) below the cut.

Dear Tumblr-verse,

Happy Holidays to the tumblr community. When I stumbled onto here a few years ago, looking for a place to talk about fanfic and fan spaces, I never expected to find such a lovely group of people. I look forward to interacting with you all every day, whether you only appear once in a while as a short comment in my feed, whether I anxiously await your next art post or fanfic, or whether you drown my feed in your latest fandom enthusiasm. I am happy to call you my friends.

You all are the best, and no matter what holiday you celebrate, I hope it is full of joy and peace.  And… also… if you wish… these crazies… (all cgs are from Cybird Ikemen sengoku).

in no particular order...

@msviolacea @workbyrui @ashavazesa @spoopy-fish-writes @lazyscience @mllorei @cottonfluffballofdoom @the-cowardly-cheese @tsubaki3192 @iphigeniainaulis @cheese-ception @nuttytani @daegupaksu @evil-quartett @kippin-art @venulus @bestbryn @akitsuneswife @darkscarletroses @arrthurpendragon @annebrontesrequiem @katriniac @lyds323 @fighting-and-drawing @aquagirl1978 @writingwhimsey @violettduchess @honeyandbiscuitandtea-cafe @pathogenic @scorchieart @drewadoodle-dandy @fragile-sandwich @ikemen-writer @selenacosmic @queengiuliettafirstlady @dolcezzzza @kissmetwicekissmedeadly @skiagrafia @randonauticrap @scummy-writes @lyrical-cynical @tele86 @ikeromantic @leonscape @judejazza @yarnnerdally @candied-boys @wordycheesecake @olivermorningstar @itsmyara

And if I missed tagging you, a thousand apologies, but tumblr apparently has a person limit on these and would not allow me to tag my entire mutuals list.

#holiday greetings #chatting with friends #ikemen sengoku

[momtaku]

Hi mom, it's been a while!!! I hope you've had a very merry Christmas~ <3

~ Hangs head in shame ~ Thank you dear anon. I hope you did as well <333 My holiday was relaxing and lovely for the most part. Because I am a perfectly normal reasonable grown up adult person I spent nearly the entire time building one of those miniature kits so my shingeki kitties would have a cute place to stay.

There's nothing like getting to the end of 46 pages of instruction and still having dozens of mystery parts remaining, but I think it came out super cute and my home office feels happier for it. Thanks for the message, and sorry for the delay in answering <3 I hope the cute kitty pics make up for it.

#chatting with friends #nice things #why am I like this #thank you anon #I did have a nice holiday #I had to unexpecedly work a bit #but I also hung out with family of course

[giggly-squiggily]

I have known Kieran for exactly half a microsecond but if anything happened to him I would destroy the universe and give him a warm blanket and tickle him to let him have fun

Kieran S tier rival change my mind

YES!! Kieran is literally the best holy- *sobs* I wasn't expecting the character arc we got but honestly? I'm so here for it akjrjkearjejkrj He deserves all the love and cuddles and hugs and tickles and EVERYTHING!

Also- funny observation (spoilers below the cut)

Why does he look like he should be to Tokyo Revengers? Is it just me? The eyes are giving Toman y'all (I'm not complaining I just thought it was funny)

#squiggily speaks #ask #a-yeast-boi #friend :3 #pokemon kieran #chatting with friends #pokemon talks #video game talks

[itsanotheridiot]

I GOT TO THE 1000 BADGE AND LMAOO I USED YOU TO FINISH IT UP

How many boops do you need I still haven’t got the orange one and I have 310 boops 😭

Edit: wait I just reread the message I am a dumbass I have a headache ignore me

#chatting with friends #I am not getting the black badge 😔

[atherix]

#no context #tales from the discord #chatting with friends

[aquagirl1978]

I LOVE YOU

Awwww!!!!

#aqua asks #chatting with friends

[lorei-writes]

@venulus Girlie, I love you so much, and now I'm lying on the floor and just rolling around while laughing, haha.

#also please drop by with friendly threats of violence flower crown clavis is rotting away my head but i am yet to get started on #drawing him ghhhhhhhhhhh #chatting with friends

[solitarelee]

East Asian fanartists are starting to migrate back to Tumblr because Twitter is insane, toxic, and dying, and what we're NOT going to do is let the fucking exclusionists get them, do you hear me? We are not going to let a bunch of feral idiots try to apply the most myopic version of puritanism to foreign artists we're not we're not we're not. Form an armed brigade if you have to, do you hear me. We're not going to bully the artists who may or may not even speak English because we have our precious standards of moral purity. If we see art that makes us uncomfy we're going to block the artist and tumblr savior their name so we don't have to see them again AND WE'RE GONNA MOVE THE FUCK ON.

#solitaretalk #i mean it #I will block on sight if I see any tomfoolery #and then I will screenshot your bullshit and send it into a group chat so all my more significant tumblr friends will block you too #fuck this up bad enough and you will never be able to reblog from kitty unpretty again IS THAT WHAT YOU FUCKING WANT

[severalowls]

Its absolutely no coincidence that the people being sent baseless sexual assault accusations against predstrogen have, from what I've seen, been young transmascs.

The terfs behind the harassment campaign are so brazenly trying to prey on anybody they reckon might have any transmisogynist tendencies and are trying to use that to sow discord in the trans community. They see transmasculine people as potential avenues for recruitment (and eventual detransition) and it's extremely fucking important that the people being sent these anons do not fall headfirst for the bait. They want you to go 'uh oh, guess trans women are sex pests after all' and that to stick with you and fester, and turn that seed of prejudice into the continued harm of transfem people.

If you want to be a meaningful ally to transfem people right now you have to be vigilant for this shit, and correct it where you see it. If you think being used as an angle of recruitment by bigoted harassment is gross, imagine how it would feel to be the damn focus of the harassment.

#like my own experience in transmasc-heavy spaces has been positive! #but for every ten cool friends theres one guy who gets all weird the moment i speak in voice chat #that one guy is who is being 'stay safe :)' annoned right now.

[the12thnightproject]

6, 12, 19, 22 for Shingen? :o

Hi Lorei! Thank you for the ask!

Ahhhh.... Shingen....

6. What's something you have in common with this character?

I think we're both really good at organizing information from a variety of sources to put together a bigger picture. Shingen's a spymaster/strategist, and you often see him surrounded by piles of papers. I come from a research background (literary & history) and I love pulling together articles and resources.

12. What's a headcanon you have for this character?

Ha.... so many... Ok... a modern AU Shingen would be a civil engineer. He enjoys building and design (and a blink and you'll miss it note in his dramatic route discusses that he had built embankments to protect the people from yearly flooding ... which is true historically as well). In the modern world, he wouldn't have the kind of clan responsibilities that he does in the Sengoku, which means he would be free to pursue an interest that combines his intelligence, big picture thinking, interest in construction, and interest in projects that help people ... therefore civil engineering.

19. How about a relationship they have in canon that you don't like?

Hm. Well, Kennyo betrays his friendship in several routes, and Shingen continues to have faith that he's worth saving (which true in Kennyo's own route, but not in all of them). But that's actually a pretty fascinating dynamic between the two of them. I can't say that I dislike it. I do think that on occasion MC/Mai's relationship with him comes across rather shallowly. She's sometimes too focused on the fact that she's landed a hot boyfriend (but... you could say that about her in several routes).

22. If you're a fic reader, what's something you like in fics when it comes to this character? Something you don't like?

I love it when a fic plays up his intelligence - both his smarts and his emotional intelligence but doesn't slide past the fact that he can be too stubborn and occasionally manipulative. And as a fic reader, one thing I am not going to do is criticize other people's fic... especially when I can criticize the source material instead. Cybird can get a bit lazy with his collection and story events, and default to MC trying to think of something nice to do for him, and Shingen being appreciative of her efforts. I'd like to the game give us a little more in the way of actual plot.

#asked and answered #fanfic #writing #chatting with friends #ikemen sengoku #ikesen shingen

[momtaku]

I saw the ask about No Regrets and it reminded me of this question I’ve tried to find an answer to for years but could never find. Sorry if the wording is weird, it’s hard to type out because asking and explaining my question is difficult

Did the author of No Regrets get permission to use characters from Isayama? Or was it just a fan made thing that wasn’t canon and just something created for fun?

What’s always been weird to me is it actually got ADAPTED. Like it wasn’t created by Isayama or even canon in the series yet, but Wit animated it. It was published in September 2013, animated in December 2014 and April 2015, and THEN chapter 69 came out in May.

Did Isayama even have a backstory for Levi? Did he see No Regrets and decide to give Levi a backstory and make it canon? I have no idea how far ahead Isayama even planned aot back then because I 1) had no idea of aot’s existence, and 2) wasn’t there when the manga was released back in 2013-2015.

For the new chapter we’re getting for Levi, do we know how many pages it’ll be? Will it have the same amount of pages as a normal chapter, or be shorter or longer?

Isayama authorized the No Regrets manga and visual story. You might find this post interesting as it contains an interview with Isayama and Hikaru Suruga (the No Regrets artist) as well as words by the author, Gun Snark (Gan Sunaaku). No Regrets was one of 6 visual novels/mangas that were release by various authors in the 2013-2015 times frame . All with Isayama's permission. There was a huge explosion of authorized material during those years, including the Smart Pass content, A Spoof on Titan, Attack on Titan Junior High, Before the Fall and so on. The list is really endless.

My opinion on the why of it all is that Isayama has talked about how he was convinced in those early years that each chapter would be his last. He was in constant fear of cancellation. He's also mentioned his long work days, the stress, and how little sleep he was getting. Writing and illustration 46 pages a month was a more-than-full-time job for Isayama and he was stretched entirely too thin. When the series exploded in popularity, there was a desire for more and tons of money to be made, but Isayama didn't have the time to produce anything beyond what he was doing. Thus the collaborations started. With No Regrets, Isayama provided guidelines as to what he envisioned for Levi's backstory. I can't find proof of that, but I do recall reading that he provided the general idea. It was a very limited scope, which is why he's able to produce Bad Boy now. He had a vision for Levi, but no time to develop it so he allowed No Regrets to cover a small period of time. I believe Bad Boy is only going to be 18 pages, but I'l very excited for it. I can't wait to see what Isayama can do when he isn't dealing with strict deadlines. Thanks for the ask! I hope this covered some of what you were interested in.

#chatting with friends #bad boy #levi ackerman #no regrets

[nikkywrites]

What are you talking about? I plan on loving you forever too, you know. Aren't you in the great friend collective? Every single plan in that garden gets loved. So there.

🥺🥺 I like the idea of being a little plant.

#chatting with friends #sorta? #this is very sweet of you sleepy thank you #<3

[giggly-squiggily]

I just made a friend on the train bc I mentioned Heartstopper

I don't neee to rekindle any more obsessions

Let’s go new Heartstopper friend!!! 😍😍😍🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 I’m glad you met someone so neat!

Jasnnwnsnsns rekindle it! Rekindle it friend! I’m getting back into my own obsessions lately and it’s brought me great joy! So long as you’re happy, do it! 😈

Think about the Heartstopper boys! Think about their sweet faces and adorable antics and their overall preciousness! Try not to think about the fact Vol. 6 is the last one….🥲 (no but really- I’m so excited for the end! Sad as it is to see their story come to a close, I’m happy for their hopefully happy ending in the end! 🥰🥰🥰)

#squiggily speaks #ask #trans ace Lee #friend :3 #chatting with friends #I’m rekindling my Demon Slayer obsession anznansnwnns #I rewatched the entire thing recently #so I’m thriving 🤣🤣🤣🥰🥰🥰

[itsanotheridiot]

i freaked out about waterparks being on there but i think i knew you listened to them lol

I think so we have similar music taste so I wouldn’t be surprised if we mentioned waterparks before

Ima also about to take a listen to the songs you listed I don’t recognize most of them and I am curious

#chatting with friends

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[chibigaia-art]

normal about things

#disco elysium #harru du bois #kim kitsuragi #harrykim #might as well #cgdoodles #the only reason i havent been kimposting like hell on this webbed site is that ive been kimposting in friends' chats #(im sorry friends)