#common courtesy

[chaoticquill]

Why Are We STILL Doing This?

I'm just going to straight up say the worst thing you can do as a reader is praise a writer in one breath, then backhandedly bash their ships in the next.

Let me explain.

I'm not talking about the "I don't normally ship x, but I gave this a chance since you wrote it" comments. Because that's fine. It's totally within your right to ship and not ship whatever.

I'm talking about, "Wow, this person's x ship work is so good! But ew, they ship y. Gross."

Y'all, I write fanfic because I want to. No one's paying me to do this. I love the community I've found in doing it, but then, I see people behaving badly, and I get a lot of feelings (hint: none of them are good ones. Mostly angry, a little sad).

I've been targeted and harassed for my ships on AO3. And because I am who I am, I have embraced the petty urge to write that ship I've been told not to EVEN HARDER.

Not everyone is like that. Talking shit about a person because of the ships they like can be really bad for that person's mental health. I know people who have stopped writing popular ships because of the hate they get for their less popular ones despite clear tagging, and it's even more infuriating when I see the same people talking shit get all sad because the writer quit writing the ship they (the reader) likes.

Sometimes, I ask myself, "Why can't we all just try to make this weird wonky fandom space we share in such a way that people's mental health doesn't crumble and they get all the joy out of their fan works they seek?" Then I remember people are people.

Hard ask, but if you don't like a ship, maybe instead of speaking in ways that damage other people, you can just say, "I don't personally like that ship" and not read the thing. Hell, there are ships I don't like, and I can just avoid them because tags. (Yes, I know it's not that easy, but hell, I'm trying anyway).

TL;DR: I saw people being assholes, I have feelings, and I want those people to stop being assholes.

#fanfic #fanfiction #fanfic writing #bungou stray dogs #writing #bsd #fandom #rant post #archive of our own #fandom etiquette #fanfic culture #fanfic life #common courtesy #stop being an asshole

[mtg-cards-hourly]

Common Courtesy

"You didn't say the Magic word."

Artist: Mike Raabe TCG Player Link Scryfall Link EDHREC Link

#mtg #magic the gathering #tcg #$0.11 #mike raabe #common courtesy #unsanctioned #enchantment

[jasper-pagan-witch]

All witchcraft is magic, but not all magic is witchcraft. Don't go telling non-witches that their practices (whether religious or otherwise) are "technically witchcraft", ESPECIALLY if you mean it as a "gotcha". The only person who looks bad in that situation is you.

#jasper post #reminder #beginner #common courtesy #basic human decency #terms #language

[sambeawesome]

A few reasons why artists tend to prefer you asking before you give unsolicited critiques

-We typically already have a trusted circle of people to go to who are familiar with our work, goals, interests, and issues. Those people can often help us more specifically.

-This includes the artist having any mentors whose guidance they may be following.

-The art may be of a personal nature/commission, so it could feel like a boundary is crossed.

-W/ ⬆️: the artist might not want their client to see people pointing out mistakes. (least in public)

-The artist might also not want to improve (which is valid), and thus critique is pointless to them.

-Unsolicited critiques often come from people who are not skilled in delivering critiques, and thus word them in unhelpful or rude ways. "This looks off" = not helpful.

I know this is the internet & people are gonna people, but for those of you who I can reach with my words: it doesn't hurt to ask first. That way you can also know for certain if your help is desired & more likely heard.

That said, please don't be rude w the artist if they say no/don't follow your advice. Every artist's journey is their own, & in the end, it's their decision on what path they want to take.

Just as an artist is not entitled to crits, you are not entitled to tell us what to do.

tl;dr be nice to each other lol

#art advice #critiques #art critique #criticism #common courtesy #artists on tumblr #not art

[lonestar-badash]

The More You Know…

It’s funny that when you add the bleeps, you realize how many bad words you said in a short 58 seconds. It’s also funny that that’s not near my best record.

#l-ba #the more you know #common courtesy #common sense #diesel etiquette #drive thru etiquette

[wintersfavechild]

Crawling back onto this hellscape just to say

STOP PUTTING DREAMS DIALOGUE IN BOLD!!!

It is so fucking jarring and so many people hate it! There is an option to turn off creator’s style or whatever when you write on ao3

PLEASE FUCKING USE IT! WE WATCHED THE SHOW WE KNOW WHAT HE SOUNDS LIKE!!!!

This wasn’t fun to read, was it?

DIDN’T FUCKING THINK SO

#the sandman #morpheus #hob gadling #dream of the endless #fanfic #common courtesy #ao3

[skeleton-bat]

If you take pictures of people withought their consent it's weird, cringy, and just downright gross.

Yes this even extends to those who take zoomed in pictures of people they find attractive in public, that's gross.

It doesn't matter your sex or gender, the point is if you purposefully take a picture of someone whose the focus of the picture withought their consent that's wrong.

#courtesy #common courtesy #manners #dont be a creep i stg #this is spured by an acquaintance i know whose a gay man taking photos of men he found attractive in public spaces #creep behavior learn what consent and privacy is ok? ok

[howifeltabouthim]

That's always it, isn't it. Will he call me again? Just tell me I'll hear from him again, even if it's only so he can say, This is over.

Lisa Taddeo, from Animal

#breakup #ghosted #common courtesy #ending it #calling it off #relationships #relationship dynamics #honesty #upfront #stop playing games #relatable #quotes #lit #words #excerpts #quote #literature #lisa taddeo #animal

[thecurefordepression]

#Brights #High Beams #Full Beams #Delta Work #Very Delta #Moguls of Media #Common Courtesy #Driving #Drag Queens

[breakingjustxn]

thanks to jeremy mckinnon for helping me learn to hate this town

#pop punk #a day to remember #jeremy mckinnon #homesick #what separates me from you #common courtesy

[the-yearning-astronaut]

how is pointing a typo (correction would improve ur work) considered "giving u bs".

Had I asked for spelling/grammar pointers to "improve my work" in the author's note or had I sent it to someone for a beta read, that is one thing. But I didn't ask, which makes it unsolicited criticism/advice and therefore rude. And it's not just me that thinks this, this is how MANY fic authors feel about these kinds of comments.

Maybe the commenter meant well. They probably did! But here's the thing. I didn't spend all my time and energy working on something for the joy and fun if it and then posting because I wanted to share it.... Only for someone to say "Cool. But you could have done better."

For some authors they can let this kind of comment roll off their back, others are even appreciative. For others - who may have been scared to post but did it anyway, who feel insecure in their writing, who don't take unsolicited criticism well - these sorts of comments can and do kill the joy of writing and sharing over time.

When I first read the comment I rolled my eyes and moved on. But it stuck in my brain like a thorn. And had I been in a different headspace at the time I would have gotten upset. Instead it made me frustrated and angry and annoyed. Hence the comment being "BS." And yeah. Maybe those emotional reactions were overblown. But I was scared to post and I had spent hours editing, and I've had real life shit going on that was already making me feel over sensitive and emotional. I didn't need another fork in the side like that.

And if this response seems overly emotional for a simple ask about a tag I left on a post when already feeling overly emotional....well. I'm still overwhelmed and over emotional ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

#fandom etiquette #ao3 etiquette #common courtesy #unsolicited advice #unsolicited criticism #fandom things #fox answers #fox thoughts #*scrubs hands over face* #any and all frustration in this response is not directed at you personally anon #i know you probably meant well by the ask and were genuinely curious #this is just a frustrating thing and ive had unsolicited 'helpful criticism' before that was NOT at ALL helpful #and a lil comment like this one unfortunately reminded me of those other times #my writing doesn't need to be perfect and i don't need to improve it to someone else's standards #i don't get paid to write fic

[magicjudge]

What do you do if players do not give priority correctly?

Ex: Alice has an action to take, but Bob proceeds with the game without letting Alice react.

Players have the right to use the priority that the rules of Magic grant them. If someone is playing quickly or otherwise taking shortcuts in order to try to keep other players from responding, then they should be made to slow down and play at a better pace.

If a player wanted to take an action at a time that was "skipped over", then the gamestate should be rewound to that point and play can continue from there.

#mtg #priority #common courtesy

[beauleifu]

Hi, just going to come clean with you. I read your story and it really triggered me for some reason? You keep hinting at a reader 'backstory' and that trend is getting so old. Giving the reader a backstory literally takes away the whole essence of it being an X READER. I was not/never will be a nurse and I don't see why people like to put readers in someone else's shoes like god damn, just make it a Syntax x OC fanfic, its not that hard, we won't be upset or mad at you for making something self indulgent.

Literally. You wrote in the tags??? That it was self indulgent?? That self indulgent shit go woo?? Honey. Just come clean with US. It's really pissing me off.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

uwu

no <3

#sorry buddy. last time i made an OC was in 2010 so #there's no way i can know the actual reader's backstories and find a way to incorporate that into the story #but i dont want Y/N to be a blank slate #common courtesy #i had to give readers something to work with #i'd explain myself further but i think the readers understand completely. #also if you dont like. dont read. simple as that <3 #also first hate comment in awhile DAMN I LOVE YOU ANON #ask #beau answers #you must be a novice reader because there are millions of fics just like mine that you have yet to complain about #but like. please dont because they dont deserve your harassment #we are making shit on our own for FREE with our own damn imagination #writing fanfiction is literally one of they VERY FEW things i'm actually proud of myself about #so watch me skip off into the sunset with my fic and leave you behind #or i'll drag you with me and you'll see how it ends LIKE A SOLDIER SO BUCKLE UP BUTTERCUP I KNOW YOU'RE NOT LEAVING JUST OUT OF SPITE

[meekoracc]

#twitter #twitpocalypse #covid mention #elon twitter #common courtesy #pandemic

[ryan-waddell11]

with the Joseph thing I figured I’d share my photo with Chris Evans in 2018. I ASKED FOR PERMISSION TO PUT MY HAND THERE AND I WAS NERVOUS AS HELL.

Even if he said no I would’ve been okay!! I had a fantastic experience with him that I remember way more than this picture even being taken!! I have no memory of this picture being taken I have the memory of talking to him before and after the picture and that’s truly what matters!! the time spent is something that can’t be taken away.

TREAT YOUR PEOPLE HOW YOU WANT TO BE TREATED. IT’S NOT HARD.



#respect the people #common courtesy #conventions #treat people the way you want to be treated

[kreetassan]

This may come across as a little odd to you, as most of the Tumblr userbase is from Earth. But I cannot hold it in any longer.

Eating...putting food in your mouth...in front of people who have not consented...is vulgar and extremely improper. You don't mate in front of others, at least not generally speaking, and when you do it's for money or...kink purposes. But even then, you make sure the people watching actually want to. Why, then, can you Earthlings not ask for consent from others before eating in their presence? The noises...the smells...the facial expressions...the gesticulations...

How are you not embarrassed? How are you not ashamed?

I realized that everyone must eat in order to survive, but everyone must release waste in order to survive to. You don't do that in front of people either! You have rooms with lockable doors to afford yourselves privacy! Why, then, do you not do the same when eating?!

No one is demanding you change your behaviors, but please be courteous enough to seek consent before performing such personal rituals in front of others. No one deserves undue trauma.

#kreetassans #food #vox sola #star trek: enterprise #common courtesy