just saw that neil gaiman reblogged one of your recent posts and it's over 100k notes. here's my condolences and my creature
Thank you! You have an incredibly beautiful cat.
I've been having kind of a rough month, making and marketing creative stuff and being very unsure if anyone will like it or want to give me money for it, so having Gneil turn my notes graph into the Loch Ness Monster was a nice reminder that I can do good stuff sometimes.
Honestly the notes have been pretty chill. Buncha people sharing their thoughts and talking over ideas with each other, way less zapping of bigots. (Despite sometimes meeting with receptivity like I described in the post, I've had to deal with as many or more people who didn't give a shit and wanted to be bigoted anyway.
In a way that makes me nervous--terves are like toddlers; sometimes their silence feels ominous--but hopefully they're not all busy having champagne brunch with the fascists and plotting their next moves.
I haven't done any rigorous analysis, but I see a lot of people talking about having believed the radfems a few years ago, and coming to new conclusions now. It feels a little possible that yelling about the problem and trying to educate allies and all that jazz might have worked. Not everywhere, not perfectly, not everyone, but... enough that the norms in this pocket of humanity have changed a bit, I dare hope.
"And no one dare come at me because of what I said about humans SPIDER-GUY IS COOL C'MON". Terv I feel we are missing a piece of context here. What the HELL happened /lh
OH LMAO HAHAHSHJDGFS someone once asked my opinion on some specific turtle/human ship and tl;dr my opinion was that humans are boring 😂
Noticing a lot of terves on here like to spout cheery, progressive slogans like "my body my choice!" and "don't die wondering!" and then spend upwards of four hours a day online mocking and threatening and arguing with anyone who dares to actually express control over their own body or identity in a way they don't approve of
stfu actually 😭 "disgusting i hope u kill urselves" u think ur SOOOO moral. wait til u find out the reason the evil terves were spreading their filthy terven hands all over the post is bc they're lesbians. u are literally just hating homosexual women for being homosexual and posting about being homosexual. u are mad they dont wanna do dick. u are mad they know sex is real. and ur so delusional u think it means you're better than them for denying it.
Help is this satire it’s so funny- EVIL TERVES 💀 I’m serious is this satirical??? This can’t be real
Girl I’m the one you’re hating on for being a lesbian. It was MY post.
I was just existing as a lesbian until y’all told me I’m “doing it wrong” just bc I dared to have different opinions than you. Drink some lemonade and calm down idk lmao
"literally everyone is affected by misogyny and transmisogyny doubly so" I'm begging you to learn what transmisogyny means, god forbid trans women talk about our own oppression without non-trans women speaking over us. Fucking unbelievably bad take op.
It's too early for this shit but what exactly do you call it when I have a good masc day and get called a tranny - a term very specifically for trans women. What do you call it when cis men are threatened in the very structure of society to have the shit beat out of them for not being masculine enough, for daring to not perform their cisness correctly. How is that not structural transmisogyny. The policing of body hair and makeup of people of all genders and the threshold of passing trans women are pressured - damn near required - to meet just to ensure they get a moment of peace themselves. Misogyny affects us all. Transmisogyny is just as ingrained in our society because structurally there is pretty much nothing worse someone could be to the vast majority of people than specifically a trans woman. If you can't understand that asking someone if they're tme or not isn't just the exact same question as their agab and that nobody can be truly exempt from transmisogyny under the current rules of gendered society then my sleepy tags on a random post aren't going to get you anywhere. And at the end of the day this isn't about me. And this certainly isn't trying to claim everyone experiences TM to the same degree. It is just me pointing out that this progressive way of asking what's in people's pants is fucking stupid and also very pointless and vague as criteria go. We are ostensibly on the same side here. Exercise a little good faith or leave me alone cuz I certainly don't need your bs on top of the terves.
I recently 'peaked' and started doing feel how you do about libfeminism too. I still struggle with this fear that I'm buying into some kinda fascist rhetoric (even though there's no evidence for that) but it makes me happy that there's a community on here of women, many lesbians and woc, who are speaking their mind freely
Hey anon! Beforehand, lemme apologize for replying to you this late, the past days were a bit hectic for me. I sincerely hope for this reply to reach you somehow.
I'm glad you peaked! It's a hard and confusing process, mixed with disappointment over lots of stuff you've done before 'waking up' and towards people and discourses around you that consider your new opinions as something too extreme, hateful, or even devoid of serious analysis (as if you're just an irrational hateful person who can't think straight). When I first started to question my beliefs regarding gender ideology and trans rhetoric my immediate response to my doubts was to tell myself that I wasn’t a bad person.
When you're systematically conditioned to hate the evil terfs and to shudder at the mention of radical feminism and terms alike, it's hard to get rid of this impression once you start to realize you're probably one of the evil terves. I had feelings along the lines of "I'm probably leaning towards radfem, but I'm not like them, I can be gender-critical and be a good person". See the problem? Lots of women full of doubts will never approach radical feminism and gender-critical concepts because it's rooted on their very core that said ideas are essentially evil, regressive, even fascist.
I understand your fears, but after months interacting with radfems and TRAs I can assure you I never saw any radical feminist advocating for trans people to lose civil rights (like healthcare, housing, a job) or sending them rape and death threats, orchestrating campaigns for them to lose their jobs and to boycott their business... While all of this was already done by TRAs against women. As I said in my pinned post, I believe that there are trans people minding their own business, trying to live their best lives without claiming rights at the expense of female sex-based rights. But trans ideology on its political aspect is harmful. Harmful to women as their politics deny them their female-only spaces (like shelters, bathrooms, sports), erase language concerning female reality (by saying "people who menstruate", "people with wombs", "people with vulvas"), by hurting children, especially gender non-conforming young girls (by reinforcing the idea they have to get hysterectomies/mastectomies, puberty blockers that will ruin their physical development, testosterone with its everlasting effects)...
I see trans ideology as a selfish liberal agenda that only reinforces the ties within which patriarchy holds women submissive. Try to ask a trans activist about what's a woman and be ready to listen 1) circular definitions (a woman is a woman), 2) stereotypical aspects of femininity as equivalent to womanhood (women are fragile, delicate, they like pink and makeup), 3) the "lady brain" argument (neurosexism), 4) the transcendental argument (a woman is a feeling)... And we know that's not why we're women. We're women because we're adult human females. The material reality of my body explains why I was socialized a certain way, why I'm the target of some specific forms of violence. Yes, across cultures gender roles change and the perceptions of what "looks like" a woman or a man too. But the material reality of what is a woman and a man doesn't change.
What makes me a woman is the same thing that defines what's a woman in Sri Lanka, Ghana, Austria, or even in an isolated indigenous tribe in the middle of Bolivia. You know this, everybody knows this, even those too delusional to raise the trans flag know this. If they didn't they wouldn't be so eager to crucify women daring to say the truth, desperately trying to change the meaning or words, and coercively trying to change reality. To call out a woman for stating facts about her material reality accusing her of being a bigot, someone equivalent to a nazi is PURE MISOGYNY. Most of the time you don't even have to say "trans women are men" to receive your Evil Terf badge. You just have to say "women menstruate" or anything related to your experiences as a female. And the backlash is HUGE. So, who are the fascists here? Not the women raising their voices against a male-centered movement trying to pass as an oppressed minority whose tormentors are "privileged cis" women.
So don't feel afraid, you're not aligning yourself with a fascist movement. It's hard to act based upon what we feel in a world where critical women are haunted down like witches (side note: curious how "oppressed queer people" have such power under capitalism, right?), but you can try to see if you're lucky enough to have any of your irl friends agreeing with you, you can go anonymous and ask questions, you can create a side blog and make new friends... There are lots of smart women here to listen to your questions and share their experiences. Eventually, your fear will pass and you'll find yourself. Be safe, anon.
U think terfs are being told to shut up bc they figured out the galaxy brain idea that women wont turn evil from watching gone girl and we're just bitter? And not bc... idk... they're terfs? + non-terfs were sayin that too and you'd know if you didn't surround yourself with terfs. Also very feminist of you to be calling other women retards.
no retard i think "terves" are told to shut up bc they dare have (mostly) correct ideas about feminism and how misogyny works and it makes people mad when women dare take a shitty little stand for their rights even if its online. and the gone girl thing was one mostly silly facet of it. + even if non rfs were saying it the idea that it was a "terf talkpoint" was widespread which was my point. jesus. read my blog or something
Fandoms (you write for): oof, i’ve written for dozens of fandoms (mostly in french tho) including one piece, yu-gi-oh, tenet, good omens, pacific rim, dragon age, the witcher, final fantasy, kindgom hearts...
Two shots? the mourning in tandem serie, i’d say. aka post-canon yu-gi-oh sadness with a happy ending. also my atem comes back au intro
Most popular multichapter fic: in orbit, till colliding, a tenet slices of (dangerous) life. quantum physics weren’t harmed much during writing i promise
Actual worst part of writing: writing
How do you choose your titles? it usually comes to me either at the very beginning or the very end. sometimes i have to actually think about it and usually look for song lyrics or cool idioms
Do you outline? depends. sometimes yes, even tho it’s mostly dialogues bc it helps me getting characters’ voices right. most of the time i get possessed by the idea and write until it’s out of my system
Ideas I probably won't get around to: every au i made, lmao. i can’t write long stories, ever. i wish i could write about my golden age/pirates of the carribean one piece au, arthurian tenet au, and james bond/siren atem ygo au tho
Best writing trait: my brain works with colors and feelings, and so my writing feels like impressionism sometimes (most of the time)
Callouts @ me: write more than 200 words with actual descriptions I DARE U
Spicy tangential opinion: i hate how we should apparently use charac1&charac2 (instead of charac1/charac2) if no spicy time between the characters? makes me feel like platonic love (and/or simply kissing) can’t be seen as a real form of love. f*ck this shit
Tagging: @miisawas of course, i’d tag silvi red and mo if i wasn’t afraid of bothering them lol (and annika and ned and clyde if i wasn’t so damn shy)
terves: ohemgee terf is a SLUR how DARE u call me that / also terves: [use literally every transphobic slur in the book in casual conversation w/o a SHRED of irony]
terves: you’re all evil conversion therapy apologists!!
also terves: *argue that conversion therapy is completely fine as long as it’s done on trans people*
lol a woman had opinions you don't like better encourage everyone to block and stay safe yall how dare a woman disagree with u amirite 😥😥
okay for like 5 seconds i was really confused because i’ve been so busy lately i’ve reblogged like a dozen things in the last month at that’s it, so i was like. what i did wrong??
but then DUH this person is probably TERF adjacent, cuz the only ppl i advise my followers to block, filter & avoid are terves & the like
so yeah, whatever i said i stand by it. block TERFs. don’t engage. add their usernames to your filtered content (this is actually more helpful than blocking)
and consider this your reminder to get the shinigami eyes extension if you’re browsing on desktop
when this year started i would say weird shit like "guys, gals and non binary pals" to fit in with the people i went to school with. i would put up a libfem act to please my peers and to not be grouped together with the Evil Terves (block and stay safe uwu!) TM. but then i started listening to my gut telling me something was off with the cult-ish mentality of the TRA movement and the KwEeR community. the moment you dared to disagree with them they'd shun you and harass you and call you names. that didn't sit right with me. so i started reading and educating myself and it was like there was a layer of fog in front of me all this time and i was only able to see it after it was gone. how could i not have seen it before? things are so much clearer now and it's like a massive weight has been lifted from my shoulders. now im able to say with confidence that i grew so much this year when it comes to my ideals and what i advocate for. im finally starting to stand up for myself little by little. i feel stronger and happier.
Every time I see that terf pasta carbonara post I get so uncomfortable. It's so disgustingly misogynistic. The writer sat there and typed that and hit post and though 'ah yes this is a Hot Take that will Own The Terves'. Tip for @toastpotent: maybe don't write stuff that's indistinguishable from MRA anti feminist posts?
it literally do be sounding like MRAs mocking feminists for daring to talk about female bodies. like damn i get theyre tryna be funny but they couldnt at least try being accurate?