Dopo le richieste alle istituzioni e alle forze dell'ordine, dopo gli appelli all'educazione contro la mascolinità tossica, dopo aver gridato "mai più".
Dopo gli infiniti e innumerevoli cortei. Dopo aver provato a difenderci in tutti i modi.
Dopo aver lottato a denti stretti contro ogni pressione sociale e i ruoli di genere. Dopo aver assaggiato sulla nostra pelle il divario che ci tiene lontane dalle possibilità concrete di "emergere" in questa società.
Dopo ogni accusa di essere esagerate, di essere delle femministe tritacazzi, di aver bisogno di scopare di più perché francamente siamo insopportabili, perché o siamo sante o siamo troie:
In a world where men are the most dangerous risk to women, and said men want women who are styled in the patriarchy’s costume, feminists must reject this costume!
We must refuse to be soft. Refuse to be shy. Refuse to be quiet, over accommodating, cute, seductive, small. It’s only logical: don’t be what men want women to be. Don’t give them the satisfaction or opportunity. Don’t let men win. You must be tough, independent, loud, ugly, mean. Command your space.
For the first time, scientists have found evidence showing a female laying eggs without mating, without needing a male, and according to evolutionary roots in crocodiles, this trait could have been present in dinosaurs too.
In 2018 a female American crocodile (Crocodylus acutus) held in captivity for 16 years, laid a clutch of eggs, one of which contained a discernible fetus, one female as his mother. According to molecular analises, they found the egg was a clonde of the mother cocrodile, which indicate it has no DNA from a male.
Parthenogenesis, a form of asexual reproduction in which embryos develop from unfertilised eggs, this unusual reproductive strategy has been documented in birds, non-avian reptiles, such are lizards and snakes, and even in sharks and rays. The discovery in a crocodile suggests it might date back to a shared ancestor of these reptiles and birds at least 267 million years ago – and suggests that maybe dinosaurs and pterosaurs were able to reproduce without males too.
Reference (open access): Warren et al., 2023 Discovery of facultative parthenogenesis in a new world crocodile Biol. Lett.
Photo: Adult American crocodile, and below, stillborn fetus of american crocodile, Crocodylus acutus, Parthenogen. Both photo courtesy by Q. Dwyer
i don't think there are words in this world to express how angry and disgusted i am in this moment.
i'm disgusted by news outlets, journalists, media, that keep calling a murderer, a tormenter, a coward, a "nice guy", worse, a "good guy", that just had a "raptus". as if being a "good guy" were some kind of armour against murder accusations, because if you are a nice, a good guy that loves his girlfriend so much than how can you kill her, you're a good guy, you love her, you've just had a raptus, you didn't mean to actually do it.
and so a woman dies.
and another.
and another.
105 in a year.
because good guys kill good girls. they rape them. they hit them. they get away with it because in the end that good girl wasn't that good, was she? she was a whore, she was asking for it, look at how she was dressed, she dares to go out and night and drink, she broke up with her boyfriend, and now look at him, look at how sad and depressed he is, it's all her fault, that bitch.
but not all men are like this, right?
"not all men", by christ, you guys love this rhetoric so much! it's almost like the only thing that you manage to say in front of a woman's corpse is "oh, but i'll never do this."
congrats on not being a murderer mate! do you want a cookie? do you want someone to scratch you head and call you a good boy?
but where were you when your friends catcalled a girl who was walking around in a miniskirt? when they called her a whore? when your mates molested a girl in a club? when your little friends thought that "no" actually meant "yes"?
where were you when your mate kidnapped AND killed a woman? "oh, poor guy, he was so depressed, he didn't want to hang out anymore"
where were you?
were you laughing with them?
or were you ashamed?
we don't need your shame, we need our anger to become your anger, our indignation to become your indignation, our voice to become your voice.
we need to scream together.
for me, for you, for my friends, for my cousins, for my sisters, for my mum, for my nan, for my aunts, for giulia, for the other 104 women that died this year in italy, for every woman everywhere.
“Doing our own individual internal work, whether alone or with a group, is extremely difficult. In patriarchy, we are accustomed to having someone else set up for us what we need to do—parents, churches, schools, preachers, nuns, teachers, TV ads, how-to-do-it manuals—it seems as if in every direction we turn we are being told what to do and how to do it, given a regimen to follow: to get good grades, to win god's approval, to lose weight, to keep fit, to have satisfying sex. We hardly need to listen to our own internal voices at all anymore; certainly society neither encourages nor gives us any practice.
So it isn't surprising that women are attracted to one more program telling us how to get our lives in order, trusting in yet another externally imposed blueprint for success, rather than accepting that it is finally necessary for each of us to find our own internal map, to listen to our own voice, and to establish our own unique and individual regimen. Following someone else's plan has never yet worked for us, and I think never will, though we might get some ideas from it.
But we do need one another, we do need to be in the company of other women on similar journeys. Perhaps this is why the women's spirituality movement is having such success. It may be a group process that is providing a transition from the outer-directed, externally structured patriarchal world to the less structured, more ambiguous, freer, more open and ever-changing inner world. I believe that feminism postulates anarchy of the spirit—self-rule, self-government, an anarchy that will ultimately result in political, social, economic, and religious anarchy.”
-Sonia Johnson, Wildfire Igniting the She/volution