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brokenfrombirth · 6 months

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🎶 Where were you when everything was falling apart? 🎶

#mental health #mentally unstable #bpd #borderline personality disorder #mentally exhausted #emotionally drained #mental battle #emotionally damaged #childhood trauma #emotional abandonment #mentally drained #mentally ill #mental illness #emotionallyunstablepersonalitydisorder #emotionally destroyed #i feel alone #alone #suicidal #selfharm

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furiousgoldfish · 2 years

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Neglected children will sometimes go ‘okay time to dangerously deteriorate to see if anyone cares about me’ and then if nobody does, they don’t know how to stop deteriorating on their own, they’ll need help to pick themselves back up.

And if that help doesn’t arrive, they’ll conclude ‘I was right to destroy myself in a world where nobody cares for me anyway, why should I live at all’ and it sets them on a miserable life path where all they see is chances for self destruction and proof of nobody caring, and from the very start it’s not their fault at all.

Because someone should notice when a kid starts losing themselves and step up and help. Children are not meant to know how to take care of themselves in an environment where they’re neglected, ignored and uncared for. Putting them in such an environment then blaming them for deteriorating is absolutely ridiculous. It takes paying attention and realizing when something is wrong and pulling a kid out of the black hole they’re falling into, before they can no longer crawl their way out on their own.

It’s not acceptable to let children deal with abandonment and neglect all on their own, and expect them to not grow up miserable, resentful, struggling, and doing harm to themselves. It’s the same harm we never stopped them from doing when they were kids, when they needed to know that someone would care if they’re hurt. If we want functional and healthy adults in the society, we have to notice what is going on with the kids and make sure they’re helped in time.

#child abuse #child neglect #neglect #self harm #emotional abandonment #self destruction as a cry for help #self harm as a cry for help #children require nurturing and it's not making them mature or responsible to grow up wondering if anyone would have ever cared

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pain-is-my-game · 1 year

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It's terrible knowing that if I ever show sadness or show anything emotion that's not positive towards anything whether it's my fault or not I'll either get blamed for it or told that my emotions are irrational.

#i will never care if you reblog #im so tired #i just wanna escape #vent #tw vent #cw vent #eldest daughter syndrome #sad thoughts #eldest daughter #eldest sibling #oldest daughter #toxic mother #emotional neglect #emotional abuse #emotional abandonment #toxic mothers #toxic mom #toxic parents #thoughts to throw into the void

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loveyourlovelysoul · 5 months

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Maybe we are even more anxious and prone to spiralling because we were never allowed to speak about our fears and process them through communication with an outside source, someone we considered knowledgeable, trustworthy, and that would have kept us safe in any way (caregiver).

Maybe is this type of emotional neglect, of abandonment and gaslighting, of telling us "Ah, it's nothing/You're imagining stuff/You're being overdramatic/You're exaggerating things/You're too sensitive" (prolly used also to avoid thinking themselves about things they weren't sure about but felt responsible for) that only made us shut down our fears, have to deal with them alone without having the ability to, and let them rot inside in the dark instead of confronting, welcoming and understanding them so to let them free and feel free... Maybe all this is what is still blocking us. Keeping us in this anxious cycle.

This sensation of not feeling heard, seen or valued in our emotional and physical experience, of having our worries deemed as nothing and our ability of judgement, and our worth, been diminished. Of having our emotions and needs left unmet somewhere inside of us. They are probably what is crying and shouting from within us now. Through our fears and insecurities. Through our doubts and triggers. Let's talk more with oursleves and also let things out freely by confronting them when we feel okay to. Let's be more vulnerable, and even more let's talk with someone who has the right knowledge and can help us too in processing what is going on with us.

Even if we were taught so, we don't have to deal with everything alone cause others cannot be trusted or aren't able or willing to listen to us for whatever reason. There are people who can actually help us. Even just by listening to us. We're not too much, even when we're overthinking something that usually could be seen as nothing but in that moment feels like a humonguos weight. It's what happens when we're anxious, it's nothing we can easily control when overwhelmed. Let's be more compassionate with us too. We deserve love, respect, understanding and support whatever we're going through.

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thismightbeacryforhelpwhoknows · 1 year

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i have a talent for loneliness, i would be alone in a crowd. but it is entirely my fault.

i run from embrace and hide from people's warmth because everytime i've had it before it has been stolen from me and i will be left on the floor, broken and bloody. again.

i shut down and keep them out but still silently demand that they see me. i want them to push back when i tell them no and fight me to stay because how else can i be sure that with me is where they want to remain.

all the while, there is a little girl sat alone on the floor, cold and alone, in need of hand to guide her back to a home she has never known.

#depression poems #depressing shit #mentally unhinged #its getting bad again #childhood trauma #bpd vent #abandoment issues #tw abandonment #fear of abandonment #emotional abandonment #abandoned

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heterorealism · 6 months

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"The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead, patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves." - bell hooks

#feminism #gender #emotional abandonment #what about men #bell hooks #quotes #feminist quotes #heterorealism #fuck the patriarchy

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caravanofdreamers · 10 months

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I gave birth to an obscene anger

A raging, beastly blood curdling anger which good girls choke on.

An anger that devours.

I held onto it until it took hold of me .

It stayed with me when everything left,

My anger was a portal to my grief,

A portal that protected me as the years fell upon me.

My anger that saved me .

#repressed anger #anais nin #excerpts #female gaze #female poets #franz kafka #rainer maria rilke #poetry #short poem #writers on tumblr #life quotes #psychology #emotional abandonment #emotional abuse #tw abuse #abuse survivor #raised by narcissists #philosophy #female

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taughtsauce · 1 year

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it’s crazy how these people come into your life and make such a difference. then they just disappear, and you realize you never meant that much to them

#vent post #actually mentally ill #bpd vent #actually bpd #self h@rm #vent #favorite person #fp bpd #emotional abandonment #abandonment like every other day #sewerslidal activities #abandonment issues #borderline problems #bdd #bpd stuff

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hayatheauthor · 1 year

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A child who is unloved treats the world one of two ways.

There are the ones who project their situation onto others, and treat the people around them as they were treated.

Then there are the ones who make it their responsibility to heal the hearts of those around them. The ones who love the unloveable, for they would never doom another to a fate like theirs.

But the thing is, neither of them are wrong.

For our hearts are so different from each other's. Just like our minds and bodies.

And a child cannot be blamed for how they make their heart heal.

#tbh just mha rambles #but it's also about the characters from my wip #if only i could be this eloquent while saying the same thing to agents and explaining my character dynamics #how the protag and antagonist are so similar and come from same situations but their mindset and outlook of the world changes everything #haya sameer #hayatheauthor #haya: writes #childhood trauma #childhood depression #childhood poetry #emotional trauma #emotional abandonment

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brokenfrombirth · 7 months

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🎵 Maybe if I hurt myself you could be the bandage. I don’t wanna ask for help, you’d call it baggage 🎵

#mental health #mentally unstable #bpd #borderline personality disorder #mentally exhausted #emotionally drained #mental battle #childhood trauma #emotional abandonment #ptsd problems #ptsd #selfharm #suicidal #hate myself #worthless #emotionally damaged #røry #trauma

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furiousgoldfish · 1 year

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are you the ‘once I get people close to me I will do everything to keep them happy and to keep them from abandoning me’ or ‘people are temporary and I’m ready to drop them at the moment’s notice or ready to be dropped because this can’t last’ type of neglected kid

#child abuse #child neglect #attachment issues #emotional abandonment #abandonment issues

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pain-is-my-game · 1 year

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I know that other people have it worse. I could've had a mother who's physically abusive. I could've had a mother who didn't provide me with food and clothing. But it still hurts knowing that I will never be good enough for her to love me unconditionally.