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i've had so many people ask me how i could possibly want to convert to judaism, especially after the 7/10 attack, but honestly this has been a better convincer for me than anything else. judaism has given me access to a community that not only requires and craves and inspires and encourages intellectual diversity, but it also calls for nuance that is vanishingly rare in goyische spaces. it's sad to me how rare this ability to be nuanced is in mainstream goyische spaces of course, but i also can't help but just take a moment to feel lucky and grateful for my jewish community
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monath · 3 days
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not to complain or anything but even just wanting to convert to judaism is not easy
as i've explained in another post the reform congregation i've messaged said they only convert people who have jewish partners. i will probably write them another email to ask if they're serious about that but if they truly are, then my options for finding another congregation are slim
where i live we have a few jewish communities. they're all orthodox, except for the reform one that i already messaged and a conservative one. the issue is that they're all really far away (2+ hour drive when using public transport, car is not possible for me)
the closest two are the reform one and an orthodox one (both around 40 minute drive with public transport). i think orthodox judaism is great in many ways, but i'm not the optimal candidate for it (gay, not quite cisgender)
so unless the orthodox congregation near me LOVES that i will have to use public transport on shabbat to get to shul and that i'm queer, my only options are to hope that the reform congregation was just playing or that the conservative congregation 2+ hours away will let me convert 🙂
or i pray that i coincidentally fall in love with a jew and marry them but i doubt that that will just happen because what are the chances lmao
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ggavigg · 2 days
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RE: Things Moving with Converting to Judaism
I finally took some more concrete steps last week and spoke to a rabbi at a pretty warm and welcoming Conservative/Masorti shul that advertised Shabbat services that were meant for people who haven’t gone to a synagogue since their b’mitzvahs or people who don’t know anything about Judaism at all. (The synagogue is welcoming towards queer folks, interfaith couples, and more)
Said rabbi, upon me mentioning I was interested in converting, offered to introduce me to somebody who completed the conversion process recently, who I’m having coffee with real soon.
After that we’re to check in and talk about next steps.
I feel like I really lucked out in a very good way as this shul is a 20 minute walk from where I live.
I can get terribly shy with all of this and I’m so nervous but I want to give myself a bit of credit for the ways I put myself out there despite it all. I’m aware that there may be some pushback and challenges in the journey, but I’m willing to take them on even if I feel really scared sometimes.
I also want to say that I’m actively seeking community and friendship with fellow converts in progress and more Jewish folx, so if you want to get in touch with me, please do!
Shy and nervous but hopeful and excited!
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fromgoy2joy · 28 days
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I’m still nearly crying laughing from this interaction that happened yesterday.
I wore my Magen David in French lecture. It is 8:30 in the morning. I sat down next to this random girl that I’d never really seen before.
She looks at me for 0.7 seconds before starting to avidly sketch palestenian flags on her notes for the next hour and a half. Like pages and pages of the symbol, glancing at me the entire time.
Whoaaa, you really showed me up. I’m deeply offended and don’t know what to do with myself ! Help! I’m meeeeelting! The supposed Zionism in me is burning!!
Like I have no opinions on that flag. No grudge or resentment. But what makes someone go angry bird attack mode when seeing a symbol that’s Jewish adjacent?
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avian-misdemeanors · 24 days
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as someone who was born into Judaism, I always love hearing the stories of Jewish converts. They're always so passionate about their Judaism and it makes me smile inside and out. it takes so much heart and love for our culture to undertake such a long and challenging journey and see it through to its completion. it's truly beautiful.
any Jewish converts reading this, I hope this brings you a smile. and if you have a story to share about your journey home to the Tribe, I'd love to hear it.
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soxiyy · 3 months
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Every Jewish person is ethically jewish weather they are born from the waters of a womb or the waters of a mikvah
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spacelazarwolf · 1 year
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most of the jews who barge into my inbox or onto my posts about jews by choice don't actually seem to know literally anything about how conversion actually works, so let me break it down for you.
conversion takes at the very least one calendar year, but can take upwards of several years or even several decades depending on the individual and when they feel ready.
the process (for people who are converting as adults, not people who were converted as children) usually looks something like this
person starts to question if conversion is right for them. this stage can take anywhere from months to years.
if the person is in a place with a jewish community, they start researching synagogues and eventually reach out to a rabbi or several. if they're not in a place with a jewish community, they'll need to decide if they want to move in order to convert.
some rabbis will be indifferent when contacted about conversion, some will send you away to see if you come back (there's an old tradition of sending prospective converts away three times, but this isn't as common practice now), some will be happy to talk to prospective converts.
the person now has a sponsoring rabbi. they will be signed up for educational classes that will teach them the basics of jewish history, jewish tradition, liturgy, etc. they will also be expected to do a lot of independent reading. most prospective converts meet with their sponsoring rabbi once per month or so.
most sponsoring rabbis want prospective converts to have a certain level of observance in order to practice what it will be like to live as a jew. there are some things they may ask prospective converts to hold off on until after their mikveh, like wearing a tallit and wrapping tefillin or wearing a star of david, some orthodox converts will intentionally break shabbat in order to not 'fully observe' until after their mikveh.
there are usually a lot of costs associated with converting. it's very possible to borrow books from libraries or find them for cheap, but many want to fill their bookshelf with as many resources as possible. there is also the cost of judaica, as most prospective converts do not have jewish family to inherit judaica from. this can get incredibly expensive.
the sponsoring rabbi is the one who decides if the prospective convert is ready for their beit din. once they approach the topic with the prospective convert and the convert agrees they are ready, the beit din is scheduled.
for their beit din, three rabbis (or sometimes non rabbinic scholars) will speak to the prospective convert about what their journey has been like, why they want to convert, what they find meaningful, how they have handled any antisemitism they've faced, if they are ready to align themselves with the jewish people for the rest of their life, etc. it's not just a 'u ready?' it can get very intense.
the beit din decides if the prospective convert is ready to join the jewish people. if they decide they're not ready, the prospective convert can continue to study and schedule another beit din in the future. if they decide they are ready, a mikveh is scheduled and the prospective convert becomes a jew.
after that, they're a jew. that's it. the end.
details can vary from community to community, but this is a general rundown of how it works. no one just randomly decides one day to become jewish. people who go through the conversion process, even through movements that are not as rigorous as orthodox movements, are required to do essentially a mini degree in jewish studies, uproot their whole life, potentially lose family, friends, and community, and align themselves with a marginalized people for the rest of their life. so anyone who tries to trash them can sniff my farts.
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nesyanast · 7 months
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A young man studying for conversion turned to his teacher and said, "But, Rabbi Kushner, Fitzpatrick isn't a Jewish name." To which Kushner replied, "It will be."
-Choosing a Jewish Life by Anita Diamant
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I am ✨inebriated✨ and really thinking about Jewish joy. Last night being in a room full of screaming, booing, cheering, clapping, singing queer Jews filled my heart in a way that I don’t think is easily describable. It was resilience. It was defiance. It was a room full of strangers that for two hours were a family. I went up to a stranger and complimented her tichel. Another stranger complimented my shirt. I had a drink with someone I knew for about ten minutes and held hands with someone I met an hour earlier. When Esther said “You will stop persecuting my people.” Everyone screamed, applauded, cheered. I felt connected and alive and home. It was oh so beautiful and I love the Jewish people. My. People.
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hindahoney · 8 months
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Wild and revolutionary concept: maybe don't treat converts like trash just because they're converts? And also don't ask someone if they're a convert in a public setting?
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tomorrow i will have the honor of being a mikveh & hatafat dam brit witness for a transwoman's conversion and i just wanted to affirm for people that yes, trans people can certainly be accepted in jewish community -- not just reform, either, as in this specific case it is a conservative conversion. ❤️
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I have two Jewish parents, but whether you were born Jewish or converted, you know every word in the Torah or can’t speak a word of Hebrew, are super religious or knows barely anything thing about Judaism, only celebrates the holidays or never stepped foot in a synagogue, whether you had a b’nai mitzvah or not, let me tell you a secret your still a Jew.
and to converts, welcome to the religion, the family. I know the process is hard, but congrats. And like family if anybody says anything like, ‘You’re not a real Jew.’ Like family I’d punch them in the face for you. judasim is very family oriented. When I think of Judaism I think of big meals with family, laughing and eating.
Jew how you Jew.
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queertransetc · 8 months
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Is it ok to convert to Judaism so I can work with Lilith without breaking closed practice rules? Ive been told only jews can work with her. I don't believe in the Jewish god but I believe in Her and feel a connection.
For starters, I don’t know a ton about Lilith, aside from yes, only Jews can work with her. I’m also no expert on conversion, as I’m not a convert nor have I been heavily involved in someone else’s conversion. For this reason, I’d like other Jews who see this, especially converts, to add in their thoughts on the matter. My answer is going to be relatively vague considering the question at hand
That said, I would be very wary of someone converting specifically for Lilith, especially if they don’t believe in any tenets of Judaism. You don’t believe in our god, not all converts do. But there’s so much more to Judaism that conversion requires beyond that belief. My question for you, anon, is what other reasons do you have for converting? If it’s only for Lilith, you don’t actually want to be Jewish. You just want access to a closed practice. Ask yourself: am I ready to join a new culture and ethnicity? Am I ready to face antisemitism? Am I ready to analyze the antisemitic thoughts and beliefs I already have and uphold? Am I ready to support a new community? Am I interested in adopting other beliefs and practices of Judaism?
Talking to a rabbi will likely give you even more questions you need to ask before you can know if conversion is right for you. As I said, I know relatively little about conversion, and I know nothing about you, anon. If you feel serious about converting already, tell a rabbi exactly what you’ve sent me, and ask to have a more in-depth discussion on your interest in converting. After getting to know you more, they’ll likely have a better answer on whether converting because of Lilith is appropriate or not
At the end of the day, I cannot tell you whether conversion is right for you. What I can say is that it’s a serious decision that takes a lot of time and hard work. Converting to Judaism is not something a rabbi will let you do unless they’re certain you are ready for all that entails
@ folks in the notes, if you intend to respond to anon’s message, please be kind and assume they’re asking in good faith <3
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hadeantaiga · 4 months
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Happy Hannukah to fellow converts
Can I reach a hand out to fellow converts-in-progress right now?
Like. This is a hard time to sit and say "yes, I still want to become a Jew". It is a hard time to maintain that conviction in the face of this sharp, blunt-force increase in antisemitism. It's hard to lose friends and connections, to have to cut people off who a month ago claimed they supported you in your conversion, who are now neck-deep in conspiracy theories and antisemitism. It feels like darkness is closing in around us.
So here's to us, this Hannukah. May our faith and our desire to convert burn longer than anyone expected it. May we last through this night when many hope we will give up.
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fromgoy2joy · 13 days
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I forgot the name of Maimonides-
So I searched up "Jewish philosopher with opinions" and he was the first result.
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convert-kid · 1 month
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I think L’cha Dodi is my favourite song that we do at shul for Shabbat Eve. There was another one we did tonight that I really enjoyed (that we don’t usually do!) but I can’t remember it.
But I LOVE L’cha Dodi SO MUCH.
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