#my parents ruined my life

[needamunchkin]

God

I’m so stuck

My life isn’t my life anymore and I can’t figure it out

#i am so angry #and so resentful #and if I have kids I would never #never do this to them #never #my parents ruined my life #esp my mom #i told her that day that she was doing wrong by me #she should have stood next to me #and yet she cared for the other person #personal

[talisidekick]

If a transgender person asks you to deadname and misgender them in front of certain people. Misgender them and deadname them in front of those people. It doesn't matter how icky or gross it may feel, it doesn't matter you'd rather be honest. It doesn't matter if there's more of you there. Certain people aren't safe, and honesty IS NOT the best policy when honesty could put them at serious risk. It doesn't matter if there's a crowd, because when there isn't shit goes down.

Be an ally, do what they ask. Understand that the trans person knows more about their situation than you do, and this includes who's safe and who's not. Some one can be "trans friendly" to other people, but not to people they know or specific people. Do as the trans person asks, yes it's uncomfortable, but it's 10 times worse if the person we don't trust finds out. 100 times worse if they have access to us when you're not around.

Respect trans peoples safety. Misgender and deadname when asked.

#trans #transgender #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #2slgbtqia+ #lgbt #transfem #transmasc #transneutral #there is a post about this on my blog but it reminded me of my own situation #my whole family knows I'm out and I didn't want them to #my entire extremely christian catholic and mormon extended family knows because I let my sister tell my parents because we weren't talking #now I live in constant damn fear I'm going to get a message forwarded from family to the point I blocked my own parents #these are dangerous people who will stop at nothing to ruin my life if they find me so I'm going to ask I get deadnamed and misgendered #in front of them #i'm going to lie that it's a joke so I can live my life in relative peace.

[gayleafpool]

leafpool: if i had a nickel for every time i was publicly humiliated and shamed in front of everyone i know and love while none of them defended me or helped me then i would have two nickels which isnt a lot but it’s kinda fucked up that it happened twice

#leafpool #do u think at the starclan trial leafpool was sitting there like wow this reminds me of the gathering where my whole life got ruined. fun! #crazy that literally nobody stood up for her and squirrelflight. not their parents not their friends no one. wild #leafpool babygirl your tragic nature compels me

[phosphophylight-of-my-life]

oshi no ko aqua is such a fun character bc by most counts he's a more than decent guy.

in his first life he regularly visited hospital inpatients who had no visitors. he was genuinely happy and excited to help Ai deliver her babies, because he wants her to be happy on her own terms. he saves Akane simply because he can, and gets angry at the staff on her behalf. he doesn't stop at saving her life and spends sleepless nights turning around her public image. at that point there was nothing in it for him to keep akane around, she was just a person he was able to help and wanted to help.

by most counts he's a pretty decent guy who steps up when people need him most, except. except he's also a guy who really wants to kill his dad and that makes him manipulate people somewhat often and this is somehow not entirely at odds with his instinct to help others

#oshi no ko #like he's a doctor i can rly respect yknow #except for the patricide thing #gorou said do no harm unless it's my dad #also the way that gorou regularly visit patients is something SARINA has to tell the audience and not gorou #bc to gorou is nothing worth mentioning #for quite a while i was like man gorou is kind of sleazy for only visiting sarina esp when she's so young and vulnerable #but he visits the others also... sarina was just the most special patient to him because she introduced him to ai and also #because she was a kid whose parents never showed up #also SPOILERS FOR LIKE CH90+ OR SMTHING BELOW #the way aqua doesnt let akane dirty her hands like ok aqua we get it you want the best for everyone who isnt your dad #wipes tear someone get him therapy hes a decent guy who's ruining his life #also the way he is conscious of how he's playing w akane's feelings and tries very hard to be honest with her and to do her right #like sigh okay aqua i GUESS i cant hate you #and that one ghosting kana arc where i wanted to beat him up and then he was like i dont want to drag kana into this & he looked terrified #like SIGH. OKAY. FINE AQUA i cant hate you after all #like apart from the patricide (which is big know) the biggest downside to his personality is how cold he is #he pushes ppl away all the time and is just borderline rude #but like idk i feel like thats a byproduct of his 'i plan to go to jail for patricide and dont want to drag others down' mindset #which is like... well. you can't hate him for that.. he's looking out for others in his own way

[icedmetaltea]

The difference between those who let you leave without any guilt tripping and those who don't is staggering (ft: irl metal)

#jk 9/10 times I either went into shutdown mode or went to cry by the locked car for an hour or longer till family came back #and my parents wouldn't even talk to me bc I ruined the vibe #I wanted to say something about it #but I was just a little sheltered christian kid with horns that hadn't sprouted yet #how glad I am to have ppl in my life who value my social battery now #and just... me. Man it feels weird to have my company enjoyed without conditions to meet #metaltea draws #Metaltea doodles #messy doodles #irl stuff #vent #introversion

[solivagantingrebel]

Thinks about Soap who felt so out of place with his family that he ran to enlist the moment he could to avoid dealing with the complications of his future with them in it.

Thinks about Soap who felt so out of place with his family that he ran to enlist the moment he could to avoid dealing with the complications of his future with them in it.

Thinks—

#about the mw3 ending #mmmmm #soap family angst #imagine if like. his avoidance led to a point in his life where his parents passed when he was on duty #and he just buried himself further in his work to avoid those feelings again #he has one sibling (my hc) #but his avoidance also pushed him apart from his sister beyond repair (he can repair the relationship but he never does. also because he-) #mannnn #this man ruins me always #putting this + in contrast with Ghost's situation with his family/past #man x2 #angst #mw3 spoilers #ig? #anyway #soap #john soap mactavish #(-also because he died before he could repair the relationship) #this is me filling in the gaps of - why the taskforce was the only one there in his funeral #also sister because he doesn't seem like a man who didn't grow up with a sister idk how to explain this to you other than like #divine visions and vibes told me so

[oifaaa]

lmao sorry to keep this going but. tim absolutely had it the easiest of the bat kids, not even a discussion. he had a cushy, priviledged life with parents that actually cared about him, and fanon going uwu poor sad little rich boy so so so neglected and abused... GIRL?!?! cass got the shit kicked out of her till she became the best fighter in the world, and she was homeless for nearly a decade after that and yet often feels like shes the one comforting tim ("""little brother uwu""")

I get you I think it is just frustrating when people try so hard to give Tim the back story Cass already has and then processeds to either not include cass completely or just make her a bland cardboard cutout of a character that's only job in any story is to support which ever male white lead is currently crying

#ask #anon #Like I said frustrating #Tim having an okay privileged childhood does not take away from his character #It just explains alot about how he acts #And the type of trails he has to go through #Like there's something to be said that Tim's the only Robin that really didn't need to become Robin #He went out of his way to ruin his own life #Tim took all his experiences of writing self insert fanfics #To real life practical use #He said fuck it #If my parents won't sell me to batman I'll sell myself to batman #And then he spent the next 10 years realising why that was probably a bad idea #Absolute king of bad decision #We love to see it

[nanistar]

it manifests in more ways than just profound sadness.

any negative comments about sparkpelt or people suffering from ppd will result in a block.

#warrior cats #thunderclan #sparkpelt #mine #draw sparkpelt to cope lol #guys. don't have kids unless you're ABSOLUTELY sure you want them #for you. don't let your partner's opinion on kids affect your own #don't have kids if you're on the fence. don't settle. you will not just grow to deal with it. #you will not just magically fall in love with a baby you don't want #don't have a kid to save your relationship #no relationship is worth it #parenting is not worth it. it's miserable and it's the biggest mistake of my life #every day is a slog and i'm miserable. i haven't felt genuinely happy in months #my life is ruined and i have no future #flamepaw

[mysweetsinfulobsessions]

From this

to this...

and this in the course of 20 minutes

Harlivy kicking the crap out of their daughter and being very uncool moms in Harley Quinn, the animated series, S04e07, Most Culturally Impactful Film Franchise

#so many good moments #they can be my moms if she doesn't want them #there is such a thing as cool moms! #you ruin my life! Lol #princess lady fingers loool #telling your daughter to fuck off is parenting 101 #i love it when ivy curses #which just means i love Lake Bell's voice #beating the crap out of their kid; harley: we make great parents #should i tag this as violence? haha #harlivy #neytiri #neytiri harley quinn #harley quinn #harley quinn show #harley quinn the animated series #harley quinn animated series #pamela isley #hqtas #hqas #harley quinn and poison ivy #poison ivy

[jynjackets]

honestly imagine how corny it would’ve been if they kissed on the beach and died like that. this is why they are such a high quality ship and why they smooched in the elevator off-screen because they don’t do pda

#rebelcaptain #rogue one #jyn erso #cassian andor #rogue one day #happy anniversary to my parents kissing #happy birthday to the movie that ruined my life

[another-art-studentt]

7/15/23

I reorganized my room and there are finally some corners that give some aesthetic vibes. My goal for the rest of the summer is to be well prepared for the next school year in terms of time management and academically (or rather, musically). Today I successfully got up early and had a good practice session, but I could have practiced more had I prepared food in advance.

#studyblr #study aesthetic #music student #study motivation #college student #studyspo #music major #music student life #music studyblr #i dont remember what tags to put #taking One day off practicing ruins the whole week #i swear #bonus getting scolded by professor #but im feeling even better today trying to gain back what ive lost (mostly embouchure strength and tone color and air support) (rip) #how hard is time management i dont know but its certainly Quite hard for me #and how to not feel lonely when not living with parents #the pics feature areas around my desk but i spend my actual study time mostly in a practice riom thats hot as heck #i sweat and pant and try to breathe properly in the heat and it's not pretty #i can ramble on and on #what i need is a diary 😂 #its been Forever since i made a studyblr post of my own

[the-real-list-of-ominous-threats]

I'm gonna pray to God that nobody wishes you a Happy Birthday on your birthday.

this already happens to me every single year

#except for my parents. they remember but nobody else does. #IT'S OCTOBER 22ND BY THE WAY #IF ANYONE WANTS TO REMEMBER #also last year my birthday was terrible because it coincided with my cringefail ex dumping me bc they got bored of ruining me life #and my mental health was at an all time low #and i ended up in the hospital 3 days later #so i'm hoping this year is better :(

[texeoghea]

i keep thinking abt akechis unaddressed undiagnosed osdd swag

#my art #doodles #persona 5 #p5 #it aint much but its honest work. #ill find more of them. ill sniff them out. no system character is safe from me #DROVE ME A LITTLE CRAZY BTW. THAT THEY WERE LIKE ‘WOW AKECHI HAS TWO PERSONAS? THATS WEIRD!’ AND THEN. #NEVER. ADDRESSED IT. EVER. AGAIN. #IT WAS KIND OF TREATED LIKE AN OFF SCREEN EVO IN ROYAL LIKE HE JUST HAD LOKI. NO MORE ROBIN. BOY WHAT HAPPENED TO ROBIN HOOD #the answer is that he died with the detective prince in the bottom of that ship. which also makes me feel insane #sorry the death of the self is so :exploding forever: #persona 5 is a game. you get to watch the protags rivals life be completely and fully ruined by the protag and then never do anything about #it. like damn akechi sorry about all that and also that you full on died to save us after it all and never recieved any thanks or acknowledg #ement whatsoever from anyone except maybe the protagonist. that was fucked up #LIKE HE ALSO WAS EVIL. HE KILLED TWO OF THE THIEVES’ PARENTS. BUT ALSO HE WAS EXPERIENCING EVERY NIGHTMARE EVER CAN WE GIVE HIM THAT ATLEAST #sorry my akechi rants. my disease

[ickypuppi3]

one thing i love about harringrove fics is steve harrington actually having a personality and reacting to trauma

#fanon steve ily #this is because someone said mitski - townie is his song and it’s ruined my night #steve harrington #harringrove #i want the steve who drinks to cope #the one who’s parents not being around fucks him up so much #the one who hates the pool #who cant sleep #who literally hates his life in s2 because what the fuck #the one who breaks down in front of billy hargrove of all people #i just think that version fucks so much harder #he makes me feel pain in the best way

[craycraybluejay]

yes i am an adult male who loves high school dramas this is because i literally never experienced normal coming of age drama like ever and am disconnected from the collective experience of having a relatable peer group forever hope that helps

#i JUST want to experience high school #without like. my whole shitty life thing having gone on #i want to go to high school and have stupid drama and sexuality crises and worries about grades #not... That #i never had that im never going to have that #can i get (one) permission to go a little crazy if i survive into a university #fuck everyone befriend and be-enemy everyone get all up in peoples stupid mind numbingly low stakes drama #i want that sweet golden experience where the worst thing ill ever fear is annoying my classmates #or accidentally spilling something on someone at a dance #i deserve it i deserve to have had a childhood and a young adulthood and a life #i deserve to have dealt with unserious issues to prepare me for bigger ones #rather than serious danger that leaves me permanently severed from normal people and life #and makes me incapable of reacting proportionally or finding it in me to care about less serious problems #like yes it sucks your mom is going to miss college graduation #but i thank my lucky stars that you are not dying or being abused or starved or beaten or exploited #i literally dont know how to take things seriously a lot of the time like im not able to even if i try #because to me the mildest real problem is someone purposefully isolating you and ruining your health #the MILDEST #i try to care ab simple stuff i really do i just CANT #and it sucks so much trying to be a good friend and kind feeling like i cant do enough #the loud thought 'i wish that hapoened to me/i wish i worried about that/i wish the people i love only had that as a problem' #i get so envious. like thank fucking god your parents divorced like normal adults when it should be over #thank fucking god that 'friend' cut you off when they were actively insulting you and betraying your trust #thank the fucking universe that shitty partner dumped you before you fkn hurt yourself over them #yk? #and its a 'mean/cold' way to think about it but i just dont have the capacity to think or feel the little picture #i can imagine my friends subjected to such horror even tho i dont want to

[pansyfemme]

im having anxiety so bad right now that im overwhelmed by noise but quiet is making me so paranoid i cant not have my headphones in

#ive been venting on tumblr since day one of this account but this feels different now #i dont know where to go sometimes i dont want to wake up friends or therapists or parents or even really talk one on one #i just want to speak and people to read it i guess #but ive become really obsessive about being a bad person and its ruining my life lately #there was an incident at home that made me go back into this old thought process i have #and the roomate struggles have made it worse #i feel needy and constantly needing attention and validation and it makes me sick #i want to tell people i love them constantly because i need to but then i convince myself thats also bad that must be manipulation #everytime i dislike someone they must know it and hate me and find me disgusting #im like so tired of obsessions #of not being able to hear words i cant make out without becoming obsessive about how people must be talking about me #and i hate the aftershocks of shame of assuming im even important enough to be talked about #vent tw