#no matter if you're cis or not

[uncanny-tranny]

You know, I feel like other trans people might get this, but it's honestly kind of refreshing when a cis person has, like, undeniable tboy/tgirl/whatever swag. It's like when you come across somebody who speaks the same language as you and you only find out when they start speaking it, too.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #all this to say that we are existing on a rock hurling through space #and this universe is going to collide into another and does it all truly matter in the end? #a lot of this is based on ideas we have about what constitutes certain people and i think it can be a fun observation #so long as you do not inherently ascribe certain traits as being indicative of who somebody Is #it can be amusing when you're SO confident that somebody is a certain way until you realize how Wrong you were #the amusement for me only comes because it's like... 'you tried your best to box somebody and you FAILED lmao' #and in a weird way it's kind of comforting because it reminds me that we all come into this world with bias that Will be challenged... #...so the best thing you can do is recognize those biases and then try to overcome them through great effort... #...so yes maybe i did think that cis dude had tboy swag but. that's not inherently his problem you know? #it probably just means he's confident in his manhood in a way that reminds me of the trans men* i know and love #i noticed that in him and it reminded me of my friends who are trans so i think 'oh! maybe that's why he's giving off those vibes!' #so while i won't treat him any differently before or after finding out i was wrong i'm still going to appreciate the fact that... #...he and i are literally just Vibing on the same planet and we both don't have time for petty arguing about manhood #i'll acknowledge what inspired those thoughts in me but that is Not his problem and that's good and beautiful actually #i don't always mind the tboy/tgirl swag meme just so long as you don't treat it like an Inherent Trans Experience Only Trans People Have #just recognize where those ideas are inspired from and it's fine <3 #sometimes you will be Wrong and that's actually fucking neutral <<3 #anyway rant over i just think this is /generally/ harmless and fun #like astrology. sometimes you just look up your star sign without ascribing your Entire Life to it <3 #i think what i lot of people mean by saying a cis person has tboy/tgirl swag is just that... #...that cis person has an understanding of themself that comes from deep introspection that isn't necessarily expected of cis folk... #...but it is often something trans people do as part of our exploration of gender... #how is this the FIRST POST to reach tag limit... ask me for more thoughts if you want lol!

[morsobaby]

For many queer individuals, long hair is just that baby skin you shed when you've outgrown it finally. And for many queer individuals, short hair is just that pot that you transfer out of because it's far too small.

Much queer about hair

#Queer #Transfem #Transmasc #transneutral #Nonbinary #Gnc #Trans #Trans thoughts #I specifically didn't say any terms for what kind of trans people want what hair #Bc it's so diverse and so personalized and culture specific especially #So enjoy this post in whichever direction #Even if you're a cis queer person. Hair matters

[moxley]

need people who are playing what i assume are cis girl tavs to stop being weird about haarlep's sex scene. you don't need to like it but the post i just saw about it not being "adapted" for "female anatomy" is extremely weird, and it's not the first time i've specifically seen complaints about tavs with "female anatomy" for that scene

you can say what you want from that scene and you can do it whilst going for something other than trans exclusionary language that makes you look like you have no imagination

#tal.png #it never even occurred to me that ppl care tht haarlep rides tav no matter tav's gender/junk until i started seeing the words Female Anatom #in posts about it #and if you're not playing a cis girl tav and you're still using the phrase female anatomy for your tav #i can only assume you are just a transphobe

[puppygirlgirldick]

new entry for the "doing hot girl shit" list: talking in an incredibly supportive space with incredibly supportive people and constantly second guessing the things i say and terminology i use and the things i experience when trying to relate and emphasize with the afab folks there, none of whom who would bat an eye or glance askance at any of the things i'm self-conscious over.

#being transfeminine is being in a constant state of hypervigilance even when you're in a place where you know you're safe #because the world is designed to make you feel like your identity and sense of self can be ripped away at any moment if you fuck up #no matter how much your friends and family reassure you that it won't. but i'll still take it over pretending to be cis any day of the week

[the-casbah-way]

not to beat a dead horse but jesus christ can you just leave people alone in public bathrooms i just want to fucking piss girl i'm so tired of feeling anxious and trying to avoid using public bathrooms because of how fucking weird cis people are about it. i tried to go into the bathroom at work today (i have worked here for years) and this woman who has worked here for two weeks and doesn't know me laughed and tried to like. steer me in the direction of the men's toilet instead and was like "wrong way!" are you fucking kidding me fuck off

#i have worked in this building for years. i know where the fucking bathroom is #like i'm sorry but cis people just don't want me in any bathroom at this point. i can't fucking win #i'm not kidding you i didn't really think that people in real life would actually make a fuss over who is in the bathroom #but at uni specifically i have had A LOT of people in the womens bathroom awkwardly tell me “uh i think you're in the wrong bathroom haha” #they're not even doing it in an antagonistic way it's like they genuinely think i've walked into the wrong one #and it makes ME feel like a creep or like i've done something wrong #like you guys are the ones that insist i should be in this bathroom !!!! but then i go in there and get told i'm in the wrong one !!!! #it's one of the few things that never fails to make me feel anxious and sad because it's a fucking bathroom it shouldn't be a big deal #why am i being made to feel like i've done something wrong when i'm just trying to exist here like everyone else #and you know what. it doesn't matter how i identify right. because i've actually done nothing to intentionally masculanise my appearance #like the entire time i've been out. i had short hair before i came out and i dressed this way before i came out #i have not done anything to try and Look Like A Man or Look Cis. i just have masc bone structure NATURALLY #so for all you know i could just be a woman with short hair ????? and you're telling me i don't belong in here because of that ?? #like sure i'm NOT a woman with short hair but my point is you literally cannot tell the difference #so just leave people alone

[andthebeanstalk]

My first time watching Glass Onion it was obvious that Miles' speeches were bullshit, but I still searched for any hidden meaning there might be.

The second time is a different experience though because every time my brain starts to search for meaning, I feel like Benoit Blanc discovering that no, there is absolutely no hidden meaning.

It's bullshit it's all nothing nothing nothing! It is just how you end up talking when everyone reacts to your self-aggrandizing word vomit like it is actually wisdom.

Also, legit, when Miles gave his stupid bullshit speech about what the word 'disruptor' means to him, I shit you not I was like holy shit am I back in business school right now?!

Miles must have given speeches like that at 100 business school graduations, goddamn.

Like, the motherfuckers really do sound like this. We didn't have any billionaires come, but we had a lot of millionaire guest speakers in my classes, and they fucking talk like that.

They all think they're rugged capitalists, but they're just glass onions!

#original #glass onion #it's just. business school prepared me really well to succeed in the business world as a straight white neurotypical #able-bodied cis man with a large network of very wealthy friends and family #I really would have killed it if I wasn't a queer autistic cripple! #even the best teachers seemed incredibly unaware of the enormous privilege that they were assuming in their students when they taught #but they basically presupposed you had infinite energy and savings and a disturbingly large number of my classes were just #lectures about pushing as hard as you can no matter what #they used Starbucks as an example of an admirable case of somebody who persisted in going to 150 investor pitches before being approved #and like. how many people do you know who have enough savings to schedule plan and attend 150 investor pitches? #how many people do you know who could set up even 12 through their connections? #where are those savings coming from? where are those investor pitch meetings coming from? those aren't easy to get!! #but none of this was ever mentioned it was just awesome that the guy kept trying I guess. #I have a sneaking suspicion that if I were to have dug deeper into some of the examples we were given that a lot of those #real life businesses probably started with a big big loan from somebody's parents #I was listening to the show you're wrong about which is a really good podcast and Michael Hobbs was like #anytime you see an article glorifying someone's financial success especially at a young age you should control F for 'parents' #because chances are you will probably see the word 'parents' somewhere next to the words 'million dollar loan' #anyway college is a scam. the community aspect was incredibly cool but I don't see why we as a culture need to only be able to access that #kind of community when we are paying a scam Institution a shitload of money for Educations that aren't helpful for the majority of us #if College was free then people could actually study things that are useful or fun for them #I took most of my courses just to fill out my major too. the point wasn't to learn it was to graduate. #and then it turned out that if you're disabled in the way i am it doesn't matter if you have a college degree! #but I'm sure miles would say I just need to pull myself up by my bootstraps. and that's why I'm glad his life got exploded 😌 #andi kept him around for his money - why else would he be there when no one even liked him?? #he was the bankroll #one time I swear to god we just had the guy from American Psycho just a real ass Patrick Bateman #it was wild watching that movie later and being like ???? I know this guy! #outside of the actual murder scenes everything in that movie is not exaggerated in the slightest those bitches really are like that #like my parents are not 1% level rich so there'd be no giant loans but they are rich. it'd be stupid to act like i didn't benefit from that

[randomhuman45]

Dannymay 2022- Day 17 Promise

Danny remembered the day his mother made her first promise to him. At 8 years old Danny walked up to him Mom pulling on her hazmat suit nervously shaking with tears falling down his face staining his cheeks.

"M-Mommy?" His voice quivered as his eyes stared down at his little pink shoes and frilly socks.

"What's wrong baby?" Maddie dropped down to her knees and lifted his head up to let their eyes meet. "You can tell me sweetie." Her voice was sweet as honey and full of concern as her thumbs tried to wipe away his tears off his cheeks only for them to be replaced.

"I can't have pigtails anymore." He whispered before wrapping his arms around her neck as tears turned into sobs.

"Do you want braids then? Or to have your hair down? What do you want?" Maddie didn't know why her daughter was so upset over pigtails but would support her no matter what.

"No! No, no, no, no, no!" Danny shouted shaking his head into his mother's neck.

"Okay, okay," Maddie said trying to calm her heartbroken child down. "What do you want?"

"I, I want my hair short. And," Danny paused trying to catch his breath and figure out how he wanted to say it, "I don't want dresses, don't wanna be Danielle anymore. Can, can I be Danny with a y? Please?"

"Oh baby!" Maddie grabbed her baby and hugged them as tight as possible without hurting them. "Are, are you saying that you're a boy? Or something else? What, do you need?"

"I-I'm a boy. I think, but I think so. I want to be." Danny stuttered out now nervous and panicking. "Is that okay?"

"Of course baby!" Maddie assured, "I promise no matter what, and I mean that, NO. MATTER. WHAT. I will always love you! I promise!"

"Okay, thank you Mommy! I love you!"

"Of course!"

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Danny remembered the first time his father did too. He was trying to hide his growing chest with bandages when his father burst into his room.

"Danny boy! Guess- Oh!" Jack quickly turned around trying to give his son privacy. He full heatedly supported his son and made it a point to make sure his son was treated like a son after he came out.

"Ahh! Dad, umm, uhhh. I, I think I need help." Danny huffed out both embarrassed and completely done with these bandages not working and giving him incredible aches and pains.

"You, you do? Is it like, uhhh, puberty issues? I got sock puppets for that!" Jack piped up like a eager puppy. "Wait right here and I can get the sock puppet box!"

"No! No, no, no, no. I don't need- it not about that. Well, sort of but, no, I don't need the sock puppets!" He stuttered out completely flustered at this point.

"Well, umm, what do you need then son?"

"Umm, well, you see, errr well not see see, but. I'm twelve and my chest is kinda..."

"Oh. Oh! And you don't want or like that?"

"Yeah, so umm I was trying to tape, uhh well use tape to make it not look like, uhhh, that but..."

"It's not working out like you planned?"

"Yeah," Danny sighed out.

"Don't worry son! I may know a thing or two about things not working out on the first try but you know what the best part of being a Fenton man is?" Jack pipped up.

"Ummm, eating fudge?" Danny joked with a smirk.

"Oh that's definitely a part of the gig, but the best part is that when we fail, we get back up and try again! Fenton tech doesn't always work the first round but me and your mom always try again and again to get it working to protect you kiddos!"

"So, what do we do with, uhh," Danny gestured to his now covered chest.

"Well, we can search up some options! See what's out there on that internet to see can help you out!"

"Hey, umm, thanks Dad. You know for, all of this, and umm, helping me out."

"Of course son! I promise just say the word and I'll come to your rescue! I promise I'll always help you, no matter what!"

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Maybe Danny should have kept it a secret. Maybe he could have kept it to himself like a secret identity. But his parents promised they would love him no matter what. They promised to always help him no matter what. But when he told them about the portal incident and his ability to turn into weird ghost version of himself, he thought they would love him. He thought they would help him. That's what they promised they would do. No matter what they said. No matter what they promised.

But after begging for them to let him go as he was restrained against a lab table, after crying out for it to stop as their experiments tore him apart, after pleading for food and water he realized that they wouldn't keep their promises. He should have never trusted something as trivial as a promise.

#danny phantom #dannymay 2022 #day 17 promise #i cant write #poor danny #his paents use them for their own research #its all no matter what until you're a ghost they can use for their own gain #when the fenton parents put research of their own kids #jack fenton #maddie fenton #trans danny fenton #trans danny phantom #love trans danny #you will never convince me danny is cis #no i dont take criticism on trans danny #only if I protray trans experiances incorrectly #im cis correct me if i fuck up trans stuff #i apologize in advance #i didnt reread this so good luck if there are any grammer/spelling issues

[vamptastic]

it's just like. okay. when i say i like men in a gay way and women in a lesbian way i don't mean that i think straight attraction is icky or my attraction is somehow more enlightened and progressive. i mean that I've spent the formative years of my sexuality in a place with my gender presentation where people are equally as likely to see me as a man or a woman and often seem to think of me as both, and i cannot separate both my attraction to men or to women from that. ive always felt drawn to butchness because its this concept that your love for the same gender shapes your gender presentation and vice versa, but it's specific to womanhood and attraction to women as a woman in a way i can't entirely relate to. like, in many ways i am both a man and a woman, and i am attracted to both men and woman in a way both shaped by and reflected by that fact.

#there's not really a clear label for that is there #i suppose i don't need one it's just to have that cos you can find similar people #i suppose bisexual as a gender is the closest i can get #like both sexes and also attracted to both sexes and those two things each are linked to and affected by the other #i don't know. i expect my feelings on this will change as i transition and people start to really see me as a man #and not the in-between ive been in since puberty (thank you pcos combined with massive badonkahonkawonkadonks) #it's just sort of frustrating to feel like nobody gets it #like lesbians are into me cos they think im butch #a specific type of man-autistic nerds (affectionate)-seem to just see me as a regular ol woman #and when confronted with the reality that i am not seem to not really care either way about my gender #other trans people are into me and they do generally get it but not always #and gay guys are into me sometimes but i don't really pass consistently enough for it to happen often #like im not actively seeking a partner n i don't both passing day to day cos everyone knows im trans already #n binding is a living hell when you're fat with a fucking. idk the size like E or F probably. cup size. #so mostly ppl approach me thinking im butch but occasionally ppl think im a guy in photos i post and such or #strangers will ask my friends abt me thinking im a guy #but like generally speaking no matter what i don't get to just be A Man. and i don't know if i really want to be! i like being trans #and it sucks because ive missed out entirely on dating in middle/high school like when you find out who you like #simply for being trans. ik most queer ppl end up doing it all in college its just frustrating yk. cos all my cis friends get to do it #realistically speaking im p much just t4t i really only have actually tried to date trans people + trans people are hotter + they get it #which im fine with. i love trans people . just sucks to be excluded sometimes even when u don't want in

[moe-broey]

Something something about how Moe is both and neither due to its failure to perform or achieve "either" set of gendered expectations, regardless of its own personal feelings of gender identity (which is complex in and of itself), which results in it ultimately fitting in nowhere.

#moe tag #like moe's identity is exclusively masculine but its 'doing it wrong' on purpose. fag style. #and in this performance it still doesn't quite fit with the men. it's ultimately something else. #and ofc there is the failure to adhere to cis feminity/expectations. it's doing it wrong bc it was never capable of doing that correctly #even if it 'seemed' like it was. it wasn't. #i think this is why moe has become such a fascinating way for me to express and explore my own gender identity #where there are significant differences. moe is literally just more well-written LMFAOOOO #like what do you mean you're a feminine trans man. that you're exclusively a man when you look Like That. #moe just cuts to the chase by being genderqueer and therefore 'other' by default. #and the way that it is does very much feel like the way i experience my gender despite my own view of myself #even though i'm a man. i'll never be 'a man' in the same way the average joe is. hell i bet there are other transmen #who 'achieve' manhood in a way i cannot. which isn't really a judgement or an insecurity for me like more power to them #it's just me expressing objectively that no matter how easy it is for me to view myself the way i do #i'm always going to be subjected to the perception of others. some will get it. some won't. #and that's sort of what i mean about being 'othered' despite my own view of myself/ #despite moe's own view of itself. again it's just so much more easy and concise to explain w moe bc its identity #exists outside of the binary. while a huge core of mine is that it DOES exist in the binary. i'm just a faggot about it LMFAO

[uncanny-tranny]

I think more people need to accept that part of oppression is that violence is done to maintain systems, and while part of that is punishing the oppressed, not everybody abused by the systems of power will be part of oppressed groups.

A cis woman who is beaten for the "crime" of being thought as a trans woman still faced transphobic violence. A straight man who walks down the street and is called a faggot will still face homophobic violence.

Some people assume this means that, for instance, gay people facing homophobia shouldn't be listened to because "straight people can face homophobia, too! 😢" but that's looking at it wrong.

What this acknowledgment recognizes is that while there are people who will be directly abused by systems that oppress them, and often, it is incredibly violent all by itself, there are people on the "out group" who also experience it, even to a lesser extent, because the systems of power that oppress people want there to be an intrinsically lesser person/out group, even if by perceived proximity. The proximity is also what we have to get rid of if we want to abolish the systems that oppress people.

#politics #i think many people are weary of this because (understandably) it can come across as derailment #but when it's done right it's a reminder that these systems are built to persecute no matter what #that you can't 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' and become part of the in-group if you're not deemed 'worthy of it' #and that oppression and violence are nuanced and messy because the way it is applied is done by humans #and recognizing for instance when a cis woman faces transphobic violence... #...you start noticing that womanhood is often used as a tool of punishment #i think people CAN bring this up in ways that downplay when oppressed people discuss the violence they faced... #...but i don't think that necessarily devalues the conversation and how it is an arm of oppression

[dootznbootz]

There's something so specifically infuriating when someone uses one of your experiences or your demographic in an argument, especially if said argument is about spreading hatred or is just so wrong. They "speak on behalf of the ___" to say such fucked shit.

"You're not thinking of the ___!"

"I literally am ___. You saying that adds nothing as you do not speak for me or for other ___. Shut up."

#I really really hate it. It angers me in such a specific way that just skldjf ksdl #... #vent below. idk. I'm really sorry #Mad rambles #Terfs will be like “oh think of survivors! 'MEN' can share women's spaces!” like shut the actual fuck up. SHUT UP. Shut your damn mouth #A terf is so much more dangerous than a trans person. Me. a tiny cis woman is so much more dangerous to a terf than a transperson is. #Because I will obliterate you. How dare you say you speak on MY behalf? As if I don't know what I'm fucking talking about. #as if you're “protecting me” by spewing such bullshit? by treating someone as a danger when they're not?! #Especially when they believe it's a fucking TRUMP CARD. Like mentioning it means they're right!!! when obviously they're not!!! #Or when they think the fact that I'm cis will make me agree with them! I'm cis simply because I am. I'm not better or worse because of it #being cis doesn't mean I'm fine with bullshit though! #I really hate feeling almost as if like...idk I'm “known” for talking about this but it's just so so infuriating. people will act like they #know when they don't. Obviously every experience is different and terfs who are survivors I hope you find peace and my heart goes out to yo #but you also need to get your fucking head outta your ass. Saying such things isn't the way to heal and you're hurting others with it. #It's NOT about hating men or trans people! the “men are always violent/women are always victims” mentality needs to fuck off #as if it's just the script of life and that it's inescapable no matter what. that it's the truth even if circumstances say otherwise. #...I'm going to possibly block the epic tag for a bit. I have the name of the saga blocked but like... It's just genuinely upsetting. #my story got picked apart too on how it wasn't actually that bad. that I'm actually the fucking worst. “Men are just like that sweetie” #BULLSHIT!!! Gender doesn't dictate a person's morals. Being good and kind does. It doesn't matter what form that takes! #not even saying HE'S good and kind as he's horrible and wonderful at the same time but about this stuff? Do what you want but #I DO think you're insane if you see it as otherwise and it makes me wanna lock my door. You're not a bad person probably but also 🙃 #I get that there's history but there's also the fucking TEXT. #I don't know. I'm really sorry #tw trauma #tw sa mention #I'm not necessarily against reblogging this (I don't care) but don't post with tags. please

[thoughtsofthegirlwiththecurl]

Fellow Americans, Kelly Jensen at Book Riot has very kindly compiled a list of all the people endorsed in US school board elections tomorrow by the hate group Mom's for Liberty. PLEASE make sure you vote tomorrow so none of these book banners and potential domestic terrorists make it into office (and also do your due diligence with the rest of your ballot; this is a great place to start but just because they aren't endorsed my Moms for Liberty doesn't mean they don't subscribe to their agenda--we have 3 extreme book banners and a literal nazi on our ballot who aren't on this list):

#american politics #current events #if you aren't familiar with them Moms for Liberty has been classed a hate group by the US govt #members frequently threaten to bomb children's story time at public libraries to “save” the kids #I'm not sure at this point if the FBI has charged any of their members for calling in actual bomb threats #but I'm sure it's only a matter of time #and if you're like 'allison what are you talking about' #I'd invite you to look into the meteroic rise in bomb threats recieved by public libraries in the past year #but moms for liberty's purpose is book bans; they're fueling the vast majority of them--very like a troll farm #they provide you a script and a list of books and assure you you don't even have to have kids or live in the district or have read the books #they don't think non-white non-het non-cis people should exist and are attempting to force school libraries to reflect this view

[free-range-tiddies]

Honestly, you're a dummy bitch if you think that you won't be on the chopping block next, when they finish killing off Trans people. Your transphobia isn't gonna protect your rights.

#you goofy radfem term bitches are gonna be the FIRST to go once they're done with Trans people #because deny it all you want- it doesn't matter how Cis you are- you have a lot in common with Trans people sweetie #this anti-abortion shit? that's because you wanted to have everybody's pussy examined at the bathroom #now you're hollering and crying because you don't have access to Plan B #when you denied Trans People access to a bathroom #I don't fucking feel sorry for you

[gaydogmarriage]

#like a fucking idiot i keep checking on these fics believing this time they might be normal about it and not a single fucking time are they #youd think if people can grasp 'vagina doesn't make you a woman' they wouldn't struggle with 'birth doesn't make you a mother' but nope #thats apparently a super advanced logic leap that doesnt fucking occur to these people #the title of father is a special unique title only given to people who nutted in their partners if you've got different anatomy sorry you'r #stuck with mom mother mommy mama forever <3 because that's what you are no matter your lived reality #and like whatever if an mpreg writer cant be assed to do trans rep and wants to bend over backwards to justify why in this au or with this #species their blorbo is cis men can carry i'd still say read the fucking room about the gendering but i'm not getting the pitchforks #but jesus christ if you make the deliberate choice to make your character trans and put it in trans tags maybe consider trans people will b #reading it and won't appreciate a misgendering jumpscare #god this fandom is so shitty to trans men

[varibean]

kyle and wendy are trans boys, kenny and butters are trans girls, stan has got some flavour of nonbinary going on, and anybody who can figure out what the fuck tweek has going on gets 100$ (whenever asked he just goes “??? i’m gay???”)

#south park #zk.txt #tweek: why do you need to know what are you a cop oh my god you're an undercover agent aren't you YOU WANT TO SELL ME TO THE GOVERNMENT- #craig doesn't even know #'you know i'd love you no matter what right? it's ok if you're not cis.' #'...so like i was saying the underwear gnomes have expanded beyond just underwear and they're now taking my socks too-'

[dykekakashi]

like this is the sort of ridiculous thing i'm talking about y'all are telling people they are bad for playing a game from a problematic franchise how do these people have friends irl fbejebene how do you manage human relationships. you meet sb who is very cool and kind and three weeks later they ask you to watch harry potter with them. do you just like, block their ass irl?

#i don't want to get wrapped up in tumblr discourse but it's just like. how is fandom supposed to survive this shit honestly #people like this make up a huge chunk of fandom now it's impossible to enjoy anything sjsbskwj #i don't even care about harry potter but if my friends request it on movie night i will not stop talking to them? #also the way this is only targeted at cis people like .... if you're going to make an argument for material harm #it literally does not matter whether ur cis or trans. the money jkr receives is the same ... ?