#shomer negiah

[laineystein]

Every mitzvah is a good mitzvah and also: when are we, as Jews, going to stop ripping one another apart? The rest of the world does it enough from the outside. Why are we supporting their endeavors? At what point do we realize that the unconditional support that encourages all of the wonderful, beautiful, magical things that make Judaism so diverse is the same unconditional support that fosters the collective Jewish identity?

#jumblr #Jew things #yuval dayan #baal teshuvah #shomer negiah #kol isha #in this house we love and champion all baalei teshuvah #(​and all Jews in general) #we as a people are exhausting sometimes

[revolutionaryletters]

fuck my lifeeeee I can tell I’m developing a crush on someone irl who I interact with a lot and now I’m gonna be really really weird for no reason

#you can’t blame me he taught me a new way of braiding challah and our hands touched a lot IM SORRY #<- that is why people shomer negiah I suppose actually lol

[dianaraven]

The Jewish Asexual Anthology

Hi!

I am working on an anthology of creative nonfiction/“personal” essays by Jewish asexual individuals. I am currently in the phase of collecting pieces, and I’d love to hear from you!

Topics include: -Shomer negiah/tzniut/Jewish cultural expectations -Growing up ace and Jewish in a secular world/in a Jewish community -Stereotypes and tropes - fitting in, breaking out -Alienation from/inclusion in Jewish and queer spaces -Family/relationship pressures, expectations, and navigation -Figuring out you’re ace -Coming out -Ace and ___ (intersectionality with other identities) -Parenting/not parenting -Sexuality/romance, or lack thereof -Ace joy, ace community -Anything else that comes to mind about the ace and jewish experience!

Pieces are ideally between 500-1,500 words, and should be in English (words or phrases in other languages may be used, as long as they are explained or translated). Anonymous pieces or pieces under a pseudonym are allowed!

Due date for a first draft is December 1st, 2023.

If interested, please email me at [email protected]!

Sincerely,

Daphna S.

@jewishaceanthology​

#call for writers #call for jewish writers #jewish #judaism #asexual #asexual pride #jumblr #posted for a friend #lgbtq #queer writers #queer jews #writeblr #writing on tumblr #writers on tumblr #queer #my writing #the jewish asexual anthology #there is now a blog for this anthology!

[handmedownpocketpussy]

Shabbat [shuvah] shalom, y'all!!

To my jews: The HHDs are tough in smaller pockets of the diaspora, hope you have days off for kol nidre/yom kippur, and that you have an easy fast

To everyone: here's to all y'all being written well in the book of life!

I am hugging you all virtually unless you're shomer negiah then I'm bowing respectfully, cheers you fucks!

#shabbat posting #just some bs #jumblr #shabbat #judaism #jewish #shabbat shalom #shabbos

[frownyalfred]

In re: pickuah nefesh and omega heats. My wife LOVES to remind me that it’s a mitzvah to fuck on shabbos, so maybe in an a/b/o world the mitzvah of satisfying a heat overrides fasting.

Also can you even imagine the crazy shit that would be in the Talmud in omegaverse… the sages discussing slick… you’re right that’s enough internet for the day. //capsrecedinghairline

You asking me this on Shabbat and me answering this on Shabbat says a lot about us, huh 😅

I suppose, as others have noted, that the line is drawn when you consider whether satisfying or not satisfying a heat/rut will have an actually detrimental effect on a person. Will they just be uncomfortable? Will they get sick or possibly die?

Just thinking about how shomer negiah would work with various dynamics makes my head hurt.

#asks #anon #thank you for this friend #Shabbat Shalom #a/b/o mention #a/b/o tw #tomorrow when I am sober I may rewrite pirkei avot through an a/b/o lens #surely this is what the people need

[fantasynovel]

i think in another life alicent is shomer negiah

[hindahoney]

I have a really really stupid question but please bare with me.

So I'm a gentile and been curious about Judaism for a while now, and because of my current living situation, I can't officially convert, but after researching it, I've started to believe in the religion itself. I know it's SO SO stupid since I'm a gentile, but I want to know your thoughts on it. Is it ok that I have those beliefs despite being unable to practice or should I stop until I get my new place and officially convert? I really hope this makes sense cuz I wanna be respectful. Genuinely.

This isn't stupid at all! You're allowed to believe in our religion! Like you said, you just can't practice Jewish laws and rituals, but you can still follow the seven noahide laws. The seven noahide laws are meant for the nations to follow. Here they are:

- Establish courts of law and ensure justice in our world

With every act of kindness and justice we are helping to repair the world and establish harmony. This includes keeping the laws of whatever land we are in.

- Don’t curse God.

- Do not practice idolatry.

You don't have to just know God, but you also have to disregard other gods.

- Do not eat from a still living animal.

This is to show respect for all of His creatures and not be unnecessarily cruel.

- Do not engage in illicit sexuality.

"Noahides are prohibited from engaging in six illicit sexual relationships: with one’s mother, with one’s father’s wife, with another man’s wife, with his sister from the same mother, in a male homosexual union, and with an animal as it says, ‘Therefore shall a man leave his father…’ this refers to his father’s wife; ‘and his mother…” refers to the mother; ‘and cling to his wife…’ and not another’s wife; ‘wife…’ and not a homosexual union; ‘and become one flesh‘ (Genesis 2:24) excluding animals… (Maimonides, Laws of Kings, 9:5)

The Torah prohibits male homosexuality, but not female interestingly. Shomer negiah does not apply between two women either. However, personally I don't see a problem with any sexuality or gender expression. This is a passage I have struggled with. Don't fret too much if this is not a law you can follow.  While we don't know how exactly He will judge us, we believe he takes into account the totality of circumstances. Violating this law because you love someone of the same sex is not the same as committing incest or bestiality.

You will find in most Jewish communities that this is not a problem and that most people won't judge or ostracize you for your sexuality. This is a more common issue in orthodox communities, however the orthodox Jews that I have spoken to have told me they are of the opinion nobody can follow all of the laws 100% of the time, and that being in a same sex relationship is not any worse than other violations.  In any case it is not anyone's place to judge you and use scripture against you.

- Do not participate in bloodshed

- Do not rob.

This includes kidnapping

#ask Hinda

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

What is your personal advice for people who are dating to overall make sure a long term relationship has a good chance of working out?

Don't date to go on dates, even fun dates. Date to find someone with whom you're compatible.

Before you date anyone, make sure you are clear for yourself on your values and life goals - both those that are completely nonnegotiable, and those things that are important but you might be willing to set aside under the right circumstances.

Once you're dating, don't beat around the bush. Make it clear that you're looking for a serious, long term relationship. Get to the important issues early. Don't hide parts of yourself for fear that the other person won't like you. If you want different things out of dating, or if you disagree on key values/goals, or if they won't be interested in you once they find something out about you, figure that out right away and move on. It's not meant to be! Don't waste either of your time.

Your heart matters (you obviously have to feel something for this person), but make sure you're using your head. Someone can be really enjoyable to spend time with but not a good long term match when it comes down to the important things. Drawing out a relationship with them despite that will only lead to hurt for one or both of you down the road. The other way this comes into play is the way that having a physical relationship with the person can cloud your judgement. Now, I realize that most non-Orthodox people are not realistically going to be full-on shomer negiah, but nevertheless I would suggest at least pushing off/limiting the extent of physical intimacy until you've established at minimum some basic understanding that your values align. ("But won't that scare people away?" Maybe! But remember, if expressing your values scares someone away, all that means is it wasn't going to work out in the long run regardless. Congrats, you filtered them out and avoided wasting your time.) The hormone rush that comes along with intimacy can be very heady, and it makes it a lot less easy to be logical and objective about the relationship.

[holdoncallfailed]

i'm reading fake accounts by lauren oyler (continuing my tradition of showing up three years late to the twitter zeitgeist book club) and i actually like it despite the ultra self-aware tone which i ordinarily find irritating. however i'm perhaps irrationally bothered by a scene where a hasidic boy in south williamsburg asks the protagonist for directions (!!) and then as a gesture of thanks he kisses her hand because ummmmmm a hasidic boy would absolutely not do that so why include it? like what's the value. nothing about the interaction was accurate to how hasidic people act irl...what's the point... (shrek voice) she doesn't even know about shomer negiah

#lauren oyler how can i trust your incisive cultural critiques when this scene is so implausible on every level... #text

[doublism]

recently came across the blog of an honest to god ultra orthodox jew on here like a breslov hasidic jew and i scrolled through their blog just absolutely astounded and like in awe trying to make sense of it. like there were these posts about shomer negiah and shit? and i was like this has got to be a joke but i couldn't figure out a reason why anyone on earth would breslovfake for clout?? but like how are you on the internet then because from what i know most of those folks aren't allowed to be lest they see a photo of a woman and god forbid experience arousal or whatever. like if you're shomer negiah and all that strict stuff surely you wouldn't be online? weird

[enoughaboutmenow]

shomer negiah except for my nail tech

#frumblr #jewish #judaism

[neon-jackalope]

Was requested to do all the numbers by @nicothepico

1. selfie

2. what would you name your future kids?

Hypothetically i like Athena, Gülben, Reza

3. do you miss anyone?

Some of my siblings

4. what are you looking forward to?

My trip to Washington this summer

5. is there anyone who can always make you smile?

My coworker nate

6. is it hard for you to get over someone?

Used to be. Now i just move forward

7. what was your life like last year?

Stressful

8. have you ever cried because you were so annoyed?

Annoyed no

9. who did you last see in person?

My boss

10. are you good at hiding your feelings?

Very good

11. are you listening to music right now?

Yep, tan dun compositions

12. what is something you want right now?

To get railed and some kosher pizza

13. how do you feel right now?

Deeply and woefully depressed 😘

14. when was the last time someone of the opposite sex hugged you?

Uhhhh a couple months ago my mom hugged me when my dad died

15. personality description

Rolf from ed,edd and eddy but make him spooky and jewish

16. have you ever wanted to tell someone something but you didn’t?

Yes. Its a daily struggle

17. opinion on insecurities.

Its normal but you should work past them

18. do you miss how things were a year ago?

Absolutely not

19. have you ever been to New York?

Used to live there

20. what is your favourite song at the moment?

Cruel by tori amos

21. age and birthday?

Gregorian july,1st 1992. Hebrew 30th of sivan 5752. Age 30

22. description of crush.

Truthfully like my uncle anush

23. fear(s)

The ocean, jellyfish, arachnids, christmas nutcrackers

24. height

5’10” / 177.8 cm

25. role model

Che guevara

26. idol(s)

Uhhhhh none?

27. things i hate

Cauliflower. Texas

28. i’ll love you if…

You let me info dump and actually take an interest in what im going on about

29. favourite film(s)

10 things I hate about you, the craft, fiddler on the roof, yentl, umma

30. favourite tv show(s)

Inuyasha, naruto, uhh various documentary shows

31. 3 random facts

I assume about me so..

1. I have marfan syndrome

2. Im multilingual

3. I have 14 siblings

32. are your friends mainly girls or guys?

Mostly equal mix at this point, though most of my close friends are neither

33. something you want to learn

How to sing

34. most embarrassing moment

Thats hard because im a fool. Probably when i out of habit from my job, i met newbies in my synagogue and i reached to shake the wifes hand and i forgot she already told me she was shomer negiah

35. favourite subject

Geography

36. 3 dreams you want to fulfill?

Spiders crawling out of my mouth

Going back to school and my hebrew teacher speaking to me backwards

Becoming an artist

37. favourite actor/actress

Michelle yeo, melina kanakaredes , parminder nagra.

38. favourite comedian(s)

Kathleen madigan, margaret cho,

39. favourite sport(s)

Soccer/futball. Hockey

40. favourite memory

My summers in cloudcroft

41. relationship status

Classified

42. favourite book(s)

The black tide of heaven by neon yang

43. favourite song ever

Impossible to narrow down to one.

44. age you get mistaken for

I was once told i looked 37 when i was 24 at the time so do with that what you will

45. how you found out about your idol

I dont think I have one

46. what my last text message says

“Also long. And emotional” (recent death stuff)

47. turn ons

Very long list.

48. turn offs

Being conceited. No weird sense of humor. Toe jam.

49. where i want to be right now

British Columbia

50. favourite picture of your idol

Again????

51. starsign

Gregorian cancer, hebrew gemini

52. something i’m talented at

Track and field

53. 5 things that make me happy

Japanese food

Travel

Art

My friends

Lizards

54. something thats worrying me at the moment

Whether or not im about to snap and sling myself off this mortal coul

55. tumblr friends

So many. Just check who i reblog from lol

56. favourite food(s)

Baklava, gözleme, litteh torshi, lamb

57. favourite animal(s)

Bats n lizards

58. description of my best friend

Ethereal, we are not worthy. German

59. why i joined tumblr

Porn and witches

60. ask me anything you want

Well whats your question????

#ask meme #a face nobody asked for

[thekillersareeatingtheflesh]

bigender jewish and touch-repulsed call that bitch shomer negiah

#ive made this joke before im sure #its still funny whatever #nicheposting again #shut up frank

[siennamain]

Making AC OC's is just me going: Ok, they should be shomer negiah. But also, what'd be the cultural consensus on that in an Assassin community? Cuz they kill people. Wait no, just cuz you do something you shouldn't, doesn't mean you can just do everything else. Ok, but they've definitely touched people that aren't they're gender, and I choose to believe the Assassins are pretty chill with queer stuff, which complicates things further.

And it's just that on repeat