i’ve been listening on and off to this guided meditation lucid dreaming thing on youtube for a sleep aid, i really like some of those. and last night i had a mini lucid dream finally, it hadn’t happened yet.
for whatever reason, it was about fred’s son jake. or not about him, but he was in it. i was sleeping and i woke up and he was there, and i laughed with delight because i realized he couldn’t possibly be in my room in georgia, so it was a dream. and i was like oh, hey, jake. haha and he was friendly and smiley and he goes, “what? :)”. like, “what’s funny?”. and i said, “i’m having a dream right now, we’re in my dream! hahaha” and he laughed too, and then it was over.
Is it a common stoic practice to avoid flattery? For example, every semester I’m invited to a work study appreciation reception for student employees on my college campus. I’ve always declined the offer because I felt it just isn’t necessary. What should I do?
‘A single death is a tragedy; a million deaths is a statistic.’ - Joseph Stalin
I’m sure we’ve all heard about the awful incidents in Sri Lanka that have left hundreds of people dead or injured. I cannot even begin to imagine what runs through people’s heads when they are committing such devastating and disgusting acts, and less so can I understand how those who have lost someone must feel or even stay standing. The world is cruel.
One thing that does make my stomach churn, which has been happening a lot as of late, is when I see people who cannot just allow something so horrific to be what it is. Why can I not just feel bad for the people that have suffered and are suffering in Sri Lanka because of what has just happened? Why can we not just focus on them and give them our attention and love and aid. It took almost no time at all for people to very quickly start saying things like “if billionaires could raise €600m overnight for Notre Dame, why can’t they do the same for Sri Lanka?” and “when the Christchurch shooting happened, the world listened more, but not when it’s to Christians”. Why do we feel the need to compare tragedies?
This second statement is the crux of my issue. I think those who view things such as how much reporting there is on the Christchurch Mosque, and Sri Lanka Easter Sunday terror attacks as being based only on religion must see the world in a very black and white way. I think it would be ignorant to say that there is more coverage of one because they are Muslims but the world does not care about Christians, so there is not as much coverage.
How the world views a tragedy is more than just the religion of the person who suffers, but also - whether or not this is conscious is another matter - we take into account the socio-economic status of the country. I’m not saying that when something awful happens in Africa, we think ‘ah, who cares, they’re all poor there anyway’, that’s not what I’m saying for a moment, but that we as a people become desensitised to the suffering that happens in poorer or third world countries. I can only imagine the outcry that would happen if children here in London died from malnutrition, and parents would go to prison for neglect, social services would be criticised for not being aware of this, the government would step up, everyone would know that this has happened. But when millions of children die in Africa from the same thing, there isn’t the same reaction. I am not saying that it is what should be happening or that we don’t care, I don’t think caring comes into it, but we are desensitised to it. When an attack happens in a flourishing place such as Christchurch, the world is shocked because we do not expect it to happen there. At the same time as the Christchurch terror attack, one hundred and twenty Christians were killed in Africa by a cult of Muslims, this did not receive the same coverage, but not because the world does not care for Christians.
But let us look at other instances that do not have a foot in religion. Back in 2012, a fire broke out in Bangladesh in a factory. The fire broke out on the ground floor and with poor fire exits (which you had to access through the ground floor alone), many were trapped. Because the factory created fabrics, the fire spread quickly and was very strong. In the fire, one hundred and ten lives were lost and a further two hundred people were injured. There was not outcry globally for the atrocity. It was mentioned in the news but it was not something that was given attention, and I do believe that this is because Bangladesh is a third world country. However, in 2017, when a fire broke out in Grenfell Tower, here in London, it was big news in Bangladesh and in other countries. Similar to Bangladesh, the Grenfell fire started towards the base of the building and because there were insufficient fire exits, the people found themselves trapped, and seventy-two people were killed. The two instances are viewed differently however because a disaster such as this is not something we expect in a first world country.
Caring for one thing does not mean that we do not care for another. Care is care and a tragedy is a tragedy, They ought not to be compared to other things. I saw online that people were arguing that the money that was pledged to Notre Dame should have gone to a greater cause, like rehousing those who lost everything in Grenfell. This is the same as arguing that the money you spent on your holiday should have gone to the poor instead. Let us pay our respect to those who were lost and those who suffer without feeling the need to make a point in their deaths.
N.B. As ever, these are just my opinions and what I have observed. You need not agree.
Next time you hear of some fantasy work ask yourself where the undeniably non-white people are THEN ask where they come from because OFTEN the writers shoved all the brown people onto 1. An island 2. A peninsula 3. The exact opposite direction of where the main characters are and 4. Nobody knows but it’s not around here. It’s a very oddly specific thing I’ve noticed, considering it’s not based on real life and on purpose
so I tried giving billie eilish’s new album another shot (the first time, I reached the end of track 2 and I couldn’t go any further), and I still couldn’t do it. i guess it’s just my noisy grunge brain talking but the biggest complaint I have is I want… more. it’s like there’s something missing, and I don’t know if it’s the production or what, but I keep expecting the songs to pick up and go forth and thrash, and they don’t: they all sound robotic and anticlimactic and it’s like Lana Del Rey all over again in that I just don’t get it. Quite the letdown, especially given her biggest influences are Nirvana, Green Day, and Avril. If this woman needs to make her mark, she’s got her work cut out for her.
A*mys on twt poking fun of people who believe other groups “should have a chance” seem to have completely forgotten what it’s like to have idols you believe are just as deserving be completely snuffed out by bigger groups.
i feel so lonely at the moment, so desperate for companionship. i just want someone to hold me. to sleep beside me. to run their fingers through my hair, to fuck me. to massage my shoulders. to trace patterns into my skin. to weave their fingers through mine. i just want love and tenderness and intimacy, it’s all i want