#tim kreider

[lovecrumbss]

hozier - unknown / nth • tim kreider

#hozier #unreal unearth #tim kreider #web weaving #quotes

[sunpdf]

liv ullmann, changing // ocean vuong, on earth we’re briefly gorgeous // hana shafi, gaze // tim kreider, i know what you think of me

#liv ullmann #ocean vuong #hana shafi #tim kreider #changing #on earth we're briefly gorgeous #gaze #i know what you think of me #the mortifying ordeal of being known #perceived

[imaginemirage]

if we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known.

Tim Kreider

#tim kreider #quote #quotes #poetry #poem #poet #love #relationships

[quote-tournament]

Second round, thirtieth fight

Quote number 129 :

You cannot kill me in a way that matters.

-That one Tumblr post about a mushroom

VS

Quote number 132 :

If we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known

-Tim Kreider

#this is the second round of quotes #quotes #polls #quote number 129 #quote number 132 #mushroom #tell me the name of god you fungal piece of shit #decay exists as an extant form of life #tim kreider #the mortifying ordeal of being known #yes i am aware that i am putting two bad bitches against eachother #i am not pleased about it either

[sameoldloneliness]

“in hindsight, it feels like I let someone crack open my chest and root around in there, and I don’t know what to do now that someone else knows the shape of my left ventricle.”

what does it mean to be known?

i know what you think about me by tim kreider // everything everywhere all at once (2022) // nobody puts baby in the corner - fall out boy // ladybird (2017) // true blue - boygenius // for self examination by søren kierkegaard // inside by bo burnham // myself

#journaling musings #wanting someone to know you but not knowing yourself #thinking... about being misunderstood #tim kreider #everything everywhere all at once #fall out boy #ladybird #boygenius #soren kierkergaard #kierkegaard #bo burnham #inside #webweaving #compilation #parallels

[tunisian]

“About the best thing I got out of any of those affairs was a really good pie crust recipe. But if anyone were to ask me, “Have you ever been in love?” I could at least say, with the same sort of rueful pride as a recovering alcoholic who’s asked whether he’s ever been known to take a drink: “Oh, yes.” I’ve known kisses so narcotic they made my eyes roll back in my head. For a few weeks one winter I walked around feeling like I had a miniature sun in my heart. I learned that making out on the subway is one of those things, like smoking cigars or riding Jet-Skis, that is obnoxious and repulsive when other people do it but incredibly fun when it is you. And there are still songs that, whenever I hear them, whatever I’m doing, will send me into a moment’s exquisite reverie, like an old injury’s twinge at an oncoming storm. Maybe one reason artists seems so susceptible to love affairs is that being in love is one of the only times when life is anything like art—when we actually feel the way torch songs and arias sound, the way Gene Kelly looks singing in the rain. It might all have been worth it if I’d been the only one hurt.”

— Tim Kreider, excerpt from Reprieve in We Learn Nothing

#tim kreider #we learn nothing #one winter I walked around feeling like I had a miniature sun in my heart #oooohhhhh...

[deadpansasser]

Yeah yeah, "the mortifying ordeal of being known" Tim Kreider's friend's dream invention- you gotta hear the worst of what people say about you to get to the good stuff.

Sorry, I think the poet Alexis Rose put it best when she said, "people aren't thinking about you the way that you're thinking about you."

When people talk about you, I've found most of the time they are actually saying one or more of these things:

I'm in a bad mood

My needs are not being met

My social capital is increased by gossip and jokes

My cultural indoctrination was tested

I don't have the skills or knowledge to understand that person

I misinterpreted the situation

I want to save face

My standards weren't met

I don't see that person as a person

I believe it's not fair to me

My social position will improve by saying this

I mistook my feelings for the truth

How much of what is said about you is really about you?

#Tim kreider #the mortifying ordeal of being known #alexis rose

[mugchild]

sOMEBODY link that article of tim kreider (mortifying ordeal of being known) but then him discovering that it went viral on tumblr and responding to it and what he thought of it i need it for research purposes

#nyt #tim kreider #the mortifying ordeal etc etc #the mortifying ordeal of being perceived #love #philosophy #tumblr things #reblog appreciated #t. #text

[teawiththespleen]

starting a collection

if you want to enjoy the rewards of being loved, you also have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known. [ x | x ]

and what maintains our real-life relationships is self-disclosure [ x ]

#the mortifying ordeal of being known #tim kreider #melinda wenner moyer #substack

[aboydreamsofflowers]

It came as a belated epiphany to me when I learned that the Greeks had several different words for the disparate phenomena that in English we indiscriminately lump together under the label love. Our inability to distinguish between, say, eros (sexual love) and storgé (the love that grows out of friendship) leads to more than semantic confusion. Careening through this world with such a crude taxonomical guide to human passion is as foolhardy as piloting a plane ignorant of the difference between stratus and cumulonimbus, knowing only the word cloud.

- Tim Kreider, The Creature Walks Among Us

#tim kreider #love quotes #greek tumblr

[coupleofdays]

When I recently read the question "would you sleep with a clone of yourself?", I was reminded of this strip from one of my favorite comics, Tim Kreider's The Pain. The question is worded slightly differently, but I think it provides some interesting answers:

#Comics #The Pain #Tim Kreider #tag yourself

[oceanstone]

“But the things people love about you aren't necessarily the things you *want* to be loved for. They decide they like you for reasons completely outside your control, of which you're often not even conscious: it's certainly not because of the big act you put on, all the charm and anecdotes you've calculated for effect. (And if your act *does* fool someone, it only makes you feel like a successful fraud, and harbor some secret contempt for them — the contempt of a con artist for his mark — plus now you're condemned to keep up that act forever, lest she Realize.)”

Tim Kreider

#tim kreider #love #vulnerability

[simply-starryeyed]

“do i want to be loved in spite of?”

“do you? does anyone? but aren’t we all, to some degree?”

#this. THIS. this writing is killing me #tim kreider #i need you to. like. calm it a few notches

[quote-tournament]

First round, sixtieth fight

Quote number 131

"Kim Dokja's salvation was cruel. Like rescuing a drowning person with a blade, those saved by him were inflicted an unhealable wound."

-Omniscient Reader's Viewpoint

VS

Quote number 132

If we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known

-Tim Kreider

#this is the first round of quotes #polls #quotes #omnicient reader's view point #kim dokja #tim kreider #the mortifying ordeal of being known

[stonerphobic]

The mortifying ordeal of being known is not so bad when it is not the toll you pay for being loved. When it’s just something you do, it stops feeling so weird. People love you in conjunction with it, but you do it regardless because what other point is there to your narrative?

#thoughts #tim kreider #mortifying ordeal of being known #stonerphobic #love quotes

[j33zits]

one of the greats from the Bush era

#tim kreider #f slur #should I post it if I have to tag it like that? #eh seen worse