what is your opinion on the situation?
I've been at work all day so I haven't been able to sit down with stuff fully, it also seems like Caiti is planning to release a statement later today with more information I think? So I'd like to get her response there, but based on what I've seen so far I think I fall more on the side of "people made some dumb choices and should learn from them" than anything else.
Consent is messy and it gets messier when people start lying or are drunk. In this case, both Caiti and George were drunk. From what I understand, either Caiti had a 21+ wristband from the vidcon party, or her friend group did and assumed since she was drinking with them, she was also 21+.
Honestly, when it comes to the matter of underage drinking, I don't think it's even remotely fair to place blame on Dream/George for that. The blame there lies with Caiti deciding to drink while under 21, and on her friends, Ghostie and the other person present who were both over 21. Unlike Dream/George, both of them knew Caiti and knew exactly how old she was and were letting her drink. They were also letting her drink with no one sober and no one making sure she got home.
Now, Caiti is 18 and also I'm not a goddamn square, I'm not gonna stand here and be like "oh no drinking at 18 clutch my pearls" but like, if people are going to blame other people for that situation, that very much lies with Caiti's friends who knew they had an underage person drinking with them. I feel like people are weirdly assigning blame to Dream/George for not like, iding every person they hang out with (particularly if she had a 21+ bracelet at vidcon, which would mean she already got IDed). While completely avoiding placing any blame on the people who 100% knew they were taking an 18 year old drinking without a doubt.
Putting that aside, from my understanding George's side is he believed at the time that she was having fun, and the most they did was cuddle on a couch with other people there. He believed at the time that everything was cool, and that she later decided she was uncomfortable with what happened.
Honestly, I don't really think that's an unfair reading. At this same party, her best friend was there and from Ghostie's own words, she also didn't realize Caiti was uncomfortable until several months later when Caiti told her. If her best friend didn't notice she was uncomfortable or see anything wrong, then I find it hard to think anyone else would pick up on it.
There's certainly risks taken here that I wouldn't have taken. I think that George needs to do better with checking for consent and maybe vetting the people you're hanging out with. Although I also understand that doing a full background check on everyone you ever meet is an absurd requirement and if, at the time, they trusted the person that they actually invited, I get how that shit happens. Per consent, given that he was also drunk, I get how it may've appeared to him that he had consent. I do think it's still something to work on, but I'm also perfectly aware that in real life, people are often going off vibes and social cues, and sometimes those don't mash.
I also think that Caiti's friends have been pretty shitty throughout this. They take no responsibility for having let an 18 year old drink and then ditching her. They are absolutely milking drama out of this shit and they have a weird obsession with blaming Dream for shit he had no fault in.
As for Dream, I don't think he did anything wrong here. Full stop. If Caiti's best friend didn't notice that she was uncomfortable or unhappy, it's insanely unreasonable to expect Dream to have managed that. He was also drunk and hanging out with people, and he had no way of knowing Caiti was underage. None of that shit was his fault, and his statement seems very measured and reasonable. People are trying to blame him for things that he had absolutely no part in, and the UK group are absolutely trying to pull that shit.
Overall, sounds like several people involved made dumb choices, I hope they learn and grow. Otherwise all of this honestly sounds like shit that should've been talked out privately and not tossed to the internet for speculation. Human beings are messy and will fuck up sometimes. This feels like a case of miscommunication and people making risky choices that left people with some hurt.
Again, I may change my mind with further evidence presented, but that's how it feels to me.
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Omegaverse Worldbuilding for Coffee, Honey, and sometimes Hazelnuts.
do u really wanna know? fine.
Here are my disjointed, mostly drunk notes.
Genetics here from @omega-girl-in-heat
Packs:
Bonds between pack members don’t send emotions so much as they just send “I’m hurt” or a notification of death.
Death Notifications are always traumatic, and while everyone describes it differently, general consensus is that it fucking hurts.
Bruce felt so bad about Jason’s death because his bond not only did not dissipate, but it never sent the notification. It always just sat there, with no change. Like if Jason had gone to school.
Bonds can be forcibly broken only by Betas, and there’s Betas employed by shelters for abused spouses who specialize in breaking bonds when the other party does not want to let go.
Otherwise bonds can be broken by both party’s consent
The head of the Pack is the one who falls into that category; it’s actually usually Omegas, but it can be Alphas and Betas. In fact, in England it was a serious issue how many Noble families were actually Omegan-led instead of Alpha-led, and it was a general consensus that if you saw something, no you fucking didn’t.
The head of the pack holds sway over pack decisions. They have the house that’s used for get togethers, and keep in touch with other pack members when they are not in said house.
The amount of power said head has depends on the culture. In American culture, they can be rebelled against with little to no societal ramnifications.
Other countries have different rules, though, but again; it largely depends on the society.
Packs are unique to each person, but typically the family Pack will be their first, and that one has their Pack Leader or Pack head.
Society, General Overview:
Alphas were viewed as the more dominant and superior secondary gender (leftover mentality from England) until about the American Civil War, when Omegas and Betas forced themselves into the military, banding together to take out anyone in their way.
After fighting shoulder to shoulder, motions were put in place to guarantee equal rights for secondary genders.
Slavery still persisted, because humans love to discriminate against SOMETHING.
Norway, Denmark, Sweden, Finland, Iceland, and Greenland have had equal rights since the dawn of their civilizations, and the discrimination from other countries actually led to a few wars.
In China, Omegas are still seen as the superior secondary gender, and Alphas are seen as the lessor. Betas are often the butt of everyones jokes.
In Japan Betas are viewed as weak, and it is the Alpha and Omegas job to protect them. It’s a purely cultural thing, however, as on paper they all have equal rights.
In South Korea Nulls are seen as superior, and Betas a close second. In North Korea, the superior secondary gender is whatever the secondary gender of the current leader is.
In the middle east you get your more traditional Omegaverse setting, although there are many equal rights groups fighting to rectify it and most of the population of those countries knows those beliefs are bullshit.
Mexico granted equal rights a century sooner than America.
Too many countries to count and I’m drunko we good here to this extent.
Society, Historical Figures (why did i make this list????? but here it is????????? adolf hitler mention warning tho i think i was trying to show precedent that secondary genders really don't mean shit in terms of morality.)
Adolf Hitler - Omega.
Stalin - Beta.
Genghis Khan - Alpha.
Albert Einstein - Null.
Abraham Lincoln - Beta.
Alexander the Great - Omega
Cleopatra - Alpha
Ludwig van Beethoven - Beta
Michelangelo - Omega (the church def tried to paint him as a whore but they failed spectacularly)
Isaac Newton - Omega
Charles Darwin - Alpha
William Shakespeare - Null
Abilities and Consequences:
Alpha Command
-Primarily meant to lead others to safety
Beta Coercion
-Primarily meant to talk over conflict to offer a solution
Omega Rebuke
-Primarily meant to give out orders to Alphas and Betas
Scruffing someone who isn’t pack or in a good place to be scruffed will only activate their fight response, not their submission.
Basically, scruffing can only happen with the consent of the scruffed.
Attempting to scruff someone against their will can and will drive them into a feral state of self defense.
This can be bypassed by drugging the scruffee, however if you’ve drugged them then why scruff them?
Alphas and Omegas, while more fertile during Heat/Rut, aren’t really driven to have sex unless their significant other is present and they’re in the mood. Just slightly more horny, if at all.
While they can work during a Heat or Rut, it’s considered incredibly rude to force someone to work through it, so Alphas and Omegas typically do not. Mandatory PTO is in the USA regarding a Heat or a Rut, and even Betas and Nulls are able to get it via association with an Alpha or Omega that wants them nearby. (That last one is more recent, and it took years to get that, but it’s been in place for about fifteen years).
Omegas can Purr, Alphas can growl, Betas can do quieter versions of both and typically do what feels better to them.
Brief History of Transitioning:
It is possibly for someone to change secondary genders.
Earliest recorded instances in Medieval France of “Bitching”, or surrounding an Alpha with so many Alphas and Alpha scent and pheromones that the secondary gender transitions permanently to Omega.
Unethical Experimentation performed by Nazi Germany and Axis Japan led to the discovery of basically the ability to transition to any other secondary gender, and the discovery that secondary genders aren’t set in stone.
There are stipulations; the other secondary gender must be a recessive gene already present in the individual.
An AA Alpha cannot transition to an Omega, but an Ao Alpha can.
An OO Omega cannot transition into a Beta, but an Oa Omega can.
Any secondary gender can transition to Null, but once Null there’s no way to transition to a secondary gender.
A Beta cannot transition to an Alpha or an Omega, but they hold the traits of both genders anyways, just without Heats or Ruts. Beta bodies are designed to assist the pack as needed, so if more sires are needed Alpha traits will shine through, but if more Pups are needed Omega traits will shine through.
With the end of WW2, it was a battle to get transitioning legalized. Turkey actually legalized it first, and created some of the worlds best Transitioning centers.
Other countries followed, and by 1955, Transitioning is seen a legal pretty much anywhere in the world with the exception of Canada. (this is mostly because the Native Tribes practiced Transitioning freely, and the government is still trying to stomp them out, so it’s just overlooked for anyone who is not a Native.)
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The monsters at Eden’s, Neil getting comfortable enough to have a couple beers and eventually dancing around with Nicky and Aaron.
It’s not proper dancing at first, just a little bouncy bouncy and some movement, but then it gets to proper dancing.
Apparently Neil has ability to shake his body, and hella good rhythm.
He moves so smoothly and gracious, his hair shining and bouncing in his head, arms up and moving with the rhythm, his eyes almost close, open just enough so Andrew can see his light blue eyes.
He’s enjoying it, Nicky is having the time of his life, Aaron just got out with Katelyn, Kevin is passed out drunk in the cushions, and Andrew gets to see all this, slowly relaxes just enough to move his feet in the rhythm of the song that’s playing.
Now Neil is staring at him.
He stares and stares at his boyfriend, watches his foot rise and fall with the music, laughs, but it isn’t possible to hear due to the loud music.
Andrew can tell he says something, he shakes his head to the sides and takes another sip of his drink.
-“who is staring now?”-
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