Yeah... child labour is wrong.
Papaya and I met when we were teens so we didn't actually talk about kids! There were odd "Aw it'd be nice to have kids" or something like that but never a sit down serious talk until we were in late twenties. In hindsight I can see how we dodged the bullet there. Luckily we were both 'could do with it, could do without it' types.
I am now a strong believer that if you know you want or do not want kids, you need to tell your partner as soon as possible. Even if you're on the fence, you let them know and you can gauge how important this is for them.
It's a deal breaker for sure. You can't force someone to have kids when they don't want one, and you can't force someone to not have kids when they want one either.
Of course the main thing is that sometimes you're not 100% sure! And that's okay! I was 60-70%. I was open to having kids. I think my thoughts were "Yeah? It'd be nice?" I know some people say "Unless it's F*** yes, I want kids, don't have them," but I think the important thing is you feel empowered to make that choice. Like no one forced me to have a kid. When times were tough, I never felt resentment towards my partner. I never thought "You made me do this" or "My parents made me do this". Instead it was "Oh damn. This is tougher than I expected!".
I've seen circumstances where one person thought they could convince the other person, or just assumed they would change their mind. And... unfortunately it didn't work out.
So yes! Did you feel strongly about having a kid? Or not having a kid? I hope the conversation went well! It can be really scary to bring it up and good on you for doing it.
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I find it so funny how adaptations and pop culture for Frankenstein feel the need to paint “Dr. Frankenstein” as either a batshit crazy old man or a hot mentally unstable guy in his 30s, when in reality Victor Frankenstein in the original novel is just a sickly gay autistic teenager, who does definitely not have a doctorate, written by a 17-year-old goth girl who created the genre of science fiction.
It’s just so funny to me how pop culture is just like, “yeah, Dr. Frankenstein, the ‘ooOoh my peers criticised my science but I’ll show them!’ And ‘it’s alive!’ guy.” when in reality Victor Frankenstein just shows up to class fully “uhm, achtually 🤓☝️” style, then proceeds to rant about his boyfriend best buddy and how hot and amazing he is for pages and pages and pages. What peers? His classmates who probably just know him as “oh, that one.”??? The man is a twink who dropped out of university and due to his avoidance of consequences (not his “whining”, bad character analysis, I see you) by the end he’s driven himself so far to his own demise that he’s just an absolute sopping wet cat of a man. Stop trying to age him up at the beginning or make him hotter or “more mature”, the public deserves to know this twink like we do. And please stop making the creature an inarticulate mess with literally no character to him whatsoever, give us our edgy “i just read this Bible fanfic and Satan is just like me fr” lad we know and love
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I started reading Dungeon Meshi last week, became instantly charmed and captivated, and blitzed through the entire manga in 4 days (and changed my profile picture about it). With that in mind, I would just like to say...
I love your dungeon meshi art so so much
CHILCHUCK!!!!!!!!
Thank you kindly! I love Dungeon Meshi a lot, so I'm happy to see so many people get into it for the first time.
CHILCHUCK!!!
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