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Subtype Information

Random differentiating statements about the subtypes out of John Lucovich’s book; buy it for the in-depth profiles. It’s worth it, he writes extensively about each of them, their ego structure, healthy and unhealthy habits, and then has in-depth profiles for how this “looks” within each individual type, plus growth instructions.

Self-Preservation Dominants:

Seek experiences and circumstances that support a full, robust life. Are interested in maintaining independence and making sure they are dependent on no one else, and are keen to help others become self-sufficient. Tend to focus on the body and its direct feedback, out of a desire to maintain it properly. When healthy, skilled in balancing activity and relaxation. Gives themselves permission to be as they are—to relax when they are tired, to eat when they are hungry, or to treat themselves to something restorative. If imbalanced, they become a workaholic or over-focus on comfort.

Self-Preservation Types gravitate toward what sustains and substantiates their experiences and cultivates their values. They often express their love and affection through offering care for physical needs and lending assistance in practical endeavors. Their pragmatic outlook brings an intuitive understanding of how to be supportive at each step in a process, though they may not appreciate being continually “on call” for others. They find a deep satisfaction in being useful. They may spend a disproportionate amount of time looking for a “sure thing,” financially or otherwise. They prioritize comfort, but with an industrious streak.

Good at lending practical assistance in a crisis. Grounded, salt of the earth, realistic people. Finds it easier to achieve balance when they are responsible for someone else (or a pet). They acquire practical skills, and stick with things long enough to become proficient in them. May over-save or be frugal, or be wasteful and extravagant out of a desire to live “their best life.”

Give considerable care and personalization to their living space (I want to arrange it how it best suits me; organization, de-cluttering, aesthetics). Sensitive to their levels of comfort, sensory stimulation, and the emotional associations of food; may comfort-eat. Can go to an extreme in either direction; hoarding or living as a minimalist.

They value consistency and stability, but also may be dare-devils and risk-takers, who don’t want to miss out on life’s experiences. They approach intense experiences with preparation and focus. A strong capacity for staying focused and directing their energies in a specific direction. They have persistent, enduring energy useful for long-term projects, but when young, may not know where to direct it and wind up locked into a life path that doesn’t fulfill them. Some excessively prepare, save, and remain in stasis without moving forward.

They may resist developing their sexual or social function, because it seems too destabilizing and threatening to their sense of self.

Sexual Dominants:

Are identified with the need to elicit the sexual choice of potential mates. They arrange their identity around ensuring they can win out over sexual competition. They focus on distinguishing themselves from others with a personal “flavor” intended to attract some and repulse others. Being “edgy” works as a filter to only draw people to them that are exciting.

Sexuality, sexual identity, virility, and vitality are at the forefront of their focus. Being desirable is more important to them than how often they have sex or how many partners they’ve had. They care more about whether someone may choose them than whether that attraction will lead to a sexual act.

They focus on what “turns them on”; pursuing attraction is the guiding influence of their life. They may find themselves in a series of infatuations just to unconsciously keep themselves in a state of desire. Their energy galvanizes when interested and contracts when uninterested; abruptly shifting from intense urgency, activation, and focus, or preoccupation on a certain individual or activity, to hastily veering away their attention or cooling off.

They become locked onto a person, but unlike Socials, they want to create interpersonal tension rather than ease, to keep it exciting. Tension invites repulsion or attraction. When magnetized by something or someone, Sexuals drop everything else to pursue it, often making quick and drastic changes in the process of their pursuit of the object. They are willing to abandon their current course and follow a new path to the object of their desire, going much further than other have the fire to go. They trust the pull of attraction without knowing how things will work out, and follow the flow of energy at all costs; they are willing to abandon stability or push past obstacles.

When healthy, these pursuits can become genuinely creative. When unhealthy, a Sexual type can become slavishly devoted to something or someone they are attracted to, no matter how toxic the dynamic might be. They can be serial monogamists, abruptly ending one relationship and impulsively starting new ones. They are always trying to find the “edges” in themselves and push things into intense territory, through provocation. When a relationship stagnates, their tendency is to cause friction in it so it has more intensity.

Social Dominants:

Are attuned to the emotional atmosphere, attention, and agendas of other people, and possess a strong desire to be involved in the lives of others in some meaningful way. They want to leave an impact, large or small, and develop the talents necessary to do this, by looking for a niche to fill (whether that is to be the family comedian or to assume the role of a caregiver). Many of their gifts and talents directly stem from how they grow and cultivate relationships. Socials can be better at noticing others’ talents and gifts than their own.

They are not necessarily more outgoing or extroverted than other people, nor do they all have a wide network of friends. Many of them prefer one-on-one time and have a preference for personal relating, rather than are interested in groups. But they want to be involved with others, and need way more interaction and involvement in others’ lives than Sexual or Self-Pres types. Belonging is of vital importance to them; with a group or another individual. They have a visceral need to feel that they matter, to share a common aim, and to feel a part of someone or something even when separated by a distance.

Being engaged and impacting others in a meaningful way can be in person, online, or in a more distant format, but they gravitate toward interests that are both personally enjoyable and have a larger impact in the culture. While they nurture their individual passions, they feel their pursuits and interests are enhanced when appreciated by others or relevant to the culture.

Their sensitivity to others’ states makes them interested in what they are up to, in staying in touch with them, and in fostering communication between themselves and those who draw their interest; they are highly discerning about whom they interact with on a deeper level, but are willing to put aside certain prejudices about people to find common ground. Some even believe themselves to be anti-social, cynical about relationships, or fed up with people. This disdain is a reaction to heartbreak at having been let down by them, or having their need to connect unmet. Their attention toward others, however, persists.

They are curious and fascinated by other people and cultures. When healthy, this means caring for others and selflessness in the face of others’ needs. If unhealthy, it develops into an unnatural preoccupation with what others are thinking and feeling about them. They are often charismatic, and talented communicators. They find it easier to mobilize others than themselves, which can cause them to not recognize that despite feeling genuine concern for others, they desperately need their status, value, and goodwill to be acknowledged.

They balance a great deal of social information all at once, which means they respond to most situations “appropriately” in a manner that will not cause offense. They want to offer the right kind of a response to generate the intended outcome. The downfall of this is that they can become self-inhibited, and prone to second-guessing themselves, punishing themselves if they are not contributing in a meaningful way. It’s important for them to recognize how others-oriented their personality is, so they can turn their attention to their own potential rather than projecting how others will respond to it.

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being alone in a public restroom is like i own this place and then someone else walks in and it’s like get out of my fucking house

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there’s so much joy in living a private life. looking really pretty and not posting it, going to a new city and not telling anyone, getting a fancy dinner by yourself dressed up…. like it just feels like life.. i feel alive and less preformative

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A name is a spell you cast on your child when they’re born

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If there's whipped cream in my fridge I will look for ANY excuse to use it. I will be walking to the kitchen thinking "what do I have that will go good with whipped cream?".

#whipped cream #personal #food #i love food

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Autumn Landscape

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One of the funniest things that ever happened to me was when I saw the national at a music festival and in the middle of the set the lead singer man was like “is that building over there a jail? Wow, I hope that our music brings them some joy. This one goes out to you, all you brave people” and I looked at the building and it was a fucking post office

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The rewards of Saturn last, but there is a misconception around the reasoning. The rewards of Saturn don't last because you worked hard, encountered obstacles or had to wait. They last because the waiting, the obstacles, and the hard work give you the skills, dedication, and discipline it takes to MAINTAIN the rewards you get.

#astrology #saturn #saturn square venus #zodiac

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“People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them and their response is “you’re safe with me” - that’s intimacy.”

— The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo: A novel by Taylor Jenkins Reid

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The ruler of the ascendant is an extremely important planet because it guides the life to its destination. This planet indicates the archetypal personality of the driver.

If the ruler of the ascendant is the sun, the personality guides the life journey

if the moon, the mother guides the life journey

if mercury, thoughts guide the life journey

if Venus, the lover guides the life journey

if Mars, the warrior guides the life journey

if Jupiter, luck guides the life journey

if Saturn, restriction and self-control guides the life journey

if Uranus, sudden changes guide the life journey

if Neptune, dreams and illusions guide the life journey

if Pluto, ruthless transformation guides the life journey

Its house placement determines which topic steers and directs the life.

If the ruler of the ascendant is located in the first house, the early upbringing moves the life toward its destination

in the second house, self-worth moves the life towards its destination

in the third house, the immediate environment moves the life toward its destination

in the fourth house, family and/or home moves the life toward its destination

in the fifth house, self-expression moves the life toward its destination

in the sixth house, health moves the life toward its destination

in the seventh house, relationships move the life toward its destination

in the eighth house, sex and death move the life toward its destination

in the ninth house, foreign connections and travel move the life toward its destination

in the tenth house, profession moves the life toward its destination

in the eleventh house, humanitarianism moves the life toward its destination

in the twelfth house, self-sacrifice moves the life toward its destination

The sign of the ascendant ruler tells the manner in which this is done.

an ascendant ruler in the sign of Aries signifies strong, autonomous, decisive action

a ruler in Taurus signifies reliability and steadfastness

a ruler in Gemini signifies versatility and curiosity

a ruler in Cancer signifies emotional complexity and tenacity 

a ruler in Leo signifies dramatic, domineering confidence

a ruler in Virgo signifies methodical, strategic planning

a ruler in Libra signifies impartial, collaborative sociability

a ruler in Scorpio signifies emotionally deep, passionate determination

a ruler in Sagittarius signifies adventurousness and idealism

a ruler in Capricorn signifies emotionally reserved, pragmatic, controlled ascension

a ruler in Aquarius signifies humanitarianism and a uniqueness in self-expression

a ruler in Pisces signifies emotional and artistic sensitivity

The sign and house placements of the ascendant ruler together point to how and where individuals take action to move their lives forward based on the core drive that motivates their souls.

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Our leopard dog at the river. 😊💕

#louisianna catahoula leopard dog #catahoula #washington state #river #cute dogs

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Idk how to explain it but Willem Dafoe, Steve Buscemi, and Christopher Walken are all the same genre of person

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Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being. Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are. Compassionate toward yourself, you reconcile all beings in the world. 

~Lao Tzu (Book: Tao Te Ching)

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Libra Sun

Virgo Moon

Virgo Mercury

Libra Venus

Sagittarius Mars

Pisces Jupiter

Gemini Saturn

Based on your houses, what signs would you be?

for example: my sun in 9th/moon in 10th

Sagittarius sun & Capricorn moon

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Astrology Observations 3

Disclaimer: All of these are only personal observations based on people I know in my life. It is not necessary for these to relate to you, they are mostly subjective. Also, the energy of all of the placements mentioned can change depending on their entire chart.

Please do not copy/plagiarize my work and do not repost without my permission.

💜 Dominant air placements need to talk to as many people as they can. They can sometimes get too bored if they talk to the same people over and over again, not because there is anything wrong with talking to those people, but because they need to constantly be stimulated. They want to know and discuss different views on topics and learn more. They can’t deal with only having a few opinions. They want to hear them all. If they aren’t able to voice their ideas they overthink constantly, which leaves their minds wanting to explode. They experience major burn out but like, for thinking.

💜 Pluto in the 11th house usually go through many friends. Since Pluto is about transformation, Pluto here is always experiencing transformation through friendships. I’ve also noticed that others may get jealous of Pluto here? There may be bitching about and spreading of rumors about the person. They really dont deserve it though.

💜 I’ve noticed that the mothers of Cancer Moons are tough on their children, but when they make up to their children, they do so in a big way, mostly through actions. Like going shopping together and letting them buy whatever they want, as if they feel guilty. They are also overprotective of their kids.

💜 Fire placements, y'all can’t sit still even if your life depended on it. They always have to move around lmfao. Even in the classrooms, fire placements will just randomly get up and start walking around? They were also always getting yelled at by the teachers haha.

💜 Venus-Neptune aspects, stop romanticizing every person that pays attention to you. You create a version in your head, and hold people on to very high standards, and then you are always disappointed when things don’t work out the way you wanted it to.

💜 Mars in Pisces are super selective with their anger. Like you’d maybe throw them under the bus for something and they’ll be like “nah it’s fine” but god forbid if someone messes up their stuffed animals. You’re going to hear it from them then.

💜 Venus in Capricorn are so mature in love. They are very respectful and commited. They may also like the idea of a workplace romance.

💜 10th house placements just want to be successful. They’re married to the idea of success. Everything they do, they do for their career. My only advice is that don’t forget the ones who care about you.

💜 When the same sign resides over the 12th and the 1st house, the person longs to have the qualities of the sign in the houses and show it to the world, but often they are afraid and anxious. But what they forget is that all they have to do is let go of that fear and allow themselves to embrace and show that side of them to the world. They already have those qualities, their mind has just convinced them that they don’t.

💜 Mars Trine Saturn get angry and frustrated really quickly. They can get pissed off really easily and may not know how to control their anger.

💜 Jupiter dominants tend to have very big eyes.

💜 Many planets aspecting the ascendant, especially squares and oppositions, can leave the individual feeling like they dont know who they really are.

That’s all folks! Thanks for reading! Leave your thoughts.

love, crystal 💮

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There’s nothing more ugly than the culture of having children for the sake of having them. Too many people ask “do you want kids?” but not enough ask “are you ready for the emotional, physical, and financial sacrifices you will have to make to raise children?” It’s so ugly to me that people treat kids like a commodity, like a dress or a pair of earrings they just throw on. How dare you? That’s not a new car you can get bored of or discard in a few years, that is a person, and particularly a person who will absolutely be dependent on you for emotional support, financial support, discipline, and leadership; someone who you will have power of virtually every portion of their lives until they’re ready to be adults, who you will impact in irreversible ways, who will look to you for the rest of YOUR life and theirs for explanations about life and how they turned out to be who they are, for better or for worse. If you say you “want kids” but you’re “not sure if you could handle” them needing time and attention, costing you money,  or you’re “not sure you can handle” if they turn out gay, or disabled, or transgender, or any other myriad of things that don’t really make your child any less of a person but which an ugly society can have ugly views on, etc. then you don’t deserve to have children. If you “want children” but haven’t thought about literally having to be there for them for virtually everything they will go through and ask of you, you’re not adult enough to have them.

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you’re afraid. . .

sun square moon - …that you won’t receive comfort and nurturing from others if you are truly myself, that you need to go out of your comfort zone too much if you want to do what you really want and become the person you wanna be

sun square ascendant - …that you will never grow into your full potential, that the road ahead is too confusing and full of contradictions, that people can never see who you really are

sun square mars - …that you will become like your father, that what you want to do isn’t noble or good, that you won’t prove you’re the best

sun square saturn - …of being weird and socially unacceptable, of remaining under the authority of a father figure, of someone imposing their authority on you

sun square jupiter - …of wasting away your life, that you won’t be seen as exceptional, that your life has no purpose

sun square uranus - …of being independent, of staying in one place for too long, that your ideal will never be met, to conform

sun square neptune - …that you will never have a real connection, that everything is the result of your idealization and your whole life is a lie

sun square pluto - … that you will be manipulated or brainwashed into being someone different and changing, of revealing too much about yourself without knowing enough about the other person, that someone can read your mind

moon square ascendant - that people can’t take care of you in your most vulnerable state, that you’re showing vulnerability way too soon

moon square mercury - …of saying how you feel, of making a solid decision, that you can’t explain yourself to others and they always get you wrong, that you don’t have the “right” words

moon square venus - …that you or your partner may get too smothering or won’t settle down, that you’ll never find a relationship that fully satisfies you, that you ruin your relations

moon square mars - …that expressing your anger or sexual desires will really hurt and push away the people around you, that you are going to have to defend yourself in arguments if you don’t agree with people, that if you go after what you want you will exit your comfort zone

moon square jupiter - …of getting carried away by your feelings, that you give people the wrong idea about how you feel because you tend to hyperbolize your emotions, that you will never stop feeling this way

moon square saturn - …that you’re unlovable, that no one will ever be there for you when you need them the most, that your mom will abandon you, that you’ll always be rejected when you ask for comfort

moon square uranus - …that things will always change just when they’re finally good and peaceful, that they will have to settle down and follow a routine

moon square neptune - …of everything being too unstable and shifting and having no solid ground under your feet no matter how hard you try, of getting addicted to something, that nothing will ever be as good as it is in your head

moon square pluto - …of abandonment by a parent, most often the mom, or by any significant person in your life, that life is not safe, that everyone is out to get you and no one has your back

mercury square ascendant - …of being misunderstood, that people only pretend to hear you and are not actually listening at all, that you won’t be able to comprehend mentally and to explain with words something that is heavily obstructing your way ahead

mercury square mars - …of coming on too strong, of saying things too impulsively or harshly, of acting without thinking first

mercury square jupiter - …of saying too much and oversharing, of not explaining yourself well enough, that people won’t hear your voice and see it as something they can learn from

mercury square saturn - …of being judged for your words, of having your intelligence compared to that of others, of your words being taken lightly

mercury square uranus - …that you’ll get lost in your own mind’s erratic impulses, that you’ll get stuck in one way of thinking, that you’ll never figure it out

mercury square neptune - …that you’ll have to organize your thoughts or will be forced to express them matter-of-factly, that you won’t be able to explain something fundamental but difficult to grasp

mercury square pluto - …that someone will control your mind or manipulate you, that you won’t be able to get inside someone’s head and figure them out and predict their behavior, that your thoughts might attract bad things in your life

venus square ascendant - …of attracting the wrong people, of appearing argumentative and breaking the harmony, that you don’t look good and your body is somehow wrong

venus square mars - …of breaking gender roles, of being too volatile and ruining everything, that your partner will find someone better and you have to prove yourself constantly

venus square jupiter - …that you’re being too much for anyone to handle, of your partner wanting to cage you in the relationship, of giving more than you receive

venus square saturn - …that you’ll never be good enough, that you do everything wrong, of being ugly and insignificant, that things will never get better

venus square uranus - … that if you really love someone intimately this will ultimately steal your freedom away, of becoming dependent or of having someone depend on you, of needing someone, of obsessive people

venus square neptune - …of being in any type of human relationship because it can never come close to the fantasy, that people will take advantage of you, of being cut off from the “source”

venus square pluto - …of never being emotionally satisfied in a relationship, that you’re going to be replaced, of giving your all even that’s what you actually crave, of lack of intensity

mars square ascendant - …of being seen as sexual/sexually attractive, of not being as sexual/sexually attractive, of showing more tender and vulnerable feelings, that you scare people away cuz you’re coming off too strong

mars square jupiter - …that you will never manage to focus your actions and your energy will go to waste, that no matter how hard you try it’s not going to happen, that you haven’t realistically calculated how much you can handle

mars square saturn - …of someone controlling you, of not being able to do as you please, that something will always get in the way of your goals and try to screw you over

mars square uranus - …of being stuck in an ordinary life, of not being able to try new things, that you won’t get what you want

mars square neptune - …that you’ll disappoint your sexual partners and not live up to the fantasy, that you don’t know what you really want, that your charm is working against you

mars square pluto - …that you’ll hurt someone in your anger, that you won’t survive, that someone will physically attack you, that you’re scaring people away with your intensity, of your own sexual fantasies

jupiter square ascendant - …that you’re incapable of doing anything, that your insecurities will forever set you back, that if you relax and just trust the world you’re going to fail miserably 

jupiter square saturn - …that you’ll never get what you want, that you always have to work extra hard for everything, that you have bad luck and no matter what you do you can’t change that

jupiter square uranus - …of sudden changes, that you can never feel secure in your happiness, of unforeseen turns of fate that are never in your favor

jupiter square neptune - …of setting boundaries, of dreaming too big, that you can never get what you really want in this world

jupiter square pluto - …that if you change, you’re going to lose what makes you happy, that good times are never meant to last, that you’re meant to go through many extremes to achieve excellence

saturn square ascendant - …that nothing ever ends well for you, that life is just hardship after hardship, that you’ll never have enough of what you want, that you can’t build a solid foundation for your life

saturn square uranus - …that you can never have a solid structure, of being shaken to the core right when you think you’ve settled, of building your life wrong and getting stuck in it

saturn square neptune - …that you’re never achieving your goals, that they’re meaningless and there’s no higher meaning in them, that the world is hollow and there’s no place for you here, that all your goals are unrealistic, of never finding out what you need to work on in order to be happy

saturn square pluto - …that you can never trust anybody and no one deserves your trust, that social norms are restricting you to be yourself, that you’re a burden to society, that people want to impose their will on you, that you’re fundamentally wrong somehow

uranus square ascendant - …that people always expect you to settle in a certain role in their life and stay still in it, that people depending on you may set you back, that your direction in life is too erratic

uranus square neptune - …that you have no sense of direction, that you don’t know who to rebel against and what needs to be overthrown, of following in the footsteps of older generations (the last one lasted from 1951 to 1956)

uranus square pluto - …of sudden eruptions of destructive urges, of standing up to authorities even though you see they’re abusing their power, that change may bring destruction (the last one happened around 1931)

neptune square ascendant - …of people projecting on you, that you’ll believe people’s ideas of you and forget who you really are, that you’ll never find the way to embody your potential, that you can’t find the way

neptune square pluto - (i think they’re no ppl alive atm with this square and some will be born around 2055 lol)

pluto square ascendant - …of being too intense and creeping people out, that you’re going to assert your desires in the wrong way at the wrong time, that you always create a wrong impression, that you’re always seen as the antagonist, as an enemy, that people are projecting their shadow side on you

/some astrologers say that the square aspect resembles Saturn in its nature and that it points towards our biggest fears, something that we’re scared to face so we keep trying to run away from it but it keeps creating friction until it becomes impossible for us to hide. these are some of the greatest challenges we have to face in our lifetime. it’s important to remember that while squares definitely promise a lot of obstacles and turmoil, integrating them and channeling their energy is life changing and incomparable to anything else. we are here to deal with those fears./