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small details that make you more elegant

listen without interrupting

choose a perfume that is your personal brand

know something about art

be a good conversationalist

keep your shoes clean

always remember important dates

simplify your life, your house, your agenda

practice a good posture

be punctual

keep your house clean and tidy

don't point out other people's mistakes

learn another language

don't shout when you speak

always remember your courage

always keep your hands groomed

have a positive attitude

always have a pleasant scent in your home

take care to make others feel comfortable

your manners must be impeccable

educate yourself on a good variety of topics

keep your phone away when you are eating at the table

be wholehearted

say please and thank you ALWAYS

apologize first and sincerely

practice empathy

give sincere compliments

dress appropriately for every occasion

do favors without expecting anything in return

take responsibility for your own happiness

less is more

enjoy the moment

remember elegance is not only based on the way you dress, it is the way you interact with yourself and with the world 🤍

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horse back riding lessons, piano lessons, french/spanish/japanese lessons, regular work out routine, every day runs, screen time below three or four hours, longer reading lists, longer pre and post shower rituals, a morning routine, a night routine to breathe and wind down...

... a closet full of good quality staples, putting effort into my appearance (skin, hair, diet) every day, reaching out to my family atleast once a day, taking time to express my gratitude. putting time aside to write to myself and talk to myself. remaining calm, taking longer breaths, staying patient... reminding myself that i deserve it. i deserve the love, understanding, success, and extraordinary life-changing events that are coming for me.

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i want to upgrade my looks, mostly the way i dress, where should i start from?

Hi darling,

Upgrading my physical appearance is actually one of my favorite ways to glow up. After all, it's the first thing that others see, right? That’s not to say that any other area of self development is less important. In fact, I always emphasize that elevating your mindset is the first step; physical appearance comes after, and then everything else.

Here's my practical approach to upgrading your physical appearance (fashion specifically, if you would like I can post another article for hair, skin, etc):

1. First of all, cull your wardrobe.

With the new year around the corner, it's the perfect time to unclutter your wardrobe! Dedicate an afternoon or even just a few hours to set some jazzy music, and get down to business. Starting from shoes, lingerie, tops and bottoms, dresses, sweaters and coats - review what resonates with the new you, and what's part of the past. Use these questions as pointers if you're unsure:

- would you want to be seen by the man of your dreams wearing this item? - do you feel confident and 'in your element' while wearing it? - have you worn this item in the past 6-12 months? - is it in good state (does it have any frayed edges, washed out colours, or is coming undone)? - does it resonate with the persona you want to become, your new style, new aesthetic, new mindset? would the new you wear this?

If the answer is no to most of the above, it's time to let that item go.

2. Sit down and actually define what you want your new style to be.

- what are your favorite colors? what colors make you feel in your element? - what style? (sporty, elegant, casual, academic, etc) - what textures? - what patterns? - what combinations? - what's the energy you want to exude with your new look?

By answering these questions, you'll be able to create your signature wardrobe, your signature style that is specifically tailored for your tastes and needs. Remember, being classy means following the principles of elegance, timelessness, or function and efficiency. It's about following what works for you, not just what looks trendy on the runway.

I can guarantee that if you wear the style that represents your identity, you will feel, act and be more confident than if you threw on a popular outfit that is the momentary trend.

3. Now that you know your new style, create a visionboard with inspiring photos.

This is the most fun part. Use Tumblr, Pinterest or WeHeartIt to find photos that reflect your new style. Collect dozens, hundreds of photos, as much as you want!

Just brainstorm ideas for looks that resonate with you and make you feel like a queen.

4. Create a list of specific items for your new wardrobe.

This means pulling out your journal or your laptop and writing down the exact items you want. The level of detail here depends on you. You can go two ways with this:

You can even skip this step if you prefer to shop spontaneously and just enjoy the process of new discoveries.

Or as in my case, go very detailed. Personally, I'm the kind of person who uses Excel lists for literally everything, including my wardrobe glow-up. For instance, under my Jewellery section I have items like pearl earrings (timeless and beautiful), silver necklace with my name tag, and particular bracelets and watches that all work together in terms of aesthetics and style.

See, that's why it's so helpful as first step to define what your style is. That way, once it's all set up in your wardrobe, any combination of accessories and clothes will look good because it was intended to work as a unit, and not just random pieces with no underlying intention.

5. Start shopping!

You know your new style, you have a style visionboard and a clear list of items to find... now it's time to start shopping!

Remember that you shouldn't break the bank just to elevate your physical appearance. Any self improvement should be done in strategic, practical, progressive way. In the case of upgrading your wardrobe, this is something that may take from several weeks, months to even half a year or more - depending on your particular situation.

6. Organize your new wardrobe.

Creating a capsule wardrobe (a concept popular in minimalism) will transform your life. It means choosing quality over quantity, and carefully selecting each item in your wardrobe, so that it is easily manageable at the end of the year when you want to do a refresh. It’s easy to put an outfit together daily, and just overall so satisfying.

When your clothing is carefully chosen, and effectively organized, you’ll know where you can find anything at the drop of a hat, and make dressing up so much easier. And that’s the whole point of upgrading any area of your life - making your life easier and more enjoyable!

Hope this helps ❤️ -Lumen

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Examples of jobs that high value women possess?

High value women exude confidence, compassion, charm, charisma, compassion and femininity she knows her worth and can't hold her own if need be. She is committed to learning and growing and taking care of her health. Classy passionate and has boundaries. 

Being a high value women is less about what they do for work, ironically and more about women who embrace their femininity and use it to get what she wants out of life. Pursuing your passion and doing it while adopting all of those qualities i referenced, carrying out your goals with grace, is a characteristic of a high value woman. 

high value individuals typically work independently, because why would they work for anyone else? I actually know a lot of women you would perceive as high value that mostly have their own small business but are incredibly educated and well rounded. Some have degrees or are working towards them. 

I always talk about becoming a person of success in order to become successful and this applies here too. Remember different habits and mindsets open you to different interests and doors. 

I'm actually going to write about this in a separate post now. 

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Types Of Girls, Luxury Brand Edition! 🎀

burberry :: fluffy hair, doesn’t believe in “casual friday”, presents herself as a lady, lace-trimmed nightgowns, frequents the library, high tea with the gals, bedroom smells of pastries and petrichor, speaks with a slightly posh british accent, avid fashion history appreciator, calls everyone her favorite term of endearment

chanel :: ropes of shiny pearls around her neck, handwritten cursive letters, freshly baked breads, smells of sophistication, her purse must always match her shoes or she’ll “die”, has probably said some questionable things in the past, would rather marry for money, keeps a rococo-style boudoir

miu miu :: either her eyes or lips or legs are/is her best physical feature, tulle-trimmed brassieres, would skip school to enjoy a strawberry milkshake and fries at her local restaurant, rosy cheeks, exudes an undeniable girlish charm, candy-colored cashmere cardigans, can’t seem to rid herself of the sultry twinkle in her eyes

yves saint-laurent :: glossy eyelids, walks with confidence, sleek black loafers, laughs like a disney villain, alligator handbags, slicked back hair, the epitome of “individuality”, a thin golden chain around her neck, has taken ballet in the past, has resting b*tch face but is the sweetest person in the world

givenchy :: smokey eyeshadow, would own an engraved cigarette case despite being a non-smoker, would pair a satin blouse with leather slacks, eccentric elegance, slinky black dresses, oversized black sunglasses, red wine and rose petal bubble baths, isn’t really one to follow trends

gucci :: diamond chokers and tiaras to match, never leaves her nails unpolished, martinis in the nightclub, hot pink feather boas, listening to sensual music while bathing, would buy the same mink coat in five different colors just because she likes the style so much, believes life is dull without a bit of ostentatiousness

christian dior :: appreciates the importance of fragrance, adorns her hair with opulent clips, either has an outrageous shoe collection or an outrageous handbag collection, always makes sure that her outfits put emphasis on her waist, sprays herself with rosewater constantly, mysterious eyes

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𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐢𝐬: 𝐬𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐢 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥, 𝐢 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐯𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐞𝐧𝐝 🧖🏾‍♀️✨

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How to win in 2021.

Your circle. Literally cull all the annoying friends, people that drain you, family members who are toxic. Become unavailable to them. This is so important because toxic energy has the power to bring you down and distract you from your main focus. More on that…

Your focus. Get crystal clear on your goals for 2021. Write dates, break your goals down into actions, affirm, pray on them, and give thanks for the blessings you’re about to receive.

Quit being the victim, see the wider perspective. There’ll always be something you need to work on within yourself, whether it’s jealousy, insecurities, laziness. Whatever it is. Learn how to unlearn your shit from the past, those traits need not enter this new year.

Keep your vibe high. You see how good you feel when you’re shaking your ass in the mirror to that song that hits you deep. That energy there. Tap into it everyday. Do whatever necessary that makes you feel on fire.

Be of service. Do you know how many people out there could be blessed with your gifts, feeding the homeless, writing regularly, sharing beautiful music, art, words, talents. The world needs you. So don’t forget to give back.

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Manifesting a group of girlies to go on café dates, have foreign experiences & discuss art, literature, & self-improvement. People that have the same passion, determination & experience level as me.

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Fitness affirmations:

I love working out! Cardio is so fun. The burn is worth it. I love sweating because I know it means my body is working and can still function properly! Walking feels so good. To be able to walk around nature or on a treadmill at the gym is a luxury. Drinking water is amazing. I can drink water all day long! I actually prefer water more than anything else. It’s so much better than any drink I can crave. Water is delicious. Fruits, vegetables and nuts are mouth watering. Just hearing the sound of fruit blending makes me parched! Smoothies are sooooooo good. I love drinking them so much. So many ways to make them, so much nutrients! My body loves me already. Salads are orgasmic. I can eat salads at the very LEAST 3x a week. They’re so refreshing and energetic. I love snacking on almonds and drinking it’s milk. It’s so creamy and good, and the crunch of them is so pleasing. Meal prepping is one of the smartest things I’ve ever done. Literally a life hack! I love the fact that I already have my food planned out each week and between staying active and eating healthy, I’m going to look and feel fabulous! This journey is so amazing. I am so blessed. I’m so happy! I can’t wait to fit into those clothes I have hanging in my closet and going outside to flex this beautiful body!!!! I’m so excited to be able to look and feel GOOD AF!!!! whew.