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Korean Self-Love Quotes/Proverbs & Life Lessons

남의 떡이 더 커보인다.

Literal Translation: The other person’s rice cake is bigger than yours

Meaning: don’t compare yourself or your life with someone else’s

Life Lesson:

Especially on social media, you only see the parts that other people choose to show - the highlights, but not the behind the scenes. You’re life is not better or worse than another persons. The grass always looks greener on the other side, but you never know what that person is going through behind the scenes. Don’t try to trade your life in for another person’s just because of how things appear on the outside.

Vocab from proverb:

남 - another person, stranger

의 - possessive particle (‘s)

떡 - rice cake

더 - more

크다 - big

아/어 보이다 - to look, appear, seem

엎질러진 물이다

Literal Translation: It is spilled water.

Meaning: There is no use in crying over spilled milk.

Life Lesson:

A lot of things in life aren’t worth crying over, especially if it’s something that happened in the past. The past is the past and we have to learn to let go of the past. If you dwell on your failures, your shortcomings, your embarrassing moments, or any other terrible things you may have experienced in the past - It will keep you from living in the present. You Can Not Change The Past - no matter how much you think about it, so there’s no use “crying” over it. Don’t let the past determine who you are today. Whenever you catch yourself worrying too much about a past occurrence, tell yourself, “It already happened and I can’t control that, but I can control what I do today”.

Vocab from proverb:

엎질러지다 - to spill

물 - water

똥이 무서워서 피하니? 더러워서 피하지.

Literal Translation: you don’t avoid poop, because it’s scary. You avoid poop because it’s dirty.

Meaning: you should avoid certain things and people in your life, not because you are scared, but because it will disrupt your peace and happiness.

Life Lesson:

If at all possible try to remove or minimize contact with toxic people in your life - even if that just means distancing yourself from them mentally. Also avoid overtly negative and toxic situations whenever you can, because it can improve your mental health and overall happiness. Holding on to grudges, anger, sadness, etc. can also be harmful to your mental health - It may be hard to hear but some things you have to let go of. For yourself and your peace of mind. Forgive yourself of any past mistakes or failures and allow yourself to move forward.

Vocab from proverb:

똥 - poop

무섭다 - be scared of

아/어/해서 - because

피하다 - to avoid

니? - informal question ending

더럽다 - to be dirty

지 - shortened form of 지요 / 죠

(when speaker confirms something they thought the listener already knew)

말을 냇가에 끌고 갈 수는 있어도 억지로 물을 먹일 수는 없다

Literal Translation: You can lead a horse and go to a stream, but you can’t make it drink water through its own will

Meaning: You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink

Life Lesson:

You can’t force someone to do something that they don’t want to do. You can’t change someone who isn’t willing to change. You can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. There are many ways to say it, but the overall message is the same.

On the opposite side of the coin, It’s a great idea to be open and willing to positive changes and to growth. In life you want to always be growing and not static - unless your perfect (which no one is). Sometimes we may feel static and like we are going no where no matter how hard we try to move. In those cases, either you need to make a change and do something a bit different or you are moving forward but it’s just so slowly that you don’t notice it - taking a step back and looking at your situation objectively can sometimes help.

Vocab from proverb:

말 - horse

냇가 - stream (of water)

끌다 - to lead

고 - and

가다 - to go

ㄹ 수 있다 - can do

아/어도 - even if

억지 - force

(으)로 - by (explain methods)

억지로 - by force

물 - water

먹이다 - to feed, make eat/drink

ㄹ 수(는) 없다 - can’t

(the 는 adds emphasis)

That's all for this post! Which proverb is your favorite?

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Kailan birthday mo?

01.23.97

ps. sowiee kung sobrang late na to anon

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Sobrang tagal ko na rin pala di nag tumblr. Kung dati asa mindanao lang ako, ngayon nasa manila na for atleast 7 months now.

Dami naren nagbago sa'ken. Mula sa pananamit, sa gawi, mindset; mga bagong lugar at kaibigan.

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If BBM preference votes translates to exact votes come this May 9, he would surely be the first president to have garnered support of more than the majority of the voting populace, ever since the first EDSA people power, ironically. Try to think of it, the Duterte voting based comes only at around 40% of the total voter's turn-out last 2016. When Duterte had ascended to Malacañang, only about 40% of the voting populace are unarguably anti Yellows. This means, the Yellows would've done better in maintaining their voter base and courting the rest of another 60% voting population, but instead they mess up so bad that even those who hates, dislikes Duterte now switch to the Marcos camp. No, it's not because of disinformation, or history revisionism as they call it. It simply is the fact that the Yellows had mess up extremely so bad that they became so hated enough that even those who used to sympathize with them now allies with BBM. Hard to swallow, but it's the truth.

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start small.

If you’re someone who struggles with executive dysfunction I cannot emphasize how important it is to set reasonable, attainable goals for yourself. If your goal is “I need to clean my entire room today” but you’re not used to doing so often enough for it to be habitual, chances are pretty good that that isn’t a reasonable, attainable goal for you. Start small. Start with something you think you could do even when you’re struggling. Pick something that makes you feel good about yourself afterward. And don’t put pressure on yourself to do more than that if you’re not able to, because that pressure will make it harder to do the small thing.

For me, it’s making my bed. It’s simple, it takes me about three minutes to do, it makes my room look 300% better even if everything else looks like a lost game of jumanji so I feel proud of myself for doing it, and I don’t expect myself to do any more than that. Interestingly, once I’ve done the small thing it often gives me a burst of motivation to do more, but even on days when I can’t do more I still feel good about making my bed.

It can be anything. Make your bed, brush your teeth, pick up the clothes off your floor and throw them in a pile, remove the mugs from your room (no pressure to wash them), make one phone call, do five minutes of something creative, anything that feels small and simple to you. And don’t beat yourself up on days when you can’t do the small thing. Executive dysfunction is a bitch, but starting small is much easier than giving yourself big goals that feel completely overwhelming. 

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completely! just wish tumblr would be here for long

tumblr is such a unique experience in 2021 because it’s probably the only place on the internet, or in real life, really, where there is absolutely no point. there is no agenda, and no purpose, it’s just a place i can create this little bubble of art, and self-expression, and poetry, and live in it peacefully. scrolling through my blog and appreciating photography, fashion, literature, etc. just feels like a beautiful respite from everything outside of this website? no news no performance no productivity just pure vibes

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how was it possible i would always take notice whenever she's nearby me? man, please tell me i am not in love at of this time.. please!

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Tumblr crush?

None so far. Hehe Kaw ba anon?

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“In an experiment revealing the importance of having friendships, social psychologists have found that perceptions of task difficulty are significantly shaped by the proximity of a friend. In their experimental design, the researchers asked college students to stand at the base of a hill while carrying a weighted backpack and to estimate the steepness of a hill. Some participants stood next to close friends whom they had known a long time, some stood next to friends they had not known for long, and the rest stood alone during the exercise. The students who stood with friends gave significantly lower estimates of the steepness of the hill than those who stood alone. Furthermore, the longer the close friends had known each other, the less steep the hill appeared to the participants involved in the study. In other words, the world looks less difficult when standing next to a close friend.”

— my new favorite psychological study, done by Schnall, Harber, Stefanucci, and Proffitt and published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology.

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Zodiac sign?

Hmm.. Aquarius po... Ba't ho n'yo natanong?

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'To 'yung pinaka una na kinausap niya ko. Hindi ko alam pero kinikilig talaga ako gagi... aisssh!

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What is it like to live in Japan?

This question arrives in my ASK every so often: What is it like to live in Japan as a non-Japanese resident?

The short answer: It all depends on you.

The longer answer: You’ve got Tokyo, and then you’ve got Japan, and then you’ve got you and your age and your background and your culture and your job and the economy and this bloody stupid virus and an extremely uncertain future, and it all depends on all of that.

I know my answer doesn’t help much, but it really does depend entirely on you. I’ve met weaboos who could rattle off details about obscure manga characters, but went back home after two years, angry and bitter. I know people who arrived in Japan with zero interest in the country – brought here by work, partners, fate – and 20 years later they’re organizing village festivals. Vice versa, too, but an absence of preconceptions might result in fewer disappointments.

Remember what Michelle Obama said about the presidency? “It doesn’t change who you are, it reveals who you are.” Japan is like that. It’s not going to solve your problems and realize your dreams. It’s not going to change you, and you won’t change it. The only people who describe Japan as unequivocally awesome are tourists. Japan is not Disneyland or a Zen paradise or hi-tech science fiction; it’s ordinary people living ordinary lives in a country with quirks, strengths and weaknesses.

I only know Tokyo; I cannot judge rural life. Tokyo is cleaner and safer than most major cities, it has an excellent infrastructure, it’s expensive but not hideously so. It’s also crowded and noisy and impersonal (yet I’ve made wonderful friends here). Its work culture is relentless. I love its efficiency and energy, and its small pockets of beauty and kindness.

If you want to know more about Tokyo, I recommend the books of Donald Richie. He wrote about yesteryear, from WWII to the 1990s, but he knew this city better than most. Richie, Alan Booth and John W. Dower remain the best non-Japanese writers about Japan.

If you want to study in Japan, the Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology (MEXT) has scholarships for students, known as the Monbukagakusho Scholarship (文部科学省奨学金 Monbukagakushō Shōgakukin).

Also take a look at this tag: https://todayintokyo.tumblr.com/search/tips

PS: If anybody else wants to contribute – long-term residents and people who left – please do!

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'Yung natuwa ka kase may bagong nag follow sa'yo sa tumblr tas ang siste porn blog pala. Hay naku, 'yoko na sa earth.

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I crave a quiet love.

Watching you play video games while i lay on our bed and hyping you up. Going grocery shopping together and laughing at a bad pun in the spice aisle. Waking up in each others arms. Stopping by the others work to drop of food on our day off. Sending each other memes even though we're sitting in the same room. The soft touches whenever we pass by each other. Cuddling while watching a show on netflix. Having a cup of tee or coffee on a lazy Sunday morning and sitting, legs tangled, on our couch, being in love.

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Three things I learned the hard way:

You will not always get the closure you think you deserve. Not now, not ever. Even if you beg. Sometimes, things just end because it needs to. And I think you need to understand that there will be no valid explanation for that.

Acceptance is the key. Acceptance is an active force. Sometimes, you have to accept how things work even if it is not according to what you have planned. Accept the things you can not change, allow yourself to grow and be better.

Everything happens for a reason. Do not take this lightly. If it is not meant to be, it will never be. Stop stressing yourself to the things that are not meant for you. Smile and move forward. 

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my mindset is changing and i just don’t want to be around certain things or people anymore

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Remember: Resting isn’t transactional.

You don’t need to do anything special or extra difficult to deserve a break.

You don’t need to reach a certain goalpost of suffering and exhaustion before you’re allowed time off.

Resting for a day doesn’t mean that you’re obligated to work twice as hard the next day.

Humans need variety. Humans need quiet time. Humans need time to “shut off”, whatever that looks like for them.

You’re allowed to be human. You’re allowed a break. Don’t burn yourself out, okay?