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aro-thoughts · 7 days
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Had to share this gem from my twitter tl
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aro-thoughts · 17 days
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quick are you mythologizing sex again? are you making it seem like a special category of human behavior rather than just a thing people do? are you forgetting that it can be silly or fun or simply pedestrian? are you forgetting that it requires conversation and negotiation just like every other human activity that involves other people?
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aro-thoughts · 21 days
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makes me super sad that i constantly question my asexuality. thing is, i’m not exactly asexual, i’m aegosexual, AND i feel aesthetic attraction pretty strongly. i get constantly confused that i’m not ace because wow! people are hot! sex can BE hot! but do I WANT sex? lord. god, no
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aro-thoughts · 22 days
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"we need weirder queers" you guys couldnt even handle asexual people in 2016 (and probably still cant handle them)
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aro-thoughts · 23 days
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??? why are “friends with benefits” now considered a cringe straight people thing???? friends can fuck. it’s literally fine
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aro-thoughts · 1 month
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aro-thoughts · 1 month
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for the funny aspec people in my machines
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aro-thoughts · 1 month
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happy aro month! abolish relationship hierarchies stay hydrated and be kind to urself and others. most of all be very very aro 🏄‍♀️🏄‍♀️🏄‍♀️
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aro-thoughts · 1 month
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actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.
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aro-thoughts · 1 month
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"No platonic explanation for this" DAMN RIGHT !!!!!!!
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[Image ID: the aplatonic flag. /End ID]
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aro-thoughts · 1 month
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sexual attraction: wow I wanna fuck that
romantic attraction: wow I wanna date that
sensual attraction: wow I wanna cuddle that
aesthetic attraction: wow that exists
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aro-thoughts · 2 months
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Aro men. you agree. reblog.
(plaintext because idk if gradient text will show up for everyone: aro men. you agree. reblog)
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aro-thoughts · 2 months
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i’d like to read about non-white aro experiences (as well as experiences of aro people from outside the US and UK). i don’t think there are enough explicitly non-white conversations about aromanticism. i remember seeing a demographic poll a long time ago, with a majority of aromantic tumblr identifying as white, but non-white aros exist!
i want to hear from people who can’t/won’t come out because of cultural expectations or language barriers. people who use different words to describe their aromanticism. people who experience isolation from the aro community because they aren’t white (enough). i want to hear about aromanticism from new angles!
of course, no one is ever obligated to reveal their ethnicity or race online. but if anyone has seen writing on diverse aro experiences or if they want to share their own experiences, i’d like to read about other perspectives! (pls send stuff my way)
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aro-thoughts · 2 months
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Sometimes I'm on here and y'all make posts that just make me go, "you are very young and would benefit from learning something about our culture in the last hundred years".
Yes, people are upset by trans and enby people, because their lives are entirely structured around the different roles of men and women, and the idea that men and women are fundamentally different and inherently suited to their traditional roles. Like, that shouldn't be a big realization. That was a major part of western culture until quite recently, and still is for a great many people. We attack their basic worldview by existing as ourselves. Obviously they're wrong, but that doesn't change the emotion of the situation.
Yes, conservative cis people act like marriage is a chore. For most of history, and certainly US colonial history, marriage was a social and economic necessity that created a working partnership. Attraction was certainly a hoped-for element but not strictly required, and love was a bonus, possibly even a bit suspect as a motivation. It was still like this when my grandparents married. I know couples today who are separated but married for financial reasons. We're not talking about the distant past. Marriage has been many things through the years, and "an equal partnership based on love" is a very recent iteration. Of course our culture is littered with artifacts of the older way. The older way was like...yesterday. Today.
Yes, Grandma has trouble at the grocery store checkout. When she was a kid they had rotary phones and radios, and you paid for everything with cash. She grew up in a culture that taught that childhood was for learning and adulthood was for doing, and now the world is asking her to learn a bunch of new things that basically sound like magic, and she's not even sure she can, and she's not at all sure it's an improvement (and she's got a point, though she might not know it).
There's just....a real lack of perspective. I dunno, watch some documentaries about the fifties. Read some historical novels. Go to the local Victorian house tour.
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aro-thoughts · 2 months
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"i hate microlabels" yeah i also kind of dislike the idea of putting ourselves and our identities into very specific boxes, i think it can be really isolating- ohh wait you mean you think they're invalid. ohh no that's not the way to look at it. killing you
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aro-thoughts · 2 months
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It will never cease to amaze me that people genuinely feel bad for aros and aces. Life is an infinite buffet of joy. I’m allergic to a couple popular dishes, but so is everyone. Look how much more food there is. No one could possibly have it all.
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aro-thoughts · 2 months
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PLATONIC INTERPRETATIONS OF CHARACTER DYNAMICS ARENT ANY LESS VALID THAN ROMANTIC ONES PELASEE
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