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as someone in the aro community (and i think this is also applicable to the ace community, which is why y’all are included), i think there is something to be said about people trying to find a moral explanation to their repulsion. in a some situations, it is helpful and there is a conversation to be had about it but in a lot of others, it’s just recycled purity culture, i’m going to be honest.

before you send a post about how you think it’s actually exhibitionist to kiss in public, or predatory to talk about people you want to sexually pursue with your friends, please ask yourself first if there is genuinely something wrong morally going on there, or if it’s just something that grosses you out. it’s completely okay if it’s something that grosses you out. you don’t need to make up a moral reason behind it. you can just say ‘it grosses me out’ and find a way to remove yourself from that situation, for exemple, by looking away, or asking your friends to not talk about those topics around you (if they refuse, that’s another problem entirely and you should get better friends).

it is as unhealthy for allo people to repress their romantic and/or sexual attraction than it is for us to repress our aromanticism and/or asexuality. this isn’t like an theoretical extrapolation, this is a proven phenomenon, we’ve seen it with the catholic church. i understand and empathize with the fact that it feels like all of this is forced upon us, because it is, but there is a difference between someone telling us ‘i like this’ and someone telling us ‘you’re weird/broken if you don’t like this’.

anyways, sorry for the rant, i keep seeing posts in the aro and/or ace tags that try to justify their repulsion with morality, and i don’t want to single out anyone so i thought i’d make this post. there is no issue with posting about repulsion itself, for the record, it’s the moral justification that i think is unhelpful.

you don’t need any justification for your repulsion, you can just be repulsed. that’s fine.

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It’s alive!!! ⚡️🔩

From the 1982 Miss Piggy Calendar

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just doing a poll for my own Aro/Ace curiosity.

I don't want to hear from non Ace people on this one please. I'm also kinda trying to prove a point about there being more Ace people on this site. (As I seem to have collected them all, but none of them know each other). So my fellow ace people, please share this with all of your followers and we'll get a fun little social experiment out of it.

non ace people are encouraged to reblog, but don't vote; Thank you.

#i like sex it is fun 👍 #sex mention

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baby chain catshark hasn't learned how to swim yet

#shmark tag

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Why did she quote this

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l Lori Grace

#strike tag

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Aromantic Awareness Week 2023: 19th-25th February

I wanted to do something for this week and after drawing some Jeffs for ace week, I thought I’d do a few more! Have a good aro week everyone!

#yes.... YESSSSSSS

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i feel like people often forget that "love" is just a word humans made up to describe a certain set of feelings (that's not even well defined). because a lot of ppl's the first reaction to the concept of lovelesness is to ask "but don't you love your pets? don't you love the world around you?"

get this: i simply do not label my feelings as love. others might've if they were in my shoes, but i don't. is it *that* hard to understand?

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"i don't like the term" don't use it! call your relationships something else.

"people don't get it when i use that term" welcome to being queer? sometimes things will take a bit more explaining than just a few words. the whole point of a QPR is people shouldn't make random assumptions about the nature of the relationship?

"it sounds lame" okay like i understand if you don't want to use the words queerplatonic relationship. i truly get it. but also that's a conversation to have with your partner/s to figure out what terms work for you

this website is so fucking annoying about QPRs how about y'all just shut the fuck up maybe

#i don't understand you people #first it was 'i don't think we need the label of queerplatonic' #and now it's 'queerplatonic sucks as a term and we should come up with something else' #nothing seems to change idk! even when people are technically being supportive in some way it feels so backhanded #aroposting #queerplatonic #QPR #sorry y'all this is kind of a vent....... i saw a post

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this website is so fucking annoying about QPRs how about y'all just shut the fuck up maybe

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they should make astrology for aromantic people

#HEHE #aro who loves astrology here #little secret for u they do make astrology for aro people...........

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Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

Here's the Aromantic pride flag, displayed on my Pentium using my VGAPRIDE program for displaying pride flags in DOS.

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Diversity win! The horniest person you know is on the asexual spectrum

#. #well #sex mention

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I also think it's only a problem to develop unreciprocated romantic feelings with a friend (which can happen whether you're fucking or not so idk why people only treat it like an issue when sex is involved like I've fallen in love with friends without fucking them) IF:

1. You, personally, struggle with rejection sensitivity and struggle to continue a friendship with someone you have unreciprocated feelings for OR

2. They, if you communicate your feelings, are unable to communicate their lack of reciprocation in a healthy way that allows the friendship to continue

Bc I've definitely fucked friends and developed feelings and told them and been politely turned down and decided man. They're great tho and I'm not gonna be weird that they don't feel the same. And we're still friends years later! And it took me till I was nearly 30 to get that comfy bc I have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria so like, I get it, but,,

Also my current partner was also a friend that I hooked up with casually in an unplanned threesome at a convention in our hotel room and I felt fuzzy feelings and said so and we started dating and now we've been together for five year next month and living together for four and I've never known someone I communicate so well with and would choose to have kids with if our lives were entirely different and we could actually provide for ourselves and a kid comfortably

The narrative that "sleeping with your friends is bad bc if you catch feelings everything is ruined" has not been my experience and only seems to be true if one or both parties struggle with communication, rejection sensitivity, and prior issues with people getting pushy when rejected and therefore getting scared which is valid but we can all learn to communicate better together ig

Also the worst friend breakups I've ever had after catching feelings have been exclusively with people I never fucked. So what is this narrative that sex is what ruins friendships

#sex mention

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having sex with your friends is so very normal please stop poisoning the youths minds with shame surrounding hooking up with your friends. especially if you’re gay

#sex mention

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wanting and not wanting at the same time

a comic for asexual awareness week