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have to say i’m a huge fan of women. just an absolute stan of The Ladies

#international women's day #women’s history month #lesbian #sapphic

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it’s okay if you spend a long time questioning and it’s okay if you don’t end up using a label at all

#lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq positivity #lgbtq post #queer #queer pride #queer positivity #questioning #aspec pride #aspec positivity #ace #asexual #asexuality #asexual positivity

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bringing this back because aro week is making me realize, once again, how frustrating and stupid it is that aromantics get ignored or mocked when they talk about how damaging amatonormativity is even though it’s harmful to literally everyone. i’m alloromantic and i can understand that. listen to aros when they talk about societal issues with romance. they know what’s up

kinda weird how even though amatonormativity and everything in our society being sexualized negatively affects everyone, asexuals and aromantics are ignored whenever we try to bring attention to these things

#aromantic #aro #aro week #aromantic week #aromantic awareness week #aro awareness week #aromantic positivity #aro positivity #aromantic pride #aro pride #amatonormativity

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“They’re too young to know they’re ace” oh no what’s the worst that happens, someone explores their experiences and finds that they learned about themselves? They try on a label you don’t like? They accept asexuality even if theyre not ace? What’s next, self discovery? Self love? What’s the worst that happens if they’re wrong? They know more about themselves?

#crazy how teenagers actually understand themselves better than the adults in their lives do #also questioning and changing your mind are important parts of self-discovery #it’s okay to change your label #it doesn’t mean you were *faking it* #reblogs

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I feel so creepy on dating apps. Like, I want to be someone’s person and I want to find the right person for me but almost every dating app is 90% photography based and it makes me feel so shallow and terrible to vote no on a person just because they have unflattering pictures. How can I get to know someone when all I can see is a selfie and that they work in Springfield and their birthday is in July??? How does this help anyone find a partner? Non-ace people confuse me

not to be dramatic but dating apps just feel so dystopian to me?? i think people mostly use them just for hook-ups and stuff which doesn’t really appeal to me but yeah i agree that they’re not a good way to meet people. it’s so hard to find other queer people to date and it gets even more complicated when you’re ace…

#asks

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aro people deserve to be happy and fulfilled regardless of the relationships they do or don’t have. you are a complete person as you are.

#aro #aromantic #aromantic pride #aro pride #aromantic positivity #aro positivity #aro week #aro awareness week #aro awareness #aromantic awareness #aromantic awareness week

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terfs get the fuck off my blog challenge

things i have seen/experienced working in a toy store:

• a customer asking me if boys like coloring

• a customer telling her daughter she can’t give out ice cream stickers for party favors because there will be boys there

• an older couple laughing about how there’s a pink toy sword because a boy would never play with a pink toy sword (because i guess boys can’t like pink and girls don’t play with toy swords. also it wasn’t even pink it was red lol)

• a customer refusing to buy a snail robot kit for his nephew because it was “too cute for a boy”

• a customer sharply reminding me she was buying a gift for a boy when i suggested play food

• a customer telling her daughter she needed to pick a different birthday card for her friend because the one she chose had a pink envelope (her friend was a boy)

• a customer asking what a boy would like for valentine’s day instead of the stuffed dogs she was getting for the girls

• a customer getting upset when my coworker used blue ribbon on a gift bag because the present was for a girl

• a customer saying a toy guitar was “too girly” for her grandson, based only on the fact that the box had a picture of a girl playing with it (the guitar was red with yellow music notes)

but yeah, trans people have some real weird ideas about gender

#TRANS PEOPLE EXIST #TRANS PEOPLE ARE NOT THE PROBLEM #TRANSPHOBIA AND SEXISM ARE THE PROBLEM #PLEASE FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO BE MAD ABOUT

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story time:

the last time i had an actual, honest-to-god crush on someone was almost three years ago. i actually started wondering if i might be aromantic, and i had just been imagining having romantic feelings for people in the past. but then. last week. holy fucking shit. i realized i have feelings for one of my friends. and i forgot how much love hurts. like, physically. every time i think about her, i just feel this tightness in my throat. it’s an intense longing that’s tinged with loneliness and excitement, and being around her just doesn’t feel the same anymore. so i’m definitely not aromantic akdhakdjakfhhs

i think infrequent but really intense and long-lasting crushes is a common thing among alloromantic asexuals. i’ve never felt as sure about being ace & lesbian as i have this week.

#asexual positivity #asexual pride #asexual awareness #asexuality #asexual #ace #ace positivity #ace post #asexual post #asexual lesbian #ace lesbian #sapphic asexual #sapphic ace

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things i have seen/experienced working in a toy store:

• a customer asking me if boys like coloring

• a customer telling her daughter she can’t give out ice cream stickers for party favors because there will be boys there

• an older couple laughing about how there’s a pink toy sword because a boy would never play with a pink toy sword (because i guess boys can’t like pink and girls don’t play with toy swords. also it wasn’t even pink it was red lol)

• a customer refusing to buy a snail robot kit for his nephew because it was “too cute for a boy”

• a customer sharply reminding me she was buying a gift for a boy when i suggested play food

• a customer telling her daughter she needed to pick a different birthday card for her friend because the one she chose had a pink envelope (her friend was a boy)

• a customer asking what a boy would like for valentine’s day instead of the stuffed dogs she was getting for the girls

• a customer getting upset when my coworker used blue ribbon on a gift bag because the present was for a girl

• a customer saying a toy guitar was “too girly” for her grandson, based only on the fact that the box had a picture of a girl playing with it (the guitar was red with yellow music notes)

but yeah, trans people have some real weird ideas about gender

#lgbt #lgbtq #trans #transgender #gender #gender roles #pink and blue #gender stereotypes #feminism

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actually asexual and aromantic people are allowed to feel literally anything about sex and romance and relationships. actually we don’t have to follow anyone’s made up rules about what we can and can’t do and how we can and can’t feel. actually identifying as asexual or aromantic or both is not putting yourself in a box, it’s allowing yourself to experience your identity freely and live how you want to live.

#asexual positivity #asexual pride #asexual awareness #asexuality #asexual #ace #ace positivity #ace pride #ace post #asexual post #aromantic #aromantic positivity #aromantic pride #aro #aro positivity #aro pride

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psa

romantic attraction that allo-aces experience is not lesser because it’s not paired with sexual attraction

#asexual positivity #asexual pride #asexual awareness #asexuality #asexual #ace #asexual post #ace post #allo ace #ace positivity #ace pride

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will the lonely middle schooler inside me ever die? will she always be watching her friends whisper secrets in front of her? will she ever be in a room full of people and not feel painfully, desperately alone? will she always have a gut feeling that something is undeniably and permanently wrong with her? will she ever realize she has more to offer than usefulness and convenience? will she ever know how to interact with people her age? will she always feel like she’s everyone’s last choice?

#thoughts #musings #middle school #memories

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i wish high schoolers didn’t have so much pressure to start dating and have the ~magical~ first love that everyone thinks is so important. lots of happy and fulfilled people don’t date until adulthood. lots of happy and fulfilled people don’t date at all. give yourself permission to make your own rules and lead your own life.

#asexual positivity #asexual pride #asexual awareness #asexuality #asexual #ace #asexual post #ace post #aromantic #aro #aromantic post #aromantic positivity #aro post #aro positivity #high school

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i’ve been writing short stories for a while now, and i’ve kind of avoided any romantic themes so far, but i realized that if i ever do have romance as a part of a story, i would probably have to make all the characters asexual. i don’t know if i would be able to write a character who experiences sexual attraction, despite all the research i did when i was questioning about what the hell sexual attraction is, because i think about these feelings in a very intellectualized/rationalized way. the way i’ve defined sexual attraction so i can understand it is measured and precise and just… inhuman. it’s hard to imagine a feeling you’ve never experienced yourself, and i don’t think i can picture sexual attraction in an organic enough way to be able to write about it effectively.

#asexual positivity #asexual pride #asexual awareness #asexuality #ace #asexual #ace positivity #ace pride #ace awareness #asexual post #ace post

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I don't really like listening to overt sexual songs either. My friend took me to a Louis Tomlinson concert a few months ago and I had never really listened to him before but I noticed that none of his songs are sexual it's more about emotions. A lot of the songs actually sounded better live but I did add several of his songs to my playlists after the concert, I think my favorite is Defenceless. (In case you are interested!)

ooh thanks for the recommendations! i haven’t listened to his music yet but maybe i’ll try it out!

#asks

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stop calling yourself sex positive if you don’t recognize asexuality and the complicated relationships a lot of ace people have with sex. you’re not sex positive if you don’t support the choice to not have sex. you’re not sex positive if you don’t support the choice to wait until a committed relationship. you’re not sex positive if you don’t support everyone’s right to make the choices they’re comfortable making related to sex, including asexual people, and especially including sex averse/repulsed asexual people.

#asexual positivity #asexual pride #asexual awareness #asexuality #ace #asexual #ace positivity #ace pride #ace awareness #cw sex mention #sex positive #sex positivity

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it’s okay if it takes time to accept yourself.

#asexual positivity #asexual pride #asexual awareness #asexuality #asexual #ace #ace positivity #ace awareness #ace community #asexual community