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If you’re anxious interacting with other people, especially strangers, I’ve got a tip for you: Focus on being kind. Not nice, kind.

“Nice” means acting in a manner that others might deem acceptable and … nice. It enforces a mindset that is already strong when you’re an anxious person: The focus lies outside of yourself, worrying what others might think, seeing yourself through the (imagined) eyes of other people. Therefore it is best avoided.

“Kind” means behaving in a manner that you think aligns with your values. You decide if you are showing the other person the respect they deserve. Which might be none, if they’re an asshole. The magical thing is, if you focus on being kind during an interaction, you stay anchored in your own experience instead of anxiously wondering about the other person’s perspective.

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This is a great response and I am going to use it!

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it’s insane how tired I am honestly…like I’m so sexy for still going

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A bit of September 7th history…

70 - Roman army under General Titus occupies and plunders Jerusalem

1813 - “Uncle Sam” 1st used to refer to the US (pictured)

1916 - Workman’s Compensation Act passed by Congress

1921 - 1st Miss America Pageant is held in Atlantic City

1936 - Last surviving member of the Thylacine species (Tasmanian Tiger) dies in her cage in Tasmania 

1940 - Beginning of the Blitz: German Luftwaffe bomb London for 1st of 57 consecutive nights

1977 - Panama Canal Treaties signed, guaranteeing Panama’s control over the Panama Canal beginning in 2000

1979 - ESPN debuts

1996 - Rap artist Tupak Shakur is shot multiple times in a drive by shooting in Las Vegas - dies 6 days later 

2013 - Chinese President Xi Jinping announces plans to develop a new “Silk Road Economic Belt” during a visit to Kazakhstan

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水暴れる渓流 -  睡蓮の花

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Blackberry Mountain for WSJ Magazine, Justin Kaneps

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BROAD CITY (2014-2019) Created by Ilana Glazer & Abbi Jacobson

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Passive aggressive maybe, but like...healing and getting better isn't easy. When I see people make posts about "LOL google says I should make a schedule to help manage my ADHD but I can't make a schedule bc I have ADHD" it's like. People saying that stuff know it's hard. That's part of why you gotta do it.

Sometimes healing is easier. Sometimes it's something really small that becomes routine. But sometimes it's hard! Sometimes you gotta push yourself to do something and it sucks! But I don't know what to tell you, other than that you don't need to be good at it right away.

Using the calendar example, I have ADHD + semi-frequent memory loss, so it can feel really difficult to try and make a calendar when both of those things can directly get in the way. So I started with making sure recurring events were in it, like therapy and med reminders. Now I'm usually able to remember to put in appointments or other one-time events in as soon as I know about them. It takes a lot of work.

I don't know. I just think sometimes people on this site are sitting in mud and complaining about being dirty. You really do need to try.

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清水花谷, mentougou, beijing by 南

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Back when I worked at walgreens I didn't know witch hazel was a real thing people would come in asking for it and I'd be like yeah it's on aisle 3 next to the wolfsbane and eye of newt you fucking idiot bastard

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Martindale, Lake District - May 2021 Pentax K1000 on Kodak Gold 200

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he is neither fit nor active.

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people with mental illnesses and disabilities are not lazy for being affected by their symptoms.

you are not being lazy for not being as productive as others who can realistically afford to put that much energy into their work.

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thank you for all the patience you show me when i’m being difficult.

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2021-07-25

Canon EOS R6 + RF50mm f1.2L

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