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Like, people who identify as Queer know the word is used like a slur. Trust me, we know.

So when we say “queer is a slur” was started by terfs, maybe use some critical thinking and try to understand what we mean. That is, if you actually care about queer people and the damage terfs do, rather that just screaming “queer is a slur!” and ignoring the actual point.

Terfs did not like that queer was reclaimed. End of. This is a fact. Queer was too broad, too accepting, and embraced all the people they wanted gone. And I know y'all exclusionists feel the same but get pissed when we point it out so you deny it, but sit down and listen for a minute.

Queer was the preferred term for poc. For bisexuals. For trans people. For people with multiple identities. It neatly encapsulated everything, and was a friendly community to those who felt thrown under the bus by mainstream LGBT activism. It was a political and social statement, “you treated my like I was different and weird, and guess what? I am and that’s something to be proud of.”

So the response? “You can’t use that word. Its bad. Its a slur.”

And at the time, a lot of people rolled their eyes. Everyone knew why they didn’t like the word and brushed that off. It was fine.

So they started more subtly. “Just so you know this word is very harmful and is a slur so be careful how you use it :))) in case you didn’t know :)))) its a slur :))) friendly reminder :))) for the sake of other people of course :))))” type shit on every post involving the word, including and especially posts simply mentioning self identification.

Always worded in friendly, concerned ways, like the derailment was meant to be nice and considerate, and not about normalizing their rhetoric.

And what happened because of that was a younger generation of community kids growing up with these statements being thrown at them and absorbed on every. Single. Post. That. Mentionioned. Queer.

The result? That same generation of kids cutting it all short, removing the meant-to-be-palatable niceness, to just say “queer is a slur.”

Exactly how it was originally intended. “Queer is a slur.” People drop on posts where young queer people talk about it being a self identifier that actually fits them. “Its a slur,” they comment, with nothing else, on posts they clearly didn’t read past that word, written by people twice their age who had reclaimed it before they were even born.

Its nasty. Its disgusting. It’s plain old bigotry, whether the people saying know it or not. It is a terf tactic, plain and simple.

And no one wants to deny that it is indeed used as a slur (right along with all the rest of our identities.) No one wants to be insensitive and force it on people who haven’t reclaimed it.

But invading queer people’s posts to spit “queer is a slur” is flat out queerphobic. You do the dirty work of terfs, of cis straight oppressors, by saying in one simple sentence: “its a dirty word, there is no pride in it, you haven’t/can’t reclaim(ed) it.”

And regardless of your actual intentions, when you do this, that is EXACTLY what you are communicating and doing.

“Queer is a slur” is a terf movement. Stop fucking supporting terfs just because you want to pretend like it isn’t.

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Link / Link

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i really like looking at google image searches for “firemen rescuing cats” or something because you get super cute pictures like

AND THEN THERE’S THIS ONE

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Dr. Olivia Octavius

Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse (2018)

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From The Little Girl from the 1981 Lego Ad Is All Grown Up, and She’s Got Something To Say.

“Toys are supposed to foster creativity. But nowadays, it seems that a lot more toys already have messages built into them before a child even opens the pink or blue package. In 1981, LEGOs were simple and gender-neutral, and the creativity of the child produced the message. In 2014, it’s the reverse: the toy delivers a message to the child, and this message is weirdly about gender.”

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It’s Not About You

“I get that ___ is the pronoun preferred by this person, but I don’t feel comfortable using it.”

“I understand that ___ is the pronoun this person prefers, and that’s okay, but I’m never going to get used to using it, so I’m not going to try.”

“I know this person as ___, not ___. It’s just what I’m used to, so that’s how I’m going to refer to that person as.”

“The person isn’t here. It doesn’t matter if I use the wrong pronoun.”

No. Just no.

It doesn’t matter how you feel about the pronouns someone prefers to be called by. It’s not about your “comfort” or if the person isn’t in the room or if you knew the person as a certain pronoun before they changed it or if you assume you won’t get used to using the right pronoun. 

It’s not about you.

It’s about how that person feels and how good it is to know that the way they are is okay. It’s about letting them know that they are accepted by the people around them.

Yeah, you don’t think it matters that much. But guess what? It does. It matters what you call that friend that is in the middle of transitioning. It matters what you call that family member that came out a couple years ago. It matters what you call that classmate that keeps changing their pronouns to experiment what feels right to them. 

It matters.

It’s not about you.

It’s about her.

It’s about him.

It’s about them.

(Feel free to correct/rephrase anything if I didn’t get it right or add on to this if I missed anything.)

#my rants #pronouns #acceptance #lgbtqipa #understanding #they/them #she/her #he/him #she/they #he/they #he/her #she/him #nonbinary #enby #trans rights #trans #transgender #enby representation #enby rights #trans representation #nonbinary rights #nonbinary representation #identity

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You can literally make anything and anyone problematic if you try hard enough seriously give me people and things and I’ll make them all “problematic” right now.

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alloace and alloaro positivity!!! y’all are wonderful ✨

[exclusionists/aphobes/terfs DNI]

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Watch: Leslie Jones gave a touching tribute to Whoopi Goldberg about why representation matters

Gifs: The View

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to all trans guys: the f on your birth certificate isnt for female, its to pay respects

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She did THAT

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https://www.instagram.com/theresafractale/

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Reblog if you are insecure about anything below:

-weight

-appearance

-intelligence (or lack of) 

-skills (or lack of) 

-weird hobbies

-friends (or lack of) 

-body

-personality

-family

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me when my ears dont work n im also a white man

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