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make no mistake: banning Jews from the dyke march is not about support for palestine. it’s about holding jews globally accountable for the actions of israel. which is antisemitic.

banning queer jews from safe queer spaces is antisemitic. 

deciding whether a jew is “good” or “bad” based on interrogation about zionism is antisemitic.

leftists need to stop being f*#%ing antisemitic.

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Not only did it happen in his home city; a 14-year-old girl from his school was killed.

There are no words.

I've seen a few anons today that are bashing harry for not playing a full set on putting on a fun show last night and i know they're probably just trolls, but I guess there's a lot of this all over twitter right now, and it's honestly just so disheartening to see that kind of incredibly insensitive behavior.

Hiiiii anon love 💖💖💖 Honestly, don’t pay these heartless and insensitive people any mind. This world is fucked up already as it is without having to add their asshole and ignorant opinions to it. What happened yesterday is one of the too many tragedies that are going on in the world and it will leave a scar for sure. To have something like that happen in your home is even more traumatising and scaring, so what Harry did was was extremely thoughtful and lovely and mindful. He got up on that stage to not disappoint the fans who showed up to see him, though he could have easily cancelled the show and flown home to his family because honestly, he probably just wanted a hug from them in that moment. And for people to even suggest that he had to do more and he had to do this and that is so inconsiderate and mean and it doesn’t deserve a second more of my attention tbh. People need to learn how to live in the world, need to learn some compassion and basic human decency and need to let others mourn and react to tragedies the way they feel and need to. Sorry for the rant, love! I’m sending you all the love, don’t pay attention to these freaking trolls! Focus on all the loving and caring people who are sharing love and hugs during these times 💕💕💕💕💕

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Divide and rule.

By accident,or by design, that’s what’s happening round here at the moment. Wouldn’t it be great if we could express our opinions without tearing apart people who have different opinions? If we could stop taking an aggressive and angry tone with people who mean well, but say things we consider less intelligent or worldly than our own superior opinions? Because opinions are all any of us have if we’re honest. There are facts driving everything that we’re simply not party to. Honest discussion is interesting. I don’t want a dash full of identikit opinions because people are too scared to speak up, or to see people disappear because they’re sad or confused and they feel those things aren’t tolerated. Yes, you can say what you like on your own blog. If you want to be an asshole, be an asshole and people can unfollow you if they don’t like it, but maybe we’d have a less exhausted, less toxic, less miserable fandom if you directed your energy away from attacking people who like the same things you do. 

I love Harry. Always have, always will. He’s a good person. I don’t believe he has his freedom. I really don’t like the Harry brand strategy. I’m emotional about all the boys, so that upsets me. I’m becoming disengaged and I think I’m being manipulated into that. I think people are winning who I don’t want to win. I’d like to turn to the fandom to regain my strength and perspective so I can carry on supporting the boys in the way I’d like to, because I really do think they need us. That’s becoming harder and harder to do though, because the fandom is falling apart. So maybe we could try treating each other with a bit more respect and kindness, because if we don’t, all we’ll have left is a few really thick skinned, stubborn people shouting at each other about how right they are. At our best, we’re powerful and amazing and revolutionary. At our worst, we’re nothing. Divide and rule.

#me #hard same #I'm growing very tired of the 'you're homophobic if you don't believe in larry' trope too #anytime anyone disagrees with a larry theory #they're called homophobic #like ... #we literally know nothing about who these boys really are #if I'm cool with you being a larry why can't you be cool with me not being one? #and i'm tired of this fandom turning everything harry does into a discussion of how brave he is for surviving this closet he's in #don't reduce harry to his sexuality #it should have no real bearing on whether you're a fan of his or not #and you don't know what his sexuality is anymore than i do #so let me believe what i believe and you believe what you believe and stop with the ridiculousness #this is turning into a rant #i just never want to be on tumblr anymore because this fandom grows increasingly toxic and awful

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Someone: Hey, how are y-

Me: GO WATCH THE PROMISE IT’S ABOUT THE ARMENIAN GENOCIDE THAT SEVERAL COUNTRIES REFUSE TO RECOGNIZE AS SUCH DESPITE THE WORD ‘GENOCIDE’ DERIVING FROM THAT VERY EVENT AND MANY PEOPLE HAVE TRIED TO STOP THIS MOVIE FROM GETTING MADE AND BEING SUCCESSFUL EVEN RESORTING TO CREATING REVIEWS WITHOUT HAVING YET SEEING THE MOVIE IT’S A MOVIE TO MAKE PEOPLE AWARE OF THIS GENOCIDE AND 100% OF THE PROCEEDS WILL GO TO CHARITIES 100%!!!!!!

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Helloooo sweet anon love 💖💖💖💖 Ok first of all, don’t apologise for messaging me, it’s totally OK! You didn’t unload anything on me, I love talking to you guys 💕 To answer your question, I understand how you feel and I get it, I truly do. We have formed this deep and wonderful connection with someone we don’t really know, and it’s so incredible to think you see something of yourself in them, to think that you can find in them the representation and the support you need. But the thing that it’s important to always keep in mind is that no matter how many interviews we get, no matter how many videos and performances we watch, we’ll never truly know these people. And it’s not fair to them, and it’s not fair to YOU in the first place, to build a persona of them, to idealise them and paint them in a certain way and then be disappointed when they do or say something that shatters that picture. And I mean, I definitely understand being disappointed in things and people, I’ve had my fair share of let downs, but you can’t let it consume you, you know? If you detach yourself from famous people it’s easier to just enjoy them for the good and amazing feelings they give you, and not resent them for things you thought were the truth. Also, as much as he uses gender neutral terms and is pretty careful with words, it’s not the first time he’s talked about dating women and referred to women when talking about his relationships. It’s pretty clear that straight or not, he’s had relationships with women. That doesn’t change how he is, that doesn’t take absolutely anything away from the beautiful, compassionate, incredible, talented person he is. That’s why I try to say over and over again to keep his personal life and his work life separated like he does, because you’ll always find a friend of him you don’t like, a girlfriend you can’t stand, a person he associates with that you hate, and it’s gonna make you continuously sad and disappointed, you know? Harry is truly beautiful, he’s flawed and imperfect like everyone else, he’s just 23 yo, I feel like sometimes we forget that, he still has so much to learn and so much growing up to do, but I think he’s doing pretty great all things considered. My advice for you, if I can give you one, is to take a step back, not to have these people’s lives influence your own life so much. Enjoy the music, the pics, the funny skit, and don’t let the rest affect you. If you can’t separate the two things, it’s gonna be difficult to do that. Sending all the love and hugs to you, sweetheart 💖💖💖💖💖💖

#this is a really terrific answer and a really good anon

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I just want to add to what Brie said here, because I too have been really upset about this all day. 

I think the thing that bothers me most is how easy this article/interview makes it all sound. Like “oh yeah, I had an eating disorder, but then I went home and ate some of my mom’s cooking and I was fine” or “oh yeah, my anxiety is gone now that I’m not in 1D. I’m perfectly normal.” 

Because the thing is, anxiety is NOT easy. Eating disorders DON’T get better simply by going home to eat your mother’s cooking (and yes, if you don’t eat for days simply because you want control, that’s an eating disorder). 

Anxiety is painful. It’s a constant struggle. It’s something you live with for your entire life. People who suffer from mental illness have real, physiological differences in how their brains work than the average population. That’s not something that just disappears one day. It’s a life-long issue. Sometimes you can control it better than other times. Some people have milder cases than other people. But real anxiety disorders aren’t something that pop up once and disappear forever once you remove yourself from a tough situation.

When you have anxiety, you are constantly working on yourself, constantly challenging yourself to face your triggers, constantly employing coping mechanisms to get through every day. And yes, there are good days. There are good weeks. But then there are really shitty days where you wake up and everything just feels off and the entire day is a mess. It’s not linear, it’s not logical, and it’s not fair. Anxiety sucks. There’s nothing simple or understandable about it. 

The WORST thing you can do for anxiety is avoid your triggers or withdraw from society. The article frames Zayn’s withdrawal from society as his cure. Whether he actually believes that isn’t clear, but that idea -- the complete withdrawal from the world -- will just make it that much harder for you to return to normal life. I know because I’ve been through it. I went through a phase where I couldn’t leave my bedroom, where I couldn’t leave my house even to go into the backyard. Your fears and anxiety grow the more you avoid or ignore it. You start to believe you are only ok because you aren’t in the situation that made you anxious, and then you start to believe you won’t be ok unless you continue to withdraw. 

The only way you can learn to live with anxiety is to learn how to change your lifestyle and build your mental toolkit to help you cope. It takes therapy with a trained mental health professional. For some people, it takes medication. Exercise and a healthy diet are also essential. 

But most of all, you need to get help. You can’t expect anxiety to disappear. You can’t expect an eating disorder to just disappear. There will never be a “poof! It’s gone!” moment unless you do get help. 

I’m concerned that this article will make people believe that if they’re anxious, all they have to do is live like a hermit for a bit and have some of their mom’s cooking and then they’ll feel better. I’m more worried that people who DON’T have anxiety will read this and become that much less understanding when someone they know or love goes through anxiety and doesn’t just wake up one day magically cured of it. 

I’m lucky to have friends who are supportive of me. I’m lucky to have people who will sit by my side while I panic and wait for me to get through it without complaining. I’m lucky that they understand that sometimes I cancel on them because I’m having a hard day and just can’t bring myself to do whatever we had planned. But if this article is your only basis for understanding what anxiety is like, how could you understand? How could you be a supportive friend if you think anxiety is easy, or temporary, or simple to fix? 

Anyway, if you are struggling, feel free to reach out to me at any time. And please, please seek professional help. It is the best thing you can do for yourself if you are in a situation like this. 

The Sunday Times article on Zayn that just came out makes me so fucking angry in the way it talks about anxiety disorders (which I have), and eating disorders (which I don’t have - so I’ll refrain from expressing my opinion on it). It’s so flippant and makes it sound like anxiety is just something you can get over and be 100% cured. They don’t even bother making a editors note to say, “if you’re suffering from mental illness or an ED please call or find resources here…” I’m probably making a bigger deal out of it than I need to, but mental illness and how it’s portrayed in media and for the masses is super important to me.

To be clear, I’m not blaming Zayn as with print media, you never know exactly what was said sometimes. I’m blaming the article itself and whoever edited it, and how irresponsible it is to frame anxiety disorders in such a casual light. 

I just hope anyone who reads that knows that it’s okay if you don’t just “get over” your anxiety. It’s okay if you are doing well with recovery, and have a bad day or week or month. That it’s an ongoing non-linear process that a lot of people don’t understand, but you’re not alone in how you feel. It’s okay to seek help, but also okay if seeking help scares the absolute crap out of you. I just…I don’t know what else to say, but I just had to get this out. 

#anxiety #zayn #eating disorders

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Shit this fandom does to Louis:

Tells him he’s gay when he says he’s straight

Tells him his girlfriends are fake

Tells him his CHILD is fake

Physically attacks his girlfriend in an airport and when he defends her, he gets arrested

Shit this fandom asks for from Louis:

Everything

#I'm done with this fandom #this isn't any way to treat someone

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lemonbittertwist replied to your post: If you believe in Larry, that’s your right as a...

I thought I’d unfollowed you. Will do it now.

Glad you feel the need to unfollow based on me defending Eleanor’s right to not get attacked. <3

#lemonbittertwist

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If you believe in Larry, that’s your right as a human being, but that NEVER gives you a right to physically attack ANYONE. Instead of chatting amongst yourselves about whatever stunt you believe is going on today, maybe take some time to tell your followers that violence and intimidation is never acceptable.

This has gone way too far, and now one of your faves has been arrested. Nice job making the entire fandom look terrible. If I was Louis, I would want nothing to do with “fans” for a very long time. 

#Louis Tomlinson #Harry Styles #Larry #Eleanor Calder #One Direction

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Found this old pupper wandering the streets and I returned him to his home, he brought me his ducky as a thank you (Source: http://ift.tt/2lYds7I)

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#hockey bro styles #someone play this trope with me

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He paid 800 bucks for a white sweatshirt.

800 bucks

800

Louis at The Late Late Show rehearsal | February 13, 2017

VETEMENTS + Champion Hoodie ($810)

#thats nearly half my rent

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ZAYN IS TRASH: THE MASTERPOST

said the n word and instead of apologizing he got his team to remove the video from the internet(x)(x)

said black people aren’t victims of targeted police brutality and then tweeted support on all lives matter when called out for being racist

has a teepee in his backyard

retweeted from an account called @N*ggaCommentary

copied lil wayne’s album cover without credit and compared himself to black rap legends by retweeting this, then mockingly said he “ain’t trynna be no rapper” when called out for it, and belittled the black people calling him out calling them too stupid to appreciate art

objectified a black woman in the pillowtalk mv by reducing her to a “tribal”, aggressive naked prop with her face mostly obscured in contrast to the other white models in the mv who are all clothed

called his overweight ex producer a “fat joke” during a twitter dispute

retweeted a joke where people were mocking an overweight girl and referring to her as a pig

cheated on his fiancee 4 times(x)(x)(x)(x) then dumped her via text because he wanted a “fresh start” for his new career, despite denying that he dumped her via text before because he “respected” her

said he only liked girls who are chunky in the “nice areas”

has cheated on all of his past girlfriends

blamed his ex fiancee for why he cheated on her 5 times in a song saying “i think i know she don’t love me, that’s why i fuck around”

made misogynistic remarks about 1d’s merchandise, made to appeal to young girls, by calling it “so girly and not cool" 

said he only liked intelligent girls, and implied girls who liked hair and makeup were not

was misogynistic when he called 1d’s music, which predominantly appeals to young girls, “uncool” and that he’d never play it for his girlfriend, referencing the fact that he’s a 22 year old man as a reason

reduced bob marley’s legacy to just weed by referring to smoking weed as “paying homage to bob marley”

reduced jamaica to “weed culture”

cheated on his girlfriend with a woman who he lied to about being single, was caught secretly recording that same woman without her consent which is a form of sexual assault, and that same woman said he made her feel like an object

defended his racist girlfriend when she was called out for mocking east asians by saying, “trust me.. she likes asians ;)“ 

+BONUS NASTINESS+

drew bestiality

liked a gross tweet bragging about how lucky his girlfriend is for “playing with his dick every night” for everyone, including her parents, to see

has a yin yang tattoo

was being placed as a priority over other black artists in his label, when he is a non black poc profiting off black culture

acephobic when he said that everyone has sex, that it’s something everyone wants to hear about, and that it’s a part of everyone’s life

ditched his then best friend’s mother’s wedding to go hiking, despite all other 4 members of the group attending

#finally people see

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Jews in the United States, please call the offices of the Jewish Federations of North America in DC and ask them to issue a public statement condemning Trump’s executive order on refugees.

A denunciation of the executive order from the JFNA (created from a merger of the United Jewish Appeal and the Council of Jewish Federations in 1999) would be of great symbolic importance, a strong message to Trump and the world that American Jews stand with refugees and immigrants.

Between the hours of 9am and 5pm EST, the number to call is 202-785-5900. Politely explain the reason for your call, and when requested give them your name and the city you live in. Remind them that one of their top priorities as an organization is to assist refugees.

If you are unable to reach them during these hours, you can email William Daroff, Senior Vice President for Public Policy at [email protected] and Stephan Kline, Associate Vice President for Public Policy at [email protected]. Tell them who you are, what city you are writing from, request that they issue a public statement condemning the executive order.

Be sure to let family and friends know to do the same.

Remember the St. Louis!

#signal boost

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As of Sunday Jan 29, Boston is the only US city pledging to admit all legal green card and visa holders, and refugees at an international airport. No detention no deportation. Anyone trying to come back to the US who is affected by the ban is being urged to reroute through Logan airport. Please share.

#my city #<3 it

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I’ve never seen any Tumblr user who isn’t Jewish reblog things like this. Just saying. 

i’ve seen an appalling amount of news stories regarding the rise in anti-semitic hate crime and threats over the past few months, yet here on tumblr i follow TWO non-jews who blog about it regularly, almost always reblogged from myself, and one who blogs about it sporadically. not sure why goyim seem to think they can defeat nazis when they are willfully ignorant about a primary target of nazis.

there have been 48 bomb threats to jewish community centers across the country over the past two weeks and the only blogs i saw posting about it were jewish bloggers. according to the fbi, in 2015, over HALF of religious-based hate crimes were anti-jewish, yet this stat has only been brought to my attention by other jews. a man drove cross-country to my hometown with an explosive compound to “desecrate” my temple this summer. this is real, it’s happening, and it always has been.

raising awareness is the easiest thing to do in the age of social media and instant information, so goyim, it’s time to step it tf up.

#antisemitism #you think I don't notice but I do

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TWO OF MY FAVE THINGS

When you’re waiting for Venus Williams’ Australian Open match to start and they play Just Hold On to introduce the players!!! @witheringspite @intimisky @ainelen7 @justlookatthehearteyes

@iamsodeluded @lautemalerei @mirandaskye

#1D and tennis #Come on Nole!