did you eat your wheaties today? remember to eat your wheaties, as part of this balanced breakfast!
here’s a cool idea for the new year: hedonism is healthy.
pleasure is good for you. fun is good for you. humans aren’t supposed to spend their lives in constant struggle. we have souls, for fuck’s sake, we know we’re going to die! we shouldn’t be putting pleasure on hold until we’ve ‘earned’ it. we should enjoy ourselves as much as possible and as often as possible. how can we save anyone by entrenching ourselves in suffering? how can we hope to be strong and kind as we starve ourselves of beauty? if the world is going to burn then i want marshmallows.
hedonism is healthy.
hedonism! sugary cereals! are healthy!
look i don’t give a shit how “heartbreaking” it is to disown your gay kid, you literally Do Not Have To Do That. nobody’s forcing you to abandon this person who wholly depends on you for everything and who you promised to take care of and love no matter what.
bringing this back for gay knife month
gay…. knife? month ,, ,
yes, as in the knives i have waiting for parents who disown their gay and trans kids.
No really: the child DOES NOT know why they did that. Fine neuro-muscular control still developing, impulse control “burped”, a pet tripped them and you didn’t notice. There are lots of reasons that a child is at the center of a mess that needs to be cleaned up but that is NEVER because they want to hurt you as a person.
I’m currently staring at my 20 month old toddler and she is plenty old enough to have the type of tantrum that involves taking whatever she is holding and throwing in on the floor. Sure it makes a mess. And maybe she stared me dead in eyes for an angry second before dropping a glass of milk on the floor but was not an attack on me or my property. She would have no idea why I was angry at her for something that may have already left her underdeveloped attention span.
Children need positive feedback on dealing with their negative emotions and impulse control; hell - lots of adults do too because they never learned from prior generations of hitting parents.
We children of the hitting generation learned Terror. Fear of your parents doesn’t teach you not to behave a certain way, it only teaches you not to get caught.
me as a teen watching a parent storm across a room to scream at a child for accidentally spilling paint: hm. This is not good.
me as an adult watching another adult storm across a room to scream at a vulnerable and still developing child for accidentally spilling paint: This is my villain origin story
the longer I’m parenting-aged the more I realize how disciplinary oriented parenting styles are significantly more deranged than initially assumed
Fear of your parents doesn’t teach you not to behave a certain way, it only teaches you not to get caught.
me, manipulating your kids into buying me by keeping my gaze at their eye level:
Friend: Says something.
What I want to say: I’m really interested in what you are saying. As my friend, I support you. I want you to know I am still here, still listening, and still enjoying what we are sharing together. However as this is a topic I myself have no experience with, or little to say or offer, I’m unable to produce much in the way of input from my side. However trust that I still adore listening to you!
What comes out: Yee.
This post shot me in the face four times.
When we talk about being fat-positive and we say, “weight is not an indication of health,” I will reblog it. But I want us to also say, “health is not an indication of value.”
I could be at any weight and I will never be healthy, because I am chronically ill. Someone might be chronically ill and fat, or they might be chronically ill and not fat, and it really doesn’t matter.
When you make it about health, you’re saying health is the pinnacle of human achievement, and you’re shitting on those of us for whom health will always be a pipe dream.
cereal in one hand and cereal in the other. part of this balanced breakfast!
I love this video because this child is eating all types of veggies and none of them look like they were boiled. If your kids hate vegetables it’s because you don’t know how to cook them. My niece and nephew will eat any vegetables and fruit I give them.