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we talk a lot about ohhhh what if my calling is to be the greatest mammoth hunter ever and I'm wasting my talents in the modern era but we never think about what if Thog from 30,000 BCE was the only person ever born who could get a sub-7min Donkey Kong Country any%, and he never got the chance. what about thog

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annotated hardcover giveaway

it's The Remarkable Retirement of Edna Fisher's first birthday, so I'm celebrating with games and giveaways on social media all week! for my own sanity, the full schedule of events will happen only on Instagram, but this giveaway and select other events are happening across platforms.

if you're interested in reading the silly comments I left on this hardcover - including roasting my own characters, letting you know where I was doing my annotating that day, and occasional insights into the writing of Remarkable Retirement - here's how to enter:

rb this post

follow me

for a bonus, tag a friend in your rb or the replies

this giveaway is open internationally to anywhere that can accept shipments from USPS. while it is taking place across platforms, there will only be one winner because it took me months to annotate a single copy.

the giveaway will run until 9a.m. EST this Friday, 26 April 2024.

in the meantime, you can take a quiz to find out which character from The Remarkable Retirement of Edna Fisher you are: click here to take quiz on UQuiz

#that is an extremely fun idea

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Cannot believe I'm randomly getting one of my favorite musicians who I never see anyone talking about showing up via tiktok but anyway if you liked this, go check out his Spotify, Akintoye slaps hard

@yeahitsak

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I used to have this problem really bad and it's taken a lot of hard work to dial it back.

The main thing it took to get me to chill out is really doing some introspection about why I was so upset and how correcting people fit into that.

Ask yourself what the root of the issue is. Consider some or all of these potential reasons I can think of off the top of my head that might fit different people's perspectives:

Society is full of mistakes and it shouldn't have so many mistakes because they're incorrect

It is my duty, as someone who knows the correct way to do something, to tell people so that the world is a more correct place and people have an easier time being correct (which I assume everyone wants)

I would want to be corrected if I was wrong because I hate being/doing things wrong (because of anxiety/obsession/fear/etc)

I find it annoying when people do things incorrectly when I find those things easy to do correctly / I think they must not know or aren't trying hard enough to remember, otherwise they would be doing it correctly

I don't want to associate with people who I feel behave/speak in ways that are embarrassing or stupid to me, because other people might think I make the same kind of mistakes if I'm willing to overlook those mistakes without calling them out

Those are just a handful of things I can imagine people have as root reasons for compulsively correcting people.

Do any of them feel uncomfortably familiar?

If not, dig. Figure out why you do it, because the only way to find out how to stop, or at least dial it back, is to know why you do it.

And a lot of the time, just understanding why you do it reveals enough about your own issues that it makes it pretty easy to take it down a notch. Self awareness can be... Embarrassing. For example, a lot of those things I listed, it comes down to insecurity in how others view you, being afraid of looking stupid, anxiety.

And when you realize that your anxiety or fear is negatively impacting your relationships because it's telling you to correct things that, in the grand scheme of things, don't matter, you realize that you need to address that root issue and not the things the root issue is trying to redirect you to. It gives you more clarity when you feel the compulsion to correct people.

Most importantly, reigning in this particular behavior, like many others, takes practice. Compulsions (any behavior that you feel really, really strongly that you need to do, with no strong logical reasoning behind it, which this is), notoriously get worse the more you listen to them. I'm not suggesting that this is OCD because, obviously, I don't know you at all, but OCD is a great comparison case, because the root of OCD is the need to fulfill compulsive behaviors to get obsessive thoughts, driven by anxiety and fear, to go away and leave you alone. The reason I bring this up is because it is well documented that, the more you listen to the compulsions, the worse they get, and you have to break the cycle to keep them at bay.

It's hard at first, but the more you resist the urge to correct people, the more you'll realize it was never actually improving your life or theirs to begin with, so it makes no difference if you just stop. Nine times out of ten, correcting other people is just like scratching an itch. They didn't learn anything and it makes you feel temporarily in control of something that makes you uncomfortable, but it doesn't actually improve anything for either of you.

I hope this helps. If I misinterpreted anything or you want me to explain anything I said more clearly, feel free to let me know

GENUINE question. How do i balance my need for things to be correct with not being (perceived as) an asshole??

Like, rationally I KNOW people making grammar mistakes or getting dumb little facts wrong is not a big deal but it FEELS like a big deal and sometimes physically hurts me

But Ive ALSO grown up with people getting annoyed with me and snapping at me for being a know-it-all and 'nit-picky' and Ive had many arguments with friends growing up resulting from such instances

#ghostlyadditions

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Interesting minnesotan sentence uttered to me. "Seeya sir, you have a good night there for ya"

#it might be the most

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Met these beautiful Red Poll cattle today, one of them was bold enough to lick our hands and accept a gentle pet.

#cow

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hi everyone <3 i havent seen this one shared / reblogged in a while so here is that huge google drive full of pdfs and ebooks about palestine. seriously its huge. not mine & i have no contact with the owner so id recommend downloading what you can to have permanent access to it. i tested the link in a private browser so it should work but let me know if it doesnt and ill try to figure out what the problem is

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Imagine if you had a neighbour who keeps performing songs from Phantom of the Opera in his apartment every night, by himself but accompanied by a parrot, which he has taught to sing Christine's part. Admittedly it's kind of obnoxious but you are far too baffled to even be properly annoyed. And also you don't want to confront someone with that kind of power and determination. So every once in a while you just hear this guy dramatically bellow

"SING FOR ME!"

[ASTONISHINGLY HIGH-PITCHED PARROT SHRIEK]

#othersart #poto #lmao

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tiramisu am i right

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The fucking link to the Wikipedia for "cylinder". Brutal.

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not to enforce gender roles but a computer should NOT fucking have apps okay. if I wanted an app I'd go on my phone my laptop is for Programs. I mean this.

#people arguing in the notes missing the whole ass point #that computers are being phoneified and completely removing user agency

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Palestinian activists get their message across on Londons iconic Tower Bridge landmark- one of the cities most historic buildings. We need a ceasefire now.

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#unbelievable

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🔹 Saying that it's okay to write or read about dark and taboo topics but only when they're portrayed in a certain way is still censorship.

🔹 Wanting to ban or forbid media that you believe portrays a negative topic in a positive light, by glorifying, romanticizing, or fetishizing it is still censorship.

🔹 There is no objective metric to decide if a story is portraying a negative topic the 'right' way.

🔹 Just because a piece of fiction doesn't explicitly condemn or portray an evil action in a bad light in the text doesn't mean the author thinks its good or is trying to persuade the audience that it is good.

🔹 Survivors of trauma will not always write fiction about their trauma in a way that seems 'right' or 'normal' to you.

🔹 Banning fiction because it portrays dark, taboo topics in a way you consider gross or disgusting is still censorship.

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loser on loser affection

#svsss #othersart