"May your coffee be hot. May your bed be warm. May your villains all be played by Tim Curry." ~Angel Fox (AKA the Comic Relief Morlock) INFP, ADHD, Pooka, Writer(Ish), Devouring Reader, Living a Life of Incidents™
At some point it's okay to realize that keeping people in your life who aren't on the same page as you all of the time is healthy and okay.
If you don't talk to someone a lot, or like them a lot. it's okay to still consider them a friend or even an acquaintance while still keeping the close people close.
I've grown up in an online space that encouraged leaving anyone and everyone who wasn't 100% who you'd consider a best friend or 100% 'reliable' / pure / etc.
no . I love jerry who i've only spoke to like 3 times and who always makes me go "what the fuck at least I don't hang around him too much." because he's jerry. He doesn't expect much from me I don't expect much from him. But he's in my life and that's what makes life good. a variety of people. like yeah leave the people who overstep your boundaries or make you majorly uncomfortable - but not every little quirk that annoys you occasionally with someone makes them a bad person. fucking love people and let a lot of people into your life, no matter how mundane of interactions you may have.
At some point in your life, you were taught that being slightly annoying is an unforgivable sin. Maybe it was by your parents or a teacher or a friend or a bully or an older sibling. But someone taught you that being slightly annoying is a crime punishable by death.
You must unlearn this.
You must accept that all people will be annoying at some point or another in their lives, maybe all of their lives, and that this is okay. It is okay for strangers on the bus, it is okay for children in the grocery store, it is okay for people on social media, and it is okay for you.
If you ever want to truly love your fellow humans, if you ever want to truly love yourself, you must have forgiveness for being annoying.
I might just be extremely in my thirties now but I simply cannot take any sort of fandom discourse anymore. I barely could before but I am at maximum capacity. just… just watch the thing and enjoy it or whatever, be nice to each other, isn’t life hard enough
The older I get the more I admire people who are earnestly, genuinely into whatever their thing is. I know it sounds like an annoying cliche but unless you're being cruel or hurtful there is really no need to be normal about things. The dude with the bad fake accent at the renaissance faire is having the time of his life. The people having photoshoots with their fashion dolls are loving it. The old lady with a yard unreasonably full of tacky ass lawn ornaments is having a blast, HOA be damned.
Don't waste your time being too cool to have fun, y'know?