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Hey who wants to pay a trans native cause some settlers literally tricked me into approving of a lie saying they'd donate substantially to us? Cashapp $medb-maeve. Paypal is

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I don't know what's happening precisely, but almost every time I check Tumblr after a few days away I have a new note. But when I check my notes, I don't actually see anything? It's just the same as it was like a month or so ago? And, this may or may not be related, but some of my recent posts have like a bunch of ghost notes, like I made a post about intra-community discourse that has like 11 notes or something but I don't actually see anything in the notes. No usernames, no likes, no reblogs, no replies, or comments or anything like that, just "11 notes" and nothing. So like, for all I know these are bots that are getting obliterated before I see my notes, but if there's actually living people behind these things I have no idea what you're even doing. Like if you're leaving a reply then blocking me so I can't respond or something like that, I'm just straight up not seeing your post at all.

More than likely though it's just tumblr being a broken, garbage website lol.

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So much lgbt/queer intra-community "discourse" (bi/pan, anti-queer, anti-mogai, anti-ace/aro, anti-microlabels, odd combinations of labels, etc.) would be OVER if folks would get it through their heads that someone else's identity isn't theirs to decide. Acting like you know someone else's identity better than they do, that your opinion on their identity and labels is more enlightened, that they should change their labels and how they feel about them because you know better, just makes you a condescending asshole. I don't know how this attitude of telling people they're not allowed to be _____ sexuality/gender goes over as well as it does in this community of all communities.

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Even worse is when they call it "bi erasure" when an actual person goes by bi instead of pan. It's so patronizing, like "I know you're really just a confused bisexual." Like, and this is verging on vague posting, but I genuinely saw someone say they just ignore when someone they like calls themselves pan and calls that person bi instead. How far up your own ass do you have to be to come up with that lol

People will completely justifiably point out that telling someone they should identify as pan instead of bi for various made up reasons is fucked up, which it is, but in the same breath complain that pan people aren't identifying as bi. How about we just use the label we're most comfortable with and mind our own businesses, yeah? I don't care if you think they're the same, it's not your business which one someone else uses or why.

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People will completely justifiably point out that telling someone they should identify as pan instead of bi for various made up reasons is fucked up, which it is, but in the same breath complain that pan people aren't identifying as bi. How about we just use the label we're most comfortable with and mind our own businesses, yeah? I don't care if you think they're the same, it's not your business which one someone else uses or why.

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I'm Happy

I mostly vent here, but honestly I am. I live with people who love and care for me, that I love and care for, and although we've had a rough few years we're doing pretty well right now. We're even going to be moving sometime in the near future. But do you know what the cherry on top of all this is for me, right this moment? Knowing my ex is still cyberstalking me, probably still sad and alone and pathetic because the only people who will tolerate him are other sad, pathetic assholes. It genuinely makes me feel good about how much better I'm doing now than I was. I'm happy, haven't even thought about him in... fuck, a year? And he's just proved to me he's still a bitter asshole. What more could I want out of life right now? If I believed in god, I'd take this as a sign.

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If you think I'm going to let someone else decide any aspect of my identity for me, tell me what labels I can and cannot use for myself, you've got the wrong queer.

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I will freely admit to having a hard time accepting criticism at the best of times. However, I am not and will never be obligated to accept criticism from bigots, valid or otherwise. If for some reason I mistakenly believed the sky to be pink, I don't have to listen to someone telling me it's blue if they're going to misgender and deadname me in the same breath. I reserve the right to ignore everything that person has to say. If I'm wrong, someone who isn't trash will know and that person can tell me I'm wrong.

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Without fail, every time I find out someone is a gatekeeper or whatever you call these folks who think they get to tell other people what labels they're allowed to use, the anti-mogai, anti-pan, anti-queer folks, the transmeds/truscum, whatever. These people who have deemed themselves the arbiters of lgbt identity. Without fail, they always have this fucked up mean girls cruelty to them. They're not good people, they don't want a happy and healthy community, they don't want to build anyone up. They want to feel superior, they want to laugh at the weirdos and they want other people to laugh along with them. They don't actually want you to stop using whatever identity they hate, they just want to viciously mock you until you leave and they find someone else to target. They're literally just fucking bullies, and idk about anyone else but I had enough of those when I was in school, I'm not about to put up with it now.

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I didn't want to come back over some petty bullshit, but I'm having trouble sleeping so let me blow this thing wide open for you folks. All our labels are made up. If I want to say I'm fucking Plutosexual or whatever (I apologize if that's already a term) and y'all decide it's too similar to something that already exists, guess what? It doesn't fucking matter and I don't give a single shit, because it's all made up anyway. The only reason any of you shitheads actually tell people whether they "can" identify as bi or pan or whatever else is that you think how someone else identifies is somehow your fucking business. I don't care if you think bi and pan are the same, but you know what are always the same? Gatekeepers. Terfs, ace exclusionists, bi/panphobes, transmeds/truscum, you're all exactly the fucking same joyless pricks who get off on finding people to be mad about for shit that isn't any of your goddamn business. Just fuck off already, you're exhausting and it's gotta be exhausting being you.

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Thank you all very much, I appreciate the concern, but this post is from 2019 we’re all good now! @silverknight338 @pulmonary-poultry @gemstone-gynoid @inkyxward Thank you!

Hi folks! It’s been a minute.

So I haven’t been on Tumblr very much lately for personal reasons I won’t go into. But, we’re having a bit of a problem. We’ve had kind of a rough… well a rough year honestly, but this past couple months has been a trip. @heartgutted ‘s dad’s insurance has been weird so we’ve had to pay for his meds and supplies out of pocket. That on its own has kinda sucked, but we’ve been dealing with it okay since we finally got storage sorted out. The manager has been fine with us just paying back rent when we can’t make it up right away, and since we’ve both been working we’ve at least had some money to go towards that.

A few days ago though, the manager mentioned that the owner doesn’t like just how long we’ve been making them wait for rent some months and so he might be clamping down on that. Currently we’re about $180 behind, that’s this past rent. The past few weeks have sucked at work for a few different reasons, so we’ve only made about $80 between the two of us. I messaged my mom and she sent us $50. So, if we could get help, just $50 to pay off this past due rent, that would at least give us some security. We would at the very least have time to come up with the $240 we need for next week, or at least some of it. I’ll put paypal links below if you can/want to help us. Please reblog either way though so more people can see. Here’s heartgutted’s paypal: https://www.paypal.me/ksammons81 And I made one as well: https://www.paypal.me/cuddleTrollop

#I nearly had a heart attack when I saw I had notes #I'm glad it was this tho lol

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Hi friends!

I’m not back, really, FYI, but I am here because a thread by tumblr user co/wardly-b/isexu/al made its way onto my facebook feed and I just wanted to say something: I don’t believe and haven’t believed for longer than I’ve been using tumblr that bisexuality excludes any trans or nonbinary people. But I, personally, feel most comfortable using pansexual and I’ll be damned if I’m going to stop just ‘cause some fuckass who unironically uses “mogai hell” in 2019 says so.

#bisexual #pansexual #mogai

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I haven’t abandoned tumblr.

I mean I guess technically I have, but I wanted to actually kinda put words to why I haven’t been around lately.

It started out as kind of a combination of other things I wanted to do with my time, but I also realized that being on Tumblr had kind of become exhausting for me. I’m constantly on guard. I pay attention to everything. I’ve become hyper-vigilant when I’m on here. So many of the posts that I would otherwise enjoy that come across my dash have shitty people attached to them. I notice like the barest trace that the source or someone in the comment thread might be a TERF, or an aphobe, or a bi/panphobe, and I can’t help but chase it down. But then it doesn’t help that like 9 times out of 10 when I get that feeling? It turns out I’m right. Which just makes me even more hyper-vigilant the next time. That’s not healthy. Being that hyper-vigilant for as long as I was isn’t healthy, and honestly neither is being exposed to all those garbage humans I was exposing myself to chasing those leads, or agonizing over whether the people I tried to warn about it would even care. So, once I realized that, it’s been harder to be on tumblr. I WILL fall into that pattern again if I browse through this site long enough, it’s a guarantee. I hope to find a better balance with it, but whether that happens before this whole site disappears or not is another matter. In the meantime though, I love all of you good folks I interact(ed) with on here regularly :v.

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I haven’t abandoned tumblr.

I mean I guess technically I have, but I wanted to actually kinda put words to why I haven’t been around lately.

It started out as kind of a combination of other things I wanted to do with my time, but I also realized that being on Tumblr had kind of become exhausting for me. I’m constantly on guard. I pay attention to everything. I’ve become hyper-vigilant when I’m on here. So many of the posts that I would otherwise enjoy that come across my dash have shitty people attached to them. I notice like the barest trace that the source or someone in the comment thread might be a TERF, or an aphobe, or a bi/panphobe, and I can’t help but chase it down. But then it doesn’t help that like 9 times out of 10 when I get that feeling? It turns out I’m right. Which just makes me even more hyper-vigilant the next time. That’s not healthy. Being that hyper-vigilant for as long as I was isn’t healthy, and honestly neither is being exposed to all those garbage humans I was exposing myself to chasing those leads, or agonizing over whether the people I tried to warn about it would even care. So, once I realized that, it’s been harder to be on tumblr. I WILL fall into that pattern again if I browse through this site long enough, it’s a guarantee. I hope to find a better balance with it, but whether that happens before this whole site disappears or not is another matter. In the meantime though, I love all of you good folks I interact(ed) with on here regularly :v.

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I haven’t abandoned tumblr.

I mean I guess technically I have, but I wanted to actually kinda put words to why I haven’t been around lately.

It started out as kind of a combination of other things I wanted to do with my time, but I also realized that being on Tumblr had kind of become exhausting for me. I’m constantly on guard. I pay attention to everything. I’ve become hyper-vigilant when I’m on here. So many of the posts that I would otherwise enjoy that come across my dash have shitty people attached to them. I notice like the barest trace that the source or someone in the comment thread might be a TERF, or an aphobe, or a bi/panphobe, and I can’t help but chase it down. But then it doesn’t help that like 9 times out of 10 when I get that feeling? It turns out I’m right. Which just makes me even more hyper-vigilant the next time. That’s not healthy. Being that hyper-vigilant for as long as I was isn’t healthy, and honestly neither is being exposed to all those garbage humans I was exposing myself to chasing those leads, or agonizing over whether the people I tried to warn about it would even care. So, once I realized that, it’s been harder to be on tumblr. I WILL fall into that pattern again if I browse through this site long enough, it’s a guarantee. I hope to find a better balance with it, but whether that happens before this whole site disappears or not is another matter. In the meantime though, I love all of you good folks I interact(ed) with on here regularly :v.

#Gonna rb this every so often for followers and mutuals that might have missed it

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I haven’t abandoned tumblr.

I mean I guess technically I have, but I wanted to actually kinda put words to why I haven’t been around lately.

It started out as kind of a combination of other things I wanted to do with my time, but I also realized that being on Tumblr had kind of become exhausting for me. I’m constantly on guard. I pay attention to everything. I’ve become hyper-vigilant when I’m on here. So many of the posts that I would otherwise enjoy that come across my dash have shitty people attached to them. I notice like the barest trace that the source or someone in the comment thread might be a TERF, or an aphobe, or a bi/panphobe, and I can’t help but chase it down. But then it doesn’t help that like 9 times out of 10 when I get that feeling? It turns out I’m right. Which just makes me even more hyper-vigilant the next time. That’s not healthy. Being that hyper-vigilant for as long as I was isn’t healthy, and honestly neither is being exposed to all those garbage humans I was exposing myself to chasing those leads, or agonizing over whether the people I tried to warn about it would even care. So, once I realized that, it’s been harder to be on tumblr. I WILL fall into that pattern again if I browse through this site long enough, it’s a guarantee. I hope to find a better balance with it, but whether that happens before this whole site disappears or not is another matter. In the meantime though, I love all of you good folks I interact(ed) with on here regularly :v.

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HOMELESS SOON. PLS HELP.

I’m Rab. Trans, gay, disabled artist. I’ve had a rough year. Currently, I’m on hiatus from this site due to bigoted and sexual harassment that has left me suicidal and trying to get my shit together. I have been really sick, and work has been difficult because of it. If I don’t have rent by the 15th, I will lose my home. I don’t want to be homeless. I just want to be okay, for once. 

Please help me.

Cash: cash.me/$RDonations (link)

Venmo: @RHelpers (link)

Paypal: [email protected] (link)