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ladies if youre a kpoppie, please occasionally take the time to remind yourself that you are a fan of just some guy

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kind of hate when people go like “the law says innocent until proven guilty !!!” as if an individual’s personal opinion has to correspond with legal code. you don’t have a trial on whether or not your feelings change about a celebrity, and it isn’t a criminal punishment to lose supporters.

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as much as i wish the whole thing weren't true, i care a lot more about seeking justice than pacifying my own feelings. op had photos of graduation proof from the school, therapy records, and a whole illustration of their classroom setup. that's a lot of evidence right there for you to make a stand and stop defending mingyu.

#sexual harassment tw #bullying tw

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a quick guide to tagging content and trigger warnings

i have seen a lot of terrible tagging on my dash lately and its time to fix that up. please listen to me

WORST: 

“#tw” or “#trigger warning” by itself in a separate tag. there are a wide variety of triggers and putting them all under a big umbrella will either block out a lot of content that would be fine for the blacklister to view, or it just wouldn’t be caught under their tumblr savior because they dont WANT to blacklist such a broad tag. basically just… dont do this

BAD: 

“#tw: (trigger)”, “#tw (trigger)”, “#trigger warning (trigger)” etc (anything with tw in front). there are a lot of varieties of this and that’s the issue. it’s hard and tedious and stressful for the blacklister to find every variety used by the people they follow just so they dont have to see one thing. a lot of people only blacklist tags of things (e.g. “#[trigger]” WITH the hashtag) so that tumblr savior won’t block out every single mention of the word. 

GOOD: 

”#(trigger) tw", “#(trigger) content”, or just simply “#(trigger)” will allow the blacklister to simply block the trigger word itself OR the trigger word with the hashtag. both will be caught and will be equally effective for whatever purposes the blacklister desires

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im not a big carat blog but everybody needs to know this (tw for sexual harassment) mingyu was accused (with proof) of sexually harassing and spreading horrible rumours about an old classmate to the point where she had to go to therapy for it 

#sexual harassment tw #bullying tw

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that's all

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ACTUALLY I BETTER SEE A STATEMENT FROM MINGYU AND NOT PLEDIS. but dont expect me to forgive him if ever he does apologize.

so now mingyu has an issue and the victim actually has proof... you know i still dont forgive them for last year especially because they didnt release an apology. now this time, they have another issue and im not even going to expect pledis to put up a statement or whatever. even if they will, i dont think i'll be able to stand stanning svt anymore. and don't tell me not to drag the whole group bc it was just one member. they still have last year's issue on my mind which fyi involves all of them. but enough of that, let's focus on the present. i'll give it some thought but as of now i'm thinking of actually quitting the fandom now.

btw if u wanna know what the issue is about just search it up on twt. its everywhere. let's just say it's something I've been firmly standing against my entire life as someone who has been a victim and so mingyu with an allegation that has evidence disgusts me.

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wait I messed up. yo 👋💖

LWNZLWNSJWSKWN YOOOO 👋😂

henlo lissaaaaa!!! how are yaaaaa 😭 i missed you soooo much omg i barely go on here anymore pls tell me how life has been aaaaa

#sanshiine #lissa!! #asks #answered

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yo

yo 👉😎👉

#sanshiine #asks #answered

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Freeze! You're under arrest for being so lovely. Keep smiling and be healthy! Copy this message to 10 other blogs that you think are beautiful and deserve it. Keep the game going and make others feel beautiful!!! 😼💎💙

WAAAAA NO U 😭

i answered this so so so sooooo late but you are beautiful too and i appreciate you! 💖

#hao-are-xu #asks #answered #very late 😭

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Happy valentine's day hun

I AM SUPER LATE BUT HAPPY VALENTINES!!! 💖💖💖 hope this still counts 😭

#merakiiverse #meraki!! #asks #answered #very late 😭

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i should probably get to answering my asks and mentions as of now to cool down

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might edit my carrd and give my tumblr a makeover within the week

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so now mingyu has an issue and the victim actually has proof... you know i still dont forgive them for last year especially because they didnt release an apology. now this time, they have another issue and im not even going to expect pledis to put up a statement or whatever. even if they will, i dont think i'll be able to stand stanning svt anymore. and don't tell me not to drag the whole group bc it was just one member. they still have last year's issue on my mind which fyi involves all of them. but enough of that, let's focus on the present. i'll give it some thought but as of now i'm thinking of actually quitting the fandom now.

btw if u wanna know what the issue is about just search it up on twt. its everywhere. let's just say it's something I've been firmly standing against my entire life as someone who has been a victim and so mingyu with an allegation that has evidence disgusts me.

#leia rambles

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I think an extremely important part of mental health awareness and intervention is acknowledging that no, help isn't actually always available. Or the "help" that is, isn't actually helpful.

When I was 22 I hit a wall. I called the suicide hotline from my car so my roommates wouldn't hear me crying. I explained that I could barely shower, feed, or dress myself. I needed immediate intervention.

They asked me if they could send an ambulance for me. They wanted to hospitalize me. I explained that I was a week away from finals. And graduation. If I were hospitalized, I couldn't graduate. The inpatient program also didn't allow phones or visitors, and I knew how disastrous it would be for me to lose contact with my family support system.

I didn't need to be hospitalized. I needed daily solutions. Simple ones, even. I needed a few precooked meals in my fridge so I could use my menial energy to keep my body going. I needed a doctor to contact my school and ask if I could have some extensions on my class assignments. I neededna few excused absences so I could catch up on my lost sleep.

They told me there was an intensive program that allowed residents to live in an inpatient care facility and get daily help with tasks like eating, therapy, medication, and showering, while still leaving for work and school, but it cost $30,000. I told them half the reason I was calling them was because of my financial pressures and fear.

In about 10 minutes of back-and-forth, it became clear that they had no true solution for me. I could go into the hospital and an inpatient program which would interrupt my entire life, and which I knew did not create very good results and had traumatized some of my own friends, or, well, I couldn't even go into debt for the other program. They didn't accept any new patients without half of the cost upfront. So it wasn't even an option.

No therapist or psychiatrists or social workers could fit me in for 3-8 weeks.

So I said thank you and hung up, emotionally spent. I felt utterly empty.

Sitting in my car I realized I had a choice, to live or to stop. Nobody was going to save me. Nobody was going to help.

So I went inside, and I cried myself to sleep, and when I woke up I still hadn't made a choice. So then I did. I chose to live no matter how terrible, just in case things turned around down the road.

It was unspeakably difficult. I didn't shower. I barely ate. I either slept too much or not enough.

But I did survive, and a year later I got with a therapist who started to make things a little lighter for me.

I still struggle now, but things are usually much better, and I'm glad I'm still here.

I just think it's important to acknowledge that for many people, especially in rural areas, and for people without money, which is most people, that the "help is always available" line feels hollow. Because often times it isn't, actually.

But that doesn't mean there will never be.

Overall, we need to build an entirely new system for mental health support in this world.

But for now, ask yourself or your friend in crisis what might make things a little more bearable until help actually is available.

A meal? Emailing a professor? Clean laundry? What might make things a little lighter?

I know that on the very brink, things like this may seem totally pointlessnor trivial. But if you can't stop yourself or someone from falling, sometimes the only way to save someone is with a softer landing.

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day6_kisstheradio instagram update with YoungK

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