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Predators have a pattern

The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence was written by Gavin de Becker to help people trust their gut instinct and avoid potentially dangerous situations, by learning to recognize various behaviours/events that serve as common precursors to violence. These are called PINS - Pre-Incident Indicators.

By recognising warning signs such as PINS, individuals can better identify dangerous people before something bad happens and take the necessary precautions/actions to stay safe. 

There are several types of PINs to watch out for, namely:

Forced Teaming

This is when a person implies that they have something in common with their chosen victim, acting as if they have a shared predicament when that isn't really true. Speaking in "we" terms is a mark of this, i.e. "We don't need to talk outside... Let's go in." The goal is to establish a false sense of rapport and make their victim lower their guard.

If someone keeps using collective terms like "we" and "us", implying you are a "team" when you don't know them well/have just met, ask yourself:

Why is it so important to this person that I feel obliged to do something together with them right now, when what I was doing originally didn't involve them (ie, bringing shopping upstairs to my apartment)

How much do I actually know about this person and their intentions for choosing to attach themselves to me in this situation? (ie, are they hoping to get me alone?)

Charm and Niceness

This is being polite and friendly to a chosen victim in order to manipulate him or her by disarming their mistrust.

If someone you don't know well/just met is being charming and nice to you, especially if they are combining this with the Forced Teaming tactic, ask yourself:

Why are they so keen to quickly establish a rapport with me and make me like them?

Are they looking for me to do something for them (ie go somewhere with them, let them into an apartment building they "forgot" their key to, lend them my phone to "make a phone call", give them personal information about myself that could allow them to find out where I live/work later, give them money) now that I am "on the hook" AKA engaged in a friendly conversation with them?

How do I think they would react to me politely trying to disengage/declining to do whatever they've asked of me?

Charm and niceness in predators is superficial; they don't tend to keep up the act once they are told no, and they tend to challenge your boundaries instead of respecting them.

Too many details

If a person is lying, they will add excessive details to make themselves sound more credible to their chosen victim.

A person who's genuinely locked themselves out of their apartment building by accident will most likely just say, "Hey, I just nipped out for something and I forgot my key like an idiot, could you let me into the building please?"

Someone who's focused on selling their lie, however, would probably weave a whole cover story to explain away their actions, like, "Hi, I just moved in here and I was running out to grab some meds for my sick partner but I left my key in my jacket upstairs - I normally always wear that jacket, but now of course it's really warm, so I didn’t grab it, and I guess this is a lesson in not keeping my keys in my jacket pocket, haha. Could you let me in? I don’t wanna have to call my partner to come all the way down to buzz me in, because she's not supposed to be exerting herself while she recovers, so help me out here?"

Ask yourself:

Why did they tell me so much information I didn’t ask for and didn't need to know?

Did the person's behaviour seem suspicious to me before they provided this very detailed cover story?

Why would a credible person feel the need to justify their actions to me and overcompensate to convince me of their credibility before I've even called it into question?

Typecasting

An insult is used to get a chosen victim who would otherwise ignore one to engage in conversation to counteract the insult. For example: "Oh, I bet you're too stuck-up to talk to a guy like me."

The tendency is for the chosen victim to want to prove the insult untrue.

Ask yourself:

Are they insulting me now just because I wouldn't do what they wanted?

Does proving their negative assertion wrong involve me doing what they wanted, in spìte of my own discomfort and gut instinct that told me not to do it in the first place?

Why should I care about this person's opinion of me?

Loan Sharking

Giving unsolicited help to the chosen victim and anticipating they'll feel obliged to extend some reciprocal openness in return.

Ask yourself:

Why is this person offering to help me right now?

Did I actually want or need their help, or have they just swooped in without being asked?

Does accepting their help feel like it comes at a price, or am I going to feel indebted to them for this?

The Unsolicited Promise

A promise to do (or not do) something when no such promise is asked for; this usually means that such a promise will be broken.

The unsolicited promise is a predator's subconscious projection. Ironically, in their effort to lull you into a false sense of security and make you believe that a specific bad thing won't happen to you, they are giving themselves away - because the fact that such a thing has occurred to them before you ever raised concerns about it, indicates that it was on their mind and likely their intention all along.

For example: an unsolicited, "I promise I'll leave you alone after this," usually means you will not be left alone afterwards.

Similarly, an unsolicited "I promise I won't hurt you" usually means the person intends to hurt you.

Ask yourself:

Why did that person feel the need to promise something I never asked about?

Discounting the Word "No"

Any reasonable, respectful person will back off when you tell them no. They might go away thinking you are rude and strange if they don't understand why you're setting a boundary, but they will back off. A predator will not accept rejection.

A predator will push your boundary, test how serious you are, and try to coerce you into changing your answer even after you have given them multiple clear rejections. They may try to charm you, or turn the subject into a debate where they can wear down your resolve. They may turn angry and threatening. They may try to guilt trip you, or use typecasting to make you want to prove them wrong. They may even cycle through more than one of these tactics - whatever they think will work.

Any person who is unwilling to respect boundaries and refuses to take no for an answer, regardless of the situation, is not a safe person for you to be around.

#gift of fear #gavin de becker #not rp memes #but still important information for recognising predators in the rp community (and in everyday life) #(also can be used as a resource for writing predatory/villainous characters i guess if you like to research how they operate/think) #¯\ _(ツ)_/¯ #stay safe out there lovelies #listen to your gut

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"You want me to say Lie down on the bed, you’re all I ever wanted and worth dying for too

But I think I’d rather keep the bullet this time.

It’s mine, you can’t have it, see, I’m not giving it up.

This way you still owe me, and that’s as good as anything."

- Richard Siken, Wishbone

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"Will you let me kiss your neck, baby?

Do I have to tie your arms down?

Do I have to stick my tongue in your mouth like the hand of a thief, like a burglary, like it’s just another petty theft?"

- Richard Siken, Wishbone

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"I say I want you inside me and you hold my head underwater.

I say I want you inside me and you split me open with a knife."

- Richard Siken, Wishbone

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"Here we are at the place where I get to beg for it

Where I get to say

Please, for just one night, will you lay down next to me

We can leave our clothes on, we can stay all buttoned up?

Or will I say

Roll over and let me fuck you till you puke...you owe me this much

You can indulge me this at least, can’t you?

But we both know how it goes."

- Richard Siken, Wishbone

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"You keep saying I owe you, I owe…

But you say the same thing every time.

Let’s not talk about it, let’s just not talk.

Not because I don’t believe it, not because I want it any different, but I’m always saving

And you’re always owing

And I’m tired of asking to settle the debt"

- Richard Siken, Wishbone

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You Want It Darker: Sentence Starters Pt 1

“I need both of you in my life. For my sake, can't you try to get along for five minutes?“

"All I wanted was to do something right, and I fucked it all up. Ironic, huh?"

"I had a nightmare that I woke up, and you were gone. You wouldn't do that, would you?"

“We were supposed to love each other like this - it was always going to happen, don’t you see?”

“Please don’t leave again. I don’t know what I'll do if you leave.“

"You think you’re stronger than this, but you're not - and you don't have to be."

"It's totally natural to feel this way - so let yourself feel."

"I know it hurts, right now. But the pain is only temporary."

"I care about you, and I want to help you. Would it be so terrible to let me help you?"

"I know you're scared. It's okay. I promise you'll feel better afterwards."

"I'll make sure you'll never have to go through anything like this again."

"How are you holding up? You've been very quiet."

"Not ready to talk about it, huh? That's okay - we can just hang out until you are."

"Hey, shh, it's okay... I've got you. We'll get through this together.“

"I know you probably had someone else in mind for this, but I’m the one you've got."

"You could at least try being civil."

“C'mere. You look like you need a hug."

"You smell really good. Was that weird to say? Ah well, I've said it now.”

"I see we're not at the 'joking about it' stage, yet, huh?"

"It's been over an hour. What are you even doing in there?"

"If you haven't drowned, can you turn off the shower before you run our water bill through the roof?"

"Are you... having some sort of breakdown?“

"C'mon, just open the door. You're starting to scare me now."

"I didn't know. I swear I didn't know."

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We can endure all kinds of pain. It’s shame that eats men whole.

- Leigh Bardugo, Crooked Kingdom

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He knew exactly what he intended to leave behind when he was gone.

Damage.

- Leigh Bardugo (Crooked Kingdom)

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His rage felt hot and mad and unfamiliar. Something within him had torn loose.

- Leigh Bardugo (Six of Crows)

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The really bad monsters never look like monsters.

- Leigh Bardugo (Crooked Kingdom)

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Brick by brick.

Brick by brick, I will destroy you.

- Leigh Bardugo (Six of Crows)

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"So be a monster. Be the thing they all fear when they close their eyes at night."

- Leigh Bardugo (Crooked Kingdom)

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“I don’t hold a grudge. I cradle it. I coddle it. I feed it fine cuts of meat and send it to the best schools. I nurture my grudges."

- Leigh Bardugo (Crooked Kingdom)

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Bee & Puppycat Sentence Starters:

"That's disgusting. You should reconsider illegally squatting."

"Want me to break one so that we can fix it?"

"Eh, how hard can it be?"

"An adult should not keep objects on the floor."

"Let's look for it without drawing too much attention."

"I promise I'll help you get it back. After I take a nap. Then have a long bath. And then another nap."

"I used to be bad. It's embarrassing that I can't be good now that I'm not bad."

"Babies are terrible company."

"I'll be back to get my stuff - and probably some of your stuff!"

"You're cranky because you love me."

"I'm gonna go run errands."

"If you ever tell me what to do on my day off again, I will kill you."

"I'm not letting you have ____ if you're gonna keep stealing."

" I'm trusting you, because... I don't know why. But I am watching you. So technically I don't trust you that much."

"____ turns you into a thieving little nightmare."

"When I run out of money, your money is my money, right?"

"You'll believe what I tell you."

"I don't eat things that explode any more."

"Why are we hiding in the trash?"

"That animal is after my hand in marriage."

"...I'm gonna hide in the recycling instead of the trash."

"Get outta here, you're gonna blow my cover."

"I'm not a baby, I'm a big-ass man."

"You're depressed? Well, you can still be depressed in pants."

"Go grab all your underwear - even the dirty ones - and put them in a bag. I'm gonna help you escape."

"Guess there's a lot of stuff we don't know about each other."

"You're a sweaty, sweaty traitor."

"I'm not mad at you... yet."

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INTERROGATION SENTENCE STARTERS: "BAD COP":

"The more you freak out, the faster you’re going to bleed. Calm down."

"Shhh. Breathe. We both know I'm going to hurt you anyway, so there's really no point in freaking out about it."

"Still not talking, huh? We'll see how long that lasts."

"This might hurt a bit."

"Oh, I’m gonna take good care of you. Don’t you worry."

"You should get that looked at.”

"Still feeling rebellious? Or are you ready to start listening?"

"Hm. Might have overdone it, that time. You still with me?"

"Stay still, and don't make this worse for yourself."

"Try it, if you like - but you won't like what happens next."

"I'll like it more if you resist, of course, but you'll like it a lot less."

“Oh, good, you’re awake. Thought I lost you for a minute there.”

"Learned your lesson, yet?"

“’I did warn you not to do that. But you had to go and give it a try anyway, didn't you?”

"Does this hurt? No? How about this?"

"I wouldn’t do that, if I were you."

"Oh, by all means, go ahead. Give me an excuse to hurt you more."

"See how much nicer it is when we do things my way?"

"So you can follow instructions, after all. That's good to know."

"We can keep doing this all night."

"There we go. I knew you had it in you."

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