ok its perfectly valid for tommy to not want to pursue things with buck bc buck isn't totally comfortable being with a guy yet, but the way tommy chose to communicate that was wild??? you can't just end things with someone who is on their first gay date by abruptly getting in a car in the middle of the date and leaving with no conversation
anyway thinking of that scene in the west wing when donna sends josh to talk to a guy she likes and he tells him stories he thinks are cute about her. she says they're embarrassing. he says "it's a nice story. that story would make me like you." anyway that's love. someone seeing all the stupid shit you do and thinking they love you anyway.