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dearophelia · 1 month
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Hello all, Cath again. I believe I've sent out the zoom link for the memorial to everyone who had reached out to me - if you have not yet received it and would like to attend, please message me @vhenadahls or email [email protected] and I'll give you the link.
There will be plenty of time for people to share and remember, so please don't feel like you're taking time away from someone else if you want to share. Everyone's presence will be a lot to me, to Sara's parents, and to Sara's memory.
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dearophelia · 2 months
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Zoom Memorial for Sara
Hello everyone, it's Cath again. I am planning a virtual memorial service for Sara that is currently planned for Sunday, February 18th, at 10am Pacific standard time (1pm Eastern time, 6pm GMT).
The intent of this memorial is to give friends of Sara's, both those that I know and those that I don't, the opportunity to spend some time together and share readings, memories, items, or anything else that has given us peace, reminds us of Sara, was important to our relationship with her, or anything else.
I don't want to post the zoom link publicly, so please reach out to me @vhenadahls or email [email protected] and I will provide it. If you're planning on sharing something, please also let me know that if you can so that I have an idea of how many people would like to, but it's not necessary. You can also send memories, readings, poems, songs, or anything else that you'd like shared by someone else if you're not up for it.
We will record the memorial and find a way to share it, so if there is anyone who would find that meaningful as well or cannot come, that will be available.
Sara meant and means a lot to a whole lot of people, and I'd be honored to have people share this memorial with me.
I will leave this rebloggable, please feel free to share.
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dearophelia · 8 months
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in memoriam
Hi everyone, it's Cath (Logan) again.
Sara was cremated this morning, August 8th, 2023. She had put together a memorial pamphlet that she wanted shared with her friends. Thank you all for being part of Sara's life.
The pamphlet can be found here, and the corresponding playlist from the end of it can be found on Spotify or YouTube.
May Sara's memory be for a blessing for us all.
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dearophelia · 8 months
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Hello all, this is Logan (aka Cath), and Sara wanted to let you know. Sara died peacefully on July 28th, just before 6pm. She was absolutely a light in all our lives, and may her memory be for a blessing for us all.
If you need to contact me or Sara's parents, my blog is @vhenadahls and we'll figure out who needs to know what.
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dearophelia · 8 months
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(eyes closing completely) no yeah im awake whags up
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dearophelia · 8 months
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Tight tops and baggy pants will always be a favorite combo of mine
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dearophelia · 8 months
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“This Bioware character is straight,” and yet I have never encountered a single fan of theirs who was straight.
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dearophelia · 8 months
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I love it when people take fic writing seriously. I love when it's not 'Here's this dumb thing I wrote' and instead it's 'Here's this thing I put blood, sweat and tears into. Here's this thing I slaved away at, trying new writing techniques and editing over and over. Here's this dialogue that kept me awake at night. Here's this beautiful turn of phrase I thought up. Here's this thing that I wrote with vulnerability and heart, and I am proud to share it with you.'
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dearophelia · 8 months
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pet death cw
suggestions, however honest and eager they may be, are not welcome. if you are a rando non-mutual and do this, you will be blocked.
I have to put Odo down today.
He’s been severely diabetic for years and we’ve struggled (unsuccessfully) to get it under control; with how sick I’ve become, I just can’t take care of him anymore (not just meds but he needs a lot of cleanup daily re: bathroom habits)
I feel so bad and guilty. I know it’s not my fault I’m sick and can’t take care of him, but he’s my cat and I should’ve been able to take care of him better.
I can’t even be there! I can’t hold him and pet him and tell him what a good boy he’s been. My parents have to take him because I can’t safely navigate the stairs leading to my condo.
AND I’m moving in with my parents this weekend or early next week. We had a hard convo yesterday about how it’s not safe for me to be on my own in my condo anymore. So that also sucks, but it’s the right decision: I can’t do stairs, or vacuum, or safely scoop the cat litter, or safely shower (my showers are either INCREDIBLY tiny or are in a bathtub where I’d have to step over the edge to get in/out), or safely walk to the kitchen, I’ve fallen twice and nearly fallen a bunch of times. So it’s absolutely the right decision, but it’s a sucky one.
And I’ve lost my voice. From the cough, from the cancer, I don’t know. But it sure sucks not being able to communicate with people other than text and facial expressions.
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dearophelia · 9 months
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dearophelia · 9 months
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I do not respect the grind. Go to bed
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dearophelia · 9 months
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Heyo cancer patient here! I’ve lost my hair four times in the past three years.
Whenever I leave the house, I wear a hat that covers my whole head. Otherwise, people look at me — a 38 year-old bald woman — and immediately clock me as Sick. And then either stare at me trying to figure out what I have, or aggressively avoid looking at me. That’s really fucking rude. It’s also super uncomfortable for me!
The hat helps me not stand out in a crowd, but I wish I didn’t have to wear it to avoid feeling uncomfortable when I leave my house. I wish people would just go “oh, bald woman” and move on with their day.
We have GOT to stop being assholes to people with receding and balding hairlines. There's not a single person that it can't affect. It affects trans men, particularly on hormones, it affects trans women, particularly those not on hormones, it affects people with endocrine issues, something that's becoming more prevalent and common, and it can affect people without a particular cause, including cis women. It's a normal part of being human and we NEED to stop dehumanizing and humiliating ppl for it
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dearophelia · 9 months
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It’s a cold and it’s a broken mamma mia
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dearophelia · 9 months
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2023 challenge everyone stop referring to fanworks as 'content' and human connection between fans as 'engagement'
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dearophelia · 9 months
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dearophelia · 9 months
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Listen, if you interrupt me with a new task while I’m midway through another, you aren’t allowed to be mad when I switch to the new task immediately. You clearly thought the new task was important enough to interrupt me with it!
I am just a little pikmin! You’re the one with the whistle!!
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dearophelia · 9 months
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disordered eating cw
body, if you’re going to throw a fit and cramp and be nauseous because our stomach is empty, how about you let my appetite return! how about you let me fucking eat more than four crackers a day (not an exaggeration!)!
i would like me to eat something too! but i can’t, because you’re currently doing the “literally cannot force myself to choke down a single cracker in less than ten minutes” level of No Appetite
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