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high school is soo funny in hindsight. the entire time you're there thinking it's the most important period of your life and then the second you're out you're like well that was fucking stupid

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Saturn devouring his delicious drink

obsessed with this sticky note drawing someone made at the local bobas place

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i actually dont mind tumblr posts reposted to pinterest. the 13 y/o "pinterest in the only social media my parents let me have" girlies deserve a little treat

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The article regarding about annoying queer people sparked a by now long forgotten memory.

When I went to my first pride I snuck out secretly and thus was there after the parade. Most people were already some form of drunk or high(didn't know that at the time, I was 15 and naive beyond hope)

That was also the first time I saw puppies ever. In retrospect I must have stared and seemed like one of those annoying "no kink at pride" puriteens. They probably just wanted to allow themselves a small joke but what happened in praxis was, that a grown, white man in only puppy mask and boxers crawled up to me, stood up, started sniffing my breasts and when I started panicking and running away he run after me and everyone else watched and laughed. I think I screamed for help or cryed to please leave me be and was ignored but I can't remember much past the fear.

To them it was probably a small joke but to me it set me back for years. I didn't go to pride in that city ever again and took years to move past "no kink at pride" opinions, an opinion I didn't even have before that.

I felt incredibly isolated and wearing a small rainbow bracelet and cutting my hair took so much bravery. And it earned a lot of backlash too?

So often I see coloured hair and pins as this cutesy cringe thing of no consequence, but for me it resulted in hours upon of arguments and insults. It was worth it, because it helped me built my own identity apart from my families bigotry, but it sure wasn't fun or cutesy. Ultimately it led me to becoming brave enough to actually discover who I am and start making connections with the wider queer community.

Thankfully I had no social media accounts or I would have had some truly stupid arguments.

What I'm saying is, yes young queers can be annoying and it can be tiring to deal with them but being an asshole and vilifying them isn't the solution.

Making fun of teenagers doesn't make yourself more valid and doesn't give you the status of being an old experienced queer.

I'm saying teenagers here but the fun thing about queer people is that we can discover ourselves at any point in time. So it's less teenagers and more people newly discovering themselves as queer.

I get how annoying they can be very well now, doing voluntary work at pride does that.

Do many of those we consider annoying queers hold some harmful opinions? Yeah sure. (The amount of white queers, teens or adults, not dealing with systemic oppression beyond their own is staggering and they more than deserve to be called out. Just to be very clear, when I talk about annoying behaviour I do NOT mean microagressions or discrimination in any way)

But annoying behaviour is not synonymous to that and maybe we should all just start being less mean in public spaces? I get how satisfying it can be to get a hit tweet via a bitchy twitter reply now, but quite honestly I am more ashamed of that now than when I was running around in hoodies and short hair being painfully naive.

Because then I wasn't being mean to anyone. I had some stupid takes sure but no outlet. On twitter I was making fun of people to validate my own queer-ness. (Personally I think I was covering up for the fact that I was afraid the queer people I worked so hard to be part of wouldn't consider me one of their own. So I worked hard to show how I'm not one of "those queers".)

Either way, thanks for reading all this and thank you for sharing the article because it is something I strongly agree with. Just let people be annoying without making fun of them for it. It doesn't need to be a big deal.

Thank you for this wonderful, vulnerable, honest message about your slow path to self-acceptance in the face of a lot of barriers, anon. I'm glad that despite everything you've found your way.

Yeah, I think queer people have many reasons to feel terrified at the rising "no kink at pride" discourse, but sometimes when we lash out at puriteens we sound a bit like the childfree people who say that they hate kids?? Like, we're blaming literal children for an ideology of protecting "The Family" that has been foisted upon us.

I'm guilty of it. I was HAUNTED by the social pressure to get married and pregnant and raise a bunch of kids. It caused me massive dysphoria and didn't jibe with my queer identity. But I rebelled against it for far too long by saying that I hated kids.

It was not the kids' fault! It was the ideological specter of The Family as an institution that isolates and attacks all nonconformity and 'deviant' sexuality! Me being an asshole to children was not gonna set me free, kids were even more disinfranchised than I was!! I don't think I was ever overtly cruel to children, just kind of aloof and freaked out by them, but I definitely *did* say some numbskulled shit to my friends with kids a few times. Completely missing how disempowered mothers (and it was usually mothers) are in society BECAUSE of these same forces .

And I think something similar is going on here. Queer people are tired of having "Family Friendliness" shoved down our throats by corporations and conservatives, and so then we lash out... at young queer people. it's fine to have 18+ areas and events; It's very, very important to me that spaces like Furfest have them. But that's not the same thing as claiming young people have no space in our community as a whole. And I do think we need to erode the barriers between the adult and child worlds in a whole lot of ways, and reorient our attitudes toward nudity, sexuality, roleplaying, etc in public life. but that also doesn't mean a pup should run you out of a pride parade actually fucking sexually harassing you.

It feels great to be able to talk about this stuff! Thanks for your message.

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Potato blossoms

What's everyone's favourite flowers that aren't like. The normal ones. Like everyone's a fan of roses and sunflowers what's a more niche one. One you don't get in gift sets. Mine's sweet peas

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My favorite meme is “anime girls photoshopped into desolate Eastern-European photos”

This last one is my favorite:

There’s just something so… desperate about it.

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Fucked up that our animal cuteness/scariness instincts aren't calibrated to the actual danger of animals. A cute sweetie soft lil lion friend can and will kill you, yet the vast majority of millipedes are harmless and still look Like That.

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I have so much road base I gotta lay but my hip's doing that thing where I know if I make it work today it's gonna fuck me up for a week

Body I can't do this right now, we got road base to lay!

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Upon viewing the latest episode I must revise my opinion: this girl is simply fucked up. What the FUCK Kipperlilly, that's YOUR OWN CLERIC.

Kipperlilly Copperkettle's problem is that she wants so badly to attend a school and the Aguefort Adventuring Academy just isn't one

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i'm genuinely having so much fun writing a jock protagonist. can't believe i never tried this before. all these years i've been limiting myself needlessly

#Kayden was also like this

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This is the meanest thing anyone has ever said about Rick Perry his art department

Look at this fucked up thing

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Time to lie down and get smothered by this bastard again. Good night.

Every day I feed this cat that isn't mine and every day he crawls onto my shoulder and lacerates my skin while purring directly into my ear and making it impossible to move enough to use the computer properly for like 30 minutes. And then he heads off to hang out on a chair until I go to bed so he can climb directly on top of me and not let me move for another 30 minutes until he's decided we've hugged enough and climbs off me so we can sleep. Fucking inconvenience.

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"Again, I'm very sorry for the alarming murder, but I want you to know that academically, everything that was required of you has succeeded." I love him.

#dimension20 #fantasy high junior year spoilers

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Some of you don't have firm principles that transcend ideology, and it shows.

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Apart from the abandoned school, how are these desolate? They're just people in homes??

My favorite meme is “anime girls photoshopped into desolate Eastern-European photos”

This last one is my favorite:

There’s just something so… desperate about it.

#I guess it does look cold #I don't like the cold

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Every day I feed this cat that isn't mine and every day he crawls onto my shoulder and lacerates my skin while purring directly into my ear and making it impossible to move enough to use the computer properly for like 30 minutes. And then he heads off to hang out on a chair until I go to bed so he can climb directly on top of me and not let me move for another 30 minutes until he's decided we've hugged enough and climbs off me so we can sleep. Fucking inconvenience.