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how come every woman I date over the last 6 years has either bad breath or bad foot odor?

i can't win

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How to ask if a girl is looking for a relationship or wanna be friends

This shouldn’t even be a thing but I sometimes get girls where we have a good conversation and then later they tell me that they aren’t looking for something romantic and are only trying to find friends. Like wtf why r u on a dating site and why don’t you put that in your bio. But that aside, I wanna know if the girl I’m talking to right now is like that and I want to ask but I don’t know how to ask her if she’s looking for something romantic. Should I be straight up and be like hey are you looking for a relationship or hint at it in another way.

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Overflowing With Scams and Bots

I'm so tired. I've gotten so many weird interactions just asking for data like questions (which I challenge why they ask rather than answer).

So many ask where I live, if it's alone, do I want kids, what's my job and where exactly I work, instead of a greeting. Very broken sentence structure that they're very attracted, want to date me, are looking for a wife. Then I express they're sus it's "here is a picture of how I look". Yeah, just like the others, that's proof of nothing and I think the average person knows that.

Not immediately interested in kids seems to get them to disengage, but this seems a tad odd as a woman that in my 20s I couldn't meet anyone who wanted kids even in their 30s, now in my 30s guys 25-45 all seem to want kids in our first conversation. It's like the worst speed dating.

I especially dodge the probing questions as I'm concerned they're maybe making bot/scam accounts with the info they gather from others. I even got a "hi handsome" which isn't a compliment I think I qualify for.

I'm tempted to go back to trash apps with tactless people mostly looking for sex only versus the indie apps that don't seem to have real people.

This might be the weirdest question, but which app seems to at least have the most real people?

Anyone ever find out that you were being used to make a fake account, because these people exist, but may never learn how they were used. But they're not good in chat, just wasting time. Though they have stopped using model-like people and the profiles seem more realistic. That's the worst part.

I'm just so tired and looking for others' experiences and if you have any tips or patterns.

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Men: What are you looking for in bios/do you even read the bios or do you just swipe based on the photos and then read the bios if you match?

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I (M30s who is very fit and very active) started developing an eating disorder due to dating apps

I'm not sure what's going on, but I've been starting to experience what I'm feeling like is an eating disorder caused by my match experiences with dating apps. I'm a muscular guy who works out hard 5 days a week by weightlifting, runs as well, and walks daily, and I'm in really good, fit muscular shape. I'm not Instagram fit, though, with rippling perfect abs. I have abs, but I'm built more thickly, like a pro-wrestler, and I'm just seeing all these women out there calling out the fact they want a guy with abs and going after these guys who workout more so for their Instagram and TikTok pics, or I see the guys women choose over me, and they're very trim guys.

I started noticing the problem when I found myself steering clear of more foods and I already eat very healthy (healthy proteins, whole grains, low fat fairy, fruits and veggies) Over the holiday, I was offered a piece of special cake, and I only took a small corner of it. Everyone was raving how good it was, so I tried it, but I basically put it in my mouth, tasted it, and then pretended to go to bathroom but actually spit it out in the toilet and flushed it because I was concerned it would cause me to gain unhealthy weight. I've also started eating less food daily but continuing to work out just as hard.

My worry is that dating apps and my recent string of disappointments on them with women are a huge part of this. They've just made me feel so ugly and like I am not who women want me to be in terms of the appearance they're after, no matter if they themselves are attractive/fit or not.

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feeling utterly guilty and used

so there's this guy I met on grindr and we clicked be it from interests to humor to music etc I said I was just into friendship and nothing else. for all of you wondering it's not really uncommon to see people belonging to homophobic societies to just be into friendship in apps like grindr. he said he was here for nothing serious. i asked if it's ok to be mutuals on ig to which he literally replied to be cautious about him as he is just into random flings and literally called himself a 'playboy' and he had had past relationships where he 'fucked them in the head'. his literal words.

here's the thing I should have stopped right there but i think I really attract toxic people in life. its not because i have a fascination with bad people its just that i dont think they are bad until shit hits the fan.

anyways he says he owns a spam and I won't be seeing his pics there anyways. my ig was practically empty too apart from my face pic as pfp. I asked if I could see him and that I won't judge as all I want is a friend lol. he says if that's the case let's not share pics at all although he had commented on my ig pic saying I looked cute. at this point I started having little doubts about him. like where was all this leading up to? didn't seem like friendship to me at all.

but what broke hell loose was what I did next something I shouldn't have done. I basically lurked this guy and sent follow request to 2 of his friends (a girl and a random spam) who obviously didn't accept it.

literally minutes later he texts me why did you follow my friends how dare you. i said Im sorry I shouldn't have crossed his line as he claims he's a super private guy but what intrigued me was how quick he was with his reaction. he claimed his friend texted him asking about who I was who sent her the request. I apologized but said it was his fault too. all he did was gather every possible info about me and give nothing in return and call it friendship.

honestly I don't even know if he was really lying or not about himself but I really feel bad for being a total lurk! on the other hand I think he's the type of guy who would blame you for one mistake you did despite having done countless himself. he blocked me soon after and honestly it hurt more than any break up I had in the past.

please tell me you opinions I feel really conflicted

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The term "owning your baldness"

Like seriously, this has to be one of the most retarded and condescending advice you can give to someone who struggles with baldness. Men who do look good bald do so regardless if they can grow hair or not. Baldness for the vast majority of men helps to increase their frustration, often to the point that most of them have considered hair transplants or taking dangerous supplements. This is why 80% of men are struggling to get laid because of shitty advice such as this. Why not use that energy to find the root cause of the problem, like there has never been any time in human history where women were as repulsed by baldning men as they are today.

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so when is it considered ghosting?

Say you match with several people. Naturally some matches won't lead to anything. You don't know them or have any ties to them.

Matching and then never responding to a hi isn't ghosting is it? Even after maybe a couple back and fourths?

I'm a guy btw. I have gotten used to conversations dying and just not hearing back. There is a natural point where it feels a bit rude, but unless we get a date plan going I don't get too worked up over it.

I guess I'd draw the line on how long the conversation was going and if anything was said about meeting up.

If you start talking about date ideas and disappear that seems rude.

But even with maybe two messages back and fourth j always feel like I need to give an explanation when I really don't want to. Sometimes it's because I realized I'm too busy at the moment and couldn't fit in a date within a week anyways. So I don't want to chat that long. It also could be because I have other matches that I'm more interested in at the moment.

I've seen a few conversations recently on here with this being debated. Guys getting worked up over a women who didn't respond after the matched. That is common and honestly I don't see how thay is ghosting.

But I wonder where the line is drawn?

I never want to ghost anyone. But I think there are times where just letting things die is alright.

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Matched/Likes from coworker

I wanted to see if anyone has matched with or got a like/super like from a coworker. How do you feel about that? Personally, I feel kinda awkward because we’ll see each other at work.

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She gave me head and handjob on the 2nd date and then left me on read. Kind of confused...

I've been talking to and seeing someone off Hinge over the past three weeks off Hinge, and things were going really well and fluidly in connecting. We got into a regular cadence of messaging and even doing phone calls, and met for the first time after the first week. After the first date, she messaged me back within a day saying she'd like to meet up again, so we did earlier this week. This time around, we started getting physical and I only anticipated a makeout session, but then she initiated further and made the move to take off my shirt, pull off my pants and boxer briefs, and came back into the room with some of her own lube and proceeded to give me a blowjob and handjob while she was topless. She seemed to enjoy it just as much as I did, and gave ample compliment. I wanted to reciprocate, but it was her time of the month and she assured me that next time, she'd be ready.

We kissed and cuddled afterward, and I figured that I was in with regards to seeing her again and probably dating regularly. We talked as normal the next day, but then after that, she hasn't responded all week. I've reached out to her to ask how her week's been in hopes of getting together this weekend, but she left me on read. I also see that she's been active on Hinge (it says "Active Today" on her profile.) Part of me knows where this is headed, but I'm also really confused and not sure what to do or how to feel.

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Out Of State- How to Date Someone

I am in Florida but with the matches I get (shudder), I want to see if any men are worth dating in Georgia. I am not desperate.... but these apps only limit me to the local show-offs. What other apps besides Hinge allow you to match with and such if you are in FL but want to see who is out there in Georgia?

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When someone always responds, but doesn't further the conversation, are they not interested or are they just poor at engaging in conversation?

What does one make of the matches who will always respond back to whatever you write in a reasonable time, but don't necessarily further the conversation by asking you questions or carrying on the subject to further it. Examples are when you write something thoughtful or attempting to engage in conversation they should technically be able to bounce a response off of, but they respond with something short and definitive like, "Hopefully not!" or "Me too!" or "Yeah, I totally agree!"

I can never tell if these people are just not all that great at carrying on conversations and I should cut them some slack, or if the short definitive nature in their responses is a sign that they're not actually interested, but just trying to keep a match alive for backup purposes with no real priority behind it.

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Question for conservatives

Do you match with, or do you pass on liberals?

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Dick pics…

Why? Just why?!? If we have never met IRL what is the point? If I was looking for dick I’d call someone or go to a bar…

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can someone hook me up with a raya pass?

sorry for the cursed request, lol

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I can’t get past the first date

I’ve (30f) been on several first dates over the last couple of months and have never made it past the first date. The dates have been ok (at worst) but soMe have been very fun. I am now wondering if there is something wrong with me that makes guys not want a second date? Like, I may think we’re having a great time, say goodbye for the night, but then I never hear from them again? Are they waiting for me to text? I am just so tired of online dating, not sure if I can keep doing this.

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Just curious...

When something goes wrong, for you, in the initial stages, do you tell the other person what, exactly, was wrong, or do you use the, "it's not you, it's me" to opt out?

It's there a graceful way to nope out?

Are some things better left unsaid? And what are those things?

We all want to know why, when someone ghosts us, or even tells us they are no longer interested... So why not just spell it out? There are, of course, reasons why, but I'm curious to hear yours.

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