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femsolid · 43 minutes ago
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Hello, do you know if tubal ligation is dangerous? Im extremely tokophobic and I live in a place where abortion is illegal. I know that many procedures have very dangerous outcomes (like egg harvesting, giving birth) that women are not being informed about.
When i used to be sexually active, i never decided to do PIV because even with precautions i was too paranoid to risk it. If i got pregnant I would have to travel to a different country to get abortion and I don't have such money. If i couldn't abort, i KNOW i would try to kill myself. Death is better than being pregnant nnd then having an unwanted child i have to take care of for the next 20 years.
But current political tendencies in my country and in general around the world make me think that i should take more serious steps of protecting myself. There is a trend of taking back women's reproductive rights - im worried abour potential pregnancy registers, and about governments trying to raise declining birth rates. Even if i stay celibate, there is always the possibility of rape.
Tubal ligation seems like perfect solution. But i suspect there is a whole list of terrible complications that women aren't told about.
The fact that women have to go through surgery in anticipation of male violence is horrifying but here we are.
First I definitely think that not dating men and generally avoiding their company is the safest option, not just to avoid pregnancy but also rape. Most women are raped by the men they knew, loved and trusted.
About tubal ligation you should probably ask a medical profressional, I admit I'm not knowledgeable enough and I don't know how it impacts women's health in the long run (if it does).
Every surgery is dangerous and carries with it a risk of complications or failure. That's why you need to be made fully aware before choosing. Tubal ligation is portrayed as relatively safe and with a 99% chance of making you sterile. If you feel you can't go through life with the threat of forced pregnancy and suicide, maybe that's an option for you. Maybe reading testimonials from women who have tried it could help. There are forums and groups for sterilised people you might want to look into and ask your questions.
All the best xx
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femsolid · 14 hours ago
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My dog Pooky got sick at the end of April, and he ended up needing a lot of vet visits, expensive tests (echography, blood tests, x-ray) and a 48h hospitalization. He came home last night and is feeling a little better but will probably still need follow-up appointments; he also needs to be fed a special diet and is taking a lot of medication to help him recover.
He was diagnosed with severe gastroenteritis with no known causes. If symptoms continue, he will need further testing from internal medicine specialists.
I’m on disability and used all my savings + almost all the funds available on my credit card for an operation he had to have in February (they had to take out one of his eyes).
I completely maxed out my credit card and had to borrow my sister’s credit card to pay for Pooky’s care and hospitalization. She is also on disability, and we can’t afford to pay back what is owed.
I’m very worried about Pooky needing more veterinary care and having no more credit available.
We would be infinitely grateful for any help you might be able to provide. All funds will go directly to pay the money owed for all of Pooky’s vet bills.
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femsolid · 19 hours ago
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“Most women are aware that the time they will get the most attention, gentleness, and warmth from a man is during what is called the courting stage. With marriage, their work for him begins in earnest: washing his clothes, cooking his meals, cleaning his house. Once he is married, a man’s amorous attention toward a woman quickly drops by the wayside, for he assumes she now belongs to him.
For a few months or a couple of years of kindness during courting, a woman offers a man a lifetime of domestic labor.”
- Loving To Survive by Dee L. R. Graham
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house-ad · 2 months ago
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femsolid · 19 hours ago
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It'll never happen to me. I have no intention of dating my oppressors. Never had. I can only hope other women wake up to this possibility.
Weaponized incompetence, a ✨compilation✨
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Remember, queens... this happened to me and it's very possible it'll happen to you. It's the little things that make life miserable 😍💕
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femsolid · 20 hours ago
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If men hadn't oppressed, restricted, raped and enslaved women for the last 5000 years all the ugly, short, balding in their 20s men would have died out by now and I'll never forgive them for that
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femsolid · 20 hours ago
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femsolid · a day ago
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Overworking yourself to the point of collapsing is not a sign of pride. It is a sign your body cannot take it any longer. You deserve better.
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femsolid · a day ago
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Vandalism of pro-life “Crisis Pregnancy Centers”
Pro-lifers fuck off.
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femsolid · a day ago
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“Our history is male, for women’s lives have been erased from official accounts or rewritten from men’s perspective. Each generation of women that fights male domination is led to believe that it is the first, that there is something wrong with it for not being willing to accept its “proper” role in society. Imagine the sense of purpose, entitlement, pride, and direction women resisters of male domination would feel if they knew that women had resisted all through history and if they knew how they fit into that quest.”
- Loving To Survive by Dee L. R. Graham
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femsolid · a day ago
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“Femininity is artificial. It’s expected of women because it marks as different, as other, as less than man. It makes women into products for male consumption. Femininity hinders our movement. Think about that. Femininity hinders our movement.
We have a responsibility to ourselves and others to stop painting our faces and shaving our bodies. If we stop doing it then men will have nothing to mimic. Femininity is a male fantasy anyway.
Our bodies are our best weapons, and men know this. That is why they use the church and the state to place sanctions on our bodies. To deny us autonomy. We must take back control.”
Julia Beck - Lesbians on Chairs panel
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house-ad · 2 months ago
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femsolid · a day ago
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Apparently female genes include make-up, airbrush and plucked eyebrows.
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Female phenotypes across Europe and surrounding areas.
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femsolid · a day ago
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Yeah I don't think I've ever seen a political group resort to this outrageous tactic as quickly and commonly as trans activists. I can't even say it's Godwin's law because it's not something they eventually fall down to, it's literally their primary argument, it's what they are screeching first chance they get, even as they're responding to a jewish or black woman. And every time they do this they show that they know nothing of the holocaust, the nazis and racism, that they don't give a shit about it or they wouldn't be using it as absurd talking points to demonise women all the time, and that they are no different than MRAs calling us feminazis.
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literally one of the very first things my old philosophy professor ever said to us was “never make comparisons to the Holocaust or Hitler; they’re not accurate 99% of the time and they’re wildly insensitive 100% of the time” and I am sad to see there are still people who could benefit from this advice
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femsolid · 2 days ago
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“I don’t see how any male who likes porn can think actual sex is better, at least if it involves all the crap that comes with having a real live female in your life.“ -Frank, porn user Like when you’re going to the store, do you want vanilla, strawberry, or chocolate ice cream? I’ll sit down at the computer and say, “Hmm, I feel like Asian girls tonight.” –Christopher, porn user “He would come home from work, slide food around his plate during dinner, play for maybe half an hour with the kids, and then go into his home office, shut the door, and surf Internet porn for hours. I knew – and he knew that I knew. I put a filter on his browser that would e-mail me every time a pornographic image was captured…I continually confronted him on this. There were times I would be so angry I would cry and cry and tell him how much it hurt…It got to the point where he stopped even making excuses. It was more or less “I know you know and I don’t really care. What are you going to do about it?” - Wife of a porn addict “The first night they slept together it was the same old thing: lights glaring, gaping at her body parts, manipulating her into positions popular in pornography so he could admire her. He was aggressive, he was confident, he was following a formula. It was cold. “I almost felt like he was in the sex industry,” she says. “As if we were performing on the porn screen.” Afterward, she turned to him and said, “Do you watch a lot of porn?” He thought she was asking because she liked pornography, too; it was clear he was impressed. “Yeah,” he replied. “What are you into?” Instead of answering, Valerie told him, “I could tell by the way you had sex with me.” Miguel was taken aback. He had no idea a woman could trace his moves back to pornography; he didn’t even realize that was what he was doing.” “I live sex the way it’s shown in porno. If I were with a woman and I weren’t getting the kind of pleasure I see people enjoying in porn films, then I wouldn’t be with that woman. I’ve broken up with women who wouldn’t perform certain things I’ve seen in adult films. In porn, the women have orgasms so easily. But it usually takes longer in real life for women to have an orgasm. I get pretty impatient.” -Luis, porn user”
— Quotes from Pornified by Pamela Paul
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femsolid · 2 days ago
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That's great! I'm interested in checking your discord, could you send me an invite?
I'm gonna make an updated post on my separatist town (village tbh) with all the new stuff the discord has figured out/planned. stay tuned for that. also the discord chat is always welcoming!! it's gotten a little quiet because we're all busy but don't be afraid to check it out and read through what we already have.
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femsolid · 2 days ago
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i think women should be setting cities on fire over this. i know that won’t happen. but it should
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femsolid · 2 days ago
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“Protests of all sorts had become so yawningly common that in order to be noticed, larger and ever larger numbers of protesters were needed. Then even numbers lost significance. When a half million people gather in New York City to protest nuclear weapons (as they did in June 1982) and the powers that be pay as little attention as they did then, we must face and accept that these methods have come to the end of their usefulness even as a way of attracting notice, to say nothing of changing things - if indeed they ever fundamentally changed anything. I understood gradually that action of this kind, like electoral politics, deceives us into thinking that we are getting somewhere, achieving something. At least, we think, we are doing all that can be done. There's a grim and deadening complacency in that. But my strongest objection was to living constantly in reaction; I had begun to feel like a prodded amoeba, an unpleasant sensation that caused me to rethink the whole process. What I learned was that when we identify ourselves in opposition to something we become its unwitting accomplices.
It was time for women to begin to be active rather than reactive. It was time for women to begin to understand how worthy we are - how worthy of sacrifice, how worthy of risk. Understanding this is necessary to believing ourselves worthy of justice. Regardless of what we know intellectually, so long as we don't really feel we deserve more than the crumbs society now tosses us, we can't figure out how to get more. I also wanted to provide women with a model for courage. I thought it was urgent that we begin to identify ourselves with courage, to expect it of ourselves and other women, and to see, in contrast, the bottomless cowardice of the men we have trusted to speak for us.
Legislators are perhaps the least likely of all men to have something noble left to appeal to. Even if this weren't true, such "appealing" not only demeans and humiliates women, reinforcing our view of ourselves as vassals, but it also reinforces men's unconscious conviction that they are god Himself, or, at the very least, god's trusted stewards. Because it perpetuates the God/worm paradigmatic thinking that is the basis of patriarchy, slaves lobbying their masters for freedom has always been a deeply lamentable, dangerous waste of time.”
- Goint Out of Our Minds by Sonia Johnson
friendly reminder that peaceful protests don't work, and if they did, the rights of women and minorities would be so enshrined in law that one court decision couldn't destroy them ¯\_ (ツ)_/¯ there is only one group that consistently protests with weapons, and it's white men - and they are the only group whose rights have never been questioned. there is a REASON they spoonfeed us this "nonviolence is the answer" shit so hard.
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femsolid · 2 days ago
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house-ad · 2 months ago
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