“Being a top/dom” isn’t domestic abuse, and you are correct it’s not. How ever, police officers are told from the get go, do whatever it is you need to do go get what needs done done”
That seeps into your emotional core as a person.
Police get off on harmful things, big and small all the time. It’s comradery to help each other out of binds.
Domestic abuse in police households is an astoundingly high percentage.
Keep safe and notice the signs. Be aware of red flags. Don’t try to change them, change your course instead
If you absolutely must date a cop, for whatever personal reason, who am I to say, remember this one thing. It’s funny to joke that all cops are bottoms.
But if they’re a top, male OR female, run. Domestic abuse is no joke. Domestic abuse from someone who has the power of the state and ability to make any effort to cease it vanish? Terrifying. Real.
If you absolutely must date a cop, for whatever personal reason, who am I to say, remember this one thing. It’s funny to joke that all cops are bottoms.
But if they’re a top, male OR female, run. Domestic abuse is no joke. Domestic abuse from someone who has the power of the state and ability to make any effort to cease it vanish? Terrifying. Real.
They’ve Always Been Watching Us: From COINTELPRO and Martin Luther King, Jr to the NSA’s surveillance program, the US Government has been keeping a close watch on the American Left for a long time.
Don’t let your actions simply be voting and reblogging. Do something else tangible if you can. If you can’t, actively support those who can. Become a medic, a lawyer, a bailout, a driver, a writer, graffiti artist.
Things are not black and white!! There are more choices than “let all cishets into all lgbtq safe spaces” and “turn away people who could be in need of resources we can provide purely out of principle”. You can have safe spaces and still look at things with the view of trying to help people who need help. If an ace person has been hurt and can be helped in a way that the lgbtq community can accommodate why shouldn’t we?? Because it’s not our problem? Because “it’s actually just misogyny”? Well I don’t fucking care. That person is hurting in a way that we can help with and we by all means should. Have some compassion. I’ve heard that the lgbtq community isn’t some fun club you can just join whenever you want too many times to count, yet that’s what exclus act like. They don’t care if you can be helped by being part of the community they only care that you identify a certain way and only then are you deserving of community and solidarity. You can fight homophobia and transphobia while also not turning away anybody else who needs help. You are directly harming the people you turn away whether you think it’s your problem or not.
@kermit–dyke @robocourse I’m not arguing about this anymore but I want you to at least think about the people you turn away and the possibility of there being more than one right answer- keeping safe spaces and helping people in need
My destiny, as foretold by prophecy, is to transcend my assigned gender, and lead my people into the fields and valleys. For we may propagate and create a world of love and farming
It is not the question “how do I access the same structures of power as my oppressor” that needs to be answered, on the contrary. The force that drives us is “how do I destroy these cruel and unjust structures?” Anything else seeks to obtain advantages that only exist because others suffer.