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Does anyone have an good panels of Jason straight up drowning in his Robin cape? I need them for a project and also my own general happiness

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"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

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might fuck around and drink the daily recommended amount of water

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Team “i need people to be honest with me but if i receive any criticism i will Cry”

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A friend of mine from around here who is Very Christian and has never had a Jewish friend before was asking me some stuff about antisemitism today, and it made me realize that the ways people talk about various types of bigotry and racism are so designed to stump people about the nature and purpose of systems of oppression. "Why do people hate the jews so much?" is such a common refrain and while there have been many books and articles written pulling apart all the important contextual and historical things that can help people understand antisemitism SPECIFICALLY, what I ended up saying to my friend was this:

"Something to understand about antisemitism is it isnt just ideological. The expulsion of jews from various countries was very often a method of "legally" seizing their wealth when the church needed money. It has been historically an incredibly convenient source of both a group of people to blame and also an easy way to just... Be able to steal from people, lmao. It has served very concrete material purposes for churches and governments throughout history. Sometimes you have to approach asking those questions from a different angle because it often isnt about the hatred so much as it is about ... Redirecting energy and attention, right, like upholding structures that benefit those in power. The hatred is convenient because it allows those in power to take actions that would not be tolerated if the group in question were not considered to be Exceptional in their inhumanity. Like the undocumented immigrants now, asking "why do they hate the immigrants so much" isnt always a productive avenue of thought because the hatred is usually just... Useful. Rather it is more helpful to ask "Who does it benefit for these people to be treated this way" -> "what do they need to make the general public believe about that group of people in order to justify this treatment". I think sometimes we are made to think hatred of jews is special and rooted in something different than other hatred... It's not. I mean all types of racism etc are unique. But it very much is about justifying actions that benefit a ruling class in all instances, imo."

And she like totally got it!!! She was like "OH I NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT IT LIKE THAT BUT THAT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE THANK YOU" I am very proud of myself lol :')

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Oh hold up I need to recreate the pride flag I saw in my dream

#that's my flag bitches

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petition to make Americans google “euro” before writing fic

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A Pepsi branded, Ricky Martin themed, Spanish/German dictionary. That’s one heck of a madlibs of an item.

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youre nb but you call yourself a bitch (bitch is a FEMALE dog btw) why???

i am on the FLOOR

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Listen up!

You see a post like this? Where OP might hurt/kill themselves? You hit that button that I circled

Hit that.

Click Suicide or Self-harm Concern

Yes.

Fill in the rest of it, and hit submit. The "content you reported" will fill itself in

Tumblr will follow up and help them.

Warning: this is only for mobile. If anyone knows how to do this for desktop, please add it!

This could SAVE SOMEONE'S LIFE.

YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE NOT TO REBLOG THIS.

I DON'T GIVE A FUCK IF IT DOESN'T GO WITH YOUR BLOG'S THEME.

And yes, REBLOG. Liking does no shit at all. This isn't ig.

You reblog, people see it. You don't, people don't see it. This shit's that simple.

This could save someone's life. It's not a joke.

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information about misophonia

some behaviours that i’ve personally experienced and seen before:

- trying to cover ears with hair

- abrupt head movements, like theyre trying to shake the sound out of their head

- shifting in their seat

- heavy breathing

- flushed face

- visibly tense

- trying to covertly cover their ears with their hands without looking rude or strange

- nervously tapping any surface they can find

- mimicking a sound someone is making (like chewing louder than you)

- shooting glares or frightened glances in sound’s direction (even if its not a person making the noise)

- wide eyes

- nervous leg jiggling

- clenching fists

A lot of misophoniacs:

- wish they were deaf (i was one of them for a long time)

- carry headphones everywhere 

- aren’t violent

- are very good at hiding their distress

- meditate

- take anxiety medication

Notes:

- misophonia triggers the fight or flight response

- most reactions to trigger sounds are involuntary

- most (if not all) of us have an involuntary muscle twitch somewhere on our body when we hear our trigger noises. it can be literally anywhere

- cannot be helped by desensitization (has been recorded to make it worse)

- even thinking about noises can cause them to develop into triggers

- we’re not supposed to read up about other triggers because it can cause us to develop them

- a lot of us also have misokinesia (which is a visual version of misophonia)

- reading about misokinesia can cause you to develop misokinesia (i learned this the hard way. whoops)

- it is not caused by trauma

- it’s a neurological disorder (meaning it’s the wiring in our brain)

- it rears its ugly head around the time puberty starts

- is a lifetime disorder that gets worse with age

- IS SELF-DIAGNOSABLE

- has caused suicides

- and literally almost no one knows about it

edit: I created a support blog for those who suffer with Misophonia and want to talk about it. [Here’s the link.]

#misophonia #misophonia tw #and with this post i am logging the fuck off to stop myself from adding triggers to my

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If you knowingly trigger someone’s sensory processing sensitivities / misophonia / etc. that’s fucking violent and hurts more than if you slapped me in the face. doing this is a common form of bullying abuse toward neurodivergent people and is enacted by peers, family, “professionals”, strangers, and more.

people without SPD/autism/miso/etc. please not only share this but take an ACTIVE role in eliminating it when you see one of us being tormented this way.

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(cw sex and sexual dynamics)

Am I the only sex repulsed/averse afab who is fucking tired of allosexual ppl forcing "empowerment" on me through policing the sexual dynamics/positions I'm allowed to ""accept"" from a male partner?? Like,, it's none of ur business if I don't care for having the focus on me and my pleasure. If I live my best life being sth like a Touch-me-not in all my relationships regardless of my partner's gender or societal power position, that does not mean I am a poor, confused victim of internalized misogyny...

#biro ace #asexual #biromantic #cw sex mention #text

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Russkiy kovcheg (Aleksandr Sokurov, 2002)

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