My name's Theo. 21 y.o. nonbinary man (he/him & they/them). I'm a blue-haired queer YouTuber, TikTokker, writer and artist. Currently posting a lot about LGBTQ+ films and shows. Find me everywhere on the internet as @genderpunktheo
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Hello! So this happened to me in stan twitter and I am a bit confuse and I would like to know as to where I am wrong? It was about an idol and everyone kept saying he was gay and I said that we shouldnt assume much about that persons gender because we don't really know much as we are fans. Was I wrong for saying that? Does that make me homophobic? At this point I am confuse :-( I have nothing against the LGBTQ+ community
Youâre definitely not wrong for saying that!
If someone isnât out, itâs not right to assume or to publicly speculate about their identity. Theyâre keeping it private for a reason and itâs up them when they feel ready to share that info.
Even if that person does turn out to be gay, it makes a lot of people really uncomfortable to have people speculating about that before theyâre ready.
Saying âletâs not assumeâ doesnât mean you think it would be a bad thing to be gay. It just means youâre respecting the idolâs privacy and their right to share their identity on their terms.
I blocked that anon lmao but the fact that in their other response to me they were all âpeople can tell you not to use queer if they want to! And if you donât like that then you should be a damn adult and just walk away!â
Honey sweetie baby... why canât *you* just be the adult and walk away from *them* if you donât like them calling themselves queer instead of bothering them??
Like Jesus Christ, stop expecting the whole world to revolve around you.
All of this is even ignoring the fact that the entire problem you bring up is IMAGINARY. NOBODY at pride is telling anybody what words they can or can't say, it's a fucking parade, where would the time even be? Lastly, you say not to tell people to dial down and hide who they are, that applies to traumatized people! We are allowed to be open about our trauma and our triggers!
If itâs an imaginary problem then why are you getting mad at me lmao.
Like... if no one is saying you canât use queer at pride... then why would me saying that youâre allowed to use queer at pride and no one can tell you not to.... be a problem??
If itâs not a thing that happens... then thereâs no issue right?
Look anon, Iâm not interested in arguing with you all night about this. I agree that people should get to be open about their trauma and triggers but our triggers donât give us a right to walk over other peoples boundaries and autonomy.
Thatâs where you being responsible for yourself comes in. I get the feeling that youâre quite young and Iâm sure youâll learn this in time but it is important to remember that as much as we should all be respectful of each otherâs mental health, trauma and triggers, thereâs also such a thing as incompatible mental health needs.
Queer people deserve to be open about their queerness just as much as you deserve to have your trauma respected. There are going to be times when those two needs conflict. And at those times, you have to compromise to a degree.
I hope you figure that out. Until then, I wish you the best. Goodnight.
I love that out of all the transmasc people that made videos about he/him lesbians you were the only one (or one of the only ones) that was basically like âlet lesbians do what they wantâ and itâs somehow you that Arielle has a problem with
right???Â
The whole reason I made that video was I had watched lots of videos about he/him lesbians by transmascs who were all claiming it was transphobic. I wanted to offer an alternative perspective that said âhey this actually doesnât affect me and you should do whatever makes you comfortable.âÂ
And itâs amazing to me that the same person who goes âall the lesbians are leaving to identify as trans :(â would also be angry about me saying âhey lesbians who use he/him pronouns are still lesbians.â
Like.... make up your mind??
Also my video was from over a year ago lmfao, if thatâs the most recent stuff you can find to react to then thatâs just sad.Â
Hey, Theo. Idk if u saw, but Arielle Scarcella (a YouTube TERF) made a video responding to clips from one of ur videos, the one about he/him lesbians. She used ur face in the thumbnail, too. I just thought u should know.
oh bloody hell. I know of Arielle.Â
Thank you for letting me know anon, I really appreciate that!
Saying traumatized members of our community shouldn't take part in pride because of trauma is ableism, like, straight up. Our traumatized community members also deserve to be at pride and in LGBT+ spaces. Access is not the responsibility of the disabled.
I didnât say traumatised members shouldnât take part in pride.Â
I said if you have trauma around the word queer that doesnât make it okay to force people who identify as queer to drop their identity at an event that is literally about having pride in LGBTQ identities.Â
Imagine asking a gay person not to call themselves gay at a fucking pride event. It would be ridiculous. You donât get to do that to queer people either.
People also have been using terms like the d slur and f@g on pride signs since pride marches have existed. Reclaimation is a huge part of our community. You donât have to reclaim stuff if you dont want to... but you donât get to tell us not to at our own damn pride march either.Â
After a certain point, your triggers *are* your responsibility to manage. I have triggers with self-harm. Yes, people should provide content warnings if theyâre going to talk about it but itâs my job to mute those terms. And if i meet someone in real life with cuts or scars... I do NOT get to demand they hide their own body for my comfort.Â
Hey! Im confused about whats happening on twitter, so i just wanted to ask: the whole... argument. Disaster. Whatevers going on over there. Is it to do with you refering to the âbottom growthâ (is that actually the technical term?) as a dick, which like yes sure. But then im seeing people saying your saying the vagina/that whole area is a dick because a trans man has it, though i cant see where you did say that, which is confusing me. Because... its not, is it? The whole thing with people
Going âyou dont have a dick your a biological womenâ is dumb and transphobic, but is it correct to call those areas a dick if theyre... not? Outside of like, casual references, i mean in the more literal sense. this is all coming from a cis person whos only just learnt that this is a thing and thats why its throwing me off, i dont wanna sound like im coming from a âyour wrongâ perspective! Im just not sure of the terminology, because a trans man who doesnt have a âgrowthâ or w/e would be a Man with a vagina, right, or would we say its a dick? I have no idea if this makes sense sorry
This ask is really old now (sorry about that! I read it at the time but just did not have it in me to answer after everything that went down on twitter) so I doubt youâll even see this but Iâll give answering it a go anyway.Â
So... when it comes to things like genitals, every trans person is gonna have a different way of dealing with that dysphoria (if they experience bottom dysphoria at all). Some trans guys are gonna call it a vagina and a clitoris, some are just gonna say âjunkâ to make it neutral and yeah, some are gonna say dick (and of course, any trans man who has had bottom surgery does indeed have a dick!)
Like you say, this happens often with âbottom growthâ because one the clitoris grows on testosterone it can look and even function (since it will also harden or get erect when youâre aroused) much like a micro-penis. Is it exactly the same as a cis manâs penis? No, itâs not. Of course not. But... trans bodies donât have to be the same as cis bodies. Theyâre still bodies. And technically, the clitoris is made from the exact same tissue as a penis. So, I would argue its perfectly correct to call it a dick if thatâs how you view it and thatâs what you wanna call it.Â
Now Iâm not saying that that means you should go label a clitoris âpenisâ on an anatomy chart. Iâm just saying that while bottom growth isnât biologically identical to a cis manâs penis, itâs also not biologically identical to a cis womanâs clitoris so... the lines are kind of blurred and you can call it whatever the fuck you wanna call it.Â
Some people also use terms like babydick or dicklet to describe the fact that itâs obviously smaller and not exactly the same. Or words like T-dick to describe the fact that itâs growth from testosterone.Â
As for if youâre not on T (like me)... then yeah itâs far more of a casual thing. Iâm not an idiot Iâm fully aware that I donât actually have a penis. But I personally find it dysphoric to call my clitoris a clit, so I refer to it as my dick. Other than this one situation, this isnât something I would usually ever speak about publically so this would just be between me and my long-term partner, who of course, has seen my junk and is aware of exactly what I have down there. Itâs not misleading anyone or anything like that, itâs just a term that makes me more comfy.Â
Iâm perfectly happy saying that I am a man with a vagina. That is correct and true and fine. Itâs just the clitoris word that spikes my dysphoria. I donât know why, it just does. So yeah... when Iâm talking with my partner, I say I have a vagina and a dick rather than a vagina and a clit.Â
The whole situation on twitter started because someone jokingly tweeted about how giving a trans man a blow job (referring to bottom growth in this case) is a different skill set to giving a cis man a blow job. Some random cis guy came into the conversation to go off on one about how that wouldnât count as a blow job so I basically told him âsucking dick is sucking dick, doesnât matter if the dick is cis, a strap-on, bottom growth or whatever.â He proceeded to argue about whether it counted as a dick before finally saying that heâd googled pictures of it and now agreed that it was a dick.
So... I tweeted some screenshots and was like âhey cis people maybe donât act like this... itâs kinda weird for you as a cis person to decide that itâs up to you what terms weâre allowed to use for our bodies.â Note that I was not saying that itâs the same as a cis penis! I was just saying you can it a dick or call oral a blow job if you want to!Â
And for some reason... this really pissed people off. Lots of transmeds calling me a trender because âonly a trender would go around saying they have a dick out of nowhereâ which I find doubly frustrating because a). it wasnât out of nowhere, some cis dude started it and b). i am 100% sure that if I called it a clit instead Iâd be accused of being a trender for not being dysphoric enough. You just canât win.Â
Obviously lots of transphobes but also quite a few trans people. Who all wanted to make jokes about my body or how I have sex. Really nasty stuff, outright transphobia and bordering on sexual harassment. There was a lot of people who were attacking me for saying that a clitoris is a penis or because they thought I believed that itâs factual to say itâs identical to a cis penis.Â
But... I never said any of that. All I said was that it can be a dick if you call it a dick (when it comes to stuff in the bedroom! Obviously medically speaking is a whole other issue). Because your sex life is your business.Â
So there you go. Thereâs my thoughts on genitals. Hope that makes sense!
Have you read Cemetery Boys? I'm waiting to get it from the library but wanted to hear your opinion if you've got one. I trust your trans media reviews lol
I havenât yet! But the author is trans himself so I have faith that it will be good rep
â Stop being scared all the time.â
- I AM JONAS (2018)Â
Thoughts: A lot of this film feels like a coming of age story/romance about growing up as a gay boy in the 90s and it does that extremely well. But it's also intermixed with the story of Jonas as an adult, 18 years later, and that makes it so much more than that. It's a story about grief and trauma and survivor's guilt.
Mostly it's about how trauma doesn't always look neat and tidy. In fact, for Jonas, trauma looks like a sex/dating app addiction, getting into fights and drinking problems. It isn't always easy to process - sometimes it takes 18 years - and you can seem relatively okay for a while only for it to crash down on you later.
The use of several recurring icons throughout - the news on the radio and the Gameboy in particular- really struck a chord with me and made the build-up to the reveal at the end all the more emotional. But most of all, I'm glad we got to see a queer exploration of trauma and the search for closure.