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"Be strong enough to let go, and wise enough to wait for what you deserve." - Unknown

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How to be more Self-Disciplined

1. Choose to act, or to do what you should you. Don’t wait until you feel that you are in the right mood.

2. Decide to keep on going, and to finish what you’ve started. Don’t allow yourself to give up when you’re only part way through.

3. Be honest with yourself and call yourself on the excuses. They’re often just a cover for not wanting to do something.

4. Plan ahead and break large goals down into smaller, short-term goals – and put these on a calendar, and tick them off each day.

5. Remind yourself how great you’ll feel when later you’ve achieved and reached the goals you set yourself, and have that better life.

6. Also, distinguish what’s important and will matter down the road, from what is temporary – or seems worthwhile in the moment.

7. Try not to be distracted by the things that eat up time - like gaming, watching movies or just hanging out with friends.

8. Hang out with other people who display self-discipline, and understand the value of working hard right now.

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Fall for someone who makes you love yourself a bit more.

Word Porn (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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recently i’ve been in the mood to change my life. I won’t be doing anything to achieve that goal but i’ll be thinking about it extensively which is the same thing

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“So the myth in our society is that people are competitive by nature and that they are individualistic and that they’re selfish. The real reality is quite the opposite. We have certain human needs. The only way that you can talk about human nature concretely is by recognising that there are certain human needs. We have a human need for companionship and for close contact, to be loved, to be attached to, to be accepted, to be seen, to be received for who we are. If those needs are met, we develop into people who are compassionate and cooperative and who have empathy for other people. So… the opposite, that we often see in our society, is in fact, a distortion of human nature precisely because so few people have their needs met.”

— Gabor Maté

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How to Build Emotional Resilience

1. Talk to someone: Sharing how we feel helps to reduce the inner tension (but make sure it is someone who cares about your feelings).

2. Work on improving your self-esteem: Self-esteem is the way you see and feel about yourself … and there are lots of lots of things that undermine our self esteem. For example, experiencing a break up, putting on unwanted weight, doing badly on a test or being excluded by our friends. It’s important that we keep on working on our self-esteem by treating ourselves well and noticing when we succeed (instead of noticing the negatives).

3. Manage your stress levels: If we’re always feelings stressed then it’s hard to cope with life. We tend to over react and have a negative mind set … which drains us of our energy and saps our will to fight. So take a look at your lifestyle and see what you can drop. You may be doing too much, and don’t have time to relax.

4. Make the time and effort to enjoy yourself: Doing things that we enjoy helps to improve the way we feel. So build in little things like having coffee with a friend, or going to a game, or taking time to watch some sports.

5. Choose a healthy life style: Pay attention to your diet and how much you exercise; try to limit alcohol, and don’t deprive yourself of sleep.

6. Develop good relationships: Do your friends make you happy? Do you enjoy their company? Are they kind of people with your best interests at heart? Do they treat you with respect and help to boost your self-esteem? If not, then work on finding new relationships!

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The Phantom Ship, Atlantic Ocean by Frank Wilbert Stokes

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Sometimes all you can do is lie in bed and hope to fall asleep before you fall apart.

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When you were born, who taught you to breathe?

— Jok Um

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What to do When you Feel Negative

1. Be honest with yourself, and accept how you feel. You can’t work with your feelings if you deny that they are real.

2. At the same time, don’t keep going over the negative events, or they’ll start to dominate you, or spiral, and get worse.

3. Don’t react right away – take a breath and count to 10. Make sure you keep control and don’t do something you’ll regret.

4. Try to notice what are triggers and provoke negative feelings – and when you’re calm, try to think through how to cope and deal with these.

5. Think of things that you can do to try and help improve your mood … such as going for a jog, or talking with a caring friend.

6. Remind yourself that you are valuable, and have a lot to offer … and think of all your strengths, and all the good things you have done.

7. Choose just to let go of the past, and try to focus on the present. Don’t let it stop you living, and having a great life.

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A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It's not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering.

— Byron Katie