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Happy International Asexuality Day!!

💚💜♠️ sending so much love to any tumblr folk who are on the asexual spectrum like me &/or are aroace ♠️💜💚

♠️What is Asexuality?♠️

An Asexual is a person who rarely or never experiences sexual attraction. They are not drawn to people sexually and do not feel compelled to act on attraction to others in a sexual way. Asexuality does not preclude you from experiencing other types of attraction (including romantic attraction) to people of the same or different gender to yourself, or define whether you want to be in a committed relationship.

💜Why is awareness important? 💜

An absence of attraction is much harder to define than a presence; and lack of awareness means many people have no idea that there are words to describe their experiences or others who feel the same. While the term has been in common use since the 1960s, many people are well over the age of 25 when they first hear the word - especially if they experience romantic attraction to the opposite gender and haven’t had much exposure to the broader LGBTIQAP+ community. When you’re told all of your life that romantic feelings about someone are inextricably linked to sexual attraction it can be confusing when your experiences don’t seem to match. It can also be hard to tell what is hyperbole and what are thoughts that allosexual (the opposite of asexual) people have the intention of doing?

There is are strong social and cultural messages which use the development of sexual thoughts, sexual relationships and having children as markers of age and maturity. It can be difficult to express a lack of sexual desire without being invalidated or challenged by the people around you or your own built in expectation that sex is fundamental to being human. Are you medically or psychologically unwell? Are you repressed? Broken? Prudish? A late bloomer? Will this “all make sense” when I meet “the right person”?

While most identities on the LGBTIQAP+ spectrum are becoming better protected from medicalisation and psychiatric diagnosis - Asexuality has a long way to go.

It is still very common for people who are questioning or on the Asexuality spectrum to be offered medical testing and treatment aimed at curing their Asexuality. Most GPs still routinely recommend blood tests to check hormone levels, assessment for depression or other mental illnesses, recommend counselling or prescribe medication to boost libido.

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♠️Celibacy Vs Asexuality♠️

Celibacy is like being on a diet. You still want to have sex and have sexual thoughts about others but are choosing not to act on them at that time. Whether it’s based on your beliefs or availability of a suitable partner varies but that desire is still present even if intentionally suppressed.

Asexuality is like not experiencing hunger because you’re already eaten enough. You don’t have sexual thoughts about others or feel compelled to act on them.

💜Attraction Vs Libido💜

Libido is typically the amount that you think about sex and how much you want to engage in sexual activities either partnered or solo. Libido is on a spectrum for people of all sexual orientations. They normally range from high to low. Libido can fluctuate and change over the lifespan and it can be influenced by hormone levels as well as some medications.

Attraction is usually whether your libido is directed at a particular person or type of person. Attraction can also be seen as the extent to which you want to act on sexual thoughts about a particular person.

Asexual people can and do experience a range of libidos from high to low. However they do not experience sexual attraction, therefore are less likely to feel compelled to act on it and rarely associate it with a specific person.

♠️Attitudes towards Sex♠️

Asexuality is a wide spectrum, individual wants and needs vary but all are valid and normal.

In broad terms: Some asexuals are sex favourable, they may not experience sexual attraction but still get pleasure out doing sexual intimate acts with others. Some asexuals are ambivalent towards sex, it’s something they can take or leave. Some asexuals are completely or partially repelled by the idea of personally participating in sexual activity with a partner.

Resources:

Asexuality Visability & Education Network (AVEN) www.Asexuality.org

‘Finding Asexuality in the Archives’ by Michael Waters (Article on the history of Asexuality)

‘Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex’ by Angela Chen (Nonfiction book) http://www.angelachen.org/ace.html

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker (Nonfiction Book)

A-Ok Podcast (30-60 min interviews with people on the Asexual &/or Aromantic Spectrums) https://www.aokpod.com

There are a lot of fictional books for adults and teens with asexual characters & if anyone is interested I can provide links 😊

#iad2024 #asexuality #international asexuality day

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Literally part of why my fic If it Means Protecting You (I’ll pay my dues) came into being.

What if Neil acknowledged how important Aaron is to Andrew? What If in doing so Aaron gets a chance to actually reflect and not just react?

Aaron needs his own chance to be a main character.

I will not tolerate any Aaron Minyard slander

#aaron minyard #aftg #my writing

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Obsessed with the idea of Kevin desperately bothering the EXITES employee Neil. It is so funny to me. Do you think that Neil would ever give in? - @jtl-fics

At this point, Neil has had enough of a routine and normalcy to be able to fend off the lure of collegiate Exy. Kevin keeps bringing in Foxes (and even visiting players from other teams whom he gets along with) to check out the secret Exy genius and buy some equipment.

Neil keeps doing his job. Too well. He gets so used to playing normally against Kevin that he stops trying as hard to look like an amateur. It wouldn't be so bad if Neil had simply played well against college players--but Kevin had been observing. He could see Neil's talent from an outsider's point of view.

The way that Neil can immediately hone in on a player's weakness. The way that Neil can get a feel for another player's style and quickly adjust to match it. The way he offers advice and makes corrections, how he shows the other players how good they could truly be (and to give them a better chance against him).

Kevin changes tactics.

"I know you'd be the biggest pain in my ass to deal with."

Neil snorts and keeps stocking shelves.

"But if you give me your game, you'd be the best partner I could have hoped for."

Kevin notes how Neil's hand flexes and relaxes.

"We'd be so in sync, it would make the Ravens look out-classed in comparison. We'd have our own rhythm, our own language, our own private game within the game. Eventually it wouldn't be about winning anymore, it would be about redefining excellence."

Neil had never struggled so hard to say no in his life.

"Kevin, I--" he starts.

"That's why you need to join the Foxes as a trainer next semester."

Neil's world tilts on its axis.

There was no pre-loaded answer to this question. He needed to think. Kevin gestures to the shop, the customers, the way Neil is on his knees so he can fix a panel on the lowest shelf.

"Don't you think it's time to be the one calling the shots?"

And, well. He did. He really did.

#so so damn amazing #exite's au #aftg

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AU where Neil never joined the Foxes, but ended up an Exites employee. He plays short one-on-one games with players who want to test their new racquets, and has inadvertently honed his skill against so many different types of players with different expertise. Andrew's group goes to get Kevin some new equipment, and Neil knows better than to play well against him. But Kevin forgets himself and gets a little too excited about testing out a new racquet, whipping the ball at Neil so fast that Neil instinctively slams it back hard enough to light up the goal on the opposite side of the court. Kevin is slack-jawed that some random retail worker scored against him so quickly and so easily and shuts down for a minute while his brain reboots. From a distance Neil swears he hears someone mutter "Interesting". Then Kevin's brain is back online and starts begging him to try out for their team. Neil realizes their is one thing worse than being recognized by Kevin Day and dragged back to his father: not being recognized by Kevin Day and trying to convince the grown ass man to get up off the floor and stop clinging to his legs and holy shit jackass, can you pretend to have some dignity??

#this is epic and living rent free in my mind now #exite's au #aftg au #tfc au #all for the game #kevin day #neil josten #aftg

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Reblog and put your rare pair in the tags/comments! I want to see the depths people will go to create, for the most random two characters in the most obscure media.

#Matt Boyd/Andrew Minyard/Neil Josten #really doesn’t get the love it deserves (sorry Dan) #poll #fanfiction #aftg #ao3

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It's too cold outside, I wanna join their warm and cozy hugs :"

#awww #all for the game #aftg #neil josten #andrew minyard #kevin day #jeremy knox #jean moreau #fanart

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New Andrew art anyone ?

#wow. just wow #look at the light in this work of art. perfection #andreil #aftg #aftg fanart #all for the game #the foxhole court #andrew minyard #andrew minyard fanart

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“Yes or no?”

A self indulgent Andreil piece! I hadn’t drawn these two in ages but I started to listen to the books again recently and it got a hold of me again!

#so gorgeous #the light in this is just perfection #andreil #aftg #neil josten #andrew minyard #aftg fanart #all for the games

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A: Do you believe in fate?

N: No, do you?

A: Luck then?

N: Only the bad sort.

#I adore this work of art #aftg fanart #andriel #andrew #andrew minyard #neil josten

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i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "romance and sexual attraction are fake things made up to make movies and books more dramatic, obviously people don't really feel that way in real life, and my classmates who are dating are just play-acting at the drama they see on tv" total asexual conviction that everyone felt the same way I did

#the conviction of your own reality being shared by all doing us a solid for once #sexual attraction sounds fake #actually asexual #ace #ace pride #iad2023

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happy belated bdays to the minyard boys ily 😌🥳

pls don’t repost!

#twinyards #i love this so much #it’s perfect for them #aaron minyard #andrew minyard #aftg #all for the game #minyard twins #the foxhole court

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Behind Eden's Twilight

#aftg #andreil #aftg fanart #neil josten #andrew minyard #all for the game

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my interpretation of adoptive bee :’)

pls don’t repost!

#this is gorgeous #bee & andrew #so wholesome #so talented #I love the emotion in this art it tugs at my heartstrings #aftg fanart #andrew minyard #bee dobson #aftg #all for the game

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Andrew doodle

#andrew minyard #aftg #all for the game

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#I’m always fascinated by fics with ichirou and Neil #aftg fanart #all for the game #so intrigued by this idea #aftg art #art #aftg trilogy #neil josten #ichirou moriyama #the foxhole court #aftg

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Ppl dont seem to realise that "only perceivably queer people should have access to queer spaces and support" and "nobody is obligated to out themselves to you and nobody needs to provide proof of their sexuality/identity" CANNOT coexist.

People are very quick to say "nobody should ever be forced out of the closet, there is no one way to be queer" but then throw a fit when someone who isnt visibly gay plays a gay character or when someone who isnt officially out acts in a ~queer way~.

#so important #like I adore being a rainbow clad queer #but I started out as a hide in the shadows one #terrified I wouldn’t fit in if I tried to join

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#the energy is this is so perfect #andrew minyard #will fuck you up and I’m here for my stabby fox #aftg #aftg fanart